At the end of the day, you have to work on building a good sense of self to have good relationships with other people, romantic or otherwise. To work on your emotional regulation, communication, etc is extremely important.
For instance if you have low self-esteem, a relationship where you constantly feel inferior to the other person is doomed to failure. You cannot have a healthy or lasting relationship if you put the other person on a pedestal and ignore obvious problems that exist because of it. Sooner or later the bill will come due (often them leaving you, because you arent healthy to be around).
"You have to love yourself first" may sound like a trite cliché for people and difficult to achieve for many who struggle with anxiety, self-esteem, trauma etc but the reality is that you can't escape you. You will bring yourself to every relationship you have, romantic or otherwise, and you will be forced to confront who you are whether you like it or not.
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u/darkwater_throwaway 12h ago
At the end of the day, you have to work on building a good sense of self to have good relationships with other people, romantic or otherwise. To work on your emotional regulation, communication, etc is extremely important.
For instance if you have low self-esteem, a relationship where you constantly feel inferior to the other person is doomed to failure. You cannot have a healthy or lasting relationship if you put the other person on a pedestal and ignore obvious problems that exist because of it. Sooner or later the bill will come due (often them leaving you, because you arent healthy to be around).
"You have to love yourself first" may sound like a trite cliché for people and difficult to achieve for many who struggle with anxiety, self-esteem, trauma etc but the reality is that you can't escape you. You will bring yourself to every relationship you have, romantic or otherwise, and you will be forced to confront who you are whether you like it or not.