Everyone here must know about this lovely couple and this blessed kid.

But by mocking this couple, Indian feminists proved why we h@te them and why they deserve this. Why do people call them gold diggers?

They are the most unloved. Feminist aunties, for showing your real fac,d slowly but surely the country is also realising and understanding your true nature and motive.

Late 30's single guy here. I see many of my friends tolerate all kinds of infantile or straight toxic behaviour from their wife. Things like deliberate stubbornness in having their way. Passive aggressive behaviour if wife is home maker. Over sensitivity in everything. Sulking instead of discussing emotions. Pushing for things in husband's career and doing some emotional black mailing if it does not as per her. Driving children emotions away from father. Holding back intimacy. This stuff I have seen in women with pg education and in senior positions in profession. Many of them are unable to differentiate in behaviour of work place and home also. Some of my married friends come and complain and just say things like "it's just marriage".

Most marriages are good and couples have worked things out but too many couples i gave seen like i described. What is going on there ? What is a single guy missing to see here ?

Source: Deepika Narayan Bharadwaj on X

• Conversational Openers: Do you actively share news reports or legal updates regarding falsely accused men with your female family members? How do they typically react?
• Empathy Check: Does your family acknowledge the unique mental health struggles and vulnerabilities that men face in modern society?
• Legal Awareness: Does your family understand how specific laws regarding domestic or marital disputes can sometimes be misused, or do they view these laws as entirely foolproof?
• Safety vs. Vulnerability: When discussions about women's safety arise at home, is there also room to discuss the legal and social safety nets needed for men?
• Support Structures: If you or a male relative were to face a false accusation or severe workplace harassment, do you feel confident your family would support you unconditionally?
• Generational Divide: Do you notice a difference in understanding between older generations (like mothers/fathers) and younger generations (like sisters/daughters) regarding modern men's issues?
• Media Influence: Does your family’s perception of gender issues primarily come from mainstream media, or are they open to independent perspectives and statistics regarding men's vulnerabilities?
• Societal Bias: Do you feel your family recognizes instances where society might hold a default bias against men in cases of public or legal disputes?

I was in a village for a month and saw nudity is very normalised among them. Be it bathing in a pond, changing clothes in front of eachother or male skinny dipping in an isolated water bodies. How common was/is in your village? Btw OP also did skinny dipping

I handled my matrimonial case as a PIP ( party in person ) travelling thousand km for court dates without a lawyer representing me...!!

A few things I learnt while dealing with this: ( kisika help ho jaaye and for awareness purposes only)

1. There were three of them.....while I didn't have even one. Don't fear the numbers. The same number of family members from the opposing party's side ( 3 + 3/4 = 6/7 ) while I was all alone. So......the takeaway is this: numbers don't matter if you know your case thoroughly.

2. Don't get angry or feel pressured when they ( opp lawyer) try every possible way to do so. Don't get affected.

3. Sometimes.....they will call you names or use slangs to get an emotional reaction from you. Don't give them one. Stay silent and it should be neither yes nor no...!!

4. Take written communication as proof. So..... even if they write disrespectful things....you should still write with respect!

5. Sometimes...they will call you oversmart, overintelligent etc. You stay unaffected. Stay muted/silent and you should know that you only need to open your mouth in front of the judge. ( Case unlog ne kiya hain....let them prove it.... humlog ka kaam defend karna hain bas )

6. The opposing party will scream at you in the court premises. Stay unaffected.

7. Stay silent and observant. Also..... family court cases are easy when you actually receive angry communication from the opposing lawyer's team. Learn things and do the magic. And please remember..... it's all about mind games not these court cases.

Most importantly, don't be a fool and call the opposing party at any cost. Never!!

This was my experience and if anyone wants to add their experience....please do so!!

P.S - Lawyer's job aisa hi hain....don't hate them!! Sab apne pet ke liye karte hain...... ek accha wala learning ho jayenge!!

I’m preparing for one of the most important exams of my life, UPSC. I’ve cracked JEE and a few other competitive exams, but this is a different challenge. I go to the gym, consume 100+ grams of protein, and train intensively for for 1 hr +, yet my libido is through the roof. Before starting my preparation, I had a casual sex for quote sometime, sometimes going 5–6 rounds in a night. Even now, I can work out intensely, cycle or run for long durations, and function on less sleep, but these sexual urges just don’t seem to go away. My mind keeps getting distracted even when I try to focus on studying and damn i was so good at studies and now also its fine but distraction is terrible.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Are there any yoga practices, pranayama techniques, or other methods that actually help control these urges and improve concentration?

