My boyfriend and I were incredibly stumped this morning when we looked down and saw a huge puddle under me after sex. There have definitely been small wet patches before, but this thing was next level. It was basically the size of my torso.

For context, I have never experienced squirting (at least I think so), even when deliberately trying to. The only thing I can think of are some moments during sex when it gets very, very wet down there. Not the usual kind that is slimy and slippery, but wet like water. It'd sometimes cause friction. None of these times come close to what happened.

We went at it in the morning before I had used the restroom or anything, so yeah, my bladder was a bit full, but I genuinely don't feel like I urinated? Everything felt a lot more intense than usual and at some point I could feel/hear liquid gushing in bursts every time he would push in. It was coming out without my knowledge or intention. If anything, I swear I was clenching quite a bit because of how intense everything felt. People always advise to "let go" when you feel like you're about to pee. I did not let go!!! I didn't feel like I needed to pee!!!

At first I thought I did, he thought so too, but there was no odor. With the amount of liquid there was, surely we'd smell urine, right?? There was only a slight scent of blood, but that's because my birth control causes irregular spotting. Afterwards I went to use the restroom and was able to pee normally. Did I squirt??? If so, will it continue happening in the future? I read somewhere that once you "unlock" squirting, it'll keep happening. Not sure how I'd feel about soaked sheets every time we have sex. This is kind of driving me nuts—I've been thinking about it all day because I've always lowkey thought squirting wasn't real lol.

I was only 12 when I started being active. I (20F) suffer from low self esteem and I think one of the reasons was because I started too young. I wasn’t abused though. it was consensual with guys my age. But somehow it still affected my mental health and my romantic relationships. I never had a relationship with a guy last longer than 2 months.

The last girl that I was hooking up with told me nobody makes her cum and as many times as i do. But how do I tell if she's telling the truth? We have 2-3 rounds of 15 mins durations.

She says "Oh Fuck" every time I first pentrate her. Her eyes roll to the back of her head. Her body tenses up, her pussy gets super super tight and she practically pushes me out, then her body relaxes and shes out of breath. I have to stick it back in and it's so so tight that I struggle to put it back in. And there's a good amount of white creamy substance that's not mine on my dick every time we're done.

Does anyone know if any of those things I've listed not possible to fake? Is she really having true orgasms?

Hi Guys...my (M) friend's girlfriend wants to have a threesome with me and him. Apparently it's one of her long time fantasies to be with 2 guys. And he kinda agreed to this because she said I can be the second partner. The concern that we have is how to go about it so that:

1. We can please her and fulfill her fantasy

2. Go about it so that both of us can enjoy as well.

The main concern is what if one of us cums inside ( she said she wants us to go raw) during their turn and the other guy has to swap for his turn. She wants us both to take turns as well. The main issue is that we probably might be a bit high as well so won't have enough control to not cum inside.

This is the first time that either of us are gonna do a MFM threesome so need advice on how to do it properly.

Also, even though we are confident in our sexuality, we would appreciate tips on how to go about it so that there's minimal to 0 contact between us guys ( ya I know the best way to do that is to NOT be in a threesome, but come on guys...any tips at all pls)

Hi! i’m 20(f) and i have a partner of 3 years (20m) and i can’t cum at ALL, not just with him (he’s not the issue our sex life is great) but also with myself i have literally never cum once in my life. i’ve tried multiple vibrators and even have a rose toy but nothing does it for me, i’ll get it where it feels something something is building up but then i IMMEDIATELY have to stop because i get rlly overwhelmed to the point it starts to feel like torture and if im using like a rose toy i have to basically throw it off myself
i want to be able to so badly i feel like im missing out on a crucial part of being a woman because of my sensory issues and it just fucking sucks i went to be able to make myself cum and cum with my partner without getting overwhelmed.
i think it’s worth while noting aswell that i don’t like touching myself unless it’s with my partner, ill use a vibrator alone but honestly even if i try to ginger myself i don’t feel anything mostly cause his fingers are so much bigger than mine that mine are nothing in comparison, and touching my clit just feels too clinical
girls PLEASE help me😭🙏

I need men to chime in and tell me if you’d think it’d be hot to get a short clip of your wife playing with herself as a tease? It’s in very low light and quick - Kind of being sent as a “do you miss this” kind of thing as we’re going through something and haven’t seen each other in two weeks. Or if he’ll get the “Ick”or be indifferent to it.

Edit: thanks everyone I will probably just do it and see how it goes :) our “hard time” is we’ve just been fighting a lot and now he will be gone for work for close to a month. It’s more of a can’t wait to reconnect with you I hope you miss this as much as I do type thing - not mean to be sent to be mean.

