So, I’ve had my dom for a year, and in the last 6 months, he has also been my bull, since I’ve entered a cuckold relationship. He took it well and adjusted to the transition of being a both my dom and bull pretty good. There are no romantic feelings between us, but a shit load of trust and intimacy, which makes the play between us a 11/10 experience.

But, the last time we met, he accidentaly slipped that he went on a date, and the jealousy filled me to the brim. Note that I have always struggled with jealousy, especially since I know that it’s irrational. Also very hypocritical of me, since I have a boyfriend, and he is very much single and have every right to go on a date. But still, I can’t shake the feeling of jealousy. And the worst part is that I feel like some of the trust is damaged, and I don’t know how to talk to him about it, cause I feel guilty for having these double standard emotions.

We have scheduled a meeting tomorrow for gag-play, but I’m really not sure if the trust is there for it right now.

Does anyone have experience with this, how did you feel when you found out your dom was dating, and how can i manage these emotions? Do I just give it time? How should i talk to him about it?

So I'm a Switch but I've been wrestling with this for some time, and it just so happens that I got my first real world feeling of submissiveness toward another irl person, and I'd like to get it off my chest in a way.

I've dabbled on both sides of the slash for a long time, but almost entirely online.

In my day to day life I very rarely feel submissive to another person I interact with IRL, but something happened the other day that I need to talk about.

I'm currently rooming with a friend, his wife, and their kids for reasons.

The friend and his wife had an event to go to on Saturday and the friend's wife asked her sister to watch the kids while they were gone. (Normally they'd ask me to watch them but the sister wanted to do Halloween stuff so she came anyway)

She also brought her husband and their child.

So anyway the sister (we'll call her Sara) shows up with a bunch of stuff for lunch as well as crafts, and I ofc help her unload, etc.

While Sara is at the house she wants to clean up so her sister (my friend's wife) doesn't feel stressed when they come back.

No problem, I figured I'd help too since I wasn't doing anything and I'd feel bad watching her clean anyway. (Her husband was entertaining the older-ish boys outside mostly)

So she gets to work and I offer to help, to which she graciously accepts and starts directing me in what she'd like me to do.

Everything is going normally as I'm vacuuming, sweeping, etc.

Then as I'm finishing a task she says something like "Oh good job honey" and my heart skipped a beat.

I wasn't prepared for her to say something like that but it's also not super weird for a woman to say something like that.

I tried to brush it off but it stuck.

Fast forward like 30 min and I called her name bc I had a question and she responded "Yes angel?"

Holy shit, people. I felt myself blush but tried discreetly tried to hide it. I think I was successful but its beside the point.

When she said that I felt a wave of submissive energy flood my brain, and I believe this is what subspace is.

I'd never achieved this headspace IRL before so I was very surprised.

Later on she even jokingly referred to me as her slave and I almost felt proud 😆

So the weird part to all this is, like I said earlier, was I almost never feel submissive to an irl person in any way that isn't sexual.

I overthink everything so naturally I do it here too, and I'm wondering now if my desire to submit to her was a result of a genuine desire to submit, or if my nervous system just reacted to hearing such nice things said to me.

For context, I have pretty bad early childhood neglect issues and I don't know if I've ever felt truly loved (long story but basically I've never known a mother's love, currently in therapy largely due to that).

I'm wondering to myself now if I'm actually submissive (at least partly) or if I'm just that starved of positive attention and assurance that anything from a strong, caring woman takes me back to when I needed it most and couldn't get it.

Hi all 👋🏻

I'm very interested in finding some bdsm or d/s friendly discord channels. I've scrolled through so many posts on here but none of the links are active so I was wondering if anyone can help a little sub out and point me the right direction? Would be greatly appreciated ☺️

hey all! i’ve been harassed by a fake dom for a bit now - at first it was just a conversation but this person won’t leave me alone, admitted to having no idea what they were doing and basically told me they wanted pictures of me in public places 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

how are we sharing this to protect other subs? sigh

Me and my Master are both 25. English is not my native language and this is not an invite for dm's.

We have been together for 10 years and during that time, my Master (and I) have been conditioning me deeper into liking degrading and submissive things. I remember before getting into relationship, I would masturbate daily, sometimes multiple times. After a while, I wanted to try only touching and cumming if I had permission. After that, we decided only he could make me cum, and until this day, I can count by one hand the times I have made myself cum. He'd tell me good girls didn't make themselves cum and I so so much want to please him. When he'd eat me, he'd touch my nipples and that was the first link in this chain: I began to enjoy nipple stimulation about as much as clitoral.

I can't remember exactly, but around the same time he (or we) started to condition me into enjoying giving him blowjobs. I'd get my nipples stimulated (while having my hands tied). Some orgasms I earned were given to me while I was giving a blowjob. Slowly, he'd lessen the stimulation: he'd start to hold my head down and only then I got my nipples stimulated or got a permission to cum. I started to want to hold my head down.

Vaginal penetration hasn't really ever been a must thing for me, and without going deeper into medical stuff, it hurts pretty bad nowadays. So naturally, what would be degrading and allow me to serve my Master? Anal. And of course, he'd have to condition me into liking it. So, I could have orgasms, praises and stimulation while plugged.

