hi the truth is I think I'm doing this post to vent and tell myself that it hurts so much I'm very broken and hurt recently I made a post looking for a daughter online to someone to take care of with the purest intentions I received some bad answers others good and I got to have a connection with some people but then everything turns out to be a lie some have simply blocked me and others have turned out to be real men life is very cruel and it's very sad that these things happen in the group where one is supposed to look for family

Hello, sorry if this isn't correct or the right place. I don't usually use Reddit or even come here.

For basically my entire life, I've only had miserable existence and experience with the blood family I was born into. I accidentally stumbled on this community while looking at something, and decided I wanted to try maybe give it a shot. Maybe I'll actually experience what it's like to have a family, not employers. To be loved, whether it's by a sibling or a parental figure. Assistance and support in dealing with past trauma would really be appreciated as well, but I'd be happy if I can even feel a warm family experience at all.

The sad backstory aside, I'm not all doom and gloom, that's not my entire personality. In fact, I'm not even that sad, it's just that this topic hurts so much and I had no idea how much emotion and pain I've bottled up until I stumbled across this place, then trying to write a reply to someone else's post.

If my profile looked weird, that's because I don't use Reddit until recently. My username is intentionally stupid and barely appropriate because I hated this site for the most part due to how stupid it can get in my experience dealing with it. But to actually introduce myself a little, I have many interest in a lot of things whether it's video games, music, art, anime, cooking, military stuff, cars, etc, with video games being my biggest interest.

I'm also weird when it comes to socialising. There are people I can talk to for an entire day (Especially if I know them and feel comfortable with them), and there are people I will struggle to converse with. I also have huge issues trying to start a conversation. Over time, I think it's gotten better, but hell if I know, I'll be honest. Also, usually, I'm more jovial and very unserious about things, but this entire process had gotten me melancholic and rather sad. So sorry if it's a pain to talk to me, and thanks for your time.

P.S, though I'm not in the U.S, my sleep schedule roughly follows EST anyways since most of my friends are either in the U.S or west Europe

P.P.S, Wow, I didn't expect to get this many messages, I thought the community is rather quiet and empty - I might be slow to reply, sorry for that, and thanks!

Hi I'm looking for a forever mom. The person who I thought was going to fill that spot in my heart basically just left me. Please I'm desperately looking for someone to help me. I'm adopted but my adopted mother isnt the greatest. I'm looking for support and love from a mom I never got.

About me, I'm neurodivergent, chronically ill and lesbian. I'm an only child and adopted. I have 9 pets, 2 dogs, 2 cats, 2 guinea pigs, a hamster and 2 mice. And I'm from the east coast usa! Preferably within the usa or Canada for time zone.

Anways here are some of my hobbies and interests:

🧶crocheting

🌿 collecting nail polish and painting my nails

🌻 legos

🧿 playing acnh

🌈 thrifting

🔆 animals/pets

🏳️‍🌈watching tiktok

Anyways I'm looking forward to meeting you!! Byeeeeee.

Hi there!

I have very little family and have recently gone no contact with my parents. I have always felt that chosen family is just as significant as blood family, if not more! Chosen family are relationships you have to work hard to cultivate and sustain. And I'm here to do exactly that!

I am also going through a life transition now as I have developed some disabilities. I find it isolating because I used to be very active and most of my friendships involved activities like dancing, hiking, and sports. But then I got sick and it feels like my whole world changed, and got a little smaller unfortunately.

While I'd really appreciate chatting with someone who understands struggles with disabilities or chronic illness, I don't want to suggest that it's a requirement for friendship or sisterhood! I know there are plenty kind and empathetic people who are more than capable of understanding without having experienced the same thing.

Some of my hobbies and interests include:

- Animals! I love learning about animals, going to petting zoos, watching documentaries, etc! My primary hobby is watching birds. I usually do this seated so it requires a bit of patience but it's very rewarding.

- MOVIES! My favourite genre is horror comedy and horror, but I am open to exploring other genres. I love watching movies and having elaborate chats about them so would love a movie buddy!

- Crochet and crafts! I have been making little stuffed animals lately. I used to wood carve as well but that's proving to be a little challenging due to some pain, but I really do love anything crafty or creative. I often paint and sketchy too!

