Today marks exactly 100 days since I last watched pornography. I’m incredibly proud of myself and just have to share it. I can confidently say that after these 100 days, I’ve noticed tangible benefits—and it’s definitely not just a placebo effect. First and foremost, my sex life has improved tremendously. I’ve never had such great sex, and so consistently, too. My erections are as strong as they were when I was a young guy. I started noticing improvements in this area after just a few weeks of abstaining from masturbation and porn, but hitting the 90-day mark was a real milestone. Now, my erections are rock-solid, and I’m able to have sex in various positions I’ve always wanted to try. On top of that, I’ve experienced greater peace of mind, better motivation for my workouts, and an overall improvement in my well-being.

I truly encourage anyone struggling with a porn addiction to take up the fight—the results are well worth it. I was hooked on this crap for a very long time, and I can see that my life has improved significantly.

porn addiction isn’t really talked about among women and so for the last 10 years i was able to gaslight myself into thinking i could stop anytime i wanted, i wasn’t creating any physical issues for myself like death grip for men, and that it wasn’t messing with my head.

i started watching porn when i was 11. i remember i immediately started watching pretty brutal/intense pornography. i was watching it before i even had proper sexual desires of my own, and before i even knew how to masturbate. i am 22 now and my sexual fantasies don’t even involve myself. i think of third person views of attractive women. that is absolutely insane. i’m fully a straight woman and i think about women’s bodies to get myself off.

it’s gotten especially bad recently. my boyfriend and i had been only been having sex like once a month. im not asexual, i was watching porn and getting myself off almost everyday but didn’t want to have sex with my boyfriend whom i am very attracted to. yet i still had the delusion that my porn usage wasn’t causing any issues.

2 weeks ago i was setting screen time limits because my phone usage was really bad and decided let me just try blocking porn sites too and see what happens. i feel the urge to watch porn way more and way stronger than the urge to get on tiktok or eat junk food. i get the urge multiple times a day and i still think oh it’s not a big deal if i just watch it one more time. but planning on sticking with it. i really want to fix my brain and my sexuality

I've been addicted since I was nine.

I have done and seen horrible things.

ive had impulsive thoughts for as long as I can remember, and since trying to abstain from content ive only been thinking bout them more. not only in a sexual context. i look at people i dont know and there is a voice in my head that says hurtful and horrible things to them, about them- sometimes i get faint visions of things occurring and i have to hit myself and shake my head or close my eyes to get rid of them. it never lasts for long.

i don't want to be this way. i am a monster and its all my fault.

I have seen almost everything that there is (never. ever. children.) including non-humans- oftentimes animated or anthro but I regretfully admit there was a handful of times where morbid curiosity got the best of me and I could not get myself out of a spiral. they were real, horrific videos. i to this day cannot believe they were real. a screen makes you feel so disconnected from reality happening on the other side of the glass that its easy to desensitize yourself.

I acted on the latter half once. I was twelve. Thankfully, no creatures were harmed in any way. i live in guilt and shame every day that i even decided to pursue something of that disgusting nature. i was so young. but- right is right and wrong is wrong. am i allowed to forgive myself?

today i told my mother and my girlfriend- everything except for the previous statement. i don't think i can admit that to anyone but a therapist.

i feel lost- disgusted, and most of all- suicidal. i thought that i could recover and deal with these thoughts on my own, but i cant, and i reached out for help which is good- but this will follow me everywhere. this is a drug, a high, and its an addiction that makes me want to leave this plane.

addiction runs on both sides of my family- i was into sh and drugs in my early teens- but stopping those was easy. i think i know why- i had this. i thought i could be better than my weak alcoholic uncles or nicotine addicted father but here i am.

my mother assured me everything would be alright, but my girlfriend cried. a lot.

we are still together, and she insists she wants to see me recover and get better because this isnt me, but what if it is?

