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Hello, I’m 40, 6’5”, White, blue eyes, fully embracing the silver fox phase. Former athlete, now rocking a softer dad bod.

Recently had my long-term AP move away for a new job, so I’m looking for a new connection. Something ongoing, easy, and genuinely fun.

I’m focused on finding the right situation, not the right now thing. The vibe has to be right. Low pressure, high pleasure where chemistry is key.

I’ve been told my hands and mouth are “magic”.

Can be discreet, always respectful, and drama-free. I show up, communicate, and don’t play games.

If you’re local and this sounds like your vibe, send a message. Let’s chat, trade pics, and see if there’s something worth exploring.

(Women only, please be local)

Hi! Thanks so much for stopping by. I’m going to make this as painless as possible for both of us. Short sweet and to the point ...

Here’s the deal ~

Online Only and I'm in MST

MARRIAGE: Roommate situation. Missing the passion and emotional connection I crave.

LOOKING: I want all the feels, the fuzzies, butterflies, passion, and everything that goes with it. The good morning/good night, late night laughs, romance, the messages through out the day, and lots of smiles

HOW: I want to take our time to flirt, laugh, tease, to get lost in deep conversations, talk about our dreams and connect on a deep personal level. Allow a merger of our fantasies and desires that’s natural, not forced or rushed. We will know when the time is right.

ME: A natural flirt and hopeless romantic. I love being a dad to 4 amazing adults. I’m a business professional and computer geek. Work at keeping fit and active. Addicted to true crime and powered by ACHD & cold brew. Self proclaimed foodie, cook, and musician. A documentary nerd (especially true crime), and a hell of a lot of fun (I have references)

YOU: Confident + intellectual = sexy. You have an active lifestyle and keep healthy and fit. You love to laugh. Have a positive, don’t sweat the small stuff attitude. Hopefully have a thing for bald men 😏. You’re sarcastic and can dish back when needed. 35+ and lives in North America

When ready we switch apps so we can do voice notes and voice/video calls when we can find the time.

If you’re still here feel free to shoot me a short intro and what you liked about my post. Have some fun with it. I’m looking forward to meeting you.

~F**k Neil Degrasse Tyson

Hello I’m married and just looking for someone to chat with. Doesn’t have to be anything sexual or anything like that, but if it progresses to that then so be it. Just wanting to get to know someone and chat the day away. Tell me whatcha got planned for the day. What is the meaning of life? Could 100 men win against a gorilla? If you could have a super power what would it be? Who would win in a physical fight a grilled cheese or a hard shell taco? Is a hotdog a sandwich? Is cereal soup? Is water wet? Any Disney characters you have the hots for?Let’s discuss life’s mysteries

Who’s ready to be obsessed? But in a good way. Are you a SAHM, WFHM or mom who otherwise has time and who likes lots of communication? Like maybe an unreasonable amount? Good nights and good mornings without fail? Do you want to know someone and be known, seen like you haven’t been in a long time? Are you a flirt? Like anytime the opportunity arises? Like making eyes even if just for the thrill (I know I do)? Are you in a dead/dying bedroom and your libido is going unaddressed? Do you consider yourself a mom next door type? If so, I think I’m the guy for you~

A bit about me:

* Married (obviously), with kids in school. If you have kids in school it’s really gonna help us relate.

* 5’9” (I know height can matter), HWP. No tattoos or piercings. I have consistently received complements at the pic stage, so…got that going for me, but that won’t happen on reddit (I use Signal, so, the sooner we get there the better).

* As the intro notes, I like lots of communication. The naughty, sexy stuff will take care of itself once we know we genuinely get along and like each other. It’s the everyday connection, sharing, understanding that will make this special and make this last. That’s what I want. Something real. I’m not afraid of feels.

* I’ve done this a few times. I’ve reached the highest of highs and the depths of utter heartbreak. I know what I’m getting into and would like you to be sure that you do to.

* I like to laugh and make you laugh. I usually have a one liner or move/tv/literary quote waiting to go. I’m pop culture/meme fluent but I also do have knowledge/facts/memory before all things worth knowing we're only on internet socials...

