Kareena: Saif asked me a 1000 times at multiple places and then I said yes.

People: She knew her worth, he loves her so much.

Vijay: She asked me 100 times and then I said yes.

People: OMG such a misogynist, Red flag, Narcissist, Dog, Watermelon, Papaya and what not

Source: Deepika Narayan Bharadwaj on X

• Conversational Openers: Do you actively share news reports or legal updates regarding falsely accused men with your female family members? How do they typically react?
• Empathy Check: Does your family acknowledge the unique mental health struggles and vulnerabilities that men face in modern society?
• Legal Awareness: Does your family understand how specific laws regarding domestic or marital disputes can sometimes be misused, or do they view these laws as entirely foolproof?
• Safety vs. Vulnerability: When discussions about women's safety arise at home, is there also room to discuss the legal and social safety nets needed for men?
• Support Structures: If you or a male relative were to face a false accusation or severe workplace harassment, do you feel confident your family would support you unconditionally?
• Generational Divide: Do you notice a difference in understanding between older generations (like mothers/fathers) and younger generations (like sisters/daughters) regarding modern men's issues?
• Media Influence: Does your family’s perception of gender issues primarily come from mainstream media, or are they open to independent perspectives and statistics regarding men's vulnerabilities?
• Societal Bias: Do you feel your family recognizes instances where society might hold a default bias against men in cases of public or legal disputes?

I have a question for people who naturally seem to have greater endurance/performance during sexual activities. I'm not looking for bragging or exaggerated stories, just genuine experiences.

Do you feel that your endurance/timing comes naturally, or is it something you've improved through practice, fitness, breathing techniques, focus, or other forms of self-control?

Personally, I find that I reach the orgasm in 1-2 min, much sooner than I'd like, and it's difficult for me to slow down I'm close to orgasm. I'm curious whether others have had a similar experience and what factors they think make the biggest difference.

Any tips for me to improve.

I handled my matrimonial case as a PIP ( party in person ) travelling thousand km for court dates without a lawyer representing me...!!

A few things I learnt while dealing with this: ( kisika help ho jaaye and for awareness purposes only)

1. There were three of them.....while I didn't have even one. Don't fear the numbers. The same number of family members from the opposing party's side ( 3 + 3/4 = 6/7 ) while I was all alone. So......the takeaway is this: numbers don't matter if you know your case thoroughly.

2. Don't get angry or feel pressured when they ( opp lawyer) try every possible way to do so. Don't get affected.

3. Sometimes.....they will call you names or use slangs to get an emotional reaction from you. Don't give them one. Stay silent and it should be neither yes nor no...!!

4. Take written communication as proof. So..... even if they write disrespectful things....you should still write with respect!

5. Sometimes...they will call you oversmart, overintelligent etc. You stay unaffected. Stay muted/silent and you should know that you only need to open your mouth in front of the judge. ( Case unlog ne kiya hain....let them prove it.... humlog ka kaam defend karna hain bas )

6. The opposing party will scream at you in the court premises. Stay unaffected.

7. Stay silent and observant. Also..... family court cases are easy when you actually receive angry communication from the opposing lawyer's team. Learn things and do the magic. And please remember..... it's all about mind games not these court cases.

Most importantly, don't be a fool and call the opposing party at any cost. Never!!

This was my experience and if anyone wants to add their experience....please do so!!

P.S - Lawyer's job aisa hi hain....don't hate them!! Sab apne pet ke liye karte hain...... ek accha wala learning ho jayenge!!

Late 30's single guy here. I see many of my friends tolerate all kinds of infantile or straight toxic behaviour from their wife. Things like deliberate stubbornness in having their way. Passive aggressive behaviour if wife is home maker. Over sensitivity in everything. Sulking instead of discussing emotions. Pushing for things in husband's career and doing some emotional black mailing if it does not as per her. Driving children emotions away from father. Holding back intimacy. This stuff I have seen in women with pg education and in senior positions in profession. Many of them are unable to differentiate in behaviour of work place and home also. Some of my married friends come and complain and just say things like "it's just marriage".

Most marriages are good and couples have worked things out but too many couples i gave seen like i described. What is going on there ? What is a single guy missing to see here ?

For decades now every TV series, Movies, even News reporting on news websites and channels it is frankly tiring to the point of avoiding all of it.

Example: I just watched a Kannada movie "Premada Oorali" which has the message that the woman is to believed blindly and unconditionally no matter the desires and preferences of a man. For example a village born & raised virgin men who believes in "love and sex after marriage" is portrayed as regressive, patriarchal hicks and are dangerous to women to be shunned in all spheres especially prevented from getting a wife, unless he prostrates in front of a woman in tears and submits as the absolute moral authority patni parameshwari , agrees with her on everything and is always guilty until exonerated(temporarily) by the wife/gf.