-Philosophy! I will read ANYTHING! I love thinking about what it means to live a meaningful life and I agree that the unexamined life is not worth living. I love having chats about moral philosophy

As important as it is to connect over shared interests, I also want to connect over shared values! I value friendship and found family a lot and know that it takes hard work to invest time and energy into understanding another person. I consider friendship more than just having fun with someone. To me it's about connecting over the good and bad times equally, and demonstrating a commitment to learning and growing together! I value honesty, kindness, generosity, open communication, empathy, curiosity, compassion, and open mindedness.

If we sound like a good match I'd love to hear from you! And i also want to be transparent that my capacity is low so I absolutely will get back to you but it might take a little bit more time :) I have a lot to give and I'm excited to connect with some sisters!

All my life I've been someone's mentor, protector, guardian and listener. Right now I'm void of that... so I think I should help someone else grow, learn, support them and advice them. It'd fill my soul and hopefully yours too.

I love reading, watching movies, shows, listening to music and also learning a lot. Just recently started singing lessons.

Please tell me what you like to do on weekends as a start to the conversation to make sure you read this text.

Thanks and I hope you have a good weekend!

Hi there! I'm Shan, I'm 26f and living in New Bedford, MA. I have a bf, and a cat named Arson! I'm wanting to be a mother figure for folks, emotional, physical (whenever we are comfortable!), mental and verbal support. I have a ton of love I want to share, so I'm trying to find some folks who would like a mother.

I love to draw, write, game, and I work in the healthcare field as a direct support provider, and I work overnights so I may not reply much during the days until my fays off (but I'm available a ton overnight!)

I'm hoping to create a support system for us all together. And maybe even one day, depending on how it goes, my kids can all chat and get to know one another (long term goal, if even a possibility, and if not thats okay!) but I just want to help people feel wanted, loved, and like they've got someone in their corner despite how bad the world seems. If you are interested, my dms are open ♥️♥️♥️ (older kiddos are fine too! I genuinely don't mind :) )

I am not sure if this is allowed, but I wanted to share my story with the hopes of giving you all some hope :)

I posted once here about how I’d love to have a sister and about 10 people messaged me. One of these is the sweetest and most caring soul I’ve had the privilege of caring for—my little sister. We share a similar taste in books and movies, and we share our day-to-day all the time. Her perspective on life is beautiful and innocent, she’s creative and open-minded. I’ll always be there to support and guide her, but she’s got such a good head on her shoulders that I know she’ll be okay! She’s simply beautiful, inside and out, and I’m too lucky to have her in my life.

Good luck everyone! 😊

Someone who can navigate me a bit. Someone I can tell my schedule to and helps me navigate all my deadlines/things i want to achieve. Someone soft, who can make me give up control.

I never felt I had this in my life and I've been on my own since I was a kid, so I crave to let it go for once.

You can send me a message if you think you can be there for me in a way :)!!!

As my title states, I’ve always had this protective vibe just ask my two best friends who are women. Whether it’s at a gig or just out and about, I always have their back and feel very fortunate to be in their lives.

So why am I looking for a sister(s)? Because while having female friends is nice, I want to know what it feels like to have that brother/sister dynamic.

So a bit about me: I’m a creative person who has a big heart and even bigger dreams. I’ve been described several times as a big Carebear who’s sarcastic and loving. I’m goofy, heartfelt, loud, quiet, nerdy and shy.

If my post sounds interesting to you, or you’d like to get to know me more? Feel free to comment or DM and I’ll get back to you when I can ☺️

Have a wonderful day everyone!

EDIT - I live in Ireland 🇮🇪

Hey there, my family story probably isn't as bad as many of you here, but I am estranged from several family members. Most of the family I do have is really distant and I am not at all close with. I have always been the baby of the family but I am a protector and care taker so the idea of a younger sister has always seemed pretty cool. I am also just fine with having an older sister or other family too. If you want to know more, feel free to DM and ask. I'm an open book.

I’m Audhd and have a tbi and ptsd, so this makes it hard to be close to people in person. I basically live on my computer and phone. I want a family that accepts me and my faults. I grew up with strict parents (catholic and military) and a brother that beat me daily. So I want a family I can show all the affection I didn’t get. I do get along better with females, most of my friends growing up and in the military were female. I hope you’re out there family.

I would like to change my flair to a higher age bracket. I am no longer WITHIN the age bracket listed as my flair. I am older. I would like to change the flair to compensate. I tried to change it on my own, but I can't seem to figure out how.