Aside from the stuff in the intro, I’m looking for someone who is also HWP (I’m not a model and I don’t expect you to be one either). I’m in the US PST, so someone within the US. I haven’t had much luck with EST, so CST is usually my limit…If you’re at all in agreement with the current presidential administration, thanks but no. Please also be open to calls, video chats, pics, videos and voicemails, but that’ll be once we know we have something special, not right off the bat. Let’s make something special!

Touch~starved and looking for an AP to slip away with regularly to touch and tease.

I like to run around the Charles and I've been thinking a lot about having a toy nearby to stop and use on my runs. A cute thing I can just jog to whenever I'm out for a run, to tease and fill up a couple of times and be on my merry way. Something simple and exciting to keep me fit and give us both a dose of touch and sensuality

Along with that I want to make time for delightfully long edging sessions, where we tease and please each other silly. Maybe I'm just inside you while we do. Just keeping the other on edge, neither one of us releasing just yet, drawing out each other's enjoyment as long as we can, whenever we can.

I'm discreet, clean, respectful, and a touch silly, and very much just looking for good vibes. Otherwise, I'm fairly open to who you are - I love touching and teasing, and if you're in that boat we'll have a swell time. I'm tall, fit, hairy, and endowed. Can you match my energy?

6’2”, broad shoulders and hard tush, dark haired brown eyed gentleman who would love to lift you off your feet and into his arms.

prefer you be 30+ in age and fit. “\~”

I enjoy dancing, carousing, and laughter. Mature tastes, like hiking green pastures naked, experimental art, and bourbon cocktails.

Romantic on the outside, kinky on the inside, with an eye towards keeping things stimulating for both of us.

If you are intrigued, be in contact and we’ll see if we have enough in common to throw caution to the wind.

Pics for Pics and you have an awesome day. 😀

I’m not looking to turn anyone’s world upside down. I’m looking for someone who might make the ordinary parts of life a little more interesting.
You know that feeling when your phone lights up, you see a certain name, and suddenly whatever you were doing becomes a little less important? Yeah, I’d like to find that again.
I’m 41, married, and in Orange County. I’m laid-back, confident, a little sarcastic, and enjoy good conversation just as much as playful banter. I spend a lot of time around the ocean, appreciate a good sense of humor, and think attraction starts long before two people ever touch.
What am I looking for? Something casual, fun, discreet, and mutually exciting. Maybe it’s flirting and some occasional adventures. Maybe it develops into a genuine friendship with some very enjoyable benefits. I’m not trying to force anything into a particular box.
I do know that I’m interested in something beyond the usual vanilla routine. I appreciate curiosity, an open mind, a little boldness, and someone who’s comfortable communicating what they enjoy. Chemistry, mutual respect, and boundaries matter, but so does being willing to have a little fun.
I’m not looking to change my situation or yours. No unrealistic promises, no pressure, and no expectations beyond being upfront about what we’re both looking for.
Ideally, you’re reasonably local, enjoy a little flirting throughout the day, and are interested in seeing where the chemistry takes us.
If this sounds like your kind of trouble, tell me something about yourself that I wouldn’t learn from your typical dating profile.
Let’s see if we can give each other a reason to smile at our phones.~

Originally from London, now living in San Diego.

Married, *notabot, 6ft, shaved head, short beard, tattoos and try to keep myself in decent shape.

I’ve lived in São Paulo, love traveling and have a bad habit of booking flights before figuring out the rest. San Diego has made it pretty hard to leave though.

I’m pretty independent and have my own thing going on, but I’m definitely not looking for someone who just wants to text forever. I’d much rather grab a drink, flirt a little and see where the night goes.

I like good food, traveling, spontaneous plans, staying active and people who can actually hold a conversation. I’m also a big fan of nights that start with “just one drink” and somehow turn into something completely different.

As for you...

I like a woman who’s confident, feminine, playful and has a life of her own. Someone who knows what she wants, can give me sh!t without taking herself too seriously, and isn’t afraid to flirt.

