Hi everyone! Iām (20nb) looking for some advice from experienced Rottweiler owners, particularly about boundaries and whether itās okay to let a Rottweiler on the sofa or in your bed.
Kali is my parentsā Rottweiler, and sheās currently 16 months old. Sheās a lovely, affectionate girl, and I get on well with her. She listens to me on walks and responds to commands, although I recognise that these are commands sheās already been trained to follow by my parents. Iām not her primary owner, so Iām not responsible for her overall training, but I spend a lot of time with her and want to make sure Iām interacting with her appropriately.
Iāve always let her cuddle with me on the sofa, and Iāve occasionally wondered whether Iām being too permissive with her. My stepdad believes that letting her on the sofa all the time can make her āforget her placeā. Iāve heard conflicting opinions about dominance theory in dogs, so Iād appreciate some clarification on whether furniture privileges actually affect a dogās respect for its owner. Iām also wondering whether itās okay to let her on my bed sometimes.
Something happened recently thatās made me think more carefully about boundaries. Kali sometimes gets quite excited when we play together. We have a game where I pretend to grab her muzzle and she playfully mouths or bites my hand. I realise this might not be the best game to encourage, especially with a large, powerful breed, so Iām reconsidering it.
Earlier, I was simply rubbing her belly while she was lying on her back. She seemed comfortable and was nudging my hand and using her paws to pull it back towards her when I stopped petting her. She was making her usual rumbling noises, which Iāve generally interpreted as playful.
Suddenly, she gave a much louder growl and turned towards my arm. I donāt think she actually made contact with her teeth, but it happened quickly. I firmly told her to stop, and she did. My mum then told her to get down from the sofa.
I wasnāt frightened during the incident because I genuinely couldnāt tell whether she was trying to initiate rough play or whether something else was going on. However, it was unexpected, particularly because she had seemed relaxed immediately beforehand. I donāt want to assume it was aggression, but I also donāt want to dismiss something important.
I know sheās still young and may sometimes struggle with excitement and impulse control. Iām wondering whether I need to establish clearer boundaries around play, affection and furniture, and whether there are things I should avoid doing.
Iād really appreciate advice on the following:
Is it perfectly fine to let a Rottweiler on the sofa and occasionally in your bed, or is it better to have stricter furniture rules?
Does allowing furniture access have anything to do with dominance, or is that outdated thinking?
How do you establish boundaries with a Rottweiler without relying on intimidation or being overly harsh?
Is rough hand-play something I should stop altogether?
What might explain a sudden loud growl and lunge during belly rubs when she initially seemed comfortable?
How can I tell the difference between playful growling and signs that a dog is becoming uncomfortable or overstimulated?
Iām very fond of Kali and want to have a good relationship with her while making sure our interactions are safe and respectful. Iām not looking to portray her as an aggressive dog at all, I hate that stereotype with rotties! Iām just trying to learn and understand her behaviour better.
Thanks in advance for any advice!