As the title says I constantly feel like I want people around me to not feel bored, sad, upset or uncomfortable and this really consumes me and my only coping mechanism is that I distance myself from people as much as I could and I keep my circle limited to my immediate family.
What ways other than putting myself in a bubble that I can give a try to get over this issue.

Me and my roommate got rejected from the same bank at 2:13am last night. Same minute. I know because his phone buzzed on the arm of the couch and then mine buzzed on the coffee table like a second later and we both just looked at each other.

Context: we both had the superday last Thursday. Same analyst program, same group even, back to back time slots. He was 10am, i was 11:30. We prepped together for like three weeks. Mock interviews in the kitchen, him grilling me on walk me through a DCF while i'm trying to make pasta, the whole thing. Afterwards the HR coordinator told both of us "you'll hear back by end of week, we move fast." End of week came and went. Nothing. Monday nothing. I emailed her Tuesday and got an out of office saying she's no longer with the firm?? Like ok cool, who has my file then.

Then 2:13am. "After careful consideration we have decided to move forward with other candidates whose qualifications more closely align." Mine said Dear Candidate. His actually had his name in it, which honestly made me angrier than the rejection itself for a minute. Who is doing careful consideration at 2am. Nobody. It's a batch job somebody scheduled before they left for the weekend and forgot what timezone the server's in.

And the portal STILL says "In Review" for both of us. I checked this morning. Rejected via email, in review on the portal. Schrodinger's analyst.

Ok so that's the recruitinghell part, but here's the part i actually can't stop thinking about and kind of need to say somewhere where nobody knows me.

When i saw his phone light up and then mine, the first thing i felt was relief. Not because of the rejection obviously, that sucked, i've been at this since August. Relief that he didn't get it either. If he got it and i didn't i genuinely don't know how i would have kept living in this apartment. And he barely networked. I had a whole tracker going since early fall, analysts and associates i pulled off Recruiterbase, cold emailed probably 60 people at this bank and its competitors, got maybe 9 calls out of it, sat through every "so what made you interested in finance" coffee chat. He went to one info session and applied through the portal like a normal person. And we ended up in the exact same 2am email. Which is either really comforting or really depressing and i keep flipping between them.

But the relief thing. We were literally on the same team for three weeks. He helped me fix my story for why i switched from engineering. And the second it mattered i was rooting against him without even deciding to. I didn't say anything, we just sat there and he said "well that's fucking that" and went to bed and i sat on the couch for another hour refreshing the portal like it was going to change.

I think this process does something to you. When there's like 4 spots and 3000 applicants and nobody ever tells you WHY, you stop seeing other people as people and start seeing them as the reason you didn't get in. I hate that it got me. I'm not even a competitive person normally, i was the guy in group projects who did everyone's slides.

He's acting normal today. Made coffee, asked if i wanted some. I said yeah. I didn't tell him any of this and i'm not going to.

Is this just a me thing or does everyone in a shared recruiting cycle secretly feel this. And does anyone know if the "In Review" thing means literally anything at all or should i just stop opening the portal, because i've opened it like 6 times while typing this

Сейчас у меня в жизни очень много проблем с учебой, и каждый раз когда я вспоминаю про них у меня каждый раз появляются суицидальные мысли про то что если бы один шаг то все было бы лучше, с каждым разом этот вариант мне все больше симпатизирует. Мне кажется всем стало бы легче, но я не хочу этого делать, мне нравится жить и я понимаю что родители будут плакать

we have been dating for almost 4 years (a miracle!) and he recently got into medical school so he doesn’t have much time for me and i can’t really describe how much it’s affecting me. i’m also a really jealous person so seeing him just talk to another girl fuels me with jealous even if it’s just a simple conversation. he’s my only friend and my best friend and he knows how lonely and he never fails to reassure me he’s always here for me but the time spent together is starting to become less and less by the days and he knows how sad it makes me. he always makes time for me every single day but sometimes he goes hours without texting me regarding a simple update on what he’s doing (up to 8 hours) and i don’t know what to do. i’m a really anxious and paranoid person and he swore at times he’s too busy to even pick up his phone and he showed me his screentime to prove it. i’m slowly ruining my relationship with him and myself because of the way i am and to add onto it i can’t afford therapy so i’m in this alone. i’d just love any type of advice that could help me be better.

