Source: Deepika Narayan Bharadwaj on X

• Conversational Openers: Do you actively share news reports or legal updates regarding falsely accused men with your female family members? How do they typically react?
• Empathy Check: Does your family acknowledge the unique mental health struggles and vulnerabilities that men face in modern society?
• Legal Awareness: Does your family understand how specific laws regarding domestic or marital disputes can sometimes be misused, or do they view these laws as entirely foolproof?
• Safety vs. Vulnerability: When discussions about women's safety arise at home, is there also room to discuss the legal and social safety nets needed for men?
• Support Structures: If you or a male relative were to face a false accusation or severe workplace harassment, do you feel confident your family would support you unconditionally?
• Generational Divide: Do you notice a difference in understanding between older generations (like mothers/fathers) and younger generations (like sisters/daughters) regarding modern men's issues?
• Media Influence: Does your family’s perception of gender issues primarily come from mainstream media, or are they open to independent perspectives and statistics regarding men's vulnerabilities?
• Societal Bias: Do you feel your family recognizes instances where society might hold a default bias against men in cases of public or legal disputes?

I handled my matrimonial case as a PIP ( party in person ) travelling thousand km for court dates without a lawyer representing me...!!

A few things I learnt while dealing with this: ( kisika help ho jaaye and for awareness purposes only)

1. There were three of them.....while I didn't have even one. Don't fear the numbers. The same number of family members from the opposing party's side ( 3 + 3/4 = 6/7 ) while I was all alone. So......the takeaway is this: numbers don't matter if you know your case thoroughly.

2. Don't get angry or feel pressured when they ( opp lawyer) try every possible way to do so. Don't get affected.

3. Sometimes.....they will call you names or use slangs to get an emotional reaction from you. Don't give them one. Stay silent and it should be neither yes nor no...!!

4. Take written communication as proof. So..... even if they write disrespectful things....you should still write with respect!

5. Sometimes...they will call you oversmart, overintelligent etc. You stay unaffected. Stay muted/silent and you should know that you only need to open your mouth in front of the judge. ( Case unlog ne kiya hain....let them prove it.... humlog ka kaam defend karna hain bas )

6. The opposing party will scream at you in the court premises. Stay unaffected.

7. Stay silent and observant. Also..... family court cases are easy when you actually receive angry communication from the opposing lawyer's team. Learn things and do the magic. And please remember..... it's all about mind games not these court cases.

Most importantly, don't be a fool and call the opposing party at any cost. Never!!

This was my experience and if anyone wants to add their experience....please do so!!

P.S - Lawyer's job aisa hi hain....don't hate them!! Sab apne pet ke liye karte hain...... ek accha wala learning ho jayenge!!

Reports are circulating about a woman in Pune who allegedly refused to pay a Rapido driver around ₹300 and then threatened him with false cases.

If you can afford to use a service, why not pay the person providing it instead of turning a fare dispute into a confrontation? The driver is also a human being trying to earn a living. He shouldn't have to deal with threats or fear legal trouble just for asking to be paid.

The circulating post also claims that the woman works at TCS and suggests that POSH-related knowledge is being misused. These claims need verification, but the broader point remains: legal protections meant to safeguard people should never be weaponised to intimidate others.

Genuine harassment complaints must always be taken seriously, and proven malicious allegations should have consequences regardless of gender.

What protection do gig workers have when customers allegedly refuse payment and threaten legal action? And is risking this much stress and public humiliation really worth ₹300?

Source: https://x.com/TheHunterBNS/status/2113315539041055194?s=20

Saw this post and it got me thinking. People often talk about men settling for women, but what about the other way around? Do you think men and women are judged by different standards when it comes to physical attractiveness and choosing a partner?

Kareena: Saif asked me a 1000 times at multiple places and then I said yes.

People: She knew her worth, he loves her so much.

Vijay: She asked me 100 times and then I said yes.

