And on the flip side, don't settle for and stay with a bad one. Sunk cost fallacy is real, and being alone sucks, but you'll be doing yourself a huge favor and save a lot of wasted time and be one step closer to being happy if you just cut out someone that you're not happy with.
My friend said he wants a specific age, race, demographic, and born from only a certain part of the world while also isolating some women because culturally they’re not what he looks for. With this mindset he then skips a lot of potential datable women, saves him time. I think he’s crazy but it’s his choice, I want to know what others think.
He's doing all the women around him a favor by not wasting their time. I'm a guy btw so if I can notice he's guaranteed the worst person I know, I imagine his reputation around town is pretty bad.
Wanting someone who wants the same things as you and the same culture is alright. But when it starts to get too vain and like.. a specific region?
I mean he's welcome to try. But it seems like hes likely not considering the fact that such a woman must also want him and having such a shallow list of requirements is not ideal.
It's one thing to want a partner who does or does not want kids, and has the same religious views, ect.
Same cultural identity even I can understand. Even age range. But it depends on his approach as to why he wants these things I think.
And on another side too, don't be obsessed to be with a woman, to find a woman, to f**k a woman. Sometimes it's good to be alone, don't struggle to find a woman, born a baby, make a family, have someone always there. It's nice to build something but you can also do it by your own
It depends where those wants come from. After I divorced, I had a hard look inside and discovered I had chosen poorly; now my criteria is much more refined, and I have experience to back up my preferences and my dealbreakers.
I feel like dating apps have perpetuated this. People think they know exactly what and could never settle for anything else. You see the same with houses. Suddenly you realise you like someone who doesn't tick all those boxes but, look at that, you actually like them and they're a joy to be around and make you a better person.
I’d rather that than someone who won’t really love the person they choose. Like they are “settling”. Trust me though, if someone who doesn’t match that description makes his heart beat, he will fall just the same. And so long as he’s not forcing anyone I don’t see anything wrong with it, like it shows he can be alone and doesn’t need a relationship to complete him. The way I see it. And if he does find his perfect ideal then more power to him go actually find someone that hits all his wants.
Your friend sounds like the kind of jabroni who always orders a cheeseburger--even in the town's best Chinese restaurant. There's a time and a place for delicious burgers, but the Imperial Palace ain't it.
I suspect your friend is setting an impossible bar just so he can avoid dating a real woman. If he were serious, he'd work on figuring out how to meet ladies he likes. If he's never finding anyone because he's too damn picky, then that might be the whole point.
If he's satisfied with being single until or if the one appears, if he doesn't take it out on our judge women not this type as inferior, it's fine I guess.
That said, his chances are super low, and part of the fun of dating is encountering and experiencing different kinds of people. The more flexible those superficial kinds of standards, but the higher the emotional and personality standards is the way to go.
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u/WoodenCrow6024 13h ago edited 10h ago
Appreciate a good woman. When your young its easy to think you can always find better. By your mid to late 30s most of the great women are gone.
Thanks for the awards. Just trying to be helpful.