Is there anyone who’s a therapist or something? I’m not all that well with working or studying, but all my life I’ve been told my advice is good, I want to be a mental health therapist to help people, I just want a tiny office to myself so I can sit and work and help people who need it and have a good job I like, I’m aiming high but I’m young enough to where I can do it if I actually try. Honestly I just need help with college applications, advice on how to study, etc.

my brain is so fried from doomscrolling and video games and i have not done anything for the past several years except bedrot. i just cannot for the life of me be productive. it feels like i am literally being forced to cut off my arm. i want to so badly but just can't. i can't stick with anything that i want to learn, i can't finish anything, i can't sit down and work on anything for more than 10 minutes before going back to doomscroll or boot up a game. i've tried app blockers and uninstalling games but it never helps. i have 0 impulse control. my stupid monkey brain just wants to look at flashing colors on a screen 24/7!!!! im aware that i'm sabotaging myself and i just dont seem to care. do i need to be heavily medicated to fix this?? i think im doomed.

These days i am really depressed, feel anxiety, i overthink alot, sometimes i think i am losing my mental stability, what to do?

I tried finding any social groups or meetups about this but couldn't find one, what should i do?

Hey there, I'll try to keep it short.

I'm 16, I've dealt with mental health issues ever since I can remember (I'm undiagnosed). Having to grow up in an environment that didn't prioritize your well-being, especially as a child, it's hard NOT to have some kind of mental issue. Thats not my point, this past summer (late July, early August) I experienced such exponential growth and it changed the way I approached things, even my mental stability, amongst other things of course. Well, schools been in session for a while now and I've been experiencing some trials and errors, which is fine of course but.. you know before, I'd have probably fallen into this month long spiral of how much of a loser, failure, and idiot I was but thankfully I didn't, because those things don't trigger me anymore. Which is kind of why I feel so weird but grateful at the same time, like yay! growth.. but nay because now I don't really know how to hold myself somewhat accountable.

[example] I end up not doing an assignment because of (x), now I feel like shit... but me feeling like shit doesn't really motivate me to get it done... it just leaves me with the feeling of shittiness.

Obviously that example there isn't good, and experiencing it wasn't but I feel like now that I can't get angry at myself.. it's just easier for me to cruise through life with no sense of obligation to do better.

I've always had trouble with having goals, motivation, and a sense of purpose, I want more sure... but I don't know what I should be searching for... where do I go from this sense of calmness I have with myself?

I may sound like a horrible person but I feel like every time i get close with someone, I start hating them. For example : When im close with a friend for longer than a year or so, it’s as if my body switches into someone who fully hates on them. Everything they do irritates me. I know it’s wrong to feel like this as there is no excuse for me to randomly start hating on my own friends but I cannot help it. I try and NOT act upon my negative feelings but I cannot do this anymore. And no, this is not a personal thing between me and one of my friends - it’s everyone in my life.
I just want some tips and some guidance on how to stop my behaviour as i don’t want to live like this. I don’t want to seem as a hateful person.

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1. I'm engaged to a good, supportive woman. Initially, I struggled with physical attraction and felt uncertain about marrying her. I also have unresolved emotional attachments to people from my past, which may be affecting my feelings.

2. But I think that if I'd got the girl which I liked even then I wouldn't be happy. Because I noticed that whenever I get some feeling that I'm getting to marry someone I start noticing flaws. And finding other attractive

3. My fiance, I didn't get any attachments or feelings like butterflies by thinking about engagement or when I see her picture I don't get a special kind of feeling which I used to think that I'll have after engagement. I know she is beautiful but I can't find the kind of connection which I was expecting. She is beautiful no doubt

4. I used to compare my fiancée with other women and worry that I might regret marriage or miss out on other possibilities. I also enjoy noticing beautiful women.

5. I think there is a gap in my life that I wanted to like and then ask her out myself. I.e. knowing phase and dating phase.. without any pressure..

6. I've spent hours overthinking whether my feelings are genuine and whether I'm making the right decision. Family expectations have also made the situation stressful.

