• I’m planning on reworking my mother’s wedding dress (with her permission of course) for one of my bridal looks and was wondering if anyone has any recs for an alteration specialist in the South Bay who does this type of work? It is a lace and beaded gown and I mainly want to cut off the cap sleeves and lower the neckline a bit. Thank you!

anyone know where i can find something super similar

My wedding dress has pearl buttons going down the back, does this mean I should wear a pearl necklace or can I still wear a diamond one?
Not sure if the pearl buttons limit me (they can be switched to fabric ones but the pearls have more of a WOW)

ETA2: I’m completely over my doubts. I 100% value the opinions of my friends and family but sometimes it really does take 80+ strangers to make you realize you’re worried over nothing. Thank you again, I really appreciate it. Keep the styling suggestions coming though! And even suggestions that you might have on color palettes for the bridal party and groomsmen. Right now im leaning dusty rose, burnt orange, or plum for bridesmaid dresses. Groom and groomsmen, I’m a little clueless on what colors would go with those.

Edit: Woah, this is blowing up. To clarify a little, I have adhd and suffer really bad from choice paralysis when it comes to making big decisions like this. Thank you so much for all of your kind comments and suggestions. I’m definitely just stuck in my head too much, but now I will move on and be happy with my choice. Thank you again, you’re all so nice and it’s really lifting me up 😭

Hi everyone! I had my first (and only) dress appointment on Saturday at a local consignment store. It was my dream to buy on consignment but now I’m kind of regretting it because I can’t return it and I’m having second thoughts. On the one hand, this dress was still new out of the bag so I can make whatever alterations I want (budget permitting.) I just need some hype, because I can’t return this. Everyone is telling me that I’m being crazy for doubting myself but the dress ended up being so different from what I thought I was going to get. But I couldn’t stop saying “oh my god” when I was in it. I just feel like it looks a little… dated? And I loved the blush color when I had it on but now I keep seeing all of these beautiful white dresses and my brain just can’t handle it.

If anyone can give me some hyped and some styling tips, I’d really appreciate it! My wedding is in October next year. I’m thinking a plain tulle veil, but I don’t know what length I should do. Accessory tips, anything is welcome. I’m worried that the dress is “too much” because I wanted something a little more modern, initially. So maybe I scale it back on the accessories?

Hi again everyone. Follow up to my post on my wedding dress search. I've seen a lot of recommendation and I'm thinking of this Lilas Lace Dress. These are models and past brides. Looks good?

For more context, my wedding is set for December right after Christmas in Africa. We agreed that the first step would be to get the wedding gown then find the groom's suit that matches with it.

anybody wear this dress for their wedding? thoughts??
anyone wanting to offer theirs up to me to rent? size 0 or 2 lol
or has anyone seen one maybe similar to this? or where i should go look? i loooove the tiered lace and sort of A-line shape

Hello!

I’m a 2027 bride looking for a custom Mantilla lace veil and want to have lace from my mother’s wedding dress added on. Does anyone have recommendations? Either in person (NYC area) or Etsy pages/websites? Thank you!!

I have a dress similar to this and I’m thinking chapel veil but not sure if I should go lace or pearl or one where it’s throughout the whole veil or just the edges. Definitely do not like plain one tier veil. Any suggestions?

I’m getting married in December, right after Christmas and am starting to panic for not making progress with my dress. I honestly thought I would have narrowed down my options by now, but none has even whispered to me, leave alone full-on spoken to me. I am a bit worried honestly.

I have done some light online shopping, and am coming to realize that my budget might not be enough to get something decent; I guess $1000 isn't much these days. I'm picturing something simple but romantic; white but not too 'lacey' if you catch my drift.

I’ve looked at booking an appointment with a few notable bridal shops but all seem to be booked for months. Most are also outside my budget too, and it's proved to be quite the discouragement.

A few friends also suggested that I order it online, but I would honestly love to try out dresses in person if I can. I would still be open to ordering online if that’s the better route, but still, some help would be immense right about now. What are some good websites or stores that would be worth checking out? I’ve heard of Azazie, David’s Bridal and Etsy has lots of options, but still remain unsure of which to go with, especially because their premium prices might not come with corresponding value for money. Where else have you guys bought dresses from? Were they open to making it custom for you too?