Okay so for reference, we have been together for about 4ish years, but we often don’t see each other anymore due to being busy with the last years of our schooling. We try to have nice nights over call doing stuff (non-sexual as well). But it’s obviously somewhat difficult to be intimate in that way from far away. Anyways, the toys I have a lovenese gush 2 motion and a SVAKOM Jordan. She has both a Nora and a wand like thing I can’t remember the name of. Ultimately, I would like to find a stroker or fleshlight mix of sorts (must be app controllable) I have looked at both the max 2 and solace pro due to really liking the lovenese app and capability for long distance etc. However, I need something discreet as I have heard they are both rather loud. Have 2 roomates so that wouldn’t be too great for nights when well we attempt to “stay” quiet. I thought about the dynamo ring they have but I really want a stroker that on my own or she can control. If anyone has ideas outside of the lovenese brand that still wouldn’t be too difficult to use between another app or smt I’m open to that as well. It would be great to just let her control it from far away and feel good without having to do much control. Preferably it has stroking and vibrations (love the effect of them) which is my one issue with the solace pro. I really like the idea of at some point having more than one toy that can be controlled simultaneously as the other. Would be great to hear some thoughts on it.

we both have very strict parents and cant go to each others house, so we resort to having sex on dates we are both 18+ But tracked so we cant go to hotels either :(

I’ve never done anything like that before and I have no idea what I would be doing and I would really reaally appreciate some advice on what I’m supposed to do or any techniques or soemthung I can use to make her cum or just feel more pleasured while I’m eating her. Literally ANY advice would help me.

The “put a pillow under her during missionary “ made it feel a lot better for me and she enjoys it too. I saw it around social media and gave it a try and now I am wondering what other easy to do/memorable tricks there are to try

Hi i'm a 20 year old male (sorry if I use bad english its not my first lamguage) and my girlfriend is 19 years old, we are both virgin without experience, well I had some experience in the past but I'm pretty sure I wasn't that good, I know that she has no experience and that she doesn't touch herself, and she's not very comfortable with the whole sex world, I want to start with foreplay to avoid jumping straight into sex so that she gets more comfortable, but without having real experience I dont want to mess things up.

I dont expect to be perfect obviously but i dont want to do just random things, but with her not knowing what she likes how can we explore that together?

I was thinking about eating her (hope its an appriopriate term) but i want to do it the right way so if you have any advice it would be really helpful.

I never fingered a girl and I dont know how to do it, I've ate vagina in the past but I know it wasn't really that good so any help will be appreciated

I’m a bi girl married to a woman. Once in awhile, I’d go to a swingers club to have opportunities to play with men (obv with her blessing).

I’ve come to realize I’m pretty bad at blowjobs. It’s a combination of the gag reflex and the taste of precum, which just makes my gag reflex worse.

And the thing is, I really want to get better. The idea of being good at it and making my play partners really enjoy it seems incredibly hot. So I don’t think it’s a lack of enthusiasm. It’s just my body doesn’t want to cooperate.

As someone who doesn’t have a real partner to practice on regularly, any ideas? Any aids that can help with the taste?

Title: Tips for making girls finish? Looking to improve
I’ve been in two relationships (one a little over a year, the other a couple of months), had around four one-night stands, and one situationship.
I’d say I’m pretty good at getting girls interested, foreplay, hand placement, flirting, and talking during sex without saying corny shit , make every girl I’m with feel comfortable . My issue is specifically getting them to actually finish.
The only girl I’ve successfully made finish was my longer-term ex. We were comfortable with each other and communicated well. Mostly, it was through oral while using my fingers at the same time. I found that teasing around the clit for a while before focusing on it worked best, then licking up and down over it w tip of tongue faster. Penetration worked a few times, too. I remember one time in missionary when it took a LONG time, and I was sweating like crazy by the end lol.
With my situationship, there was one particular time when she said she was about to cum. She doesn’t just say that every time, so I took it as a genuine sign that she was getting close. We were doing missionary, and I felt like I was hitting the right spot while also being able to last longer than usual. Interestingly, this was during a period when I was running regularly. I felt like I had more stamina and wasn’t getting that overwhelming urge to cum as quickly as I normally do. Usually, I feel that urge to some degree almost as soon as penetration starts. Unfortunately, we had to stop for unrelated reasons before finding out what would have happened.
For context, I’m around 5.5–6 inches fully hard. Most girls have seemed to enjoy themselves and told me it feels good, but I haven’t managed to make anyone else finish. Had another gf for a couple months ; she said it felt amazing , sure it did but never came . With her I never felt like I got extremely close , this one would was also the only that barley moaned but she said it was bc she thinks it’s embarrassing; she wasn’t absolutely silent either . TBH me for me I think it’s mostly to due w me cumming before I have that urge to keep going for long periods of time at a pretty fast pace. Like once I start to go fast, and give “deep” penetration , I already feel like I’m gonna cum. And for rounds , I can usually get a 2nd round in, where I’ve had luck before. But usually needs a break that killls the vibe or can’t get as hard (semi hard)
I hear some people on Reddit say making a girl orgasm is surprisingly difficult or rare, while other guys I know say they can do it pretty much every time. Even people smaller than me..I’m trying to figure out what I might be missing and genuinely improve.
Could I simply not be hitting the right spot or going deep enough during penetration? Is it more about clitoral stimulation, rhythm, duration, or learning each girl’s preferences? Stamina?
Welcoming any advice , tips , personal experience ….