7. I don't know what to do. I'm also worried that if I left her then she will be in metal stress. Moreover, she is a gem and I think I can't find anyone good close to her

8. But I can't develop those feelings.

9. I'm afraid that these things will haunt me after marriage and I'll not be able give my full attention to her

10. But I think that even if I get married to the most beautiful woman even then I'll look for a better option. I know that these are wrong things but what should I do

11. I don't want to cheat on her.

12. She knows these things but is still willing to help me out with my problems. She is very generous.

13. Moreover, I overthink so much that sometimes I think of not marrying anyone so that no one's life gets destroyed by me

14. And sometimes I think that I overthink so much that I think that I can't survive in this world

I have this addiction of reading

It is VERY bad that it gets to the point that I forget I am a real person who needs food water and have ppl to talk to

The worst part is my moods feeling everything depends on characters of the books

If they get angry I am happy if they are sad I get sad

And I get irritated when I am pointed out abt this

I want reading to be part of my life not my whole personality

Would love some advices

Hi i am new to reddit and please be aware of my either bad grammar och spellings i am not a normal english speaker, let me start of by saying that i struggle with mental health so bad it has gotten me nothing but anger and sadness even confusion at some points. The mental health is 99 procent related to my school and anxiety, let me explain further basically my anxiety is so bad i can not enter a room with people where everyone stares or just has been talking, i feel so uncomfortable even with like just 2 people i feel so paranoid n i get these thoughts of if theyre judging me or thinking stuff about me which also then leads to me having a full blown panic attack and i just either get super sad or super angry or even sometimes both.
That all has led me to having parents that say they love me and care for my mental health and that they understand what i feel but they clearly dont since all they do is use everything i say against me, they have always been loving to me but now that i am 17 they pushing everything so much harder and making everything harder on me just because “you need school to continue in life” i get that but putting my mental stability down to force myself into school?
Ive gotten help but everything just goes in a circle and the help just keeps bouncing back to the start so i get these alarming worrys by others (mostly teachers). Ive explained multiple times to both my parents and the help that i am trying my hardest to succeed but i just fail, i told them everything in detail but its always the same “get help” and they blame it on me being at my pc or phone or just anything really that i am an inclosed cave. All my parents tell me is that they are gonna send me away to like a closed in help center thing, but ive told them i do not want help from anything other than the school since its about that nothing else, and going to other people makes me have s”ic”dal thoughts.

how do i genuinely get better in emotions, around people and just everything please.

I was coming off alcohol, nicotine, THC, Percocet and 4-8mg of Klonopin daily and microdosing removed most the withdrawal symptoms.

The more you know!

For a while now I’ve been trying to lose weight. I want something light and cheap because my family isn’t rich at all, I still want it healthy and nutritional since lm still growing and I want to be as tall as I can by puberty’s end, 2 meals a day is all I want, for morning to keep my full until dinner, I’ll even go to the gym, I’ve got a pss and what not, I want to lose a lot of weight to the point where people notice In weeks, and after that I’ll cleanly bulk, I need to stop smoking, it’s not good for someone my age, and fix my sleep schedule, I truly believe if I were skinnier I’d be happier because of how self conscious I already am if my body and weight, just please if anyone takes the time to help, give me name brands and exact measurements and how to cook it, 170 pounds (from all the weight gain from stress eating and anti depressants and such) and I’m a freshman. Mods don’t ban this haha. By Christmas I want to be skinny and happy, my dirty acne filled face makes me want to rip my own skin off, my hair? Too long and messy and my roots show, don’t like my bloated face or man boobs, I want to be amazing for the people I love, I want to be able to run without being out of breath, hell I’d even run 10 miles everyday if I had to, I want to be skinny so people would stop treating me so coldly, my friend went from 220+ down to 130 in a few months, I want to go from 170 to 110 if I have to, then bulk up and get to 170 lean throughout the years, I want confidence

I’ve made a post like this before somewhere i don’t know if it’s here or not, I am 17m, but porn just been degrading me, and my life, and everytime i relapse i just feel utter shit. I hate it, I honestly hate this, I hate how I am, I hate that im addicted to this garbage and I hate myself because I indulge myself in this. I’ve tried so many things to stop this, gym, busy myself, everything, but it just doesn’t work. I’ve had this problem since I was grade 6, which was when I was 12 or something and im in college first year, I know it’s disgusting but I’m trying to get rid of it, I honestly am, im trying my hardest. Is there any apps that can help me just block porn websites, and if I do get the urge to relapse what do I do? Please anyone can you help me end this god forsaken hell.

