Just like any other brand these days, their "crazy, amazing, set-an-alarm for MIDNIGHT" sale is mediocre. One thing in my saved cart was 50% off. The rest were 0%-25% off.

I had a massive cart saved. Ended up buying 3 things. For veiled collection I definitely spent less than I could have but I hated that the marketing made it seem like this financially inaccessible brand was finally opening up to the average income consumer.

Jokes on me lol. I still like veiled, just ranting at the marketing practice here. I guess the new drops sale prices are fine... but not good enough to "wake up at midnight and use a password" to shop.

I like to shave my legs because i love the way pyjamas feel (lol), and my hair naturally dissipates over my chest and arms and back (just a little peach fuzz which I don’t mind). So when I shave I am pretty much hairless except for my tummy which looks kinda weird?

And on the other hand I’ve never seen anyone shave or wax their tummy. So? What are we all doing lol

This has been on my mind for a while now ever since I started browsing this sub here and there. If you're struggling with your faith, please be careful choosing this platform as a place to ask for religious advice.

To quickly summarize my warning: You don't know who you're talking to. You don't know if they even wear a hijab or hold similar religious values to you. You don't know their level of knowledge, what they follow, or their level of honesty. You don't know if the person commenting is even a Muslim woman behind the screen, or someone swaying others away from this faith (intentionally or unintentionally).

I'm saying this as a Muslimah who has gone through all the common ups and downs of disliking hijab, feeling insecure, feeling discriminated against, wondering if this religion is unfair (astaghfirullah, it's not), struggling with desires, wanting to feel beautiful, dealing with doubts about faith, etc.

And I can tell you that Alhamdulillah looking back I am so glad that I never went on these social media platforms as a teenager to vent or ask for advice. Don't get me wrong, there are many sincere sisters here. And sincere beneficial comments.

But I've noticed at times that some of the highest comments are also the most misleading, or just straight up misinformation. A quick example, the most upvoted comment on a struggling sister's post will be "just take it off". I know Muslims are at varying degrees of their imaan, but sometimes I find it strange that this place is not more encouraging religiously. Even if it's not a platform for learning Islam, at least we should be encouraging each other to stay strong, right? (And many sisters do, may Allah SWT bless them!) I don't know if it's because reddit just attracts certain kinds of thinkers or if this is being done intentionally to push certain narratives online. Honestly with the frequency of it I'm starting to think the latter but that's a personal opinion.

I know this platform is often an easy place for Muslimahs to come and ask quick questions or vent. But when it comes to religious matters specifically, honestly we have to be more careful. There are better ways to seek knowledge, better platforms to find answers. If you really have no one in your locality, we live in a time where there are so many online Islamic classes, videos, and resources right at your fingertips. And when it comes to venting, try to find better outlets. A Muslim friend, a sister at the mosque, a family relative, or even a journal. I'm so glad I wrote down or made dua about some of my biggest religious struggles, because if I had posted at those times, the comments some people give here could have easily fed my doubts or confused me even more.

This is not to make anyone feel bad wallahi. You don't have to feel bad about struggling, you don't have to feel bad about wanting advice. We have all been there. I know how lonely it feels when you just WISH there was someone out there who could understand and listen. How desperately you wish you had another Muslim girl in your life who could advise you. Believe me I know! My point isn't to make anyone feel more isolated and alone. It's not to tell you to leave reddit forever or to never post. It's to tell you to be more mindful about where you choose to seek help from, because not everyone online is the right person to ask.

Be aware that if you put out strong negativity and doubts about religious matters here without a second thought about your wording, you can cause other people to struggle too. Is it worth it? Do the people online have the right tools to help you? Question if this platform is really the right place to vent or discuss doubts. Many topics that come up have been asked countless many times before, just use the search function if you really need Reddit's advice (again, not the best idea).

Be careful of who you seek religious advice from when you're spiritually vulnerable. Go to Allah SWT first, go to people of knowledge. Go to other practising Muslim sisters who you know will help you grow in your faith, not set you back. Learn your religion so that your connection with Allah is stronger than the struggling voices that pull you away, even if that voice is sometimes your own.