I recently broke up with my gf and it was the best sex that any of us ever had. She said I'm the biggest and best she's ever had. I love watching her eyes roll go the back of her head and her moans while she cums multiple times each session. She loves sucking me and it's the best head I've ever had. She loves sucking her juices off my cock after I pull it out her pussy.

She has an IUD and let me cum in her pussy whenever I wanted. It was the best thing ever. Now that we're not together I'm worried I won't ever find sexual chemistry of that level ever again.

What if nobody else ever loves my cock and orgasms for me again? What if I feel like I'm settling and never find great sex again? Has anyone ever worried about this?

I'm a 22M and my partner 22F. Today she asked me what i thought about going to a swinger club. We've been 5 years together and we are both bisexual.

We tried a polycouple situation for about a year 2 years ago but it didn't worked well with the third person. We've tried different experiences since then... last year we had sex with another couple, friends of ours.

My partner has more sexual experience than me since she started her sexual life first. I've only been with two woman, her and our friend and it only happened once.

After a few experiences we decides we were full into monogamy. But it seems like both of us think about other people too. We love each other and we communicate really well... we both agree we don't want to have a sexual life apart from each other, so...

Should we give a swinger club a try? I'm kinda worried we will be youngest there or that the place could be creepy/dangerous, it shouldn't be, but i can't be sure, right?

If yes, why? If no, we should try something different instead or what do you think?

F18. I have started my sexual life quite early, but never noticed this problem before. Me and my boyfriend are together for more than 6 months now and I noticed that during sex I may leak urine and not even notice it. This usually happens 30-40 mins after we start and may happen several times. The amounts are not large, but still noticable. I have tried not to drink any water before sex and go to toilet in advance, but this doesn’t always help. I have also been doing kegels for couple of months, but also no results. Are there any other techniques to prevent this thing from happenin?

Hey peeps of reddit , just had a quick question me 26M just wanted to know on average what's the common/regular amount of time to go down on someone? Like the least amount where its not too little but not too much if that makes sense? Thank you.

Been married over 10 years to a good man. We have kids and a great life and relationship. But our sex life sucks, at least to me. He is having problems getting or keeping erections and I’m very often not getting satisfied and sex just feels like we are checking a box. It’s making me not even want to try because I just get disappointed. There is no passion anymore. Toys just aren’t the same. I crave and long for that intimate connection and I don’t know what to do about it. Has anyone been through something similar? He got on testosterone and that helped a bit but he’s relying on gas station pills for us to have a good night in bed. I’ve offered healthy solutions to try like exercise or cutting out nicotine and such and he basically refuses to try to make any changes that may help. I feel like a horrible person for being so unhappy for something that’s not his fault but I don’t know what to do about it…

Me and my partner have been looking for somebody to watch us have sex. Male or female but we don’t know how to make it happen or how to ask someone to watch us .How can we make it happen ? We don’t have any swinger clubs or sex club near where we live and the most we have done close to it is have sex and be naked with our hotel curtains open on the highest floor with other taller buildings around us

This feels like the dumbest fucking post but... here goes.

I have this lifelong feeling of shame and self-loathing associated with everything to do with my body and my sexuality. I really think it would help to have a safe space to explore my sexuality and that would help me get over a lot of shit but I have no idea how to do that. Going to try and lay out all the relevant information in a cohesive structure.

