I’m a first time mom (F28) (Diagnosed/Medicated) baby is 1 year old (extremely attached to me and clingy)
Husband (31M) main/only provider

So our whole marriage issues are basically house chores and anything related to me doing my part.

I’m reaaaally trying my best but at some point my husband’s expectations regarding me are just unrealistic and I keep burning out and get mental breakdowns every two days.

I started to shout whenever I feel annoyed and my physical health is so miserable. No fun. No friends. My screen time is less than 3 hours (huge difference)

I literally have no life and I keep crying everyday or every single night. I’m diagnosed with depression and anxiety ofc.

AND THIS MAN KEEPS COMPLAINING ABOUT ME NOT BEING CHEERFUL!

From his pov he’s only asking me to be full time mom and doing all house chores and be cheerful and pretty. I lashed out last night and I told him this is too much and I just can’t do everything all at once without failing at something so miserably or losing my physical and mental health.

I want a divorce because at this point I think he just wants to be served. He barely helps. He pays the bills and bought the house but I don’t think he understands that this lifestyle is just hell for me. Although I really want to be a stay home mom and enjoy my hobbies but i just can’t. And I don’t have a plan or I have nothing to think about tbh because my thoughts are scattered and I just want to relax and process this.

I just want your advice and how can I be a happy stay home mom without being miserable from house chores and routine? Or should I accept my fate and get a job and a helper?

Hello! I have combined type ADHD and, after years of seeking treatment that actually worked for me, was finally prescribed medication (Vyvanse) for it earlier this year. Simply put, this medication changed my life. Prior to my treatment, I was extremely unmotivated, my executive dysfunction made it impossible to be productive. and I struggled a lot with emotional dysregulation and a low self esteem. I’ve been on meds for 3 months now, and my productivity and overall mood have done a complete 180. I feel energized, motivated, highly focused, and my mood and self image have also improved greatly. However, I have also noticed a few characteristics of my mental state appear to mimic what a manic state looks like. I don’t have bipolar disorder, but I just want to know if these symptoms are to be expected with stimulant use and if there could be a downside. I function best off of just a few hours of sleep, my self esteem is VERY elevated (not to the point of being self obsessed or narcissistic, moreso just feeling like I’m capable of anything and appreciating myself more than I ever have before), my mood is highly euphoric, my thoughts and speech are very rapid and tend to jump from one thing to the next, and I sometimes focus too much on unimportant things. Granted, NONE of these symptoms are a bad thing. Every single one of them has been positive for my day to day life overall minus the focusing too much on unimportant things, which I think might just be something I need to address from a mindset framework. That being said, I’m just wanting to understand if my medication is working the way it is intended and if I should have any concerns, and if anyone else shares a similar experience. Thank you!

EDIT: it is also worth mentioning I drink a LOT of energy drinks. Like, overload my brain with caffeine quite a bit… yeah I might have a problem.

I (25f) bought some ear defenders because I’ve been going through immense sensitivity to noises and I tried them and oh my god.

Lately the volume of the tv, chewing, footsteps, breathing, dishwasher noise ect. has been rage inducing. I go through periods like this where my hearing feels supersonic and everything hurts my ears.

Put them on and I can think, my anxiety is cut in half, and I can sit quietly and calmly for longer than 5 minutes. I highly recommend if you’re easily overstimulated by noise.

Hi everyone, I just wanted to share some apps that I tried over the past few months and like to use that help me with my ADHD. I’m a college student.

Tiimo A visual planner I like to use when a long to-do list feels overwhelming. I use this to brain dump my tasks, break them into smaller steps, and put them in a schedule. Helps me know that I’ve accounted for everything. It is seriously fantastic. 

WillowVoice This one is a dictation tool. I tend to get a bit stuck seeing a blank page, so this helps me talk out my thoughts and it converts everything to text. I’ve replaced maybe 70% of my typing with dictation using this for emails, messages, assignments, etc

Pomofocus I’ve been using this for years. This is a pomodoro timer that I use to keep track of tasks that I have to do. Instead of just thinking about starting things for hours, this time structure helps me actually start doing.

Focusmate This feels like having a buddy doing things with you. I like to set a routine to this so I arrange a session weekly. I’ll book a video session with someone else, and we will share what we are each working on, then quietly do our own tasks. At the end, we check in on each other. I did make a friend through this too.

I’ve been through planners, apps, Notion templates, sticky notes on my monitor, all of it. Each one worked for about two weeks, then I’d miss a few days, everything would feel too broken to restart, and I’d abandon it for something new.