Similar messages in both the Hindi "Newz" movies rationalised with crazy mental gymnastic reasons. They use comedy for normalizing misandry/gynocentrism messages.

Good Newz: The paternity of the child raised by the husband shouldn't be questioned.

Bad Newz: Be whole-heartedly accepting of a cheating by wife , and be ok with her having a child with another man.

Such storylines are there in every language TV series, movies, news and there is not even any widespread acknowledgement let along pushback of the one-sided gynocentrism propaganda.

i’m quite strongly opinionated, and post a lot political stuff on my instagram. there’s always a bunch of men who’d LIKE and AGREE with everywhere i’ve to say - they’re such simps. it makes me so so angry. They’ve 0 personality of their own and they think we don’t know their game.

i’ll much rather prefer a complete vocal red flag to talk to who’s firm on his politics instead of having to talk to a man who’d agree with everything just to enter your pants.

such men think we can’t sniff where they stand in terms of their politics and their moulding of opinions just to enter our good books. y’all look like losers if you do that.

STAND BY YOUR GROUND. It’s okay if you like an XYZ political party. Don’t say you like ABC leader just to PLEASE ME.

I was in a village for a month and saw nudity is very normalised among them. Be it bathing in a pond, changing clothes in front of eachother or male skinny dipping in an isolated water bodies. How common was/is in your village? Btw OP also did skinny dipping

This is an awareness post about sht happens to boys too and they may react differently but it doesn't make it less serious. This case is a textbook example of Stockholm syndrome and consequences of child grooming.

So, basically, it happened in late 90s, a minor student got r@ped by his teacher, Mary Kay when he was just 12 years old, and he became a father due to it, and teacher got sentenced to prison, but initially, it was for a very short span of time, and despite of several warnings, she r@ped that boy again, when he was still a minor, and that's how he again became a father while still being a minor. And obviously she went to prison, and she gave birth in prison. And after coming out, she and her victim got married....... Weird, right??? Like why would he marry his r@pist?? But after years of spending life together, he finally decided to divorce her because he realised that he didn't want anything of this, he didn't want her, he didn't want a life with her, he was basically groomed, he was emotionally manipulated, and hence developed emotional dependency on her, he thought it was a love story, he loved her, they had a family together, he was a father of her children, BUT it wasn't the truth. Though he stood with her even after government denied her lifetime access and contact with him, he faught in court to marry her, but It wasn't any love story, it was grooming, sexual abuse and exploitation of a child. And when he realised it, he decided to divorce his abuser.

Many people think it is completely fine if the victim don't seek distressed and it's not bad if victim isn't visibly shaken and afraid, but sometimes, we really don't know if we really want something, of we are being groomed and coerced into wanting it. And also it doesn't depend on gender, same things happen to girls too, many girls are also victims of grooming and Stockholm syndrome, especially childbrides. But I'm highlighting this case because some people just can't believe that a boy can get R@PED and it is NOWHERE LESS SERIOUS!!

26M

The report image is in the comments section.

I am in my mid 20s and I only very recently found out that you have to click the underside of your foreskin. In my defense, I have a tight foreskin which is super hard to pull all the way back to the back of the crown, so until I reached my 20s, I thought that all penises are like that and there's no need to do anything more.

Because of the tight skin, I was always worried about trying to pull it back and clean it. But I had a sexual experience recently and it just made me feel conscious about my penis and I figured I would clean it up now.

The problem is that it's too hardened and it won't budge with water even. I feel so scared when it's pulled back worrying that I might get hurt. How do I fix this? Should I go to a doctor? If someone has been to one, please let me know your experience. I am worried a doctor might hurt my penis somehow.

My marriage has been pretty rocky ever since I had my daughter. Due to some serious (not really comfortable revealing) reasons, a sort of dislike towards each other developed between my family and my wife and vice-versa. So basically, no one in my family likes my wife and vice-versa.

Now, when my daughter was less than a year old, regular disagreements and episodes of long silent-treatment persisted, soI asked my parents to leave (on my wife's request) to keep the peace. So they went to my Hometown which led to my wife becoming resentful, critical of even the harmless of statements, molding statements made by family members for a good fight etc etc.

There is going to be my sister's wedding and as revenge, my wife has refused (earlier she said she will go) to go just two weeks before the day when everything has already been planned and set. It is giving me nightmares. I am already someone who isn't much respected in family. If I ruin my sister's wedding, I fear I may be shunned.

What do I do? If I tell them everything, there is going to be some serious stress in the household. If I somehow convince my wife and she creates some drama at the wedding, that is also not desirable. F*ck my life!