Ever been in a party where you were surrounded by people but still felt alone?

Ever been a people pleaser but had your kindness being taken advantage of other people numerous times?

Always doing chores around home, without being asked?

Saamee!

I shall bring the snacks ( I loooovee cooking , especially garlic bread and shakshuka), but don't worry, because of my tidiness obsession I would also do the dishes lol.

Cooks, cleans, great with kids, works with an international non profit, has a restaurant, keeps fit and most of all, respectful and polite to all.

I know how to make excellent tea, paint nails ( my mom needs help with her toes, as she can’t bend ) and be a great empathetic listener for you after a long day of work ( don’t worry , I won’t solve your problems. Just gonna listen and say that sucks, while stroking your hair )

I enjoy long walks , playing tennis , petting every pet dog I see and watching true crime documentaries while making homemade garlic bread

I was the school topper in school, don’t drink or smoke, got a growing library of old books and help university entrepreneurs with their startups during the weekends.

Usually, I am the quiet guy but can vibe for hours with deep talks about every subject from philosophy to the best way to make mashed potatoes.

I am currently reading books starting from the ancient era and moving my way downward through history ( so I can interconnect biology, astronomy, psychology and aunty gossip all in the same topic )

Grew up in the Middle East, had a quarter life crises to find out what my path in life was ( oh I did the cliche stuff like meditating on mountains ), found my dream career but life is unfulfilling if you can’t share it with someone else.

I enjoy learning and expanding my cultural tastes : I watch Iranian movies, listen to French electronic music, yelling Arabic curse words every time I step on a LEGO piece and teaching german words to every German shepherd dog I meet.

Looking for someone who is also introverted-ish but can chit chat for hours with the right person, be silly together but still being very focused and wildly supportive of our careers and potential startup ideas 

I love being high energy and excited like a golden retriever but also happy to have quiet reading nights where we both read on the couch and huddled under the same blanket.

Hey wsp everybody a little about me my name is Jay and I'm looking to start building my family for awhile after going through so much hurt with people that supposed to be family I hit a bottom for a long time I said I don't need a family family doesn't mean anything but deep deep down inside that's what I really want and need so I have to build it I'm 33 yrs old ftm in Nj I'm in search of a dad and mom importantly but other siblings also what ever role you'd like to play is fine I'm also really looking for my crazy cool uncle you don't have to be perfect just be genuine and supportive and if you're lbgtq or neurodivergent even better I don't even mind if I'm adopted into a supportive family Thanks lbgtq and neurodivergent a big +

Hello,

I hesitated a long time before writing. I don't even know where to start.

This post will be long, so if you don't feel like reading everything or don't have time, too, go directly to the end "in short"

I'm a girl, still living with my parents because life is hard. Our relationship has never been really good.

I grew up in a physically and psychologically violent family and have been bullied at school, too. Leading to an early depression.

In high school, I chose to go to boarding school to study something specific. It finally wasn't what I was searching for, so I wanted to stop, but my parents forced me to stay, and I chose another specific subject to study.

I have older brothers, so when I reached university, I decided to come back home because my parents weren't good at saving money and because I wanted to study abroad during and after university. Unfortunately, covid came, and I've never been able to study abroad while I was at university. My project was really important to me so I decided to take a break after uni for both my health condition and my project reasons. My family perfectly knew about that project and the cost and never strongly disagreed at that time. But they put conditions over conditions leading to a lot of stress for me and to work on project while I was supposed to fully concentrate on the one that was the most important. I recently reached the first goal and previous conditions before being able to reach my dream goal, and they destroyed everything refusing to sponsor me. One of my brothers threatened about kicking me out, too. This led me to a lot of stress again while I already had a lot. I started searching for months for an alternate way to get sponsors because I can't trust my family, and they can use it to manipulate me but haven't been able to find any.

I feel blocked between walls with no future. They'll put the blame on me while I did everything I was able to. I'm too depressed to work, but I can't stay either. I tried to find work for two years, but they threatened me about kicking me out for blocking their home exchange. I do hours of housework (especially laundry and cleaning), my parents also use my money that was for my project without asking me because I was too scared of my dad to block the access and knowing it will be blocked at my 25 scares too. They want me to get out but put me down every time I try to find a solution...