This is an awareness post about sht happens to boys too and they may react differently but it doesn't make it less serious. This case is a textbook example of Stockholm syndrome and consequences of child grooming.

So, basically, it happened in late 90s, a minor student got r@ped by his teacher, Mary Kay when he was just 12 years old, and he became a father due to it, and teacher got sentenced to prison, but initially, it was for a very short span of time, and despite of several warnings, she r@ped that boy again, when he was still a minor, and that's how he again became a father while still being a minor. And obviously she went to prison, and she gave birth in prison. And after coming out, she and her victim got married....... Weird, right??? Like why would he marry his r@pist?? But after years of spending life together, he finally decided to divorce her because he realised that he didn't want anything of this, he didn't want her, he didn't want a life with her, he was basically groomed, he was emotionally manipulated, and hence developed emotional dependency on her, he thought it was a love story, he loved her, they had a family together, he was a father of her children, BUT it wasn't the truth. Though he stood with her even after government denied her lifetime access and contact with him, he faught in court to marry her, but It wasn't any love story, it was grooming, sexual abuse and exploitation of a child. And when he realised it, he decided to divorce his abuser.

Many people think it is completely fine if the victim don't seek distressed and it's not bad if victim isn't visibly shaken and afraid, but sometimes, we really don't know if we really want something, of we are being groomed and coerced into wanting it. And also it doesn't depend on gender, same things happen to girls too, many girls are also victims of grooming and Stockholm syndrome, especially childbrides. But I'm highlighting this case because some people just can't believe that a boy can get R@PED and it is NOWHERE LESS SERIOUS!!

Saw this in askindianwomen and thought would be interesting to see when the gender was reversed.

Reports are circulating about a woman in Pune who allegedly refused to pay a Rapido driver around ₹300 and then threatened him with false cases.

If you can afford to use a service, why not pay the person providing it instead of turning a fare dispute into a confrontation? The driver is also a human being trying to earn a living. He shouldn't have to deal with threats or fear legal trouble just for asking to be paid.

The circulating post also claims that the woman works at TCS and suggests that POSH-related knowledge is being misused. These claims need verification, but the broader point remains: legal protections meant to safeguard people should never be weaponised to intimidate others.

Genuine harassment complaints must always be taken seriously, and proven malicious allegations should have consequences regardless of gender.

What protection do gig workers have when customers allegedly refuse payment and threaten legal action? And is risking this much stress and public humiliation really worth ₹300?

Source: https://x.com/TheHunterBNS/status/2113315539041055194?s=20

I can't really process that is she giving hints or just being a "friend"? 20M 20F

I have a friend and I'm wondering whether she's interested in me romantically or just sees me as a friend.

\\- We've had several long calls, sometimes 40 minutes to 2.5 hours. She initiates calls too.

\\- She's said she wants a boyfriend and that when she gives a guy signs, it's his job to approach her.

\\- She has very few male friends; with other guys, she mostly makes small talk.

\\- Recently, we went on a 4-hour one-on-one outing. She called me herself to reconfirm the plan. We walked around, sat by the sea, went to a café (about 1.5 hours there), and continued wandering afterward.

\\- We discussed her ideal boyfriend, and she said she wants someone taller than every other guy. She knows I'm 6'3", but she didn't explicitly connect it to me.

\\- She sometimes touches my arm while laughing. During the outing, she also playfully insisted I eat vegetarian food and physically stopped me from looking at the non-veg menu while laughing.

\\- She's mentioned twice that she'd ditched her friends' plans to meet me.

Am I reading too much into these signs, or is romantic interest a genuine possibility? Please be honest and point out the counterarguments too.

Saw this post and it got me thinking. People often talk about men settling for women, but what about the other way around? Do you think men and women are judged by different standards when it comes to physical attractiveness and choosing a partner?

Im 22m,been consuming a lot of such content , and its starting to affect how I view relationships and myself , I have begun working out in the gym, but there is the feeling that I will only be left conditionally based on my look height physique for what I can offer and it does take a toll on mental health

For those of you who have struggled with similar thoughts, how do you guys deal with them and how do you stop this from affecting your self-worth and relationships?

Kareena: Saif asked me a 1000 times at multiple places and then I said yes.

People: She knew her worth, he loves her so much.

Vijay: She asked me 100 times and then I said yes.

