If abortion becomes illegal in every single country it should also be illegal for men to run away from fatherhood unless there’s a good reason like the mother has full custody because the father was a pos. People argue that a fetus is a human being, but at the same time will forget that once the baby is born they are a living breathing person with thoughts, feelings and a conscience who will grow up to contribute to society. Not to mention how important it is for a child to have 2 parents, parents contribute to a child’s cognitive development and ultimately show a child how they should be treated, which is much harder for 1 parent to achieve on their own. A father shouldn’t run away from his responsibilities and being around his children might make him realise what he has

I keep seeing this sentiment in so much discourse: flock cams, your LG tv uploading your voice recordings, intrusive apps being forced on your phone for school or work or whatever. There's an endless list.

They're okay with it. The way they see it, since a lot of companies have data on us already, what's a little more? I know that, so why wouldn't you want to protect the small amount of privacy you have left? The level of conditioned resignation it takes to form that opinion is genuinely mind boggling.

There’s a billion different privileges they could have access to.

-Pretty privilege
-Height privelage
-Weight privilege
-Age privilege
-Wealth privilege
-etc

This is all to say that reducing the value of people’s opinions because of their skin colour or sex is pretty stupid (some would call it racist/sexist).

Because ultimately you can be white, or a male and still be less privileged than someone else.

If your whole personality is hating men, and you constantly seek validation from other women, you might be gay and don't even realize it.

If you can't think of anything positive to say about men you are either picking shitty men or you're low-key gay. It's ok to be gay btw.

Everyone is attracted based on physical attraction. There are other aspects that can add to it but the core mechanism of attraction is physical attraction.

Sapiosexuals are liars. No sapiosexual would sleep with a really ugly person just because they happen to be intelligent. But even if they would, it would be because they have a thing for ugly people.

Physical attraction is attraction. It's innate, it's the basis of sexuality and romantic love. People who say they don't care about looks, or worse, say anyone who is attracted to others based on physical features is a problematic fetishist - people who say these type of things are manipulative liars playing language games to subjugate naive and well-meaning people.

there’s nothing WRONG with having kids, but too many people just have kids to have them bc it’s so. idk normalized? that’s not right, but i’m having trouble finding a good word for it. it is normal, but people can’t seem to wrap their heads around the weight of actually having a child, they’re just doing it bc it’s the thing to do when you’re a certain age i guess

like, if i told people i want to get a dog, they’d be like “ohh are you sure i mean a dog is so messy and so expensive”, but if i said me and my partner are considering children it’d be all “OMG yes you absolutely should as soon as possible kids are so fulfilling” when kids are 10000x more physical and emotional labor than any pet. yes a dog will mess on the floor and chew your things, BUT SO WILL A TODDLER. and you can’t even cuss out a toddler bc they actually know what you’re saying, as long as you aren’t yelling a dog doesn’t gaf that you’re calling it a big stupid dumbfuck idiot

i just look around and i see people i know in and from high school who are still teenagers or in their early 20s getting pregnant and having kids and i just. they have no idea what they’re getting into. i’m sure some of them are perfectly capable but they’re not going to get to the finish line without sooo much mental and physical strain, and so many sleepless nights and screaming arguments. they’re literally bringing life into the world for no other reason than that’s what they’ve been told you do when you’re an adult and so now we have all these kids with incompetent parents running around getting fucked up bc no one knows how to take care of them. like people seriously underestimate how easy it is to mess up a kid for life.

society at large either cannot or does not want to actually acknowledge how serious and heavy of a decision it is to have a child even though we all really need to. people need to stop having kids just because they can. it’s not something you can just decide to do because you feel like it. if you announce that you want to have a child, your community and support system should actively encourage you to reflect inward and deeply scrutinize that decision before you take on that burden instead of just allowing you to create and then subsequently ruin a life

having a kid means creating a human from scratch. that’s a big deal. that means nurturing their spirit and helping to shape their worldview and teaching them how to be functioning human beings that exist in a very confusing and scary world from ZERO. that’s fucking difficult man, and it’s not shameful if you aren’t equipped to handle it.

tldr: people need to better understand the level of physical and mental preparedness it takes to successfully raise a healthy and happy child.

edit: i thought this was abundantly clear, but people are trying to argue with things i never said, so just so we’re all on the same page: i never said it was “unnatural” or bad for humans to procreate???? but just having a kid and RAISING a kid to be a functional, not fucked up human are completely different beasts. anyone can pop out a kid, not everyone can nurture and teach and bring them up like they need to.

I'm fairly traditional. Not everyone will see things my way and that's fine. For myself I live by a pretty important set of rules regarding women.

