r/whatdoIdo • u/McMohannad • 4h ago

EX texted 6 months after breakup

My ex broke up with me 6 months ago. It was a blindsided breakup and less than one week after the breakup, she put a guy's picture on one of her Spotify's albums (my fault for checking i know. I blocked her instantly after that). I travelled abroad to complete my studies two years ago so our relationship was mostly long-distance.

During our last call, she said "maybe when you come back home we can meet up". A week ago, she texted to ask me whether I was back home or not and I told her no because I decided to spend more time in the country im in right now (I did not tell her during our call that im staying because i had not decided yet). I then told her to throw away my gifts to which she replied with "I am not asking if you're back to give you back the gifts" I then replied "ok. Thank you for asking" and it ended there.

Our initial plan when we were still in the relationship was for me to head back home in May, talk to her parents and get engaged.

I know that there is a lot of missing pieces in the story, but overall, what do I do especially that I am still hurting from what happened, but at the same time, i want some closure, I want to give her a chance to apologize (although I know she does not owe me one. It's her life and her choices, but it would just make me feel more at ease with myself)?

I want to text her but I instantly deleted our chat after she saw my message and didn't reply.

TL;DR:

Ex texted back 6 months after breakup. I replied coldly. She left me on seen and I have been thinking about it since then.

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u/RetroCola 4h ago

Text her back if its that deep brobro most of the times getting back w an ex doesnt work out tho

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u/I_went_full_regard_ 4h ago

Already had a new guy one week later? I guarantee that was lined up while you were together

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u/AtlJazzy2024 3h ago

Right! And she's texting now because that new relationship must not have worked out.

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u/BlackGalaxyDiamond 3h ago

Sounds like it didn’t work out with the new guy and she’s using you to self-soothe. Sorry :(

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u/Exotic_Courage4054 3h ago

I mean dude i would text her and see if she is still down for a phone call and if she is then you can air out whatever you feel, who knows, maybe she has things to say herself.

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u/Chrono_Convoy 4h ago

If she dropped you that easily once

What’s to stop a repeat?

Forget about it. You are already healing

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u/clownmonkeys 4h ago

Would she do it again?

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u/Sand_Man_FR 3h ago

When a ex say maybe = its a negation a I don’t.

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u/Championship682 3h ago

You want normal things. But given what she did, you are not going to get what you want - you will just make yourself feel worse.

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u/rocketmn69_ 3h ago

Ask her if she dumped the guy she was cheating on you with

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u/Silent_Usual4157 3h ago

The worst that can happen if you call her is closure.

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u/McMohannad 3h ago

What if she keeps bragging about her new life and her new relationship? What if she says stuff that hurt but are true like "I don't need you anymore" or "im living the best version of myself and my life without you"?

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u/Enough_Pepper8880 2h ago

lol you broke up with someone because she put some dudes picture on a Spotify album?