You do not have to do something (like getting married by xx age. or at all) or stop doing someting (like a hobby, ie gaming, etc) because of societal pressure.
I grew up seeing people my parents age looking like everything that was enjoyable was sucked right out of them while they'd say "I'm too old for x"
So I refused to do that growing up.
I'm almost 40, and I'll get excited over something for 10 year olds because I'm practically an uncle to all my friends kids.
"You got a new Lego set? Heck yeah let's go!"
Meanwhile when I was 10, I'd hear "huh, new legos? And how is that going to prepare you for life? When I was your age I was working three jobs already."
I saw something similar going up. Anytime you expressed joy or being excited about something someone would start the god damn suffering Olympics. Drove me nuts, and it still happens even now. Suffering for sufferings sake is stupid.
My Dad is a champion at this, "nail polish is for 10 year olds, at your age you should be having 3 kids already". Alright then who is going to feed the kids? You want them to all turn into criminals in this dangerous economy?
My dad is an "at your age" champion too, meanwhile i'm subtly trying to tell his ass to do something else than work his health away and watch tv on the sofa. Hhhhhhh °_• each to their own •_°
I love that human being and look up to him but ffs live a little or something, now i sound just like him in a way lol..
I love my inlaws, they're awesome! But he's the guy where you could tell him "I just got hired at XYZ place!" And his only response is "so when are they making you CEO?"
🫠 He's also the one that believes still you can walk into a place, give the manager a FIRM handshake, hand him your resume, and that will and you a job immediately.
One of my best friend's dad is like this. Shits on him for being a 30 year old gamer with a kid. He takes care of his kid just simply plays when he's asleep as he works from home and on his own schedule.
Would get told constantly growing up that games were a waste of time. Yet he sits on the couch for hours after work watching soccer all day and fails to see the irony.
I only give my kids the “at your age” thing when they complain about household chores like dishes. “At your age I had to wash, dry and out them all away by myself” as opposed to one kid drying and the other putting away while I wash.
My dad can kinda get like this too. I always just hit em back with something in jest with a little prodding like, "Yep and look at ya now! Just a crabby ol whiner. That's a hard pass there dad."
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u/a_model_citizen_ 13h ago
You do not have to do something (like getting married by xx age. or at all) or stop doing someting (like a hobby, ie gaming, etc) because of societal pressure.