What’s working now is much smaller, and I wanted to share it in case it helps someone.

One dump page. I have a single page in Notion where everything goes the second it pops into my head. Tasks, worries, random ideas, half sentences. No sorting, no tags, no deciding where it belongs. Capturing is one step, and organizing happens later.

A short “today” list. Once a day I skim the dump and pull out three things that actually matter today. Not my whole life, just today. Everything else stays in the dump and that’s fine.

Sorting kept tiny. The sorting step is where I used to freeze, so I stopped trying to organize everything. I only ask myself one question as I skim, which is “does this need to happen today?” If not, it stays where it is.

A restart rule. When I fall off for a few days, I don’t try to catch up on everything I missed. I do one fresh brain dump and start again from today. This is the part that made it last, because missing days doesn’t break anything anymore.

It’s not perfect, but it’s lasted longer than anything else I’ve tried.

I’m curious what’s worked for other people.

• Where does stuff end up when it pops into your head?
• What made you drop the last system you tried?
• What do you actually do when you fall off for a few days?

Guys is anyone else like raging horny on their pills
Or is this just a me thing I can’t cope anymore it’s every few hours. Think I may need to go to dexamphetamine? Or would that make me worse than I already am I can’t cope with it seriously my head hurts omg what the hell like I have taken 2 tablets today hell of buzz mental

Like the title, i just have trouble remembering the past. Idk if it's adhd thing or just me, but it's so hard to recall anything before i was 14, and I'm still only 18 so that's concerning.

Last week, my friends and i just played truth or dare, i picked truth and got asked "What's the most embarrassing misunderstanding you've ever been in?" And i know damn well I've had one before, but i can't remember. I just sat there trying to remember my life which probably took too awkwardly long until someone asked "you wanna skip this one?"....."yeah"

My sister has been claiming to have adhd for a while now. She has been professionally tested for it and she doesn’t have it. She claims that our parents reporting portion of testing her was “just a few points off”, but I know my parents scored her very liberally, both because they have done my assessments in the past and because they outright told me they scored her this way. I was diagnosed in elementary school. She has never understood my struggle and has infantilized me for it my whole life and still treats me like a child because of my symptoms. She criticizes me for taking adderall and treats it like a recreational drug. She has also said she doesn’t need it and would never take it. She acts like my struggles with adhd are a personal shortcoming because she “also has adhd” and she doesn’t relate. She has never understood my struggles at all and her belief that she also has adhd just further cements her idea that my symptoms of adhd are just a problem with me. She treated me like an idiot for so much of my childhood because I couldn’t get the grades she could and because she couldn’t understand why I needed extra support. I’ve always felt like I was inferior because of how she treated me, and I still kinda do because of how she treats me now. I always felt like I needed to prove her wrong and now people acting like she has ADHD as much as I do just feels like a slap to the face. I’ve made peace with myself by realizing I just have ADHD and I’m not stupid, but now her saying she also has it and still doesn’t understand, is like saying I actually am as stupid as she thinks I am. I’m just so frustrated with her and needed to vent.

My adhd was terrible but i was used to it.
Racing thoughts, at min one learning maths, next min learning about how to design clothes, then registering a domain that has nothing to do with clothing brand because now i wanna automate workflows and sell my b2b service to small medium business. While applying to college also for some strange reason then looking for some beauty advice idk why? Ends with thinking about the alien conspiracy stories. I mean to do all this brain needs computation power, isn’t it? If we can do all this async processing of racing thoughts just scattered proves we actually have good computational brain. Problem is scateredness. To make something big and create a impact one needs to focus all his energy in that particular direction only. Thats our main issue. So i took caffeine shots and it made more scattered while all i wanted was focus on one particular thing. Anyone else in same boat? What worked for you and how areyou combating this as this ruins quality of life and acts like a hindrance in our success path.

Hi folks,

Hope everyone’s doing okay.

I just wanted to ask whether anyone else struggles with existential depression or that constant feeling of dread about life and existence.

I’ve felt like I’ve had this cloud hanging over me for as long as I can remember. I try my best to accept it and carry on as normal, but honestly, it can be pretty horrible at times.

One thing I’ve noticed is that Elvanse completely takes it away. For a few hours, I feel free from those thoughts and can just get on with life without overthinking everything. But as it starts to wear off, the feelings gradually creep back in, and I’m back to struggling with it all over again. It’s exhausting, to be honest.

I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who experiences something similar. How do you manage it? Have you found any strategies or ways of coping that genuinely help?

