r/Adulting • • 13h ago

so guys ?

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u/hemanstarfox 13h ago edited 12h ago

Stop viewing women as the pathway to your having your emotional wounds healed

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u/bumpersnatch12 11h ago

Seriously bro, a lot of people say they need a woman when they really need a cat or something. I was guilty of seeking "emotional support women", which isn't fair to her or me. Now I'm taking time working on myself with cats and idk why I ever tried to seek out unfulfilling relationships to lean on.

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u/hemanstarfox 10h ago

Way to go, dude. Self-reflection will do you well. You don't have to be a perfect person to have love. However, you can't love a person as a whole person if you view them as a means to your end. Working on yourself will free more capacity for you to be loved and give love.

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u/Kind_Inside931 5h ago

Mega kudos brother! I’m stealing that “emotional support woman” thing!