Title: Tips for making girls finish? Looking to improve
I’ve been in two relationships (one a little over a year, the other a couple of months), had around four one-night stands, and one situationship.
I’d say I’m pretty good at getting girls interested, foreplay, hand placement, flirting, and talking during sex without saying corny shit , make every girl I’m with feel comfortable . My issue is specifically getting them to actually finish.
The only girl I’ve successfully made finish was my longer-term ex. We were comfortable with each other and communicated well. Mostly, it was through oral while using my fingers at the same time. I found that teasing around the clit for a while before focusing on it worked best, then licking up and down over it w tip of tongue faster. Penetration worked a few times, too. I remember one time in missionary when it took a LONG time, and I was sweating like crazy by the end lol.
With my situationship, there was one particular time when she said she was about to cum. She doesn’t just say that every time, so I took it as a genuine sign that she was getting close. We were doing missionary, and I felt like I was hitting the right spot while also being able to last longer than usual. Interestingly, this was during a period when I was running regularly. I felt like I had more stamina and wasn’t getting that overwhelming urge to cum as quickly as I normally do. Usually, I feel that urge to some degree almost as soon as penetration starts. Unfortunately, we had to stop for unrelated reasons before finding out what would have happened.
For context, I’m around 5.5–6 inches fully hard. Most girls have seemed to enjoy themselves and told me it feels good, but I haven’t managed to make anyone else finish. Had another gf for a couple months ; she said it felt amazing , sure it did but never came . With her I never felt like I got extremely close , this one would was also the only that barley moaned but she said it was bc she thinks it’s embarrassing; she wasn’t absolutely silent either . TBH me for me I think it’s mostly to due w me cumming before I have that urge to keep going for long periods of time at a pretty fast pace. Like once I start to go fast, and give “deep” penetration , I already feel like I’m gonna cum. And for rounds , I can usually get a 2nd round in, where I’ve had luck before. But usually needs a break that killls the vibe or can’t get as hard (semi hard)
I hear some people on Reddit say making a girl orgasm is surprisingly difficult or rare, while other guys I know say they can do it pretty much every time. Even people smaller than me..I’m trying to figure out what I might be missing and genuinely improve.
Could I simply not be hitting the right spot or going deep enough during penetration? Is it more about clitoral stimulation, rhythm, duration, or learning each girl’s preferences? Stamina?
Welcoming any advice , tips , personal experience ….