Take an active role in your own life - I spent my 20s blowing around on the wind; letting my partners make the big decisions, following them for their career opportunities, and generally just being a rolling stone. I was so directionless and ultimately both of those relationships broke down, and left me even more adrift. It was terrible for my self esteem and took me a long time to recover from. It wasn’t until I got my shit together at 28 and took the reins of what I wanted to do with my life that I started to feel in control of my own destiny.
People have asked me how I got to where I am. I have gone from the bottom and I have reach a fairly senior level because I am constantly asking myself what do I need to learn or change to be better than I was yesterday.
When I was 20 I managed to land a steady job at a large company as an apprentice. I foolishly trusted and thought that they would have development plans for us. I realised in my early 20's that the 'performance review' were just that, a performance for HR. No one else was going to push me to be better, it was all on me.
Since then I have actively worked on my own development. I have completed 2 degrees and am working on my third, not because anyone told me to, I wanted to. I took short courses on professional writing, excel, communication, finance etc. because those were areas where I recognized my own short comings to my own metrics and acted to correct those.
Many people are waiting for someone else to tell them what they need to change or develop.
Many people are waiting for someone else to identify growth opportunities.
Too many people hand control of their future and happiness to someone else.
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u/Mammoth-Cherry-2995 12h ago
Take an active role in your own life - I spent my 20s blowing around on the wind; letting my partners make the big decisions, following them for their career opportunities, and generally just being a rolling stone. I was so directionless and ultimately both of those relationships broke down, and left me even more adrift. It was terrible for my self esteem and took me a long time to recover from. It wasn’t until I got my shit together at 28 and took the reins of what I wanted to do with my life that I started to feel in control of my own destiny.