Hey hey! I (30F) am in a 4-year long relationship with my NB partner. I’m looking to so spice up our dirty talk, but I’m always trying to be conscious to avoid causing dysmorphia for my partner in the heat of the moment.

I want to use teasing words that are analogous to words like “pillow princess.” I, also, wanna help them feel sexy in their body without directly addressing genitalia. So if you have some great compliments about arms, stomachs, hands, thighs, etc. I’d really appreciate it.

does anyone in london wanna come with me to the heaven club?😭😭 I would like to meet some ppl there.. I've been there before but going there alone seems so scary and intimidating. pls dm me if you're interested

i’m just curious. after how many dates or how much time together do you decide that you’re in a relationship or start calling each other your girlfriend? i went on a date yesterday and i’m kinda ready to cuff LMAO

Hi, I’m back again 🤓 really love that I found this group, I love filling yall in like a weekly newsletter!

Now this is more of a topic and story time in one because I like conversation and want to hear thoughts. Before I dive into the story time, I saw a post recently on twitter about this lesbian being so annoyed with lesbians because she wants to hookup and fuck, but feels like it’s against the “lesbian way” and other lesbians will look at her funny or are off-put by her because she wants to just fuck and horny like any other normal human being. I’m not lesbian, so I’m not going to speak too much on that. Anyways, she decided to be bold and ask lesbians if they’d like to hook up on twitter to dm her. She got dms from girls seeming like they want to fuck, but then they act completely oblivious like she never made her intentions clear. Making her out to be some type of predator or whatever. Really weird.

And as a bi, recently turned bi sapphic and a baby sapphic at that I’m really conscious about that too. As you all know I went on my first date recently and it went horribly (if you didn’t see that post, look in my posts to read it, it’s very entertaining). And while I am very determined to date and love women, I am in HEAT. Like alllllll the time. I went abstinent after my last sexcapade in 2022 and this year it’s hitting me super hard. Like I def can’t go another year. I refuse to! I’m like that meme of Samantha from SATC “Dammit, I just really want to be fucked. Just really fucked” 😭 Also, I’m a freelancer right now so income isn’t stable, so to be full on intentional and committed wouldn’t make sense unless I was dating a natural provider who likes taking on that role. Cus I can be a hopeless romantic no matter how much money is in the bank, that’s just me to my core! Anywho, I decided to come out when I’m at my HORNIEST and because I’m so new I just don’t want to come off like I’m just trying to “experiment” or I’m just trying to fuck on women either. Maybe I just feel that way because I’m bisexual. Like if I was lesbian, I don’t think I’d feel that way. Because people are always policing bi women and so I kind of catch myself trying to be a “cookie cutter bisexual” now that I’m on my sapphic journey. It’s so stupid, pick me, and cringe I know pls don’t tell me lol. I’m controlling it okay. But it’s so funny cus I’ve been holding out having sex with men and wanting the man to be a certain way just for me to be completely uninterested from men altogether. Now if a woman I liked wanted to have sex on the first date I’d be OVERLY going. I’d be so scared when I eventually do have sex again just because it’s been so long and with a girl, but I’ll get over it 😆 Anywho I’m rambling now 😴

~ Okay on to the story time portion that’s related to this topic. Feel free to skip this if you’d like or be nosy if you must 😌 ~

So while I was talking to that one girl I went on a date with, I also had three other girls on my line who weren’t looking for anything serious. The girl I went on a date with knew I was talking to other women, we were very open with each other and she didn’t care. Two of them were just looking for a makeout buddy and the other one wanted a casual fuck buddy. The two kiss buddies made plans to meet me, but then randomly ghosted me. However, the third one was the one I was (this is past tense for a reason, I’ll get to that in a bit) interested in the most though, mainly because she considered herself a dom femme. I do prefer someone masculine or in the middle, but a dom femme would be within that mount rushmore for me. I just couldn’t do another sub like me. I’m into dominance and assertiveness, and tbh she was not like that at all in conversation. Very passive if anything. I felt more assertive than her actually. Like those first couple days we talked about our kinks and stuff then after that we moved into regular conversation. Which is fine, but it’s like why are we not flirting and bantering more? So I brought that up to her and she said she didn’t wanna come off disrespectful or weird. Which I get, like someone being overly lustful can be a turn-off, but a little here and there doesn’t hurt. Especially like I said we established this would be casual. So, I’m like girl please don’t be scared to be sexual towards me. It’s what I’d prefer actually, just so I also know you actually still want to have sex with me lol. But ngl, I don’t think flirting is her forte 😆 she attempted and it wasn’t giving. I’m no pimp daddy flirty either, but I think could make someone laugh their panties off. I’m good at banter, I thrive at it actually. And idk the flirting just didn’t do anything for me okay sue me!