Be gentle. Be respectful. Listen to what they say. Let what they say give me pause and think. Don't restructure my entire life around bending over backwards for them.

Yes, if it's within my power to not make a woman uncomfortable with a small gesture that doesn't inconvenience me too much? Why not be a good person and do it.

No, if the inconvenience is too high, I won't. My life does not revolve around making women (or men) comfortable.

Women should have a reasonable expectation of safety in our society. Not attacked, harassed, and the like. No, society does not owe them the absolute feeling of safety in public spaces.

Example. I'm walking down a road. It's evening. A woman is walking in front of me. Do I go to the other side of the street? Maybe I do. Maybe I don't. My life does not revolve around making this woman comfortable. I weigh my inconvenience against discomfort. Maybe I do sometimes if I have energy left at the end of the day to care. Maybe I don't if I don't. Will she go and talk about 'the creepy guy who stalked her'? Maybe. I will never see her again. What do I care.

I listen to women. In person and online. If there's small adjustments I can make, I make them. If there's demands for big adjustments, I consider and don't always make them. That's life.

Same for dating (for you unmarried dudes that are afraid to approach). Some women online say 'don't approach, she's trying to have a good time'. Some women say 'a respectful approach is fine'. I fall in the latter camp. Approach. If she gives a no, back the fuck off. If she goes home and tells a story about 'the creepy guy who approached' what do you care? You're not going to see her again. Any women who say 'don't approach' ignore. You're looking for a partner and your entire life does not revolve around making women the most comfortable they can possibly be. A respectful approach with a 'back the fuck off' on a rejection is acceptable.

Life is discomfort.

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the constant assumption men seem to have that women are dressing for THEIR attention or interest is so bonkers insane to me.

I attend pilates, which are classes of all women. almost every woman wears the exact same thing there as she would in any other gym, some even dress slightly lighter/in tighter clothes than typical because they feel MORE comfortable in a closed area with only women. if women were dressing for mens attention, why would they be wearing the exact same outfits to workout with other women?

On top of that, why would women go to womens only gyms if they were apparently dressing for an excuse to be stared at? please think with your head and not your duck for 2 seconds, thank you

I see this CONSTANTLY, much more often on women oriented subs, but it's the same on men's subs, especially red pill or whatever. But again, honest hot take, much more often on women's subs

"I'm sick of men just wanting to experience me"

"I'm sick of men not contributing to the relationship"

My dude, YOU decided to enter into a relationship with these men. Maybe it's time to take a long, hard look at your partner selection, or think about if you may be attracted to and pursuing men who are not actually good long term matches.

People are generally kind and nice to interact with! We all have a life story. We should love and empathize with everyone :D

And I recommend this to everyone, at least until elections.

My last post that had generated a lot of good discussions was taken down because my title just said I didn't like something, which I'm told is not a hot take. So I'm rephrasing it to be the controversial opinion that the mods said it needed to be to stay up.

It seems like any time communism is brought up someone says "that wasn't real communism" or "real communism hasn't been tried."

Real is what happens in the real world. There has never been a communist country that lived up to to the hypothesis put forward by Marx of what communism would become. But a hypothetical communist country is by definition not a real one. Real is what happens in the real world, after the test to prove or disprove the hypothesis. You don't get to look at the real outcome and say "it doesn't match my hypothesis therefore it's fake." And we've had a lot of "experiments" in the 20th century.

It would be like someone saying "well we've never seen a country where zero government regulation led to free markets self regulating away all anti consumer practices, therefore real capitalism has never been tried." (yes, this is me also saying that "reap capitalism hasn't been tried" folks are wrong as well, by pointing out the absurdity of claiming capitalism is only when there is economic anarchy)

I mean, heck there's literally a fallacy called "no true Scotsman" about this. And yet I'm regularly told that communism is the most scientific, rational system ever.

I get that on a long trip, going fast saves a lot of time. In town, it generally just means you wait at red lights longer because here they are timed.

Where I live, speed fines are doubled in school zones. The school zone is 1/10th of a mile long. Maybe a $350 ticket for going 15 over.

At 20 MPH (the speed limit) that is 18 seconds to cross.

At the absurd speed of 200 mph, it’s 1.8 seconds.

The odds are REALLY high you’ll have to stop or get stuck in traffic in that school zone.

No matter how fast you go, you can likely only shave 16 seconds. How big of a hurry is that?

TL/DR speeding only makes mathmatical sense on open roads.

This evening, my university had an event with a guest speaker in our Department of Economics (of which I am an undergraduate student). While the guest speaker and the department chair were having a conversation on stage, naturally, the subject turned to the prevalence of AI/LLMs and the speaker began to refer to it as 'super intelligence.'