• Relevant info: 20s, FTM, virgin. No experience of SA or CSA.
• I had a "boyfriend" in middle school, had my first kiss with a different boy in high school, had my first date with some girl on a dating app like a few years ago. That was my only partner, my only kiss, my only date. They weren't even all with the same person. Literally all the dating experience I have.
• I haven't had surgery or HRT at all. I don't really have top dysphoria but I do have hella bottom dysphoria - I am hardcore anti-penetration, fingers, tampons, etc literally anything in there feels like torture. I probably have vaginismus or something idk. For years I had such sensory issues with using the bathroom and showering because it made me feel so fucking disgusting, I have a history of wiping until I bleed because the vagina itself just feels so gross like it'll never get clean. Yes I'm in therapy lmao.
• So all that being said, I've been masturbating with my clit and hands alone since I was 12, but I've never had an orgasm. At this point I've sort of resigned myself to maybe just not being someone who has orgasms, I know people can still enjoy sex without orgasms and I'm trying to be okay with that. But that also might be catastrophizing because like, I've also never had sex or used sex toys so maybe I just need more than my hands, especially since like I said, no penetration.
• Also, I'm frankly a little grossed out by my own body, not just in a trans way. To be blunt I am not attractive as a man or a woman. I have accepted this as a morally neutral fact about me and MOST OF THE TIME I don't have negative feelings about it. Except when it comes to this, like... how do I put this... trying to feel like a sexual person, I guess? And on top of that, I'm pretty severely overweight and just can't lose the weight no matter what I do. I don't think it's just that because I do and have found other overweight people attractive, I guess it's just the combination of having an unattractive body + unattractive face that makes me feel uniquely un-sexual.

I really do feel like I'm just stunted in this area of my life and if I had the space and freedom to explore my sexuality and develop more comfortability with my body in a sexual context, it would do a hell of a lot for me in other areas of my life, too. Problem is, I live with my very close-knit family who is extremely paranoid about me in particular because I have an extensive history of mental illness and suicidality.

Example. I found a sex club in my area that seems really great. Lots of awesome reviews, the website seems super inclusive and welcoming, they make a point of saying that you don't even have to have sex if you go there, you can go just to learn basically. But if I wanted to go some place by myself at like 10pm-1am (bc that's when it's open) my family would be like. Uh. That's super suspicious. Why does it have to be so late & why do you have to go alone. Surely that's not a red flag or anything to be worried about...

And like, what am I gonna do? Tell them I'm going to a sex club? LMAO. No.

For similar reasons I don't really know how to purchase sex toys like a vibrator or whatever. I know you can order them online & I know there are companies that package them discreetly but there would be innocent, off-handed questions about "oh what's that" and I would have to answer those questions. And I'm not sure what answer I could give to make it not seem weird that I have to bring the package upstairs to my bedroom in order to open it and no one will be allowed to know what it is after.

I can't even buy porn games because I'm in a Steam Family account and a shared EA account and also, other people use my laptop sometimes and idk how to make sure no one sees what games I have downloaded on here. Like I don't think anyone would go snooping but how do I make sure they don't see it? I can't even download a freaking NSFW Sims 4 mod because my laptop is home to the family Sims file where each of us has a household that we play in the same town together. Like they will for sure see any mods downloaded here.

So in conclusion, what I'm asking for is any ideas, any at all, on how to engage with my sexuality on ANY level without needing to announce to my siblings that I'm going off to have sex with strangers or masturbate. God that sounds so fucking uncomfortable. If you have ideas about workarounds for any of the above issues, I would also appreciate that!

Thanks for reading all that if you made it all the way here lmao. Also I'm really sorry if this is the wrong place for this post!! It was a toss-up between this and the advice subreddit, but this feels waaay too NSFW/TMI for that place.

Hey! So we're both on antidepressants and we're both new to sex (we are each other's firsts) which could be a contributing factor. We're both very into each other however and in love.

I'll get into a lot of detail below, just so I can show what advice we've used and how we're doing things right now.

We still had a lot of fun, from what I could tell. There was lots of communication to do what felt best, questions like "higher or lower?" "Up and down or circles?" "Harder or lighter?" Things like that to make things feel as good as they could. He was very loud. It did sound and look genuine since it was accompanied by body reactions, like there was also times he couldn't stop spasming/shaking and his cock would twitch.

He is submissive. I tied him up to his request, used a vibrator at some points, dirty talked the way he likes it, we took turns topping, etc. Reverse cowgirl, cowgirl, missionary, doggystyle, but still nada. I scratched and spanked him (he likes a little pain) and though it made him more verbal, still nada. We were at it for hours.