People: OMG such a misogynist, Red flag, Narcissist, Dog, Watermelon, Papaya and what not

26M

The report image is in the comments section.

i’m quite strongly opinionated, and post a lot political stuff on my instagram. there’s always a bunch of men who’d LIKE and AGREE with everywhere i’ve to say - they’re such simps. it makes me so so angry. They’ve 0 personality of their own and they think we don’t know their game.

i’ll much rather prefer a complete vocal red flag to talk to who’s firm on his politics instead of having to talk to a man who’d agree with everything just to enter your pants.

such men think we can’t sniff where they stand in terms of their politics and their moulding of opinions just to enter our good books. y’all look like losers if you do that.

STAND BY YOUR GROUND. It’s okay if you like an XYZ political party. Don’t say you like ABC leader just to PLEASE ME.

For decades now every TV series, Movies, even News reporting on news websites and channels it is frankly tiring to the point of avoiding all of it.

Example: I just watched a Kannada movie "Premada Oorali" which has the message that the woman is to believed blindly and unconditionally no matter the desires and preferences of a man. For example a village born & raised virgin men who believes in "love and sex after marriage" is portrayed as regressive, patriarchal hicks and are dangerous to women to be shunned in all spheres especially prevented from getting a wife, unless he prostrates in front of a woman in tears and submits as the absolute moral authority patni parameshwari , agrees with her on everything and is always guilty until exonerated(temporarily) by the wife/gf.

Similar messages in both the Hindi "Newz" movies rationalised with crazy mental gymnastic reasons. They use comedy for normalizing misandry/gynocentrism messages.

Good Newz: The paternity of the child raised by the husband shouldn't be questioned.

Bad Newz: Be whole-heartedly accepting of a cheating by wife , and be ok with her having a child with another man.

Such storylines are there in every language TV series, movies, news and there is not even any widespread acknowledgement let along pushback of the one-sided gynocentrism propaganda.

I have a question for people who naturally seem to have greater endurance/performance during sexual activities. I'm not looking for bragging or exaggerated stories, just genuine experiences.

Do you feel that your endurance/timing comes naturally, or is it something you've improved through practice, fitness, breathing techniques, focus, or other forms of self-control?

Personally, I find that I reach the orgasm in 1-2 min, much sooner than I'd like, and it's difficult for me to slow down I'm close to orgasm. I'm curious whether others have had a similar experience and what factors they think make the biggest difference.

Any tips for me to improve.

Hi Fellow Men and other members of the sub

I just wish some insights of what the small habits I can include in my daily life to become stronger for a better tomorrow.

Examples

1. Gym -> even if it's 30 min a day

2. No phone 1 hour before sleeping

3. Eating less in quantity, but snacking more(reduces the after food sleep)

4. Meditating 10 min twice (one during the day, one before sleep)

M25 here. To all the men out there, need your serious advice on the above Title. I'm a virgin and I'm going to lose my virginity next week. The only issue being here, I have an extremely tight foreskin and I do not plan to do it without protection. The only concern being, since I have a tight fskin, I cannot retract my penis back completely when its hard. In cases when its not hard, it is easily retractable. My question here is, can i have sex by putting a condom on my penis without pulling the fskin back and is it a normal practice? In case people who faced similar issues, what did you all do ? should i use lube heavily and take the fskin back before having sex or put on a condom directly without taking the fskin back ? Open for other suggestions and good condom brands as well.

I've always had this void inside of me, like I am the outsider looking into my own life. I have never been able to make a genuine connection with anyone.

I am good at social scenarios often just analyzing, predicting and saying what the person speaking to me wants to hear. However I am unable to feel and act how others do.

I stay alone most of the time because of this as it gets exhausting. I do not feel satisfied in my career or what I am pursuing either and don't have that drive that I see everyone has.

I just live one day at a time. Making money, acting impulsively, rage, anger, lust are the only things I feel. I don't feel empathy or sympathy towards people either like I do for stray animals. If I achieve something the happiness usually only lasts 2-3 minutes and I snap back to reality and the next thing pretty quickly. I memorize lines and quips from content I watch and use them in real life to get by. I fake a lot of things with people and lie unnecessarily.