she is the love of my life. we are young but from what i understand about romance and relationships- i want to marry her. she held my hand and stayed by my side the entire time i spoke- through whispers and sobs. she wants to go into animal care. it would be easier to feel better if someone stabbed me in the neck. though, i understand maybe im not allowed to or supposed to feel better. ive always had trouble fully comprehending positive emotions like love or admiration- union like friendship and its expectations- and if i am really myself. sometimes it feels like im pretending even though im being genuine- like im a shell of myself. unrelated- sorry.

my best friends' dad growing up was a pedo- i wasn't allowed to go over to their house anymore after he had things on his computer and my friend was upstairs with a neighbor. we were 9-10. maybe that is what started everything? maybe something happened? my dad is semi convinced he touched me but i don't remember a hint of anything. (im ftm)

i thought i understood how wrong it was. i have faint memories of being on my moms computer- googling your basic phrases.

it was a thrill- doing something you knew you weren't supposed to- and the physical satisfaction that came with it? in theory it was harmless. until it wasn't

I'm eighteen now.

it got bad, really really bad. like i said ive seen almost everything. i feel like i should be in jail, or in a ward or something- like I've been lying to everyone i know because i kept this dark corner hidden in hopes i could get the chore over with and forget it ever happened- but its literally bleeding into my day to day life. intrusive thoughts of almost every nature, all the time. i don't want them. i don't want to be like this. but its so easy to get it over with than try and struggle against the emotional and mental turmoil. but its not right.

my question to recoverees and those in the process is: how do you let yourself/make yourself feel like a good person again?

this all feels unforgiveable. my life feels over before it even began. god forbid i tried to take care of everything myself- id be struggling for years to come. i cant do this alone but i am so ashamed to admit half of anything.

this doesn't feel like who i am. this doesn't feel like me but it was my actions that led me here from so young. i know i can change but i don't know if i will ever feel right again. i pray often that this is ocd, or maybe i was traumatized- something to make the blow of reality easier- but here i sit at my computer, tipsy, trying to forget again.

i feel like i should be punished. do i punish myself?

advice?

i (21 M) have been dating a girl for a year and a half now, i have never loved someone like her and showed so throughout my actions with her during the whole year and a half.
we agreed upon a boundary which is porn is bad, and its considered cheating. i broke that boundary.
i told her about my porn consumption during our period as a couple ane it only kept shattering her, saying how much i ruined her, how much i just had to fuck it up, how much pain i’ll cause her, thay i took back everything good i did for her and that i threw her in a whirlpool of pain for the upcoming months.
i love her more rhan i love myself, i trued to explain that im dedicated to fixing it and moving forward and rebuild, she is just too hurt.
i wish i never discovered porn at such a early stage in my life.

i have been addicited to porn since i was 8 years old 10 years now i almost quit but i keep falling back into a hole ive jerked off in every way imaginable i feel disgusting i feel i need to get this off my chest ive been holding this here for years TW skip to next parenthesis if you donot want to weirded out by taboo thoughts (when i was 13 i was badly addicited i mean 2-3 times a day and one day i was home alone i was really horny jerking off around the house i found my moms vibrator and started using the vibrations on my penis and jerking off in her panties i cummed i stole them i used to take some of her worn panties to cum in and keep them and do all weird things to them in them i felt disgusted but i continued to do for months around untill i turned 14 i stoped with the pantie jerking off but i still used her vibrator for years i dont know whyi feel horrendous every time i do use i.) ive been sick for awhile ive jerked off in school with food items with a make shift pocket pussy inside stuffed animals using massage guns ive done almost every thing possible that you could think of im seriously been in a depression for years when whenever im sad i jerk off basically i lost my girlfriend a year ago because of my porn addiction i feel disgusting every time after i cum but it has ruined my life and i need to stop ive let my life slip away from me in this addicition it has killed me made me have no courage no real will to wake up everyday scared to talk to women i need help badly please give me any advice sorry for anything ive said

Day 7 since the last time I consumed porn.

I'm so scared of what comes next. I've hard longer streaks in the past during busy times, but this is the longest I've managed in a long time. I feel determined and committed to finally, durably overcome this addiction. But I'm also HELLA scared of how I'm going to get through the first 3-6 months.