He said he had an amazing time, it was very hot, it was great, etc. But I'm just a little insecure considering I didn't get him to cum.

He likes the area behind his balls massaged and sometimes likes his balls squeezed as I ride him. We haven't tried prostate play, which I heard can help men who have trouble releasing. He is interested in trying this someday when he's ready, but until then, is there anything else I could try?

When I was riding him, I made sure to ask which methods of moving felt best for him and moved that way until I got too tired. He had his eyes closed and couldn't be quiet, but a part of me wonders if I wasn't riding him right. I usually rolled my hips in different ways, it was more risky to go in and out too much because he kept slipping out. Sometimes I'd lean down and kiss him or suck his neck or nipples. He said it felt amazing and couldn't keep quiet

When he was on top with missionary we tried a lot of different thrusting methods. Sometimes he'd go in all the way and go out all the way(not as much trouble slipping out in this position), rotate his hips in small movements, try different angles etc. He said that he was close for a long while, but he couldn't quite get there. Dirty talking the way he likes helped a little.

We also put pillows underneath our butts to help the angle.

We had plenty of lube, but we didn't use anything like viagra. I was also able to get him hard quickly every time he got soft. We took turns between heating lube and oil.

He does say he likes me being spontaneous and surprising him. Maybe I'm not creative enough and I can't think of more ways to be spontaneous. Is there any more ways I could surprise him? I'll do things like kiss, scratch, target his sensitive spots, bite, VERY lightly choke (ask him the right pressure), spank, etc.

Tools I have

Belts, rope, heating lube, coconut oil, avocado oil, dildos(to get him hard after he got soft, I had him use one on me), rose toy(he LOVES the rose toy used on his tip and behind his balls), electric toothbrush, butt plug. He likes bdsm

In case this helps, his most sensitive spots, from what I've noticed: balls, cock tip, behind the balls, ass(playing around the rim, not inside), neck, nipple, tongue

I give him permission to feel me however he likes while we have sex. Sometimes I put his hand on my chest or ass to encourage him.

Also we don't use a condom. We don't need to, since we're both heavy introverts who don't get around and there's 10000% no risk of pregnancy. I have no doubts we're the only ones we're fucking, he's a shy person and it takes a lot getting him out of his shell. Same for me.

To keep it short and simple last night me and my girlfriend were having sex and she told me she was coming and then i felt a squeeze down there. This was my first time experiencing that and ive only been with 1 other girl never had that happen. Is that the feeling of making your girlfriend come?😂😂

Women. When doing fore play, how long does it take your partner to make you climax on average?

to keep it short and sweet, 2 years ago me and my current boyfriend (both 23FM) were having sex, and i was using a standard metal buttplug, one of the gem heart ones. we did doggy, missionary, standing, all that and everything was fine. when i was riding him, i felt like my plug was slipping out and i couldn’t feel it, so i reached behind me, felt the gem of the buttplug, and it felt like it wasn’t in far enough. so in the heat of the moment, i pushed it further in and then boom. couldn’t feel it anymore. it was gone but it didn’t come out, it went all the way in.

i immediately stopped us having sex, went into the bathroom, and reached wrist deep into my ass digging for the damn plug. my boyfriend offered to help get it out, but we had just freshly started dating and having sex so i would’ve rather killed myself. but, i got it out thank god, but i haven’t used one since, because now i have a fear that my ass will eat it again, even though the only reason that happened, was because i pushed it in. anyways, any advice on easing back into using buttplugs and getting over this trauma? thanks!!

Hello, so basically, my boyfriend and I just started becoming more intimate with one another. we are each others firsts so we're learning together. The issue is, he is selfless, which is nice. He tries hard to get me to orgasm, so no issues there.

the issue comes with the fact that he goes soft easy. Usually when hes doing something to me, he's soft, which I heard is normal. When I start touching him and giving him a handjob, he's hard but i havent been able to make him cum because it takes too long??? idk if im doing it wrong or what.

the main thing that got to me was I was giving him head for the first time, and for no reason, halfway through, he went soft. I was confused and he seemed to be as well, and he ended up just jerking himself off till he came. Is he not attracted to me?? Is it something with me because obviously he can cum, he did but when he did it himself. Idk if i was doing it wrong id never done it before, but even when we tried having sex for the first time, he went soft after putting the condom on and trying to enter. I don't understand, is it me or him????? does this mean its a sign he isnt into me or something? pleaase help and give tips if possible.

edit to add as well: hes almost always hard around me normally. Like if we're cuddling or anything or even just a small kiss, hes hard... its literally just when we do stuff