Also, we haven’t met each other. Idk how fast sapphics usually move online, but personally if I’m not seeing you within the week, I’m kinda over it 🤷🏾‍♀️* unless I re*ally enjoy you I’ll give you two weeks TOPS. She mentioned wanting to see resident evil and I’m like I saw it, but don’t mind seeing it again with you so lmk and we can go and then she was like cool. Second week comes and she goes missing, but she said her phone was tweaking and a new one was on the way later that week, so I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt and she does texts me later that week when her phone comes. So, I’m like okay maybe we can finally make something shake in person. I decided to get bold and sent her a very spicy tweet of what I’d want her to do to me and she’s like I want to do that with you so badly but I’m so busy working. Mind you, it’s not like she works everyday. She has a regular 9-5 and has the weekends off. And I hate looking thirsty, I mentioned lmk about the movies twice within that week and she’s like ofc, i don’t intend for us to be penpals. But now it’s two weeks, technically one and a half because of her phone issues. And im not going to try to invite myself out with her again cus that would just look overly thirsty in my opinion. But I did say it would be nice if she made some time to eventually see me because of all the catfishes on these apps. She’s like nah that’s crazy you think I’d be a catfish… is it? Cus tell me why I asked her for pics, not even anything nude. Just to see more pics of her. She only had 3 pics of her on the app and I had several. However, if she sent a photo of her boobs I wouldn’t be mad either lmao! Anyways, she circles it back to me and asks me for pics, but I’m like unh unh I asked first. I also brought up kinks again within that same convo and she completely deflects from pics and we start talking about kinks. I turn the conversation back to pics again after a couple hours and she’s like don’t worry I will after “my meeting”. So, then I respond back asking if she could send bicep pics since she’s always at the gym and would love to see the progress of all this weight lifting she’s supposedly doing. That girl never got back to me 💀 so now I’m convinced she’s a catfish. Mind you she sent me voice notes, but that doesn’t mean anything. Like yes you’re a girl, but are you THE girl in the pics? We will never know and now I’m back to ground zero. I’m going to my first sapphic event for Halloween. Which I’m excited about, like maybe I just need to be in person idk.

But that’s the end of my yap, if you read all this you’re the best! It’s a good thing they don’t have voicenotes on here cus this would be a podcast. Stay tuned for other adventures to come 🤸🏾

I’m Egyptian bi sapphic 28F. I was born in a Coptic Christian household but am now atheist. I can normally be found in a cafe in my free time either drawing or reading. I’m a huge nerd as well and am big into fandom culture. I’d be down to share fanart and discuss fanfiction! I also love horror and would be down to discuss horror movies and games. Speaking of games, I’m a gamer myself and if you’re interested, it would be nice to have someone to play with. Please DM me if you’re interested! 💜

If a coworker (who’s here on a temporary assignment) does stuff like
-says your name bc she “just likes to say your name”
-notices when you don’t say hi to her
-says she just wanted to see your face after finding out yall weren’t working on the same unit
-texted you her insta story because she wanted you to see her concert fit (although you never asked what she wore)
-repeatedly tries to get your insta
-and told you “you have my number” when her contract was about to end

would you assume she’s being nice or might be interested?

I’m masc presenting. I don’t think I display as the typical feminine nurse at work.
I haven’t made any moves fr bc I don’t wanna make things awkward but also her assignment is about to end so I should just risk it lol

I noticed this pattern where I feel like I can't connect with other women. Like there's this weird energy and I noticed women don't go out of their way to befriend me. Not that's it's they're responsibility or that I'm entitled to it, but women don't seem to get comfortable with me or they're very gaurded or dominating me. I feel like I can't have a stable, lively, and healthy interaction with another woman. I don't know if it's me or if I'm just unlikeable. I'm not see as queer/lesbian by others either.