Any advice or shared experiences would be massively appreciated.

Thanks

Getting ready for my day ALWAYS takes me way longer than it needs to. Showering, skincare, putting on lotion, etc, always takes me about 2 hours or an hour and a half if I’m moving “as fast as I can”. Showering always takes 30+ minutes no matter how fast I try and do things. I swear time goes by 2x faster in the shower. When I’m out of the shower I always find myself getting distracted by little things, or just spacing out for a couple minutes without initially realizing it.

It’s been like this for years. I’m tired of being late to hanging out with friends, or being a few minutes late for work. Recently it’s made my girlfriend pretty irritated with me, as I always tell her that I’ll be at her house by a certain time and then I’ll end up being at her house an hour late. From the outside it looks like I don’t care and that I’m just moving slow on purpose when that’s really not the case.

Does anyone have any tips to help here?

My feet are black and I need a shower yet I CBA to go in there!!! It’s too much effort I need to but I can’t get up I want to have a good time and I want to be clean but I can’t be bothered anymore with this stuff.. I think I need to see my doctors tomorrow not good ab well should be okay until tomorrow

20M uni student, know lots of people but have no close friends because I get bored of people super easily

Never hang around others because their conversations bore me

Only interested in studying nowadays because it is the only interesting thing that I have the time doing

I can't stand routines

I can't stand house chores

I am bored of my videogames and can't be bothered finding something new in fear it might hurt my studies

I am not depressed, just uninspired, and I still can't find a sustainable way of peaking my interest with a new hobby (any suggestions would be welcome)

Sometimes I find myself embarrassed whilst in a conversation because I’ve said something incorrectly and it takes me a second to process what I actually wanted to say. I’m always along the right lines but wording slightly off.

For example, incorrectly calling someone’s son/daughter by the name of the person I’m speaking to. Or my most embarrassing to date.. incorrectly asking how someone’s funeral was instead of their christening. My friends laughed it off and I joined the laughter too but inside I’m dying of embarrassment.

Does this happen to anyone else? It’s like my mouth is going a million miles an hour and my brain is behind.

I’m noticing it more and more along with some other tendencies - never diagnosed but starting to wonder if need to look into reasons why this happens.

Ever since I was young I’ve always gotten incredibly depressed after hanging out with friends and going back to my house where nothings going on. I know good times can last forever but there’s something about the shift from high energy to the quietness of everyday life. It’s like FOMO but worse. It leaves me feeling worthless because I just get thrown back into real life where nothing is exciting and it’s all too quiet and still. How can I be comfortable with the averageness of everyday life?

I started Elvanse 30mg last summer and went up to 40mg after 2 months. For about 5 months it was great. I was back to my hobbies, productive at home, clear-headed, in a routine, and finally doing things I’d been desperate to do for years.

Around spring I started feeling low and off, which was weird since spring is usually when I feel best (I get seasonal depression). I’m also autistic, so I wondered if it was burnout and cut my demands right back, but things kept slipping. Starting anything felt really hard, my routine fell apart, and I was doing hobbies just to make time pass.

My prescriber and I agreed to try 50mg last month. It feels a tad easier, and I’ve got the basics of my routine back, but I’m still barely functional and one medium-effort task wipes me out for the rest of the day. A typical day is meds at 10, an hour of friction to get going, self-care by 12, then a 1-2 hour dog walk, and I’m a tired heap by 2 or 3. I try food and/or caffeine but it doesn't help much. I was managing all this and more in those first 5 or so months.

My sleep is decent (I take medication for it) and I know my meds work less when I don’t eat or sleep well, so I try to look after both. I can’t tell if this is the meds, burnout, depression or even something else. I think the low mood is partly because I got a taste of what my life could look like, and now I'm back to almost square 1 which is really really tough.

My follow-up is in a couple of days and I feel a bit lost with it all. If you’ve been here or experienced something similar, I’d love any advice or insight.

I'm not talking about the usually type where you can't stop vibing to your favorite song but it's some random song that plays in your head 24/7 nonstop and you don't even haven't have to like it hack you can hate it, but it just sits in your mind always playing no matter how much you try to fight it. Sometimes it last for days if you really like the song. For me this use to get so bad I genuinely thought I was hearing it.

Okay so I was washing my hands and realized I said something outta pocket and shocked myself.

