So I’ve just recently realised that I’m bigender but I do feel more masculine than feminine so about maybe 70% masculine and 30% feminine and I don’t really know if that counts as Bigender or something else like genderfluid or something like that.. I’m really confused so I’d appreciate if someone could tell me if that still counts as bigender or not c:

I suddenly realized its been about 3 years since I found this word that helped me get through such a tough time of self-discovery and bargaining against my better judgment of my lived experience.

I've since come to describe myself as genderflux/transfem/genderblender, but I still rep the bigender tag and claim demiboy and woman as my two genders. I recently got to have the honor to receive a bigender flag bead star at an event, and then promptly hand it off to the only other bigender person I met there <3

I sometimes quite love living in my body these days, even though I still experience the bigender frustration of not being able to just have two bodies lol

I’m really struggling to accept that I’m likely bigender. Partly because my gender journey also coincided with some extremely tough circumstances. It’s hard not to be skeptical or wonder if I’m having mental issues. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, either. It’s just frustrating because I don’t know what to take seriously and how far to take things.

I will feel pretty squarely “male”. And come to accept that part of me. But then today, felt a bit dysphoric and needed to be more femme/ female. (Also hard to know the difference between liking my own feminine energy and actually feeling aligned as afab)

Anyway, the part that gets to me is I can understand being trans mtf ftm or nonbinary etc. I struggle to accept being fluid or having two very active and pronounced parts of myself. Because I sincerely wonder what the difference is between that and DID? Though, my gender feelings are all me. They feel cohesive. I dont dissociate to the degree of amnesia. But I also have pretty severe PTSD from recent life things and started spending a lot of time ideating on gender, almost as an escape from my life. Though, the feelings have been there for forever I just didn’t have a way to make sense of them.

I’m not asking for anyone to diagnose me or not. I am pretty positive I am bigender/trans/nonbinary to some extent. I just so happen to also have PTSD. I’ve had the gender feelings before the trauma.

Anyway…the question is… How do you all cope with this? I really really wish I could just be a binary trans man or find a way to be comfortable being cis but I’m not sure that’ll ever happen. Nor do I want to have so much internalized transphobia <\3 help :(

I've identified as bigender for a bit now but idk what my second gender is.. I'm a man I know that much but the other side of me is binary, but not a women. Idk if there is a term for this or if I should make one but.

I feel genderless, yet loosely masculine. I have connection to femininity but not enough to consider myself a girl, and the idea of being a girl is repulsive to me (due to being my agab). Any help is greatly appreciated...

Turns out I'm a man and demifeminine!

i realized im bigender around two months ago and its just cool what a great impact it has to just know that, i mean besides name and pronouns i dont really change anything but still im so happy right now that i cant understand how i could even be remotely content with my life before. from my perspective now it feels like i have always only watched my life playing by as a bystander, it felt so surreal, but now i feel like its really me.

OMG you guys, I'm going to a party tonight, and this is my first time doing makeup and more fem clothing!

I feel AMAZING!

Hi guys! I just want to ask if is it okay to be bigender and novosexuality at the same time? Because I felt like I am. I am a guy and whenever I feel a woman, I feel attracted to men but still attracted to women and whenever I feel like a man,I feel attracted to women and I whenever I feel both genders then I like both sex too. To my fellow bigender people, do you feel the same way or am I the only one experiencing this? Or could I be bisexual?

for context: i realized im bigender around a month ago and am so happy about that.

(now the question) but that being said my family (especially my brother and my father) still only call me he/him. i know that they dont do it intentionally because they actually use my new fem name, and to be fair i have to say that i very rarely remind them of the pronoun stuff. but thats not the problem i wanted to address here, the thing is: i know that im bigender, it just feels so great and just ‘right’ but strangely every time someone addresses me as he/him i always think “no. she.”. i wanted to ask if this is “normal” (ik bad word to use i just cant think of another)? like is there anyone with similar experience, if so then please share them with me (only if you want ofc). and also could a reason maybe be that i want to hear some kind of “validation” that they really also see me as a girl? the strangest thing about it is that i theoretically really like the idea of using she and he pronouns while altering between them (like for example one sentence she the other he) (my language unfortunately doesn’t have they/them)

I'm happy with being a cis female using she/her but at the same time I want to be a boy but not fully.

I'm thinking that I'm maybe a bigender who identifies as female and demiboy, but I'm not sure yet

I first discovered Reddit as a teenager through the cross-dressing community. It was one of the first places where I felt safe exploring a part of myself I didn’t yet understand. Back then, expressing my femininity felt almost taboo. Seeing other people embrace it helped me imagine a life I’m now actually living.

Today, I identify as bigender and gender fluid. I regularly go out and live publicly as a woman, while my masculine identity remains equally real. I’m proud of both. It’s a pretty ordinary life that happens to be a little complicated. 😂

But something interesting has happened along the way: I’ve started feeling disconnected from the online communities that once helped me understand myself.
My interests have shifted toward everyday life, fashion, relationships, and simply being comfortable in my own identity. I’m no longer looking for permission to explore my femininity. I’m actually living it.

Yet I sometimes find myself feeling misunderstood, even in communities where I expected to feel welcome. There can be pressure to fit particular definitions of gender, appearance, or identity, and being bigender doesn’t always fit neatly into those expectations.

A recent disagreement about my old Reddit username brought some of those feelings to the surface. I chose it years ago, inspired by Halestorm’s Mz. Hyde, long before I fully understood my identity. Someone interpreted it as offensive, which genuinely surprised me. I’m open to understanding perspectives I may have missed, but the experience made me reflect on how complicated online identity discussions can become.