Also, I’ve never shopped for a wedding dress before, so I have no idea about sizing, fabrics, alterations, or how long ordering takes. Please help!

I posted in this sub a little over a year ago trying to decide on sleeve options for my dress. Thanks to your lovely suggestions I kept the long sleeves from the original designer (which needed to be altered to fit me correctly) and I'm so glad! The dress was a dream, hope you enjoy a few photos 💞

BRIDES: Has anybody purchased a custom wedding gown for these sites or similar? They’re mostly Chinese made-to-order sites with zero or bad return policies, but the reviews are very polarizing.
What was your experience?

Examples:
*eBay
*alibaba
*Junebridal
*Petalisse
*pgmdress
*simidress
*alinova
*missacc

For context, attached is the dress I’m seeking and a few sites that offer it. This dress has illusion mesh, lace, appliqué and satin so A LOT can go wrong if it’s cheaply made. I also want EXACTLY as the picture: not “something 60% similar” lol.

Please be kind! This is obviously my first time buying something like this. Thank you!

Hi all. Full disclosure up front: I'm a bridal designer in Israel and I make boho dresses, so I'm not posting any links or shop names here. I just answer the same questions every week and figured they'd be more useful in one place.

A few things I wish every boho bride knew:

The lining matters more than the lace. The same lace looks completely different over an ivory lining than over a nude one. Nude reads warmer and a little sheer. Ivory reads cleaner and more classic. If you're shopping online, ask what's underneath.

Chiffon is your friend outside. On a beach or a windy hill it moves beautifully and doesn't trap heat. Heavy beading does the opposite. It holds the sun and pulls the skirt down.

Hem it for the shoes you'll actually wear. If you're getting married on sand or grass, a dress hemmed for heels will drag. Bring the real shoes to your fitting, or give the heel height if you're ordering made to measure.

Short veils for wind. A cathedral veil looks amazing for about ten seconds on a cliff. Fingertip or elbow length is much easier to live with outdoors.

Effortless still needs a good fit. Boho looks unfinished when the bodice gapes or the straps slip. Spend your alteration budget on the bodice, not the skirt.

If you have a question about fabric, climate, styling or fit, ask in the comments and I'll answer what I can. And if you want a second opinion on a dress you're considering, post a photo. Honest answers only.

Hi all. Full disclosure up front: I'm a bridal designer in Israel and I make boho dresses, so I'm not posting any links or shop names here. I just answer the same questions every week and figured they'd be more useful in one place.

A few things I wish every boho bride knew:

The lining matters more than the lace. The same lace looks completely different over an ivory lining than over a nude one. Nude reads warmer and a little sheer. Ivory reads cleaner and more classic. If you're shopping online, ask what's underneath.

Chiffon is your friend outside. On a beach or a windy hill it moves beautifully and doesn't trap heat. Heavy beading does the opposite. It holds the sun and pulls the skirt down.

Hem it for the shoes you'll actually wear. If you're getting married on sand or grass, a dress hemmed for heels will drag. Bring the real shoes to your fitting, or give the heel height if you're ordering made to measure.

Short veils for wind. A cathedral veil looks amazing for about ten seconds on a cliff. Fingertip or elbow length is much easier to live with outdoors.

Effortless still needs a good fit. Boho looks unfinished when the bodice gapes or the straps slip. Spend your alteration budget on the bodice, not the skirt.

If you have a question about fabric, climate, styling or fit, ask in the comments and I'll answer what I can. And if you want a second opinion on a dress you're considering, post a photo. Honest answers only.

Does anyone know what happened to Hey Couture? Their page doesn't appear anymore and I was really interested in their dresses 🤔

The first picture is me in a size 2 of the dress I chose. We went to a different bridal store and they had the same dress, and I believe this was a size 8. It didn’t even feel like the same dress and I was disappointed, but couldn’t stop thinking about how it fit in the first picture. I ordered the dress from the first store, and they ended up ordering me a size 6 (measurements were taken, I did not note them down). I need to find a seamstress still and I’m very worried that the dress will not look like it did on my body when it was a size 2. Am I overthinking? I’ve been to a seamstress twice in my life and they weren’t for anything special. TYIA!!