---------- In Short ----------

• I grew up in a physically and psychologically violent family and, I'll prefer to be honest, I am depressed because of that

• They destroyed what was the project of my life, and I feel completely blocked by them

• I don't know how to navigate through life anymore

I'm not searching for money or sponsor or physical help.

I'm searching for someone who can help me navigate through life, take decisions, and bring back the self-confidence and independence they took away if possible.

Important thing I forgot to say : I tend to be hypersensitive, so I also need people who are able to talk with kindness and empathy.

I know you're not a psychologist or psychiatrist, and I'm not expecting that from you either. I, unfortunately, haven't found the ones made for me yet, but I take my mental health really seriously.

I'm really just searching for a parent figure or mentor.

Thank you for reading

My post will probably disappear in 2 days or even 24 hours, "just in cas".

Hi, my name is Charles. I'm 38, in Minnesota, and I'm hoping to find a mom, dad, or older siblings who would love to have me as their son or little brother.

I had a horrific childhood. I was severely neglected, starved, and physically abused by my birth parents. After entering foster care, my Arizona family was torn apart by my foster father's sexual abuse, and I lost another home. My next family adopted me but subjected me to physical, emotional, and religious abuse, denied my disabilities, and sent me to another household where I was beaten, threatened, and forced to work. At 15, they abandoned me at reform schools, where the abuse continued through brutal punishments, forced labor, and violent restraints. I was never welcomed home.

Since I was five or six, I've fantasized about someone discovering how badly I'd been hurt, comforting me, and taking me into a family who would finally love and care for me. I still need that. I want people who are happy to have me, who'll hug me, include me, take me places, share their lives with me, and give me the patience and practical support I need.

I'm autistic, have cerebral palsy, and have difficulties with some everyday things. I'm currently homeless and would love to live with my new family. I receive disability income and can contribute financially, and I have a cat who comes with me. But more than anything, I want a happy life with people who genuinely love me.

Despite everything, I've kept my curiosity, humor, and enthusiasm for life. I love making people laugh, learning, inventing things, art, science, technology, Nintendo, PlayStation, animals, and good food. I've spent much of my life creating stories, artwork, and music, and I'm writing a multimedia science-fiction novel about childhood trauma and healing. I love new experiences, little parties, and having fun with people!

I'm open to adoption by heart or legal adoption, and I'd love to get to know anyone who might want to become family.

I'm a 41m more traditional guy I joined the military in my 20s went to war and came back. And started my career. I work on old cars for fun. Smoke meats, go camping. And im one of those types that can figure out how to fix anything. I have one little brother but no sisters

I didn't have a great parent relationship growing up My parents were divorced. My mom was unfortunately an addict and my dad worked 24 hour shifts and wasnt really emotionally there to the point I had to move out at 17. I was Raised in the kids should be seen and not heard generation. I was almost conditioned to think having kids was like a curse.

That was untill I had kids. And that whole you'll understand when you have your own moment happened. I understand. I LOVE being Dad. My kids are everything. Every time I get to provide them the love and attention I wish I had it's the most fulfilling thing. Out of all the cool titles I've earned in my life, Dad is the one I'm most proud of. And one thing I've not questioned if I'm good at.

And so I felt bad for all those out there that didn't have a dad or like me had one that just wasn't present. Then I found this sub. So I wanted to make a post and say hi and invite anyone who wanted a good father/ big brother maybe I can be that role model and advice giver to someone and save them the pain and difficulty I went through trying to teach it to myself.

So if you want, Feel free to dm me or comment on here!

Hey, my name is Alan - thank you for taking the time to read my note. I'm a 38-year-old guy in Colorado hoping to find genuine connections and people who feel a little more like family.

Preferably same age or older.

I haven't had much of a family perspective to turn to when it comes to life's questions, experiences, or everyday things. I'm searching for people I can learn from, share experiences, and build meaningful connections.

I enjoy art, hiking, rockhounding, baking, and finding beauty in ordinary moments. I also make little wooden figurines (maybe I'll mail one) and leave them in public places as gifts for strangers.