I’m a 30M currently looking for marriage prospects and have been in this process for nearly three years.

With most women I talk to, I feel like I’m the one asking almost all the questions. A few do put in effort, but often the conversation starts feeling one-sided, and after a point I run out of things to ask or talk about.

I’m naturally introverted and have never been in a relationship, though I’ve casually chatted with many women.

For guys who have gone through this process, how do you keep the conversation interesting, build chemistry, and move toward genuine mutual interest? Any practical suggestions would help.

So I am a 23M and the main issue with me is that it’s pretty hard for me to find a partner as I live in a tier 2 city and there’s almost zero unisex socialising events here , I understand that I am still pretty young and I should not worry about this too much lol , but I am a freelancer so I am mostly home and my life is non-social anyways , and I just don’t wanna do arranged marriage bcoz idk I just dont feel like its worth it ( it might be worthy ofc but i just dont want to idk why ) . So basically I dont wanna do arranged marriage and i dont have a great social life to find a girl naturally , I am also ready to be alone but still there’s a fear that what if I don’t find someone coz I don’t wanna stay alone for lifetime, and in our community this is the perfect time to find a arranged marriage setup ( 23-24 age ) , bcoz the men in their 27-30s do not get good match in our community and just end up alone , so i am helllaaaa confuseddd what tf should i do😭 bcoz i dont wanna take a rushed decision to find an arranged marriage setup and end up regretting it but I also dont wanna keep wasting my time in waiting to find a girl naturally and end up being alone.

I have 3 options for my general and the surroundings.

1st is Philips body groomer body and balls, gives shave like feel

2nd is Philips 14 in 1 trimmer has a 1mm attachment for intimate areas.

3rd a 5 inr empty razor with 3 inr of blade and clean shave which gives nicks and cuts.

I have issues with pimple, itchiness, small bumps after 1st and 3rd. 2nd leaves a little hair so it may or may not give me problems later.

I have heard many of the guys using veet and other hair removing creams, tried once but don't know why it felt cumbersome and girlish.

Imagine an only son in his mid-20s who is just starting his career and planning to get married. His wife wants them to live separatley after marriage, with privacy and independence, and grow together and both contributes, However, his family strongly believes that everyone should live together under one roof. They have always been a close-knit family and find it difficult to accept the idea of their son moving out after marriage.

The situation is more complicated because his parents are still working but have debts and other financial commitments. Since he is only at the beginning of his career, setting up a separate household, paying rent and managing everyday expenses could be challenging while also helping his parents financially.

He wants to support his parents and make sure they are not left struggling, but he also wants to give his wife a comfortable married life and build their future together. His family might see moving out as distancing himself from them, even if he continues visiting them regularly and contributing financially.

In this situation, how should someone approach the transition? Would it make sense to live with his parents for a couple of years, save money, and help reduce their debts before setting up a separate home, or is it better to establish boundaries from the beginning of the marriage?

How much financial responsibility should an only son take for his parents when they have existing debts, especially when he is still building his career? How can he support them without compromising his own household's financial stability?

I'd especially like to hear from people who have been through something similar. How did you handle your parents' expectations, financial responsibilities, and your spouse's need for independence? What would you do differently if you could go back?

I genuinely need some advice because I feel like this has started affecting me more than it should.

Whenever I talk to a girl, my parents start shipping us together, even if we're literally just having a normal conversation. It doesn't matter if she's a classmate or just someone I know, they'll somehow make it weird 😭

And it's gotten to a point where I struggle to even talk to girls normally. I can't even communicate with a girl in a Discord VC without feeling awkward, and it's not like I have a crush on her or anything. I also catch myself avoiding even looking at girls my age on TV because for some reason, I feel weird about it.

I know my parents probably don't mean any harm, but constantly getting teased over something as simple as talking to a girl has genuinely messed with how I interact with them. I end up overthinking the most basic interactions when they shouldn't even be a big deal.

Has anyone else gone through something like this? How do I stop being so awkward around girls and just treat them like normal people without overthinking everything? I don't wanna keep being like this 😭

Hi Fellow Men and other members of the sub

I just wish some insights of what the small habits I can include in my daily life to become stronger for a better tomorrow.

Examples

1. Gym -> even if it's 30 min a day

2. No phone 1 hour before sleeping

3. Eating less in quantity, but snacking more(reduces the after food sleep)

4. Meditating 10 min twice (one during the day, one before sleep)

23M, I think it’s mostly psychological as I used to be high libido till a severe panic attack 1.5 years ago nerfed me. It was really bad cuz I couldn’t even drink caffeine or smoke for months. I remember my tool being extremely hard when I totally didn’t expect that encounter but then it really isn’t consistent.