People: OMG such a misogynist, Red flag, Narcissist, Dog, Watermelon, Papaya and what not

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I'm a 26M, and my wife is 30F. We're from different states in India, come from different socioeconomic backgrounds, and there's an age difference between us.

We met through work. She was my first boss. She was previously married, but her husband passed away before we got together. We eventually fell in love and decided to get married.

My family initially had reservations about our relationship for two reasons: our different socioeconomic backgrounds and our age difference, since my wife is older than me. However, I strongly advocated for her and convinced my parents to accept the relationship. I wanted to marry her, and I stood by that decision.

We've now been married for approximately 1.5 years.

I'm posting anonymously because I genuinely need an outside perspective. I'm struggling to figure out whether this marriage can be saved or whether I should walk away.

HOW IT ALL STARTED

Almost three years ago, when we were discussing our wedding arrangements, my wife and her family had some concerns about the expenses involved.

My father wanted to understand what financial assistance they needed from our side so that we could plan accordingly. He asked them what amount would be helpful and what support they required from us.

During that conversation, my mother made a remark about my wife's father's financial ability to fund his daughter's wedding.

My wife felt humiliated by the comment. She felt that my mother was looking down on her father and her family because of their financial circumstances.

I understand why she was hurt. Regardless of what my family intended, the remark came across as insensitive and disrespectful towards her father. I'm not trying to justify it.

I apologised to my wife multiple times. I acknowledged that my mother was wrong, and I spoke to my parents and asked them not to make such comments again.

However, despite the apologies and the time that has passed, the incident continues to affect our relationship.

THE PROBLEM IS THAT IT HASN'T ENDED THERE

My wife continues to bring up the incident and regularly makes insulting remarks about my parents.

I've repeatedly told her that I understand why the original comment hurt her. I'm not asking her to pretend it never happened, forget her feelings, or suddenly develop a close relationship with my parents.

But I cannot accept a situation where my parents continue to be insulted over and over again.

I believe there's a difference between being hurt by someone's behaviour and repeatedly insulting that person's family in return.

From my perspective, I've acknowledged the original mistake, apologised for it, and addressed it with my parents. Yet I feel as though the incident is still being used to justify continued hostility towards them.

I also understand that an apology doesn't automatically erase someone's hurt. Perhaps she still feels that my family doesn't respect hers, or perhaps my apologies haven't addressed what she needs from me.

I'm willing to understand that.

But how do we move forward if the same incident continues to come up and the conversation turns into insults about my parents?

WE HAVE LIVED INDEPENDENTLY FROM DAY ONE

This is an important detail.

My wife and I have lived independently from my parents since the very first day of our marriage.

We have always had our own home and our own household. We live in the same city as my parents, but in a different residential society.

We have never lived together under one roof with my parents. My wife has had her own space and independence from day one.

My parents have visited our home only around six times during our approximately 1.5 years of marriage.

I'm mentioning this because I sometimes wonder whether the situation would be different if we lived together and had frequent disagreements about household arrangements, interference, privacy, or everyday family dynamics.

But that isn't our situation.

My parents aren't a constant presence in our daily lives, and my wife doesn't have to deal with them on a regular basis.

I don't expect her to be close to them. I don't expect her to forget what happened or pretend she wasn't hurt.

I simply want a civil relationship in which my parents aren't repeatedly insulted.

Despite living independently from the very beginning, the resentment over the original incident continues.

HOW THIS HAS AFFECTED ME

My parents are extremely important to me.

My family has worked hard to build the life we have, and my wife's family comes from a different socioeconomic background. I recognise that this doesn't make my family superior to hers, and I don't believe anyone's worth should be measured by money or social standing.

However, I feel deeply hurt when my wife repeatedly insults my parents.

Over time, I've developed resentment towards my in-laws as well, even though they haven't personally done anything directly to me.

I recognise that this isn't healthy, and I don't like the person I'm becoming.

Sometimes, even when my wife casually praises her father or describes him as a big-hearted man, I find myself getting irritated. We aren't necessarily comparing our fathers when she does this, and she may simply be expressing her genuine affection for him.

I suspect my accumulated resentment is affecting how I interpret these conversations.

I don't want to turn our marriage into a competition between our families. I don't want to start insulting her father just because I feel that she insults mine.

But I'm increasingly angry, frustrated, and emotionally exhausted.

I FOUGHT HARD FOR THIS MARRIAGE

When my parents initially had reservations about the relationship because of the age difference and our different socioeconomic backgrounds, I strongly advocated for my wife and convinced them to accept the marriage.