The first time it was said, it felt abrasive. I sat up in my chair a little bit.

Then the two of them just... kept saying it! And it kept bothering me!

I remember when Trump announced that he wanted people to start referring to AI/LLMs as 'super intelligence,' my only thought was "this is ridiculous, it sounds stupid, and nobody is going to do this." Why is this catching on with these evidently serious and successful people?

i mean im not gonna type multiple paragraphs i said what i said but the older men who enjoy this type of porn are disgusting creeps and i think they would go for underage girls if it was allowed. i dont think any teen should be making porn content even 18 and 19 year olds and i feel like any teen who does that is being groomed. i searched “girls” on reddit trying to find a womens community and all the first things that popped up were porn subs, which is misogynistic on its own but the first one was “teen girls” lewd subreddit. do so many people seek that content that its the first thing to pop up? disgusting

Maybe I'm overthinking this but I feel like we're focusing on the wrong thing with AI, everyone is worried about fake pictures and fake news. Meanwhile we are deff getting to a point where someone can copy your voice or pretend to be you online or on calls and most people wouldn't have a clue.

I used to think a video call was enough to know who I was talking to lol. Now I'm reading about people getting scammed by voices that sound like their own family members, the weird part is we still use phone numbers and email addresses as if they prove anything.

Am I being paranoid or are we heading toward a future where nobody trusts anyone online?

Basically all the posts here are just here to drive engagement and farm karma.

For a real hot take: violence in movies should have a higher rating than sexual content.

If you use your children as puppets for your content, it should be considered low level child abuse.

Especially if it’s videos of the kids in emotional distress.

ok idk if my title makes sense, so for example—

commenting that a character dies in x movie, while the post was about y movie and the deaths in it.

this is fine, of course,…but they didn’t provide a warning and it was something I wanted to really watch but didn’t have access to. sucks knowing what character will die & completely ruins the twist of finding out authentically.

all in all, comment whatever about whatever, just for the love of everything on planet earth, say you’re gonna spoil it!!!! also lukewarm take bc I’ve seen many different perspectives on this. not sure which flair.

I feel like everyone wants to feel so important and special and correct nowadays, & so few people are actually looking to have fun and joke around on the internet anymore. I see so many comments and posts on Reddit of people just looking to be the most correct in any possible way. Whatabouts, Bean Soup Theories, “uhm but actually!” for the most insanely niche counter-examples ever.

And I don’t just mean on political or hot takes. I mean, on tv & movie subreddits, craft subreddits, pop culture discourse. I’ve even seen it in gooner subs… like … what. I know there’s always been the joke of “the mouth breathing redditor vs the purple haired lefty girl” on reddit… but it’s becoming Karen levels of behaviour and nitpicking.

It’s especially wild when folks start to try to out PC each other. Like, who are you even fighting for when it gets down to just personally attacking the other person’s morals & ethics?

Even if you’re the world’s most premier expert in your field … it’s Reddit, my guy. No one here actually cares. No one here has any power & if they do, they’re doing a facilitated AMA, not commenting at midday on a Friday. Y’know?

I just wish we could all just chill out a lil, smile, have a laugh and not be so miserable all the time. It’s Reddit, not the UN.

I'm currently in an uber. The driver is absolutely marinated in nasty cologne. It's hot in here, and his driving is very abrupt and jerky. Getting so nauseated. 🤢 Surprisingly it's not yet bothering my very sensitive-to-scents rhinitis (yet)

Why do people need to douse themselves in this shit? Especially if your job is being in a small enclosed space with people all day.

Being average is not an insult. People just hate being reminded that they aren't exceptional.

I think a lot of people's frustration with life comes from the inability to accept being average. They treat it like a personal failure to be of ordinary height, have an ordinary appearance, possess ordinary abilities, or live an ordinary life.

Some people genuinely become depressed over the idea that they're not exceptional, as if being a regular human being were some kind of humiliation. They want to be eight feet tall, look like a Greek god, be admired by everyone, and stand out in every room they enter.

But why? Why is being a normal person so unbearable to you?

I think a lot of people have built their self-worth around the fantasy of being extraordinary. They don't simply want to be happy, competent, or respected; they want to be superior. They want to be the exception, the standard, the person everyone notices. And when reality doesn't match that fantasy, they interpret it as a personal injustice.

I'm not saying people shouldn't improve themselves or pursue ambitious goals. I'm saying there's something deeply unhealthy about needing to be exceptional just to feel that your existence has value.

Any posts criticizing men is quickly removed. Meanwhile there’s at least 5 women hating vent posts on the front page. They allow politics when it’s shitting on women.