And honestly, maybe I’ve simply outgrown some of what originally brought me here.

I’m curious whether other bigender or gender-fluid people have experienced something similar.

Have you ever felt disconnected from the communities that once helped you discover yourself?

And where have you found meaningful friendships or a sense of belonging as you’ve become more comfortable with your identity?

This has been a significant year of personal growth for me. I’ve gained confidence, started living more openly, and learned to appreciate both sides of myself.

I don’t regret finding these communities. They helped me get here. But I’m beginning to wonder what comes next.
Maybe that’s part of growing into yourself, too. 🖤

I (AMAB) am feeling rather male. I don't even want to be girl anymore at this point. I know that when I feel masculine, I can just not comprehend why I want to be bigender anymore. I just can't see myself being a girl anymore right now, and it started a while ago when I ordered my first pair of feminine clothes. Is this just an extreme of being bigender, or was this just a fun experiment for me? Being a dude for the rest of my life doesn't seem that bad anymore. I might just be slightly depressed.

I came up with a masculine name for myself!! Since everyone spams “she” all the time, having a masc name that I like very loosely driven from my actual name makes me feel euphoric! I came up with the name “Link”🩵
I love it sm

And yes, like the legends of Zelda😭 (it wasn’t intentional but AYE)

So i've been on a bit of a self discovery journey this year and i'm starting to think i am bigender. I'm perfectly comfortable being a man (AMAB) but theres definitely some woman in me, i just love getting all dressed up and feeling pretty sometimes! But what im wondering is, how do you all cope with any dysphoria you feel when x gender is 'active' shall we say?

For me, i have a hard time feeling pretty as a girl because of my masc body fat distribution and height (6'3). Obviously nothing can be done about bone structure, but ive been reading a little bit about hrt but then wont i just have the same problem in reverse? A girly figure to contend with when im feeling masc?

Are there any AMAB/AFAB people on here who are on hrt who would be happy to talk about their experience? Or anyone at all who can share some advice about not feeling fully content when presenting as either male/female!

TIA 🫶❤️

I recently figured out I'm bigender. I'm currently masc but want to get in that in-between. Should I try to get thick thighs, muscular arms, or both. I already know I want fat transfers to get breasts and a bigger ass along with wanting to take estrogen.

I thought I was SOMEWHAT learning to be okay not having people calling me gender affirming language like “boy girl” “pretty dude” “cool guy” yk stuff that makes me feel like both a guy and a girl- and I realized I’m not. My anxiety is horrid and yk what that’s okay. It’s a process and it’s harder than I thought dealing with only being recognized as a girl and only being called pretty. It’s funny bc I feel like no one said “pretty GIRL” as much until after I came out😭. But I’m working on giving myself as much self validation as I can since no one else is. Im starting to dislike posting myself online bc of all the “girl” compliments. So ykw in general if everyone else spams “girl” I’ll just spam “boy”! IM THE PRETTIEST BOY😭💅

I didn’t know what flair to put this under so I deleted it and then reposted 😭but I thought this was relatable

What restrooms are you supposed to use? Do I use the women's restroom when I'm a girl? Do I use the men's restroom when I'm a girl? As I was assigned male at birth, which one do I use when I'm out as a girl? If I use the men's restroom as a girl, I think it would become obvious that I'm not AFAB. However, if I use the women's restroom, I will feel weird even though I probably won't be questioned. Also, do the state laws that restrict transgender people from using the same bathrooms as their gender identity extend to bigendered people? I presume so unfortunately, but I'm not sure.

With agender people making a large majorty and others that don't seem to understand outside of their own heads (not their fault) I feel out of place. I knew I was a combination as a preteen and even tried mentioning it in the 80s and 90s. Here is a picture of me in the late 70s.

I just wanted to celebrate. After years of denial and finally admitting that part of me is a woman, I had coffee with a friend this morning as a girl. It was delightful. I was worried I was going to be overwhelmed or scared or gross or even that it would give me dysphoria.

Not even a little bit. It was so happy and comfortable. We just had coffee and talked. It could not have gone better.

Just wanted to celebrate!!

This might just be a me thing, but I feel like when I’m my born persona, with my short hair and glasses, I feel fine as me and ok with how I look, and even without glasses, but when I put on the wig, dress, and lipstick, I look weird. I feel like it just doesn’t look right, my male face on a female body, but that’s how my mind feels. Part of it is male and part is female. But when I want to express my female side, I just look like I am faking it.

I was at the mall once as my male persona, and had my female stuff in a backpack. I almost had the confidence to change, walk into MAC wearing my wig and dress and ask for a make up consultation, but I chickened out at the last second cause I just didn’t want to get stared at or be, frankly, assaulted for what I was doing. I want to be me, but I don’t have the confidence to leave the house in it. I’m not ashamed of my male or female side, but I don’t know if I can pass as female with a face like mine. How do y’all manage? I need a pick me up

I can’t come out to my family because they’re transphobic as hell😭✌️(I’m afab) but not being referred to as a boy sometimes by people is giving me extreme anxiety- sooo im coping. I feel like both a girl and a boy(she/he) And I’ve been told that because I present feminine that’s why I’m not referred to as a boy. It sucks - because when I see myself sometimes I see a boy but in a nonbinary kind of way. But no one else sees me that way. I just always look like a girl to everyone else. Whether I look like one or not I always feel like both and would like to be called both a boy and a girl 🫠💔
I just feel like a girl & a pretty boy.