I did that because I loved her and wanted to build a life with her.

I'm not saying she owes me something because I chose her. I made that decision willingly, and I don't believe she should be judged because of her age or her family's financial circumstances.

However, I sometimes think about how much effort I put into making this marriage happen and how important my parents' acceptance was to me.

That's part of why the continued insults hurt so much.

I feel caught between the person I chose to marry and the parents whose acceptance I worked hard to secure.

I understand that marrying someone doesn't give me the right to demand that they love my parents. But I believe mutual respect is a reasonable expectation in a marriage.

I'M STARTING TO CONSIDER DIVORCE

I haven't made a final decision, but the thought of divorce has become increasingly serious.

Part of me wonders whether I'm overreacting and whether I should keep trying to repair the relationship.

Another part of me feels that I've explained my position repeatedly, apologised for my mother's behaviour, and given this situation time, yet the pattern continues.

I've even considered deliberately insulting her father so that she understands what it feels like when someone attacks a parent you love.

I haven't done that, but the thought has crossed my mind because I'm frustrated and want her to understand my pain.

I realise that this could be petty and might make the situation considerably worse. I'm not proud of thinking this way.

I don't want to spend the rest of my life fighting over the same incident. At the same time, I don't want to throw away a marriage without seriously considering whether it can be repaired.

WHAT SHOULD I ACTUALLY DO?

I'm genuinely torn between two options.

Option 1: Consider separation or divorce.

Accept that this pattern of resentment and disrespect may not change, and consider ending the marriage rather than spending years fighting over the same issue.

We've been married for only 1.5 years, and I don't want to look back after another decade and realise that we've spent our entire marriage fighting over our families.

Option 2: Give her a taste of her own medicine.

Start making insulting remarks about her father, the way she makes insulting remarks about my parents, so she can understand how painful it is when someone repeatedly disrespects a parent you love.

I know this sounds petty, and I suspect it could make everything worse. But after repeatedly asking her to stop, I'm frustrated and want her to understand how this feels from my side.

I'm also open to a third option if there's a practical way to address this that I haven't considered.

QUESTIONS FOR PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN THROUGH SOMETHING SIMILAR

1. Am I being unreasonable?

My mother's comment was wrong, and I have acknowledged that. But am I unreasonable in expecting my wife to stop insulting my parents after I've apologised and addressed the issue with my family?

2. How do you deal with unresolved resentment?

If someone is still hurt by something that happened almost three years ago, how do you help them move forward without dismissing their feelings or accepting repeated insults?

I'm not posting this because I want strangers to tell me that my wife is a terrible person or that I should immediately divorce her.

I also don't want people to tell me that marriage requires compromise and that I should therefore tolerate everything.

I want honest opinions, even if they challenge my perspective.

I acknowledge that my mother was wrong to make the original remark. I acknowledge that my wife was hurt, and I understand that an apology doesn't automatically undo that hurt.

I also recognise that my own resentment towards my wife and her family is growing, and I need to take responsibility for how I handle it.

But I genuinely believe that acknowledging one person's hurt should not mean accepting repeated insults in return.

How do I determine whether this marriage can be repaired, or whether we're reaching a point where separation would be healthier for both of us?

26M

The report image is in the comments section.

Long story but basically she( 27F) broke up with me (28M)(5 year relationship). After breaking up she ended up kissing this dude which made it worse cause she was still talking to me everyday. Then she didn’t want to continue and also not get married, our families knew about each others intent of marrying the other.

I last spoke to her 10 days ago when she said she didn’t want to continue and that she is seeing thinned dude she had kissed. I stopped perusing her. Then yesterday she texted me at work and then I sent the message but luckily I was scrolling and saw she I sent it. I texted her if she was okay, she ended up saying she was feeling like shit and then I asked her if I can call her. We spoke for an hour where she mentioned how I was the only one who could handle her anxiety and how nothing is making her happy and that she is moving out. She also said that she lied to me about dating this guy so that I would stop perusing her. Then we spoke about random stuff and I told her how I missed her and everything and she said that there is not point in discussing anything as it’s not going to lead anywhere when I told her that I had so many clarifications to do. Then after sometime I told her I have to go and that I’ll catch with her later.

Then when I got home I replied to her message of her thanking me and we chatted a bit before she put my message on seen. I texted her the next day morning around 3:30ish AM , her night time, to know if she was okay. Because she is in India and I am in Aus there is a time difference of 5 hours( I’m ahead of her) . She didn’t respond so I called and then left a message wishing she was okay. When I was at work I realised she had blockede again.