I don't feel love either, I have been into plenty of relationships and after sometime I get tired and bored of them. If I feel love I think it would be for my parents, they've supported me through thick and thin and in my darkest times.

I suppose this void inside of me arises from just consuming and not creating anything.

I have tried creative outlets whether it be talking about my hobbies on instagram as reels or making videos on youtube, even though I set out with the intention of not generating another income source it becomes the metric I rely on. Above that I feel uncomfortable and anxious about people recognising me so I usually quit it. I find peace in staying private.

If you are relating to similar things that I've said, how do you deal with it ?

I genuinely need some advice because I feel like this has started affecting me more than it should.

Whenever I talk to a girl, my parents start shipping us together, even if we're literally just having a normal conversation. It doesn't matter if she's a classmate or just someone I know, they'll somehow make it weird 😭

And it's gotten to a point where I struggle to even talk to girls normally. I can't even communicate with a girl in a Discord VC without feeling awkward, and it's not like I have a crush on her or anything. I also catch myself avoiding even looking at girls my age on TV because for some reason, I feel weird about it.

I know my parents probably don't mean any harm, but constantly getting teased over something as simple as talking to a girl has genuinely messed with how I interact with them. I end up overthinking the most basic interactions when they shouldn't even be a big deal.

Has anyone else gone through something like this? How do I stop being so awkward around girls and just treat them like normal people without overthinking everything? I don't wanna keep being like this 😭

23M, I think it’s mostly psychological as I used to be high libido till a severe panic attack 1.5 years ago nerfed me. It was really bad cuz I couldn’t even drink caffeine or smoke for months. I remember my tool being extremely hard when I totally didn’t expect that encounter but then it really isn’t consistent.

Now, I’m recovered from anxiety symptoms but not from the impact it left me if u understand… I still wake up with shaky legs and a mind that screams all the time giving me ocd and shit. I feel like I tricked my mind into recovery but not my body.

I can white knuckle every other requirement in life like socialising and shit but down there it really has left a deep fucking impact and I’m so pissed about it.

Idk if sex therapy or soemthing would help. Never tried therapy or meds since my panic attack, rawdogged everything so far.

Anyone been through something similar?

Right now, I’m only thinking of rebooting my body by going all out on exercise and stuff and then letting my mind do its thing. I’m near a 100kg right now.

My marriage has been pretty rocky ever since I had my daughter. Due to some serious (not really comfortable revealing) reasons, a sort of dislike towards each other developed between my family and my wife and vice-versa. So basically, no one in my family likes my wife and vice-versa.

Now, when my daughter was less than a year old, regular disagreements and episodes of long silent-treatment persisted, soI asked my parents to leave (on my wife's request) to keep the peace. So they went to my Hometown which led to my wife becoming resentful, critical of even the harmless of statements, molding statements made by family members for a good fight etc etc.

There is going to be my sister's wedding and as revenge, my wife has refused (earlier she said she will go) to go just two weeks before the day when everything has already been planned and set. It is giving me nightmares. I am already someone who isn't much respected in family. If I ruin my sister's wedding, I fear I may be shunned.

What do I do? If I tell them everything, there is going to be some serious stress in the household. If I somehow convince my wife and she creates some drama at the wedding, that is also not desirable. F*ck my life!

So I am a 23M and the main issue with me is that it’s pretty hard for me to find a partner as I live in a tier 2 city and there’s almost zero unisex socialising events here , I understand that I am still pretty young and I should not worry about this too much lol , but I am a freelancer so I am mostly home and my life is non-social anyways , and I just don’t wanna do arranged marriage bcoz idk I just dont feel like its worth it ( it might be worthy ofc but i just dont want to idk why ) . So basically I dont wanna do arranged marriage and i dont have a great social life to find a girl naturally , I am also ready to be alone but still there’s a fear that what if I don’t find someone coz I don’t wanna stay alone for lifetime, and in our community this is the perfect time to find a arranged marriage setup ( 23-24 age ) , bcoz the men in their 27-30s do not get good match in our community and just end up alone , so i am helllaaaa confuseddd what tf should i do😭 bcoz i dont wanna take a rushed decision to find an arranged marriage setup and end up regretting it but I also dont wanna keep wasting my time in waiting to find a girl naturally and end up being alone.