I’m a 23-year-old bisexual woman who recently met a girl at a tailgate. We talked for around 20–30 minutes, and the conversation felt really natural. She complimented my charisma, seemed genuinely interested in getting to know me, and even wanted to keep talking when her friends were ready to leave, saying something like, “But we’re bonding!”
I felt like we had a lot in common and that she understood me well. I initiated exchanging numbers, she initiated exchanging Instagram, and she eventually texted me first. We later met for coffee.
During coffee, she told me she was dating a guy she’d previously rejected twice. I was heartbroken because I’d developed feelings for her, and I ended up crying in front of her. She acknowledged my feelings and responded with understanding. I appreciated how emotionally mature she was about the situation.
Afterward, I sent her a respectful thank-you text, explaining that I’d try to be understanding. It’s been several hours, and she hasn’t responded, even though she used to reply quickly when we first started talking. She’s still following me on Instagram.
I’m disappointed because I genuinely liked her and felt that we connected well. I respect that she’s dating someone, and I’m not expecting anything romantic from her. I just feel vulnerable after being honest about my feelings, and I’m unsure how to navigate things from here.
For those who’ve experienced something similar, how did you handle the uncertainty after revealing feelings for someone who was unavailable?

I am newly single. I was on the receiving end of a breakup recently, which was a first for me. This is a level of pain & suffering I have never experienced.

In the past when things fell through with a partner, I would take to the apps and find a new muse to ease the pain of the dissolution of the old connection within a few weeks.

While casual dating and sex was always fun, I don’t want to do that this time around. I want to take my time to heal and repair before stepping back on the dating sex or pursuing any form of romantic/sexual connection. Furthermore, I hope to find a wife in the future, which will require me to be more discerning & intentional with my connections

I am currently receiving weekly therapy. I have no intentions on downloading any dating apps. However, I know there will come a time where I desire intimate & physical connection with a woman.

So my question is to my fellow single allosexuals, how do you practice sexual discipline?

As a BIPOC queer, this project is close to my heart so I can show mini me from a decade ago that it does get better and more loving.

Helloo again, anyone know of any good Halloween clubbing events happening? With a mostly afrobeats music policy please and thanks!

Event doesn’t have to be queer, I appreciate all suggestions thanks!

Hello~ I’m curious to know if anyone here is in a labor blue collar union? Would love to talk about our shared experiences as women of color, as it can differ greatly from white women (white women are the only other non-men in my environment at the moment).

Hey everyone!

So ​I’ve been feeling super isolated about this lately and wanted to see if anyone else relates. I realized I literally don’t have a single queer woman friend in my life and it’s honestly starting to feel really lonely. It just gets exhausting trying to navigate things on your own when you don't have people around who genuinely get it.

​I’m bisexual myself, and I’d love to meet some new queer women to just... chat with, talk about life, share interests (I’m into tech, reading, binge-watching shows, and way too many random stuff) and build a real low-pressure friendship.

​If you're also looking for a cool internet friend to swap memes with vent to or just talk about random stuff feel free to drop a comment or slide into my DMs!!

I’ve made a few posts on here already and if you’ve been keeping up with it, you kinda got a gist of my sapphic journey so far. Well, I finally went on a date with a girl this Saturday. We talked the same week and she asked me out that same week, which I love. I’m not a person who likes to wait weeks to see someone. If I’m talking to you on Monday, I should be seeing you by Saturday/Sunday imo. We had amazing banter, I mean AMAZING banter. Like giggling and screaming at my phone every night until the date happens. So, clearly I’m very excited.

Day of date happens and she hits me up early in the morning to let me know she was unbelievably nervous bc this is her first time having a full-time job in a while (she started her job same week we talked) and didn’t wanna feel like a bum and lets me know she cant take me anywhere too expensive. I told her that’s totally fine, I don’t really expect first dates to be expensive anyways and who doesn’t love a cute hole in the wall. Anyways after that conversation she seemed much better and says she wants to take to a Thai spot then pier after. Cool.

Nighttime comes, she’s supposed to pick me up around 730. It’s 6:35 and she says she spilled juice on her pants and has to buy new ones (all her shit is storage), but should be there no later than 7:45. I said great. 7:30 comes and she screenshots the traffic that’s on the road so now she’s not gonna be where I’m at until 8:12. I’m like that’s fine, simply because I kept changing my top at this point 😆 literally changed my top like 20 times cus I was also very anxious this my first time going out with a girl.