I’m looking to either find a wedding mini dress that I can have a full over skirt with, or wedding separates where it’s a corset style and I can change from a long skirt to a short skirt.

I really want to be able to boogie and dance without worrying about getting my dress stood on or insanely dirty.

If you know of any designers/brands that do this or you have had something similar please let me know.

Just found and ordered my dress!! Ended up ordering the lace material for $8 a piece (18") to make detachable sleeves and decorate my shoes. I have also considered altering the neckline to create a more pronounced sweetheart shape, but I want to see how the dress fits in my size first, since it’s described as having a “straight sweetheart neckline".

Next I'm hoping to find a veil but don't know where to start 😅 I love the floral lace on my dress but don't want the veil to compete with it. Also unsure if I should keep the look completely matte or add some sparkle with a beaded trim veil or something. The length of veil I'm also debating for the same non-compete reason. Maybe fingertip or waltz length?

For jewelry to complete the look I'm thinking a drop earring and necklace but advice welcomed!

Hi all. Full disclosure up front: I'm a bridal designer in Israel and I make boho dresses, so I'm not posting any links or shop names here. I just answer the same questions every week and figured they'd be more useful in one place

A few things I wish every boho bride knew:

The lining matters more than the lace. The same lace looks completely different over an ivory lining than over a nude one. Nude reads warmer and a little sheer. Ivory reads cleaner and more classic. If you're shopping online, ask what's underneath.

Chiffon is your friend outside. On a beach or a windy hill it moves beautifully and doesn't trap heat. Heavy beading does the opposite. It holds the sun and pulls the skirt down.

Hem it for the shoes you'll actually wear. If you're getting married on sand or grass, a dress hemmed for heels will drag. Bring the real shoes to your fitting, or give the heel height if you're ordering made to measure.

Short veils for wind. A cathedral veil looks amazing for about ten seconds on a cliff. Fingertip or elbow length is much easier to live with outdoors.

Effortless still needs a good fit. Boho looks unfinished when the bodice gapes or the straps slip. Spend your alteration budget on the bodice, not the skirt.

If you have a question about fabric, climate, styling or fit, ask in the comments and I'll answer what I can. And if you want a second opinion on a dress you're considering, post a photo. Honest answers only.

Do you think this dress would look good with a sweetheart neckline? Debating asking my seamstress to change it because I really like the sweetheart neckline but not entirely sure if it would go good with my dress.

How did you decide what shape you wanted your wedding dress to be?? I’ve tried on dresses at a few places, and I still have no idea if I want tight or ball gown or something in between :/

Thank you for all the dress links and suggestions! I won’t give up yet! I’ve decided to look at 2 more stores. If I don’t find anything at either, I’ll just choose one of the other dresses I’ve tried and see what can be done with tailoring and alterations. I realize comparison is the thief of joy etc etc, but it is also something most of us struggle with from time to time! Thank you to everyone who was understanding 💕

The dress in the picture I found on Pinterest after just getting engaged. I’ve found tons of dresses like this on Pinterest, idk if they’re AI or what but I cannot find a sexy corset ball gown with sheer back and sides if my life depended on it.

My wedding is in July 2027 and I was just told at a bridal salon today I basically need to pick a dress this week if I want any chance of it arriving and finishing alterations before the wedding. I’ve gone to I believe 6 bridal salons and I am really starting to spiral, because I honestly don’t think I’ll ever find a dress. I keep finding gowns I really love but there’s always at least one thing I’d change about them or they are just completely the wrong vibe for my wedding.

For context I LOVE fashion and style and all things clothes. Everyone who knows me knows how much I love to dress so this is extra disheartening for me. I am one of the weirdos who dreamed of her wedding dress for ages… and now this. To add insult to injury, my SIL just got married and wore the most fabulous ball gown this world has ever seen. I’m certain the guest who will attend both weddings won’t even remember my gown after seeing that. I’d always planned to get a custom dress but after doing a little research it seemed most people thought it was a really bad idea, and now I doubt I’d even have the time for that.

At this point, I don’t think the dress I want exist anywhere I’d have access to it. So as the title says, when should you just settle on a dress and accept you won’t get that special princess moment?