I am absolutely infuriated watching everyone else just getting better at any hobbies i have.

Im trying my absolute hardest to atleast not get REVOLTED by ALL of my drawings, then i look at art related discord servers for help, and EVERYONE just says "ohh just practice", "change your mindset", WHEN THAT DOESNT DO ANYTHING.

i look all over and nothing anyone says changes, they just tell me things i already know, and we get no where.

All my issues lie in the fact i cant stop comparing, i cant accept failure, i cant improve at anything, and if my mind doesnt think what i do is PERFECT, i have to give up.

I am SO CLOSE to giving up drawing all together, and just not having hobbies because im so bad at all of them, and everyone in existance can just practice and improve by saying "i can do anything!!!!!"

Im at the point where nothing makes me happy anymore, i dont have any friends, my hobbies make me hate myself, and everyone else just has it figured out, they can learn, they can practice, they can make friends, they can do anything just because they practiced and changed their mindset.

So throughout my life i have had phases where I wasn't in a good place, when I was 12 I moved from my home country away from everything and hated where I lived. I would skip school all the time and get into trouble and slowly lost contact with my friends (I speak to maybe two of them irregulary now). I picked up a smoking addiction and porn addiction at 14 and didnt stop moving until the end of my freshmen year.

I was depressed my friends were all losers with no ambition and I could only watch as my friends back home would go out, party and live the teenage life while I rotted abroad. Eventually I started to pick up purpose when I was invited to homecoming by one of my friends, and our hoco group eventually became a friend group. I had a small setback because the girl I took, I ended up liking didn't like me back so I ended up in the gym and gained 25lb from 125 to 150lb in 6 months I was super proud of myself. But I became really close with a girl and we became best friends and everything went to shit. I was rejected by her too and fell into deep depression. I became attached, I lost weight, I was failing some classes, and ruined some relationships with my friends and it lasted 6 months. Eventually I went on a trip of shrooms and connected with nature over the summer and felt alive again. life was great I got a job, got some money and re-strengthened my friendships and now me and that girl are chill again.

Coming into Junior year, I really wanted to do well Im currently taking 5 APs and trying to hit gym again, eat well, study for the act, and work 20 hours a week as a cook. Near the end of summer I was speaking to a girl and I really liked her, we ended up dating after only a month which now i regret. Our relationship became strained because our hangouts and conversations were limited and not enjoyable and I realized after, I didn't like her. We also had so much sex to makeup for the fact our hangouts sucked, I really tried to take her out and things but im so busy and she is socially awkard and doesn't have much going for her. So in fairness to her we broke up because I believe we shouldn't be sexual when my heart isn't in it and there' somewone out there that can treat her and give her the time she needs.

This was last week, this week im just lost. My best friends are all dating eachother so its hard to speak and hangout with them, I work so much, I sleep like shit, I picked up smoking again, I picked up porn again, and I lost all motivation for the gym and it doesn't help how Its hard for me to comprehend complex topics compared to my extremely, wealthy peers who came out the womb with $10 million while I grew up in council houses. I know what I have to do to get help, sleep better, put a food plan in place, study more effectively like get a tutor and all this bullshit. On top of this, I have 0 college fund and letting my single mother even help pay for a fraction for it would cripple her savings and slow down her not nearly enough retirement fund for years. And the amazing United States fucks the middle class completely for college, not poor enough to get aid, and not rich enough that daddy can pay it all for me, just the shitty inbetween. Im so fucking fed up of life and even my nature walks and fishing don't help me anymore im fucking done with everything, I'd never hurt myself/commit because I really wanna make it, its just so draining and hard and I don't event know what im doing in life anymore. Its all a miserable, unfair rat race.

Please any advice would help me.

Hello i shared in one of my dm my pic normal is that is gonna create for me later problems i feel that i fucked up i was dumb because i did it