I'm hoping to find kind people who value meaningful conversations, mutual support, and being there for one another. ❤️

Happily Meowied

Crafter

Rockhound

36 M Midwest USA. I am not really seeking any particular type of person other than basically someone who's a good conversationalist and is kind. Those might be the two most important things. I came across this sub and was thinking about my tumultuous relationship with my own family and how it would be nice to have some found family. I'm kind of a quirky artsy type. Not very career successful but I've worked in childcare a lot and have a lot of passions in life. I love art, art history, music, collecting records and cds, dance music / rave history, pop culture, watching sports, reading, poetry, painting, films, video games, more. I like talking about all kinds of stuff and I'm friendly and non judgmental and understanding, or at least I'd like to think so. Hit me up if you'd like to talk :)

I live in Canada and I’m a 22F. I’m a creative person who loves the arts, dark comedy movies, and retro music. I hope to work in the film industry and/or social work related fields.

My whole life I’ve only known men irl that have hurt their families in some way. I have a huge distrust. I don’t have a father or grandfather in my life anymore. Online I’ve gotten close to men but they always end up creepy or abandon me after I tell them about my life (and I don’t blame them because it’s pretty messy). It would be so great to know someone who could give me a new perspective.

Hey everyone!
I’m 25M, and from India.
I’ve had a somewhat complicated journey growing up, with difficult family dynamics, bullying, loneliness, and friendships that didn’t always turn out well.
I became quite independent early on, at least emotionally. I’ve been working for a few years now, but somewhere along the way, life became more about surviving, working, and getting through each day than actually living.
One thing I’ve always missed is having a dependable male presence in my life. Someone I can share ordinary things with, have meaningful conversations with, laugh with, seek advice from, and genuinely feel close to.
I’m at a point where I’m trying to make some changes in my life, and building meaningful relationships is one of them.
I’d love to connect with men who might be open to building a father-son or older brother-younger brother kind of bond. Something that develops naturally, with mutual care, trust, consistency, and a little humour along the way.
Not expecting an instant connection or someone to have all the answers. Just hoping to find a bond that feels like family over time.
If this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. :)

Hello there kind new friend, here is a presentation I have prepared for you that you didn't wait for.

 so let me here convince you why you should choose me as your new friend:

* I am a silly person who always tries to make people laugh, I strongly recommend not to sip coffee while reading my messages.  

* I take a lot of street cats pics, so you will have a steady supply of cat pics.

* I am chatty. I enjoy yapping , and I don’t even have an off switch, if you don't have off switch too we need to yap about this .

* I love to talk about all kinds of topics and can always find things to talk about. There are random questions generator built in my mind.

* I always reply to my messages and have online friendships that have been going on for years, I always send good morning messages, and I appreciate the people that can also be conversation starters.

* I am supportive and will always be here for you to tell me about your day or vent if you have something that bothers you.

* I am a game artist, someone who works in the video games industry,  in other words fully matured nerd, we can talk about all these nerdy stuff if you like.

* I like art, games, anime, gym, walks, coding, games, true crime, yapping, cats, science, history, languages, documentaries, psychology, mental health, and cats, so I am sure we can cross interests here or there.

Hii, I'm a 23 year old girl from central Europe and I'm looking for a brother, preferably around my age. And also be from Europe plss

Whatever I do, at the back of my mind I often feel that need of brotherly love. Which no partner in life is able to provide.
(Optionally I'm also interested in some other type of platonic relationship)

I also wanna provide that for you and would want you to feel loved 💗

Something about me:

I love anime, cosplay and all the nerdy stuff

If we could do cosplay together and go on anime conventions that would be so awesomee

I'm also into singing and acting.

Most of creative stuff I like to do.

As well as simple walks in the park.

I really enjoy reading philosophy and philosophical debates.

Also like to play board games and from video games like tekken or mario cart but I don't own it,

though if you want to play some discord games or just wanna talk feel free to dm me.

Hi I'm looking for a forever mom. The person who I thought was going to fill that spot in my heart basically just left me. Please I'm desperately looking for someone to help me. I'm adopted but my adopted mother isnt the greatest. I'm looking for support and love from a mom I never got.

About me, I'm neurodivergent, chronically ill and lesbian. I'm an only child and adopted. I have 9 pets, 2 dogs, 2 cats, 2 guinea pigs, a hamster and 2 mice. And I'm from the east coast usa! Preferably within the usa or Canada for time zone.

Anways here are some of my hobbies and interests:

🧶crocheting

🌿 collecting nail polish and painting my nails

🌻 legos

🧿 playing acnh

🌈 thrifting

🔆 animals/pets

🏳️‍🌈watching tiktok

Anyways I'm looking forward to meeting you!! Byeeeeee.