r/Celiac • u/Kiwi_Major • 3h ago
Rant Hard time coping with daughter's diagnosis
I'm sorry as I don't have a question, I'm just looking to understand what others did to cope.
My daughter is 4.5 years old, and had her celiac diagnosis when she turned 3. We have no other celiac at home, and have adapted fairly quickly our routines.
I do most of the cooking at home, and it is very rare that we have food that contains gluten to avoid mistakes. This is fine, no issue there and is fairly easy to find decent pasta alternatives, or avoid gluten-containing materials.
However, I am still unable to cope with her diagnosis. I have a hard time dealing with this. I used to love going out with her and having an improvised bite at a cafe or restaurant. But this basically disappeared as I'm always anxious of cross-contamination. And sometimes there is simply no alternative.
I live in sweden where luckily most restaurant staff are quite aware of special food requirements and allergens. I often opt for asking for lists of allergens and can see it quite easily, and most restaurants (especially big chains) have good alternatives. But still we avoid eating out as we have seen mistakes happening (we often need to ask AGAIN that the food is gluten free upon getting it, and have seen mistakes happening). This is worse when we travel abroad.
We rarely eat out and I'm quite ok with cooking at home. Also pushes us to be more healthy.
But I'm still having a hard time coping with this.
We (me) used to live going for a slice of cake, would do it once a week on weekends. Gone. We would order a pizza from a random spot. Gone. We would go to museums and order food from the restaurant. Mostly gone or always a stressful situation.
And then I'm particularly mad that there are so few options available, even though Im fully aware now that things are better than s few years ago. There's not that many types of filled pasta available, and the one we can find is awful. Cereal, few options available, almost nothing kid friendly (think of how many boxes with fancy cartoons there are). And even though we are ok with this since it helps avoid sugary cereal, I hate that this is imposed and not our choice.
Sushi? We would go out and get her some version that had cooked egg or vegetarian sushi. Gone, since most sushi vinegar contains gluten. She used to love seeing all those colors in her food!
I know, it's not the end of the world, and I can always learn how to do things at home. But I'm mad that this is the situation we are in.
Plus, how hard is it to find a decent bread recipe that gets you fluffy white bread with few ingredients. I used to bake bread at home, and would do it with just 3 ingredients only. Now? Can't find a decent recipe and bread is never fluffy. Maybe I havent added enough psyllium or whatever, but my god it's not easy.
At school she has her own food and that's great. It has happened on special occasions that all the kids bake a cinnamon roll and she gets bread with sugar and cinnamon..... We asked the teachers to let us know and we drop her with a glutenfree alternative. But these things have happened. What annoys me the most is that she will feel discriminated as she grows up. We try to minimize and not make it a big deal so that she learns it isn't a big deal (and make up for it at home), but inside I'm still mad about the situation and the future. We also make her see that other kids have allergies so these things are usual. But still... Maybe I'm suffering in anticipation....
Sorry, I don't really have a purpose with this. If you have lived with celiac or have raised celiac kids, I appreciate all the words.
Sorry again for the rant. I just want her to be happy and grow up resilient and without feelings of discrimination.