I would change this to be polite" instead of *nice. Being nice means not telling someone to fuck off. Being polite means you just use better words and a calm demeanor to say the same thing.
Politeness will get you far, being an asshole or a doormat will not.
The way I see it, there's no such thing as being too kind, and I do think it's deeper than just polite language, but what people forget is that it's very easy to be too *generous*, with time, resources, and emotional energy. "Nice" can mean interpreted a few different ways.
Being nice does not imply being a doormat. I can choose kindness toward people who are behaving poorly because I value my own kindness. It doesn't mean I'm going to enable them or sacrifice much of value for them, it means I'm going to continue to build the world I want to live in and not let someone behaving poorly take that away from me.
I don't take their rudeness or disrespect as a reflection of me, it's a reflection of them. I know my value and worth and live up to it by being the person I want regardless of who the other person is or how they're behaving.
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u/Equivalent-Dig7259 13h ago
Be nice to people, even those that disrespected you. Kindness comes first.