Still, it feels good to celebrate this step, and I hope to celebrate many more milestones in my journey being free of porn.

So far, I've managed with just keeping all technology out of my room, hitting the gym, sleeping well, keeping busy with friends or hobbies in the evenings, but I expect it to feel way more challenging at times. I've talked so much about the negative effects of porn to my friends that I'm gonna feel so stupid and exposed asking one of them to help me with accountability, but I guess that and getting a pretty good browser and app blocker are the next steps in the journey.

Channeling strength for everyone in this journey!

My husband and I have been together 16 years, married 6. Sex has always been there but maybe not as it should have been. He always watched porn, phone riddled with reels of women, he would scroll them next to me, stare in public. I would say things, get upset but nothing changed. Weirdly looking back I’m very confused as to why I didn’t stand up for myself more. Eventually a couple years ago through guilt he toned it down some but nowhere near all.
Beginning of this year due to unusual phone activity he refrained from everything. He would give me his phone for days at a time and eventually yes we had been hacked.. was my own phone and children’s too so I know this was truth. So he stopped watching porn around end of may….. alone.
Him and I all of a sudden clicked over sex, 4 weeks of realising that 16 years we had missed out on such a great experience. Then one night he asked to add in porn.. no problem… then another.. ok…. Then the first real blow to my delusional mind was when he completely disconnected from me, I became an object and he watched porn till he finished. It was a shock and I burst into tears.
Sadly this continued, once a week… then twice, etc now we have no sex life at all… we are having sex daily but I’m only capable of his attention for a couple mins then he needs porn and can last an hr to a few of me laying there experiencing this. I have enabled this and take full responsibility for not saying no.
I switch off now but sometimes my hurt and disgust creeps in too much and I loose it. Last week I put on an outfit for his pleasure… he doesn’t flinch and the sane thing happened for several hours… once done I went to the shower and cut the clothing up as I was so hurt. Last night I told him before hand that he can only fuck me to that so go for it… we argued.. he reminds me that I don’t help the situation and I agree… but I also know he created this toxic circle we are in and it’s on him.
After an hr or 2 of arguing I give him the remote, lay down and say we’ll do what u wanna do I just don’t care… although reluctance showed, it’s an act. He put it on and away he went. I cannot believe this is my reality. He is not watching porn alone though, he tries saying that to me and I remind him he does every night. I just happen to be there.
I don’t know what I’m looking for here but some aligns with addiction from what I look at but some makes no sense. 16 years and this is where we land???

This is my first time posting here so idk im just gonna share my story. I feel like the addiction is genuinely starting to ruin my life. I’m trying to become a successful music producer and this year there’s finally some movement towards becoming professional. But instead of using this momentum I still only think of porn the moment I come out of the studio. It’s not that im missing deadlines or opportunities but most of my freetime is now spend on porn. I think like all of us I got introduced to porn at a young age and been addicted ever since but it seems to get only worse every year. One vid doesn’t do it for me anymore, I spent a lot of time to search for specific vids to satisfy my needs. I even started sexting with strangers which costs me even more time and is just as soulless as porn. I also didn’t have any sexual relations with girls the past 3 years until I finally took a girl home with me few weeks ago. It was nice to have sex again but the problem was that I was only able to cum when visualized my favorite porn vid. I thought that would be the turning point but nope, two weeks later and the addiction is as bad as ever. I managed a few times to stop for some weeks but I would always relapse. I just don’t know what to do anymore because I feel like it’s holding me back so much.

I am 21 years old and spend most of my time alone; I believe this is what led to my long-standing addiction to pornography،it started around the age of 13. At first, when I was first introduced to it, I found it very enjoyable, but now, watching it and masturbating has simply become a habit. I have tried to quit a few times, but I never managed to last more than a few days. I would really like to know how you managed to quitwhat method did you use?

Hello, im new to Reddit, so serious replys only.