Now, I’m recovered from anxiety symptoms but not from the impact it left me if u understand… I still wake up with shaky legs and a mind that screams all the time giving me ocd and shit. I feel like I tricked my mind into recovery but not my body.

I can white knuckle every other requirement in life like socialising and shit but down there it really has left a deep fucking impact and I’m so pissed about it.

Idk if sex therapy or soemthing would help. Never tried therapy or meds since my panic attack, rawdogged everything so far.

Anyone been through something similar?

Right now, I’m only thinking of rebooting my body by going all out on exercise and stuff and then letting my mind do its thing. I’m near a 100kg right now.

I am married 32 year old man. The other night, I was listening to my wife and her friends chit chat on the phone and I realized it is a nice thing to have in life that I may be missing on.

I come from a very poor, abusive home. Being the eldest, I was treated as the third parent around the age of 13. So, nor did I get to be a kid, I just didn't get a normal life either. To put it in context, I had to be in therapy from the age of 17 to 28. Around my adolescent years I was on a lot medications too. I really wasn't in a great place for a long time in my life.

That said, I must say fortune favoured me to get out of that rut. Today, I have a peaceful life. I have a decent job, hobbies, and overall quite healthy. I got lucky with a great partner too. Over all I don't want to wish for more, because I have enough.

Though I feel like I missed out on making friends. I was never really comfortable around people, due to my past trauma and abuse history but over the years that has slowly worked it's way out of my system.

My wife and other people who know me well would say that I am quite a child in that I am goofy and always having fun with my self. And my colleagues agree that I am a lot of fun too.

But, I never got to be in a "tribe" and have a friend or two for life.

As most kids back in my days, and being a gamer I spent most of my childhood days in video games to numb my pain. I did make a lot of gaming friends but they all drifted apart over time.

I am from Kerala. I live here too. I am welcome to tips.

I love video games, movies, travelling, carpentry, cooking, baking. I am a text book introvert and happy that way. I do not have high energy hobbies, they'd drain me a lot. Overall I enjoy calmness and peace.

Have gone into masturbation spiral recently? Yesterday i went to watch a movie, didnt even feel like looking at girls whom earlier i would find hot.

has anyone faced this before? how did you overcome it?

Read a post today here and it got to me thinking..

I have tight foreskin.. I get hard I had sex… but my foreskin still covers my tip of dick ( just the foreskin goes to around side of dick )

Is this normal ? Or should I go to doc as well ?

I m currently obese reducing my weight ..
Also many people wonder after being obese does the dick looks small - yes, but since last 2 months I m eating healthy and my morning wood are back taking proper nutrition walking a lot..
Lost 6 kgs in last 2 months.. more 23 kgs to go..
Didn’t had sex since a year now due to me being obese I started having mental trauma related to sex so I started workout situation was so bad my dick wouldn’t even get hard and if it got hard I used to cum in 15-25 seconds..

But now since last 2 months there are a lot of improvements the timing has increased from 7-10 mins in masturbation and I
get morning wood feel a lot horny as well.
But when I read the post it got me wondering is something wrong ? Or there are people out like this..

Guys, what would actually make you realize a girl likes you and isn't just being friendly??
What kind of hints do you actually notice? cause I feel like when I like a guy, I either become too obvious or end up acting so distant that he probably thinks I'm not interested at all!

can you guys tell me what's the right balance ?

I've always had this void inside of me, like I am the outsider looking into my own life. I have never been able to make a genuine connection with anyone.

I am good at social scenarios often just analyzing, predicting and saying what the person speaking to me wants to hear. However I am unable to feel and act how others do.

I stay alone most of the time because of this as it gets exhausting. I do not feel satisfied in my career or what I am pursuing either and don't have that drive that I see everyone has.

I just live one day at a time. Making money, acting impulsively, rage, anger, lust are the only things I feel. I don't feel empathy or sympathy towards people either like I do for stray animals. If I achieve something the happiness usually only lasts 2-3 minutes and I snap back to reality and the next thing pretty quickly. I memorize lines and quips from content I watch and use them in real life to get by. I fake a lot of things with people and lie unnecessarily.

I don't feel love either, I have been into plenty of relationships and after sometime I get tired and bored of them. If I feel love I think it would be for my parents, they've supported me through thick and thin and in my darkest times.

I suppose this void inside of me arises from just consuming and not creating anything.

I have tried creative outlets whether it be talking about my hobbies on instagram as reels or making videos on youtube, even though I set out with the intention of not generating another income source it becomes the metric I rely on. Above that I feel uncomfortable and anxious about people recognising me so I usually quit it. I find peace in staying private.

If you are relating to similar things that I've said, how do you deal with it ?