8:12 comes and we finally meet. I get in the car that has a hint of weed smell(which I’ll bring up again soon) and there’s roses sitting on the dashboard. I bought her bottle of inexpensive wine to celebrate her new job. We exchange gifts awkwardly, but I didn’t think much of it cus it’s common for first intro to a person to be awkward. Anyways, I get a good look at her and I’m noticing already that she doesn’t look like the girl in the photos. She’s not necessarily bad looking, but she isn’t the girl I was attracted to in the photos. So, maybe her job situation was more severe than I thought bc she was also in a crewneck and sweatpants. Mind you, we aren’t going anywhere fancy, but sweatpants is crazy 😭 I had on a simple top, jean, and boot. Nothing special. But I guess sweatpants is all she could find at that hour, okay.

On our ride to the restaurant she asks me how my day was and I said I was anxious most of the day and she mentions how she was nervous too and smoked like 4 blunts before seeing me. Now, I’m no smoker and I don’t have a problem dating someone that smokes, but I had no idea she was putting down 4+ blunts in a day. Mind you, before I got in the car and we were texting she asks me if she could smoke while we are at the pier and I was like it’s fine as long as it’s outside and you don’t hotbox me in the car. Didn’t know that would then be her 5th blunt 😭 like omg this girl is a chimney. Now, she could’ve just smoked 4 because she was extremely nervous I’m not sure, but I did know she smokes just not to that extent. That’s not even the worse part though, she’s an open book and loves to yap like me. Not sure how we got this topic, but she mentions on “future dates” she can’t take me over any tolls bc she’s afraid the cameras are going to catch her. And I’m like what do you mean? She’s already regretting opening her mouth at this point, but she tells me anyway. In short, she has fines on her car and missed her court dates multiple times to pay it off so she’s afraid to be anywhere with flock cameras and such. By this time I’m already completely turned off from her, which is so crazy how you could be kiki’ing and blushing with someone one second and it be a whole 180.

Anyways, we get to the restaurant and it’s packed to the brim and people outside are lashing out because they have reservations and haven’t been seating with their reservations. I suggest a ramen spot nearby bc I am not waiting for god who knows how long to get seated. So, we dip and head to the next spot. You’re probably thinking at this point, why not just tell her you want to cut the date short? You’re right, but I didn’t think about that. I wanted to still see this through for some reason 😭 anyways, we get back to her car which is lit up by light now, so I can get a real good look at it. There’s bird poop all over the front of her car and there’s a sauce cup and what looks like weed shavings on the floor. A mess.

We get to the next spot 10 minutes later and she parks in a no parking spot and says fuck it. Which was ironic to me considering how she’s “on the run”, but just willingly put herself in that predicament if something did happen. We get in the restaurant and I can tell she’s slowly getting high asf. I’m assuming she took something right before she got to me. But I can just tell in her mannerisms, they were just slightly different than before. Laughing at random things and the way she was reading off the menu, my girl was high. Also, noticing as she’s reading off the menu her nails are BLACK. Literally just one things after another with this girl. She then mentions to me I’m quieter than usual and it’s because I’m uncomfortable. Didn’t really know what to do in a situation like that and I tell her yeah I just feel kind of awkward. She’s like yeah I’m just super awkward and nervous too, I’ll just get the check. So, she gets the check and when it’s time to go she almost trips on herself getting up from the seat. She’s so embarrassed she walks ahead of me and I try to walk fast behind her, but she’s like damn near a whole foot taller than me so I could only do so much lol.

We relax a little bit so she can get her bearings, but she’s a functional high so we ended up leaving a few minutes later and I asked if I’m going home now and she says no we still have to go to the pier. And I’m just like begging for this night to end at this point. But we didn’t stay at that pier for long because I wanted to go home and she was like fine. So, after like maybe 10 minutes at the pier she drives me home. This time she gets out her car to say goodbye and I give her a side church hug goodbye. I wake up today with no texts from her, which I just took that as a sign she knew she fucked up. I didn’t even bother texting her, but I feel kind of bad not saying anything at all. At least to let her know where things went wrong for me, but I just blocked her instead. Which makes me so sad cus that virtual connection was so good, it just really sucks it had to be like that in person.

And then I had a dream that I see her two years later at a bar and she’s looking like the girl in the pictures with her ducks in a row and comes up to me begging to redeem herself so badly from that first night. And I let her 😆 anyways, if you read any or all of this you’re a hoot!

PS: yes my first date was bad, but it’s not deterring me from dating women. My first date with a man wasn’t even good. Things just happen, I’m still out on the prowl 🤸🏾

I hung out with someone a while ago, and afterwards, they basically ghosted me. They stopped replying to my messages, so I assumed they weren’t interested and left it at that.