I'm a male, and I have a serious porn addiction. I don't know how to quit and anything honestly helps. I can't exactly "talk to a professional" about this, due to personal reasons. My addiction started in 6th grade and it made me feel like I would never be loved by anyone. Now, im in HS, and I have a loving and supportive girlfriend. It's gotten so out of hand I can't even look and my freinds who are girls without thinking a dark, sexual thought. Please, im at my ends meet. I used to use self harm to keep myself in check, and that worked for a month but made me feel worse. Every time I jerk off, I feel sick and disgusted. I really need help, Thank you

TL;DR im addicted to porn, and I can't think of my freinds without thinking something sexual, anything helps

I’m 30 male and I can look at porn and not get hard at all what is wrong with me. Im trying to get off porn, I have been going to therapy and my therapist said I use porn as emotional connection because my my wasn’t there for me to give me that emotional connection. So I’m trying to stop it but I don’t even get hard. I have watch for 8 hours a days sometimes on off days and not get hard because I use it to feel
A emotional connection. I also just got divorced in June for because I pushed my wife away from this so I want to fix this but I can’t control it. I have been doing this since i was 12 I stopped for a short time when I was 20 but went right back after a couple of months off. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

I am a coward. To give some context, I am 25M. I was beaten by my mother who struggled with daily drinking and since I was a kid. I ended up finding porn early on and unknowingly used it as my fall back crutch for anything.

I found out that I had ADHD, BPD, and autism late in life, and I am finally sitting down and analyzing the causes and triggers that made me fall into getting addicted to porn.

I am very anxious due to CPTSD, and I have big feelings from BPD, so whenever I was frustrated about anything minor or major, I would turn to porn. If I was beat? Porn. If I was anxious? Porn. If I was frustrated at myself? Porn. I used porn so often to escape frustration that I would use it to get off multiple times a day.

I started using porn as an escape from feeling shitty and feeling stuck in my home environment while enduring abuse, but I kept going anytime I felt an urge to masturbate, or any of my triggers flared up. Eventually, not only did the porn categories get more extreme, I also developed extreme sex anxiety from consuming so much porn.

As I continued to use porn into my later schooling years, I became violently anxious about myself and my body as well. It felt safer to consume sexual content through a screen, and I ended up turning down or talking myself out of sexual opportunities.

My self esteem was low, and it would then trigger my porn addiction, and it was a never ending cycle.

I would also maintain regular exercise for months, then feel shitty about myself and relapse into porn again.

In my adult life, I had continued to use porn to the point that I had folders of hundreds of content creators and pornstars so that I could counter my PIED (Porn induced Erectile Dysfunction) from porn rotting my brain.

I got into my second (ever) relationship 3 years ago and I was a piece of shit. I had major anxiety for doing anything sexual with my partner, and I couldn't unless I was inebriated to qwell the anxiety.

ADHD + Porn addiction made it extremely hard to perform, and I was too much of a coward to admit anything to my partner.

I ended up falling back into porn after swearing it off in the beginning of our relationship, and started using it to glance at before getting intimate to counter my PIED. The anxiety and guilt only added to it affecting me more, and I ended up continuing this habit and collecting more content that would help faster.

My partner found out a couple nights ago while going through my phone, and I completely ruined their trust and their life. They've helped me through my worst mental episodes, and I betrayed them for three years straight looking at porn behind their back.

I was too much of a coward to tell them directly and fess up, and I was too weak to actually stop and face my addiction. I answered the questions they had for me while they were crying. They are currently staying with friends at the moment and I don't blame them if they leave me.

I've been reading the Porn addiction subreddit posts recently and seeing what everyone else is struggling to with, or what everyone overcame.

I really appreciate the bravery everyone has to talk about this, as I am deeply ashamed of myself for betraying someone's trust. I apologize to everyone if I rambled, or if this is disorganized.

I have been trying to find porn addiction therapy groups near me, or a therapist who can help me with this as well, and I would genuinely love any advice that anyone has so I don't continue on messing up and hurt other people and myself.