I’m very confused as to what to do now. One of my friend suggested she is using this to get over the attachment and that she’ll only contact you less and less so that gets used to it. Part of me is angry and wants to ring her up using public phone booth and tell her she is doing me wrong and the other mind says to let it go. Any help on this would be great.

Thanks for all the help.

TLDR : ex contacted me after 10 days of breakup and then blocked me everywhere after I checked in on her via message.

Guys, what would actually make you realize a girl likes you and isn't just being friendly??
What kind of hints do you actually notice? cause I feel like when I like a guy, I either become too obvious or end up acting so distant that he probably thinks I'm not interested at all!

can you guys tell me what's the right balance ?

i’m quite strongly opinionated, and post a lot political stuff on my instagram. there’s always a bunch of men who’d LIKE and AGREE with everywhere i’ve to say - they’re such simps. it makes me so so angry. They’ve 0 personality of their own and they think we don’t know their game.

i’ll much rather prefer a complete vocal red flag to talk to who’s firm on his politics instead of having to talk to a man who’d agree with everything just to enter your pants.

such men think we can’t sniff where they stand in terms of their politics and their moulding of opinions just to enter our good books. y’all look like losers if you do that.

STAND BY YOUR GROUND. It’s okay if you like an XYZ political party. Don’t say you like ABC leader just to PLEASE ME.

I've always had this void inside of me, like I am the outsider looking into my own life. I have never been able to make a genuine connection with anyone.

I am good at social scenarios often just analyzing, predicting and saying what the person speaking to me wants to hear. However I am unable to feel and act how others do.

I stay alone most of the time because of this as it gets exhausting. I do not feel satisfied in my career or what I am pursuing either and don't have that drive that I see everyone has.

I just live one day at a time. Making money, acting impulsively, rage, anger, lust are the only things I feel. I don't feel empathy or sympathy towards people either like I do for stray animals. If I achieve something the happiness usually only lasts 2-3 minutes and I snap back to reality and the next thing pretty quickly. I memorize lines and quips from content I watch and use them in real life to get by. I fake a lot of things with people and lie unnecessarily.

I don't feel love either, I have been into plenty of relationships and after sometime I get tired and bored of them. If I feel love I think it would be for my parents, they've supported me through thick and thin and in my darkest times.

I suppose this void inside of me arises from just consuming and not creating anything.

I have tried creative outlets whether it be talking about my hobbies on instagram as reels or making videos on youtube, even though I set out with the intention of not generating another income source it becomes the metric I rely on. Above that I feel uncomfortable and anxious about people recognising me so I usually quit it. I find peace in staying private.

If you are relating to similar things that I've said, how do you deal with it ?

I have a question for people who naturally seem to have greater endurance/performance during sexual activities. I'm not looking for bragging or exaggerated stories, just genuine experiences.

Do you feel that your endurance/timing comes naturally, or is it something you've improved through practice, fitness, breathing techniques, focus, or other forms of self-control?

Personally, I find that I reach the orgasm in 1-2 min, much sooner than I'd like, and it's difficult for me to slow down I'm close to orgasm. I'm curious whether others have had a similar experience and what factors they think make the biggest difference.

Any tips for me to improve.

I'm just so tired of being in social media and constantly seeing boys and males putting down women in their comment section, without realising the impact of their words. What do you even mean women are always crying about everything? They can't even protect themselves? They can't love, they just have a checklist? They are gold digger? I have always tried to be kinder as this was my birthday resolution, to treat everything with a little bit of positivity but sometimes it just takes a toll on me. Women do not want men against them! We do not collectively hate men, it just that the crimes against us has led up to be protective. Go and ask any feminist (not the pseudo feminists), they would never disregard you just because you're a man. Particularly, women love men who are respectful and who understands the actual threat we have to face everytime we step out. That's not so deep, is it? And btw having standard is not considered coming up with a checklist, majority women would eventually fall in love with a respectful man who is competitive and ambitious. Nothing to do with looks or wealth. What am I working for if eventually I would rely on your wealth?!?! Also, having empathy isn't crying! And I still think that not all men are like this but when I see the mentality of people especially guys who look so mature and spiritual on their ig bio, c'mon man are your just a pretense!!!

Why is it so easy for you to consider that women as a whole gender is rigged when all we try is to be polite and have a little bit of gender equality that we were always kept from! I get it there are women who just try to appear cool by hating men and I'm equally unimpressed by them as well....ughh!!