But since then, they’ve regularly liked my Instagram stories, and sometimes they’ll even reply to a story, ask me a question, or start a conversation. I’ll respond, but then they’ll just leave me on read or not reply at all.

I’m honestly confused by this. If they don’t want to talk to me, why keep initiating these little interactions? I wouldn’t think too much of a few likes, but the fact that they sometimes actively reach out and ask me things, only to disappear again, feels contradictory.

I’ve experienced similar situations in past relationships, too, so I think that’s partly why this is bothering me. It feels like a pattern I’ve encountered before, and I’m struggling to understand what to make of it.

istg people are so fake. I hung out with someone & she was saying how she's excited to hang out with me again and she even offered to buy me a blender & teach me how to cook our cultural dishes. she blocked me the next day?? I honestly realised a week after.

what is actually wrong with people?? if u dont like someone why are you acting fake to their face i honestly hate people like you. btw she was 1h late and during that hour I went to another city just to go to miniso & made it back in time when she arrived.

it's not just that but this hatred is spilling into my dating life. because I was bullied my whole life (grew up african in germany) I had noone in highschool and if I did they'd make fun of my race till this day even tho I'm 20 this will never end I'm honestly considering suicide bc why am I still experiencing racism & discrimination.

I never get picked & I'm always replaced same thing in friendships. this is why I hate having crushes and even the idea of it disgusts me

I've never had a best friend and I don't think I ever will because in this city called London everyone is so cliquey with eachother.

I'm honestly just going to isolate myself

27F here with zero friends that are queer women. Ts is unacceptable lmao

Im a soft masc and looking for a female friend who is looking to go to queer spaces together (amongst other places). Be each others wingwoman if needed 🤣, hopefully grow a genuine friendship, and just have fun fr.

I like anime, all types of music, clubbing, bowling, karaoke, arcades, gaming, walks, going to the movies etc

I smoke 🍃 and drink occasionally/socially

Preferably in Manhattan, BK, or BX

I have an on/off, push/pull crush on this former account manager my company uses. When I started last year she would come in one day a week. I only talked to her once. She's now a manager and comes in every few weeks or longer, but really there's no need for her to come in.

I found her attractive but assumed she's straight. When she said a general goodbye to us on her last day last year, she got angry because I didn't say bye. I don't know why but sometimes I feel awkward saying bye to people from my desk and I'm self-conscious about my side profiles so sometimes I don't turn to look at people to say bye. I also didn't realised it was her last day.

At the start of this year she came in and she looked at me and smiled as she walked by. I was surprised. Then later on I walked by her and she looked up at me and smiled, obviously wanting me to talk to her but I was confused and also spaced out and I came across as snobbing her. I saw that she was dejected afterwards and I felt bad. She came in about two months later and she talked to the team leader and she said "she's ugly" when she walked by my desk, thinking I couldn't hear because I was on a call. She was obviously still hurt and pissed off, but when I walked by her she looked at me. But since then I told two colleagues about what happened and I asked another about her. Later on they made it obvious that I like her by saying "there's X, go say hi to her" and "she's going so go say bye to her".

She came in a few weeks after and was social. She came by my desk area and talked to my colleagues. I said hi to her when I walked by and she was surprised and didn't acknowledged me. When I walked by her again to get back to my desk she looked awkward and anxious. But anyway since then whenever she comes by she doesn't acknowledge me and tends to look annoyed, but also looks my way. Except a few months ago I got up from my desk and saw her standing near the front door with the account manager now and I said her name out of surprised. I saw her smiling to herself.

Would it be creepy if I requested to follow her on insta? I did the other day but removed the request half an hour later.

Hi.
Dealing with parental relationships and a notice of SA. please be cautious reading further…

Have any of you cut off a parent before. A small bit of background but SA was involved by someone I thought I could trust. I am safe but alone. I can’t eat and other normal things. I dropped the ball on school, promotions and anything else. I deal with flashbacks until I can get therapy and meds. I don’t leave the room until I’m absolutely required to or there’s a goal.

Well a few days ago I met with friends. Just to get out and I was so stressed and scared to return to base. I stayed out and had a few drinks and vented it all to the bar workers who care and noticed my disappearances getting longer and longer. I actually felt good and spoke to my mother but cut off due to the use of alcohol consumption. She said we can talk later. The talk came over text message and it was grotesque.