As salamu alaykum rahmatullahi barakatuh, ladies. The title pretty much says it all. This year has been incredibly challenging for me. I haven’t had a break since January, and I believe it’s finally taking a toll on me. My anxiety has gotten so bad and to the point where I feel unsafe going outside. My depression is even worse. I’ve only experienced a glimpse of happiness this year, and the rest has been a constant battle with sadness and depression.

Financial difficulties have been a significant burden this year. Last month, I hit rock bottom completely. I lost my job, and my car was stolen. I managed to get my car back, but everything inside was stolen. I’ve been living off my credit cards, and they are officially maxed out. I used to have almost $20,000 in my savings account, which allowed me to go anywhere and spend freely. However, I had to rationalize my money. I never imagined I’d have to choose between spending my last bit of money on food or gas for my car. I had only $100 left, and I needed to get an oil change. So, I spent an hour calling different places to find the cheapest option. I found a place that could accommodate my needs and called twice to confirm the price. When I arrived, the mechanic finished my oil change and informed me that the total would be $107. I started crying because that was all I had. I still needed gas and something to eat, but I had nothing.

The next day, my tire went flat, and the day after that, I got a $160 ticket.

It may seem like nothing to someone, but this is a lot for me. I’m all alone, and I’m all I have. I’ve fallen into a deep depression; it’s so overwhelming that I’ve contemplated and thought about taking my own life because I don’t think I can endure this much longer. Everyone says that Allah never gives a soul more than it can bear, but I think otherwise.

I just wanted to vent. Thank you for reading, and please pray for me.

I'm personally sitll a rather new convert to this faith and I was wondering if any of you girls on here might have advice on where to shop for reasonable prices and general tips and bits on how to properly dress. im greatful to have found a lovely local shop for hijabs but I've yet to find one for simple nice dresses that aren't 100$+usd per dress (witch for all I know is reasonable for this kinda thing tbh)

update. In the chigao area witch thankfully means there's enough groups out here to have a small handful of family shops but most of the ones I've been to are rather flashy over just plan soild colors

Assalamualaikum.

Every month, a couple of days before my full period starts, I get regular spotting (especially when urinating). It always leads directly into my main period.

My question is: Do I pause my Namaz as soon as this spotting starts because it's a regular precursor to my period, or do I need to perform wudu for every prayer and keep praying until the heavier bleeding starts?

Salaam sisters. Sometimes after I'm done with salah I stay in sujood like I tried to draw here. Not like the normal sujood we do during salah. I just like to stay in sujood for a while because it feels like pouring my heart to Allah without any thoughts or words and it is more comfortable in this position than the normal sujood. I was wondering if doing it like this is wrong? I sometimes fall asleep on prayer mat like this too.

I drew how it looks from above. It is basically hand on hand and I put my forehead on them. It may sound and look weird. I dont know if any other belief has this kind of worshipping position which might make what I do wrong.

is a sister not wearing hijab after reaching the obligatory age considered a public sinner ? regardless of her intention not being to boast, rather if she herself is struggling with hijab ?

Asalamu alaikum beautiful hijabis

I am a college student and I am usually used to removing facial hair by threading (having someone else do it for me). However, I’m in college rn and it’s very hard to find someone to thread my face for me. It’s very difficult for me to do it for myself and I am worried about trying because if I can’t finish my entire face it’d look pretty bad. I’ve tried epilating before but it resulted in my breaking out very badly and my skin gets very red. I’m not keen on shaving or using chemical stuff on my face either. I just wanted to ask if anyone knows what i can do about this 😔 I don’t want to look like some hairy monkey

I’d appreciate any advice y’all have. Jazakum Allah Khairan!

Salam aleikum, I’ve heard this sentence and I want to know, what do you think about it ?

It reminds me of my case, I’m 27 today, when I was in high school I had a Muslim friend who always used her beauty privilege and boys to have what she wants, she also had a boyfriend, she didn’t study, she was hypocritical and used people (I obviously stopped being friend with her at the time).
(She has almost all of antisocial personality disorder traits BUT this is another topic).

While I was physically normal, I wear hijab, never had and not even interested in relationship, I didn’t talk to boys, I now have a degree.

But for the last years :
She is married with her high school boyfriend, they have a child, she has a lot of friends, she works, things seems to fluid for her, she’s living life.

