On one hand it's important to identify the habits that we should establish in our lives - good sleep, good diet, good consumption, minimal screen-time, etc - but it's often much trickier to keep the habit in place after we've started it.
I've been studying the psychology of self-control for a long time now and have identified a number of tips that are helpful for keeping the habits that you start so that you can get those coveted long-term results. Everything that I list here I have used myself with great success.
Here they are in no particular order:
Focus on connecting your word with your action
Think of your word (what you say you'll do) and your action (what you do do) as two nodes that need to be connected by a wire. If you say you'll do something, and then you do it, then your self-integrity strengthens. You are better able to trust yourself. You're better able to believe yourself when you say that you'll do something. Ultimately it demonstrates to you that you're able to actually change your life in some way. See?
But if you don't, and your word and action aren't connected - then you've weakened your self-integrity. You lapse deeper into powerlessness.
From now on if you say that you're going to do something - it means that you have to do it.
Your daily streak doesn't matter as much as how long your downtime is
In other words - if you have a 7 day streak of not drinking, that's fantastic! But don't fall into the trap of making this streak your do-or-die thing. If you relapse and drink, what becomes much more important is how much time needs to pass before you begin your next attempt to stay sober.
I've discovered that habits are not always built by sustaining one streak indefinitely (although sometimes it does happen this way), but by combining multiple streaks - so that your downtime gets shorter and shorter until it eventually just disappears entirely. This is a very powerful and self-empowering way of going about it.
Define ahead of time what you're actually aiming for
This one is extremely underrepresented in habit forums. Here's how it works:
We're all used to thinking about screentime like "screentime = bad", so that we basically feel guilty and wrong whenever we pick up our phones. But take a minute and actually consider what your optimal relationship with your device should be.
When you do this, you'll likely find that some screentime is good, necessary, valuable, and life-enhancing. Like when you're messaging with friends or learning about something cool. So get clear and get specific about what you're aiming for instead of attacking it in a black and white way - this will create a much higher likelihood of success.
Does this help?
Thanks for reading,
Brent