Make me laugh, keep me on my toes and occasionally talk me into doing something I probably shouldn’t.

Chemistry is important. I like affection, physical closeness, good conversation and that feeling where neither of us is particularly interested in checking the time.

If you’re a little bit mischievous and think we’d get along, come say hi.

Worst case ~ we have a drink and a good story out of it.

I understand woman who post get hundreds of messages so I figured I'd try this route instead for once.

I am looking for ideally a long term connection, where we are friends and can talk about anything. Whether it be a shitty day at work or a vacation you are looking forward to. I want us to be online confidants who aren't afraid to share something and be judged about it. You can vent about your partner or even best friend and obviously... we aren't going to tell them! Hopefully we can have a playful and flirtatious sides of our conversations and make each other feel better about themselves!

I work from home most days but, full disclosure I spend a decent amount of time with my spouse on the weekends. So I can't always be the most talkative. Ideally we would be able to get on voice calls if timelines end up working down the line. Likewise, I understand you have a life and would never demand an instant response or you to drop everything from me. I am not trying to change our situations, I am looking to add on top of them. I am in Ontario Canada (EST)

I have a slight dad bod but I don't have kids. Totally fine if you have kids and if you want to talk about them as well. ~

I'll just cut to the chase by focusing more on why I'm here and what I'm looking for. Obviously I'm unhappy in my marriage and looking for something to make the days better and just have some happiness in my life. I'm not looking to change your situation just add to it and fill what's missing in my life. What I'm hoping to find is a complete online affair. I need to make that connection with someone and feel like I do have that partner. My life lately has left me to feel completely isolated and alone and not have anyone I can be myself with. I'm looking to develop trust and be there for each other. I'm looking for something deep and meaningful. Since I'm throwing caution to the wind, I'll add that I would also love for this to include a Dom/Sub or BDSM component as well. While not necessary, might as well put it out there and see what happens.

The woman I'm looking for is really looking for that same connection that I am. Just open to let this take whatever form it does. I'm open to all walks of life and get to know someone and get deep into that connection. I'm going to keep it simple. Please be serious about this and not trying to sell something. I want the feelings, the closeness, the trust. Someone who is the reason I am glad to look at my phone.

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I am a homebody and slightly introverted. I prefer small intimate gatherings as opposed to larger functions. I like to dress more casual, as I tend to be very laid-back and easy going. I enjoy watching baseball, and movies. I am always interested in learning new things and tend to find a topic and deep dive into it. I enjoy art and the occasional video games. Anything else I hope we can learn from each other in conversation.

My love language is physical touch: a warm embrace, a wandering caress, a gentle kiss. Ideally you'll be fluent in the same, and if you also crave the satisfying warmth of a slow burn then we'll likely be a good match. Let's set the stage by connecting through our shared interests and daily struggles, celebrating our personal victories and laughing about the things we can't change. Friends will more fully enjoy the benefits.

Me:

Married, white, 5'8", and neatly bearded with an "urban pirate" sort of vibe. Uncommonly kind, emotionally mature, well-educated, and nicely endowed. World-class cuddler and excellent listener. Enjoyer of biking and weightlifting, as well as literature, science, and philosophy. Devout practitioner of OPSEC and fully cognizant that our personal and professional responsibilities will often be our top priorities.

You:

Married, of any ethnicity, and local to Northern Colorado. Naturally full figured, and preferably rocking 15 or 20 extra pounds. Passionate about your career and hobbies while also appreciating the absurdities of life. Someone who possesses a quiet confidence that doesn't rely on external markers of status. Discreet and intent on maintaining consistent communication.

Say hi via chat or PM, along with a few sentences about yourself and what you're seeking!

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Attractive and fit married man, living a happy life here in Cincy. Just.. missing something. I’m guessing you are too. We’ve all ended up here for a reason, right?

Little about me: I've done this before. I’m a great communicator with a sense of humor who doesn’t take himself too seriously. I’m looking for a woman who appreciates passion, intelligence, and likes to talk just about anything.