Meanwhile I never had a relationship, so no marriage in sight at all, I had a degree that got me so much depression and anxiety at the time, I don’t work today and I have no friend I’m isolated.

She lives near my house today, and I can’t help but feel dumb and grumpy.

Also, we have to stop promoting to young girls this « don’t be in a relationship and you’ll have a perfect partner later » or even « don’t do nothing bad and you’ll be a good girl », first that absolutely false, secondly, no one will applaud you for being a good person, you’ll just be used (I don’t allow that so I don’t have friend today) and forgotten.

Sorry for my English.

I’m interested to know what you think about this, and how can I be better with concrete advice because currently I feel so miserable and a failure.

assalamualaykum i am just another person living in a desi family. i have a cousin thats 2 years older than me. we have always been together since childhood and we were great friends, sure we did fight but i had no sisters and stuff so she was my homie. and we fought a lot, like we always used to argue and fight abt some or the other thing mostly. and it was mostly like i say hurtful things to her she remains calm and composed. sometimes she’d lose it and say mean things back. mostly i was the problem i believe. now shes moved out and married and we have a cousins gc. i knew what would bother her so i used to initially post problematic reels so that she’d blabber in the replies , that was my way of taking revenge of the hurtful things she said to me. bcs all what she said to me and believes abt me is a lie, i agree i havent been a great sister but what she was thinking was straight up messed up. now long story short i actually did post first problematic reel and she replied in paragraphs and all my cousins roasted her, and then it began a series all used to send something shed be pissed and then arguments would start. now i have only done it like 2 or 3 times i guess im not sure. but yday also we were fighting in gc and she left the group and then i apologised today so she said i forgive you but Allah knows your niyah, that shook me. like srsly i apologised but i was the one that made her look like : loook shes fighting and arguing again, i even used to make fun of her for fighting with my family like look she fought again . i am sorry i dk why i did that i believe i did that because she mis labeled me and said bad things abt me and i couldn’t find anything to attack her back so i made her seem like a psycho i regret it i truly do . i am going to seek forgiveness from Allah and have already said sorry to her. what shud i do? i feel evil bcs now that she said abt my niyaah i realised that i was indeed looking to mock her. its not that shes been complete angel either she has said stuff to me too, but never humiliated me publicly, which i did. i didnt do it directly , but i knew what would stir her and then everyone followed along and then i used to laugh at her replies w my family members and sometimes even show them her replies in gc. i have basically made an addition in her image that she argues a lot . which is not entirely wrong. but i was the one that spread it. idk what to do now. i am full of shame. idk how will i ever face her. i have been an evil human. idk

tldr : i made a mockery of my cousin that she is v argumentative and spread it across my family . and now everyone sees her through that lens. and i regret it.

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Yk what hurts so much as a women? When we go through something so hurtful, the biggest hardship in life and all we want to do is do tahjudd and pray to Allah but you can't do that BCS of your period and than nothing you do makes you feel better and nothing makes you feel hope or gives you peace like crying in sujood or praying to Allah

Salam girls, wondering if anyone has any muslim friendly suggestions for a babymoon in january? Preferably somewhere not too cold or hot. Not looking specifically for a muslim country just somwhere that is comfortable for practicing muslims.

AsSalamWalaikum!

I’ve been trying to find good quality ninja undercaps that are colored (not just brown, black, and white) and are cotton. I bought a set from Amazon before and they had a few different colors but it was more synthetic and VERY tight around the neck (no chin coverage). I like the ones in this picture cus it has the chin coverage and I think it’s better cus sometimes the hijab can slip back, does anyone know where to find good quality ones?? I’ve been rotating my few black ones consistently but want to invest in a few other ones. Also if anyone knows cheap underabayas (full sleeve please, not the ones that are sleeveless as abayas slip back and show the hand)?

JazakAllahum Khairan!

salam! i am a hijabi muslim woman. i usually don't put pfp on any of my socials, but for linkedin, i heard it gives a better chance for being noticed and considered for job roles. my question is: is it okay for a muslim woman to have a headshot on linkedin? without any makeup and with hijab. pls let me know your thoughts

Asm sisters,
i had made a post about not being allowed to wear hijab during exams.
The first exam went okay, nothing happened but today, midway through the exam the invigilator decides no one’s following dress code and lashes out. She tells me scarves aren’t allowed and that she’ll kick me out of the class next time.
Funny thing is she was the same invigilator even yesterday but said nothing 🤷‍♀️

So i decided i’ll remove it prior to entering the exam hall from tomorrow… This is really uncomfortable for me. And i’ve never taken off my hijab even for a day in uni, so i am really anxious about it.

