r/Adulting • u/murano0 • 13h ago

so guys ?

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u/itsirk09 11h ago

Nice to people who disrespect you? Worst advice ever, good way to ending up being a doormat.

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u/brekksplut 10h ago

You can be kind and still set boundaries. Being kind is not the same as being a pushover.

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u/Greetings_Program 6h ago

Also don't mistake kindness for weakness.

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u/Ecstatic-Recipe5664 10h ago

I dont think you understand what kindness is

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u/Equivalent-Dig7259 11h ago

You seem to have made bad experiences with people, I am sorry about this. Being nice is a struggling path, but kindness should never be misinterpreted as a sign of weakness.

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u/FEARoach 9h ago

Just smile at people who are being disrespectful shits. Smiling at them makes them lose their minds and go away.

That or I have a very psychotic smile. It could be that. I don't have sensation in half my face most of the time.

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u/bigttony 0m ago

“If others disrespect me or give me flak
I’ll stop and think, before I react
Knowing that they’re going through insecure stages
I’ll take the opportunity to exercise patience
I’ll see it as a chance to help the other person
Nip it in the bud before it can worsen”

It’s not about being nice, it’s about wielding compassion and empathy. Within reason, of course.