Let’s get something perfectly straight because apparently, the difference between a disability accommodation and personal preference has been completely lost on people.
An accommodation means modifying a situation so a person with a disability has equal access. It is about safety, necessity, and mutual respect. A preference is demanding someone else bend over backward to cater to your specific mood, laziness, or power trip.
I am a rideshare driver, not your personal butler.
I pulled up to a chaotic Walmart parking lot today for a rideshare request. I parked literally 5 feet from the Walmart entrance in a safe, designated spot. A passenger is standing 5 feet away from my parked SUV with a cane. Fine. Nothing I've not dealt with before.
Instead of walking the length of a single bicycle to get to my SUV, she decides to yell across the pavement, demanding that I navigate the crowded Walmart parking lot during a busy afternoon with lots of foot traffic and car traffic, to pull up directly alongside her so she doesn't have to walk six steps.
I am an accommodating person. I immediately offered a reasonable accommodation: "I will happily get out and load all of your groceries for you so you don't have to lift a finger."
Her response? Absolute refusal. She didn't want assistance; she wanted compliance. She wanted me to risk a fender bender in a Walmart parking lot because she preferred not to walk 5 feet.
When you use a cane, walking a short distance can be hard—I get it. But if someone offers to lift, carry, and load every single one of your heavy bags, and you still refuse to move 5 feet because you want the car to magically teleport to your exact coordinate, that is no longer a disability issue. That is an entitlement issue. All she had to do was add a quick message about her pick-up preference. That's her responsibility as a rideshare passenger. I'm not her butler, or her chauffer.
So yes, I told her to find a new ride and I canceled.
And don’t even get me started on Lyft support. I report a hostile passenger who is shouting demands across a parking lot, and their automated, script-reading support team just blinks and asks, "But did you cancel the ride?" Yes, I canceled! Because I value my safety and my sanity more than a $7 fare from someone who treats drivers like moving sidewalks.
Learn the difference between needing help and demanding servitude. If you want white-glove, door-to-door concierge service where the driver repositions the car for every step you take, call a private limo. Otherwise, walk the 5 feet.