Nowadays, I have not touched myself in several years and I have not wanted to once. Complete denial doesn't however work for me (at least yet), so I still get to cum pretty much every time we play. I can't use my hands during a blowjob and the only way for me to get any nipple stimulation ever, is to choke on Masters cock. He will caress my breasts, but I won't get direct stimualtion outside of deepthroating during a blowjob. I have formed a need to suck and take him as deep as I ever can. I could stay there forever.

If I wanna cum, I have to have my ass filled and preferably fucked. It started with requirement of my ass being plugged, and slowly bigger plug was required and now it has to be a dildo or him. The other day, he was eating me while fucking me with a dildo, and left me hovering on edge time and time again. The dildo tipped me over so I had successfully came anally for the first time.

Now, we have started to discuss about next steps. He'll require me to be anally stuffed during blowjobs as well. Until now, i've gotten to have some clitoral stimulation here and there, but now it is required to be at least plugged to have that as well. We have gone from him eating me out and stimulating my nipples freely to me being a slut that craves choking on his cock and being anally filled. I have been conditioned to genuinely want and need oral stimulation.

At the beginning I wasn't tied even though i of course had my kinks and so did he. I was free and cumming as much as I wanted to. Now I can't even imagine cumming using my own hands, having my ass empty and not linking nipple stimulation to the ecstatic feeling of choking on him. I rarely cum if I haven't made him cum first. And I'd dare to say I'm now more free than I was then. I wouldn't go back even if I could.

I want to continue conditioning me by voicing my most degrading fantasies to him and seeing how he will take advantage of them. Every single one of these steps have been an idea of mine that he has made into a rule and made sure I enjoy every step on our journey. Maybe in the future I won't be allowed to cum if it's not only from anal. Maybe the amount of clitoral stimulation will start to decrease and be replaced by anal stimulation. Maybe one day it will require me to be able to deepthroat all of him to get the nipple stimulation I need. Maybe it will be required to give him 2 orgasms for every one orgasm I can have.

How would you further deepen the spiral?

My wife is really not into kink but I finally asked her if it’s something we could try and she said yes! Can’t wait to start this journey with her!

This is gonna sound insecure I guess. But I'm a trans guy who is androgynous and only two years into my transition. Because of this people think I look younger than I am. Not in a beneficial way either, more like I have a baby face and I'm short, so I think people tend to infantalize me.

I'm very new to BDSM, like I am still figuring out alot. But I know I'm not a big fan of Daddy/Mommy Doms. I feel like it comes with a softer, more affection domination. I lean more into objectification/dehumanization, heavy humiliation/degradation, and gender play, maybe pet pla​y too. I like Sir/Mistress or Owner more than Daddy.

The problem is, I keep attracting ageplay/Dom Daddy types! When tbh I know I don't want to be a little! But I also am not educated enough in kink to fully label what type of sub I am. It's kinda frustrating.

I guess this was a rant, but has anyone else had this problem? Also, please correct me if I got anything wrong here, I'm still new and learning 😅

Hi, I was wondering if anyone in here has had a Dom train their partner how to be a Dom. My partner is newer to kink and with me being a sub, I don’t really have the perspective to teach from.

If so, what was your experience and would you do it again?

My story’s typical I guess. I had some up in downs in life and found myself giving my body to men. Perhaps my stories a little better than some. I’ve met older guys that obviously used my body but afterwards it would seem like they actually cared for me? I mean maybe it was because they were much older than me and I’m still pretty young. But I would be self destructive and they would try to help me? I never understood it. Do men only help you because they can get sex from you?

I mean there is the trope that men/boys often have stronger relationships than women. Does the same sentiment apply there? Where they just help each other? Even when you are not perfect?

I don’t know, I’m feeling more and more depressed and I really just feel lost. I feel like I’m being used and can’t tell if anything is genuine or just in effort to get something.

I just wish I had friends.

I am seeking to feel small, delicate, innocent, protected lead, etc

Some activities that come to mind would be: nostalgic cartoons and games, wearing pink and lacy items, doing my hair, nostalgic toys, eating lightly and not too much, making friendship bracelets, coloring, sitting on the floor, etc

However, I do not associate this with being any age other than the age I am now.

Does something like this exist? How do I access this space and feeling? Does it take practice?

I'm locked into 'business mode,' and its not so easy to get into this space

Hi all! I've recently been exploring my subby side through rope bottoming, and it's been incredible. Yesterday was the first time I did an extended rope session and the rope top is a good friend who took incredible care of me.

I'm back at work today and I work in a stressful management-oriented career. I knew I'd probably experience some form of drop, but I'm finding it challenging to balance giving space to the sad, soft feelings and meeting the workday demands. My friend has been checking in on me, but I was wondering if anyone has advice on how to make a smoother transition after scenes?

I’ve been exploring submission for 7 months now, and I believe that sub frenzy is past me (for now). I haven’t had a chance to enter any dynamic, and I honestly would be more interested in just knowing some open minded people in real life who are into D/s. Not to date or play with, but just to spend time with and chat about kink. I never had something like that, and it’s been hard.