Quitting porn.

hello everyone, as you can guess from the title i am a porn addict like a lot of you here and i am right now in a very dark place and kind of hopeless because i am still an addict and i reached a chapter where if this keeps going i will lose everything, i have had this shackling addiction since i i was 13 years old, at first i didnt notice it affecting me because it was regular porn and the brain was young, my life started to degrade exactly in 2016 in my 2nd year of university, by then i escalated in fetishes a lot ( female domination ..etc ), this was the start of long years of suffering ... failing at studies, problems with parents ( this has damaged me a lot ). but despite staying 10 years in the bachelor degree ( miraculously didnt get kicked ) ... i managed to get the degree. then i met my future wife in my first year of masters and together with her i got the masters degree which made my parents very proud ( never seen my dad so proud tbh ). from the get go i was upfront with her that i have this problem that is destroying me, despite everything and all my flaws she loved me and accepted me, she is the best person for me and am very gratefull to have her. i am going to fast forward to the present day and the situation i am in, i moved to germany with the help of my parents to start a masters degree in physics, my wife is still in my homeland. right now i have in a crucial situation because i have a golden chance to fix my failure in my studies, make a path for my wife so we can live here in germany together and make my parents very proud .... the german system is very very very different from my country's system and is very study friendly and not stressfull as you can choose what you want to study and spend 3 to 4 years in master. but this addiction is stealing every ounce of concentration .. memory ..energy from me ... i have a lot of responsability on my shoulder .... and i am fapping to a screen ... this is a shame and i feel i can see my life destroyed in some years ... this is very scary and i am in a dark place ... i need some insight from you guys if you can ... i dont know what to do i am lost ... i wish someone could help me breakfree from this ( at first i was talking to my wife about my relapses but as understanding as she can be ...she loves me very much and sometimes the wrong timing will make her very sad ... she would be devastated to hear i relapsed , so now i am afraid to talk to her and she becomes sad ).

Today is my day 1 of quitting porn addiction. I am 22 now. I was addicted to porn since 14. I never took that bad habit seriously, i thought it was normal thing to do. But it has harmed me a lot and it turns out to be my on of the harmful addition. Which caused stress and damaged my mental health. So, now I want to quit porn addiction and lead a healthy life. I will try my best to quit this addiction. So, i want some advice from you guys.

Thanks.

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Lately life has been amazing and porn wasn't a big problem despite my addiction, but lately I've just been struggling...Maybe once or twice a week I get to tempted, open reddit and just scroll for a bit before telling myself how wrong it is...And I hate that, I hate myself for that so so much

I find myself wanting to share my abstinence from porn, but feeling uncomfortable doing so, particularly with men whom I know consume or have consumed porn. I have been sober from alcohol and tobacco for almost three years, and I find that much easier to bring up casually in conversation -- of course never from a holier-than-thou stance, just wanting to share my wins!

I (22M) had an addiction that affected my ex (21F) very badly. For years before I got with her I would watch them provocative tik tok lives as a single man not thinking anything of it. I’d be searching for a chance of seeing something, maybe because I have an underlying issue where I would get off to seeing that stuff considering it isn’t allowed on there.

When I got with her I stopped all of that, this was 2 years ago the first ever relationship I’ve ever had, but a few months ago I got back into that habit. Looking at half/fully nude women on ig and tik tok. At the time I didn’t think anything of it but looking back I hate myself for doing it. For reference my ex was a very sexual person, I could have gotten sex whenever but instead I resorted to that.

When she found out that I had lied and kept it to myself behind her back she gave me an ultimatum, either seek professional help before I start uni or we’re done. I’m an idiot because I thought we were good again so I was putting it off. I regret everything I did because now it’s too late. She left me last week and this time has made me think back. I completely mistreated her I love her with everything I have, but I childishly thought we was ok.