Let me start from the beginning: sometimes, I dissociate and have conversations with myself (maybe in my subconscious or something?) and so I’m not actually part of the conversation, I just hear the conversation in my head. But then I’ll catch myself saying something absolutely absurd and realize I was having a conversation with myself and have NO CLUE what the conversation was about. Does anyone else do this or is it just me? I asked my mom, who also has ADHD, and she said she’s never done that before.

I wasn’t diagnosed until I was an adult and still trying to figure out everything that is ADHD, so I have no clue if this is normal or I’m just weird? Lmfao.

I came to this realization this week as my boss, Mark, is out sick. Ive been in my current position for 3+ years now. And was originally really excited to do it. I was fresh out of uni, the job was right time right place kind of thing. Am I super underpaid with the work that I do? Absolutely. It's way below the standard rate in my area. But I genuinely enjoy it. And Im great at it.

And Ive noticed the last year or so that Mark has been spoiling my mood by just existing in the same room as me. He's the kind of person who will subconsciously create a problem so he can fix it and feel needed (imo). Everytime he talks or gives instructions, it irritates me and sometimes makes me irrationaly angry.

He has a lot of impossible expectations and has sometimes sabatoged our team so he can play the hero. He is also pretty unqualified for his position. He's only there bc of seniority, and bc of a weird agreement he has with the company (they pay for his housing and kids private schooling if he works for them)

I find him and my entire situation very irritating and frustrating.

The week he's been gone has been a dream. Huge project needed to be done? I co-led with my coworker and it went great. There's no additional stress. I'm actually enjoying my work and tasks again. Im not on edge that he might be around. Im not actively avoiding his presence bc hes not even here. I feel like I can breathe.

And the reason I posted here is bc 1. Im diagnosed and 2. I'm a firm believer in the saying "it takes one to know one" and my god he's a poster child for Classic ADHD. Someone Im close to mentioned that I might have a strong dislike for him bc I recognize the traits he has as my own. I did the work to navigate this diagnosis. And I feel like he's so oblivious to it. I have 0 idea what to do.

Well, I‘m only on my third day of this medication and yes - it helps me with the usual things, like initiating action, getting out of bed, concentrating. Overall life feels more silent.

BUT today I feel like I‘m always close to an angry outburst. I know these pills work activating in the body and on the nervous system and since I‘m also struggling with anxiety and depression, these effects might double my issues.

I‘m also tiltrating zoloft atm which I know increases anxiety and irritability in the beginning too. But actually I was hoping it would even out the problems I have with the stimulants.

Can anyone share their experience with anger/anxiety and stimulants? Could you work it out after a while? Is this just early side effects that will vanish? I‘m kinda desperate cause I feel I could really use the help of Medikinet.

Does anyone else experience the phenomenon where you feel unable to do something that you want to do if someone else around you does it first, or appears to be better or more committed than you? Even when there's absolutely no competition or reason for you not to also do the thing?

A few examples...

My spouse and I have a lot of the same interests, which is really nice, and most of the time I'm happy and awed to have a talented partner who can do so many things that I also enjoy doing. We both write fiction for example. But sometimes I struggle to write and latch onto the idea that there's no point since my spouse is better and able to do it more often. Similarly, we started going to the gym at the time, I fell off because of a shoulder injury and now I'm struggling to get back to it because even when we were both going, they had the executive function to go more often than I did and I compare myself.

Outside of my marriage it still happens. I wanted to start giving singing lessons - not for income, so no real stakes at play - but then someone I'm acquainted with said she was going to do that so now I feel like I can't do it, even though I know that she wouldn't mind.

Is it a form of demand avoidance? I don't know. I really want to work on it.

I finding it really difficult to rest properly because I can’t sit still. I can’t sit and relax and switch off. When I watch a tv show or film I have pause it so many times as I get distracted or I have to rewind the same sections over and over again. My shoulders are tight and twitchy and I can’t relax them. I can never get comfortable, I pick up my phone and scroll as nothing engages my attention.Help! What can I do to help able to actually relax.

20 m here I don't know if i overused the word disabled but I am having really hard time making my family understand that I am going to be like this for my life time, I am going to struggle with basic routines, I am gonna be forgetful, i gonna have sleep problems and some other problems and I can't do anything about it and I will need meds probably for my life time to function like a normal person my family understand that I have adhd but they think it's curable like depression , According to them all I need to do is put some will power and woof my adhd will be gone , they are paying for my medicine bills thinking that i am causing this problems to myself by not having enough will power that's make me really sad I want them to understand that i am really sorry for bieng such a failure but I don't have control over my brain I can't make it work like a normal brain even if I want to