Imagine an only son in his mid-20s who is just starting his career and planning to get married. His wife wants them to live separatley after marriage, with privacy and independence, and grow together and both contributes, However, his family strongly believes that everyone should live together under one roof. They have always been a close-knit family and find it difficult to accept the idea of their son moving out after marriage.

The situation is more complicated because his parents are still working but have debts and other financial commitments. Since he is only at the beginning of his career, setting up a separate household, paying rent and managing everyday expenses could be challenging while also helping his parents financially.

He wants to support his parents and make sure they are not left struggling, but he also wants to give his wife a comfortable married life and build their future together. His family might see moving out as distancing himself from them, even if he continues visiting them regularly and contributing financially.

In this situation, how should someone approach the transition? Would it make sense to live with his parents for a couple of years, save money, and help reduce their debts before setting up a separate home, or is it better to establish boundaries from the beginning of the marriage?

How much financial responsibility should an only son take for his parents when they have existing debts, especially when he is still building his career? How can he support them without compromising his own household's financial stability?

I'd especially like to hear from people who have been through something similar. How did you handle your parents' expectations, financial responsibilities, and your spouse's need for independence? What would you do differently if you could go back?

Pseudo-feminists are losing their minds because Rashmika said she asked Vijay 100 times a year to marry her. She’s being abused left and right online, even though she seems genuinely happy about it.

Now, just reverse the roles. If Vijay had done the same thing, these very same women would have called it cute, romantic, and the bare minimum. They’d be saying every man should do the same, blah blah.

Indian 'Feminists' Are Some of the Most Toxic People Online

So I talked to this girl first time on 4th oct on our first class, then after that today was our 2nd class, as we are in ODL batch classes are only 2 times a week.

so today we made eye contact, she said hi i said heyy and then i shaked hands with her. Then i ask couple of questions while walking with her -
How's your CFA prep going
Why you were absent last week
Then i asked are you going somewhere she said washroom, she was smiling a bit all the time
Then i said - oh go go then,
Then after that i was waiting to talk to her but her friends were all around her, no alone time, she was surrounded by 4-5 girls all the time.
alone and felt what the heck is going, felt like i'm chasing her or what.

was i needy or not guys ??

Then i left the class early showing i had a call, and
college and ask her for canteen.

now i not even had her number i was thinking of asking her but due to much girls around her i didr ask.

I am in my mid 20s and I only very recently found out that you have to click the underside of your foreskin. In my defense, I have a tight foreskin which is super hard to pull all the way back to the back of the crown, so until I reached my 20s, I thought that all penises are like that and there's no need to do anything more.

Because of the tight skin, I was always worried about trying to pull it back and clean it. But I had a sexual experience recently and it just made me feel conscious about my penis and I figured I would clean it up now.

The problem is that it's too hardened and it won't budge with water even. I feel so scared when it's pulled back worrying that I might get hurt. How do I fix this? Should I go to a doctor? If someone has been to one, please let me know your experience. I am worried a doctor might hurt my penis somehow.

hello guys, I'm studying btech cse 2ndyr in a tier 3 private deemed university.i possess average skills and participated in some hackathon.few relatives i know working in big MNCs.how much is it feasible for me to ask them for internship? can anybody explain to me the ground reality and how these things work? Thank you

Recently, I hooked up with a girl and noticed that she was quite dry down there. I felt some friction during intercourse, so the experience wasn’t as smooth or comfortable as I would have liked. I’m planning to try using lube next time, but since I’m a beginner, I’m not sure which brand to buy or how to use it properly.

From what I’ve read online, water-based lubes seem to be the most recommended option. I’ll also be wearing a condom, so I’m wondering how much lube I should use, where exactly I should apply it, and whether I should put it on my penis before putting on the condom, on the outside of the condom after wearing it, or directly around her vaginal opening and lips. Any recommendations for good brands and advice on how to use lube correctly would be really helpful. Thanks in advance!