Only now have I decided to change, only now have I realised what I had, only now when it’s too late. We have been in constant communication but she’s hurt. She said she’s given me so many chances to change but the fact it’s took until this hurts her. Idk what to do, I’ve looked at myself and I am in the process of changing however I fear that I’ve lost the one person that ever truly loved me.

I would like some advice on how to go from here, she’s the best thing that’s happened to me and I’m scared to lose her. We’re starting from fresh but I feel the damage is done and there’s no coming back. We met up yesterday for the first time in a week (the longest we had gone withought seeing eachother) and before I left the thing that stuck in my head was how she looked and the kiss she gave me.

I need unbiased advice I’m losing my mind

Been a while since I last journalled! Didnt mean to leave it this long, but I suppose Ive been keeping myself busy which is good.

I still somewhat struggle with bringing the 'addict' identity home outside of SAA meetings, which explains the journalling gap. With the meetings, there is fellowship, understanding, wisdom. Outside of these meetings though is feelings of shame and judgement that Im slowly attempting to overcome.

I'm still on my sobriety streak. While the temptation to view porn, as I had previously become accustomed to doing so frequently, is never too far away, Ive been challenging myself to channel in on my partners pain this behaviour causes. It feels horrendous.

The impact of my addiction upon my parnter is visible and it makes me sick with guilt. Gone is the joyful, warm person by my side. Instead, there is mostly just frosty tension between us, and apprehension over our future. She is guarded. The trust is at an all time low. It weighs heavily on me, but this is all my fault. The extent of my porn addiction and fantasising was a complete shock. The discovery and subsequent confrontation/intervention must have been traumatic.

The highs that Porn brought are not worth these lows. Endless hours wasted on diminishing returns, and in exchange my 8 year relationship is teetering on the brink. It will likely never be the same. She tells me I was a partner she spoke about to her friends with pride. Used to. It hurts to see how much I have fallen.

But its not all doom and gloom. Through engaging with SAA and the acceptance of my addiction I am learning the skills to change destructive habits, and am building the foundations of a new life.

I am uncertain about the future, so Im just continuing to navigate it one day at a time. I intentionally keep these posts a bit gloomy so that my future self will remember the negative consequences of the addiction, and can refer to rhem whenever temptation resurfaces.

I am quitting watching porn .lets hope ill stick to it.

Since i was little i got exposed to porn and got addicted to gooning (specially sharing porn with other people) it was fun and all till i realized that im kinda addicted to it. I have a girlfriend who i love very much and im trying to change for her i really do. She also thinks porn is cheating (for me its more like a grey line but i respect her opinion) Its been 6months now since i gooned but sometimes a still think about the rush it gives etc. Will it always come back? Idk what im trying to achive with his post maybe i just wanted to write it out and get some opinions and motivation

Idk I have tried alot to suppress, but after a week or 2 it gets unbareable

I was introduced to X rated videos way too young, and quickly became addicted. Before getting married in my early 20’s just a couple months ago, I vowed to quit. I shouldn’t be looking at any other woman than my wife. Every now and then while scrolling a video with some cleavage shows up and my body instinctively thinks “Oh! Let me just really quickly go…” I’ve shaken off the thought every time, but I wonder. How long before I no longer have the urge every time I see a video?

I’ve been trying way harder to quit for myself and my girlfriend. Currently I’m on the longest intentional streak I’ve been on in ages and I can’t tell her because I know she won’t be able to handle it. She wants to support me and I try to let her but I can’t handle the guilt and the added pressure when I tell her anything about what I’m going through is making it a lot harder because she can’t hear about it without overthinking and getting upset and down whenever I talk to her. Her being upset isn’t the problem because I fully expect her to not be but my issue is that she’ll tell me that she’s okay with something and that it’s fine and she knows it’s hard and then a few hours or a day later she says she actually is upset and then it becomes a lengthy discussion. I just don’t think she can handle it and I don’t blame her for that but I don’t think that added pressure is making my recovery easier I think it’s hurting the process. I don’t know what to do.

Does porn addiction make you more irritable and less content? How does it affect your mood and are hobbies less enjoyable?