I thought I’ll just put my hair in a bun, take off hijab before exam and put it back on later…

Any advice?

Dr Anisa has written a whole book about women being left in limbo without a religious divorce. Yet we still do not talk enough about why safeguards such as tafwid al-talaq are so controversial.

Women have always had options within Islam to seek separation. The problem is whether those options are genuinely accessible in practice. In countries such as the US, The Uk, Australia, New Zealand and Canada, access to qualified Islamic authorities or a functioning religious court can be limited. I have spoken to sheikhs who acknowledged that they would not initiate a talaq themselves, describing the process as difficult and needs a lot of time and effort.

This is why I believe tafwid al-talaq should be discussed more openly. I am talking about a safeguard written into the nikah contract for circumstances such as abuse, neglect or a husband taking a second wife, infidelity or any other situations.

Why is a woman asking for this protection sometimes seen as distrustful or as someone planning for her marriage to fail? Wanting an exit route does not mean expecting the marriage to fail. It means recognising that circumstances can change.

I genuinely want to understand the resistance, particularly from men who would refuse this clause. What if this was your sister or daughter that was trapped and sheikhs made it dificult for her? how would you advise?

If a husband has no intention of abusing, neglecting or betraying his wife, why should agreeing to this safeguard be so threatening? And if he later does something that makes the marriage harmful to her, why should her ability to leave depend entirely on his cooperation?

I would especially like to hear from men who disagree, as well as women who have asked for this clause and faced resistance.

Hi gals, I am a revert and I would like to know what you do to feel beautiful as a Hijabi? I know that in islam the point is not to beautify the hijab, so no judgement here please. But sometimes I struggle with this, I want to feel beautiful. What do you do?

Change hijab colours or styles? Wear makeup? Beauty treatments? Hijab accessories? Do you only make yourself beautiful to go certain places? I would love to know what you do and your experience <3

Salam!! I've recently been obsessed with a few Vela prints, but I wanted to see if I could buy them secondhand for cheaper. Please let me know if you have any of the hijabs listed below that you're selling (within reason). Please let me know!

- Mauve Tapestry (Standard Size)

- Sage Lace (Standard Size)

- Crimson Mood (Standard Size)

- Ivory Tapestry (Standard Size)

I am also selling my unworn Spiced Paisley hijab in standard size for retail, but open to offers :)

due to some circumstances, I've been offered an amazing room with a group of married/single girls (their is only 2 males and they each have their own room with significant other, that the whole house is treated and used as 3 apartments).

my question would be they are Christian, would I be able to share cooking and eating utensils? I vaguely recall the prophet pbuh eating food prep by ppl of the book but he was a guest and I'm about to consider living with them.

what should I be doing?

i dont see much people in the muslim community talk about it enough. it is almost 2027, little girls and female teachers are forced to remove their hijab. why are we not making enough noise. i see people in Turkey talk about it on socials because same thing happened in Turkey in past but what about sisters and brothers from other countries?... i need everyone to talk more about it. this is truly so sad..

I am selling 7 piece hijabi set that I bought in canada and never used it. Everything is from Canadian brand I LOVE MODESTY.

Description:
Selling a beautiful hijab set from I LOVE MODESTY, a Canadian modest fashion brand.

The set includes:

• 2 jersey hijabs with tags (beige and silver grey)

• 1 chiffon hijab (smoke rose)

• 1 pink mesh undercap

• 2 tube bonnets (white and light grey)

• 1 set of no-snag hijab magnets

* Condition: All items are unused and in excellent condition. The two jersey hijabs still have their tags.

Original total value: Approximately €80 (120 CAD)

Selling price: €60 for the entire set or DM me for lower price.

You can also see listing on eBay (https://ebay.io/m/qdtQV5) or Vinted (https://www.vinted.si/items/10363962284-hijab-set-unused-7-pieces).