Key points on why I refuse to submit to men (I don’t like them I tried), my hatred for men (I advocated for men and supported them) how I hated my brother (he’s treated better and in a more stable home than I was) how it’s all a sin and I could be bi (why do you want me to be bi so bad) and how to fix my alcoholism (alcoholism runs in the family. I have had strife in the past with alcohol years ago but not currently. I have a few drinks with food on the weekend and I go home. Due to my previous school participation it’s been far less. I don’t have cravings. I avoid it when stressed and I always get home. But due to my trust of the wrong individual that’s how the SA occurred) and I lost it on her took my screenshots of the conversation. Told my gf I’m not going around or taking her around there anymore. I told some people who knew her not many at all that you can continue a relationship but it won’t have me in it. She was also the one who crossed the boundary telling my gf trust your gut about me and I snapped on the gf because of the convo. Saying wth do yall want from me. Meanwhile just finished a kit in the hospital. But after that message from her I said no more. I said my long piece and sent it off. Details of the incident. Muted all contacts of her and I’m borderline about to block her from my socials. It’s been 2 weeks since that one incident that changed my life and I’m at the stage where I am so angry at everything right now. I don’t feel bad for her or whatever because it’s always “I’m mother and you’re child” I’ve come to that conclusion that no matter what I do she will never believe I love and look up to her. I expressed this and it was called a plague. I’m super done right now because she doesn’t understand me. I started clearing veteran contacts and anything connected to her. I confided in some really close friends and said I’m ready to disappear because I don’t have shit left to offer. Deep down though I feel like she wanted this SA and I accept it as cheating to happen so I could have a coming to God and accept men like she’s wanted me to for years. 10-12 years of her bs and when this catastrophe happened I had never been so clear in my life and a decision.

I put NSFW because it’s deep and I don’t want to trigger anyone. I watch this forum a lot and I’m now reaching that point of speak up. I’m not okay. If anyone has cut a parent off… does it get better… I keep as much identifiable information as small and low as possible and I don’t want to be traced.

Sorry

I am considering putting down an ultimatum for a close friendship of mine related to anti-Blackness and racism. She was not the one doing the acts, but she let these happen to me.

I have been friends with Kelly for about 3 years, and we are very close. The last couple of months of our friendship have been a bit rocky due to stuff with my mental health and also her personal life. We're more steady now, but we're both very busy, so we don't see each other or talk as much as normally, but when we can we still do have a good time.

We're supposed to be planning a post-graduate trip to go to Chicago in January, since we both graduate in December, but the more I think about it, the less inclined I feel to do it, because of what has happened.

Her friend (a white man who is about six years older than me) made anti-Black comments towards me that I won't go into too much detail but he compared me to a monkey on two different occasions, and when called out on it on the 2nd occasion, he proceeded to lash out at the person who called him out for it.

This happened over a month ago, and I only finally just told Kelly that I don't feel comfortable being around him last week. I felt nervous doing so, but I explained the situation. She was silent for most of it, and the most she could offer was "yeah he should know better." And then when I sort of brought it up again if it would be a problem she was like "...it shouldn't be."

But I just think that's such a weird reaction, because this was extremely painful for me to experience and describe, and it felt like she was being dismissive of me. I just feel weird. Even if she keeps him away from me, why be friends with someone like that? If someone had said racist shit to any of my friends, they'd be gone yesterday.

I finally brought it up to our mutual friend Alex on the phone, who move in with Kelly's friend a month ago, and he was like that's really fucked up and I'm also gonna keep a distance from Kelly's friend. Alex was much more understanding the situation and reaffirmed my doubts. It was what I had expected from Kelly that I didn't get from her.

But I'm just thinking that I can't be friends with someone who is OK having anti-Black people around them and keeping that as close friends. Like super close. Like she has a toothbrush at his place close. Like she's lost so many friends over the fact that she's so close with this guy (for reasons unrelated to me).

After the harrowing upbringing that I had dealing with anti-Blackness, I don't wanna put myself through any more. And so I think I honestly have to put down the ultimatum: I can't be friends with someone who is OK being friends with someone who is anti-Black. Is this reasonable? Maybe it really just isn't a match up of crucial ideals.

Tell me how you're spending your day!

I was casually talking to a woman. We weren't official, nor did we go on a date, but we planned to November. We live 2 states away. She dumped me when I mentioned I have a crush on a colleague, but she was was talking to 2 other women in her state. She got angry at me for "rejecting" her, delighted that I wouldn't be my crush's type, and said I was wasting her time.

Am I wrong for being honest about my crush?