I also take care of myself and am seeking a woman who does the same. We both know attraction matters, and if we have that spark we can make each other feel alive again.

Not interested in being your SD or your one night stand. But if you want an emotionally available, discreet guy who will make plans and pursue you, I’d love to chat.

Do we need to say 'the thing'?

Not interested in changing my situation or yours. If you feel the same way, together we can create an intimate and incredibly fun time getting to know and explore one another.

I'm not in a hurry. While I have the freedom and time to meet up, I'm only interested in doing this with the right person.

If this sounds like you, reach out and let's get to know each other.

~ Please be local!

I’m 40, a personal trainer, married, and 6ft4, which mostly means I spend half my life ducking through doorways and still hitting my head. My wife is a decent person and I’m not here to run her down. The attention at home just went quiet. I want something that’s actually mine for a bit. Easy conversation, a bit of heat, someone who notices when I show up and doesn’t treat that like a favor. \\\~\\\~
Looking for a woman in the same spot. Attached, discreet, not trying to blow anything up. If you still take care of yourself and feel a bit unseen at home, that’s who I want. The kind of neglect where you’re fine on paper and still going to bed wanting someone to actually look at you.
Chat, low drama. I’m better once we’re going back and forth. Training stuff, the stupid parts of being too tall for normal furniture, and whatever you’ve been holding back because nobody’s asked. If this lands, tell me the last time someone noticed you without you having to point it out. Don’t just say hey.

I keep finding myself in rooms where I technically belong, yet never quite fit. The house with the good school district. The social engagements. The career milestones that checked every box my younger self imagined. But somewhere between the mortgage and the meetings, I became a stranger in my own house. So here I am wandering the adulterous side of the internet looking for the one person who actually sees me.

Maybe you're drifting through your own well-appointed life, wondering how you became a guest in it. Maybe you're tired of performing contentment and want to finally feel something again.

I'm 48, 6'1", solid build (245), light brown/blue, apparently easy on the eyes. Because I'm an established, remote-first professional, I have autonomy over my day. Ample time for conversations and meetups. I roll with airtight OPSEC, and you should too.

Gen X music obsessive (the post title should make way more sense now lol), recovering musician, book hoarder, Detroit sports apologist, and a firm believer that Michigan fall is the only season worth having. I have kids, so I understand the architecture of compartmentalization. If you're navigating the same terrain, we already speak the same language so no over-explaining when family duty pulls us away.

Southeast Michigan. I'm looking for something that becomes real in the physical world, so proximity and some flexibility matter. But more than geography, I'm holding out for that rare mutual recognition, intellectual chemistry that sparks and physical attraction that lands.

Tell me what brought you here ~ and your favorite music video from back in the day.

Most, if not everyone that comes on here, does so for a reason. We are all missing something at home and we all have something specific that we want in our lives again. If we had those things at home, we wouldn’t be on here.

Saying that honesty is the best policy is kind of ironic to say while looking for an affair, but at the end of the day, it’s true. So, rather than trying to create a post that will not upset anyone or tell people what they want to hear, I am going to post exactly what I am looking for and hope for the best. After all, if we can’t say what we want on here, what is the point?

I am looking for an in person affair, with a woman either in NJ or within an hour and change of New Jersey. I 100% want a ”girlfriend” type situation out of this where there is a genuine connection to go with the physical attraction. I want to get to know you and I want you to be interested in me too.

Here is where the honesty part comes in to play. I am open to any age, any ethnicity, any race, etc. Those kind of things are irrelevant to me. However, I am interested specifically, only in smaller/thin/in shape/athletic women. Some women want a man with tattoos, dad bods, of certain races, hair types, etc. I find all kinds of women attractive, but in this instance, I’m most attracted to women with this body type.

Also, while I do want a connection with someone, a genuine connection, I do want someone that matches my energy. This is NOT just about sex. Not at all. But just like people in a marriage (which is what brings 95% of people on here), if someone is high libido and very open about that and the other person is the complete 180, it is not going to work. It’s not about saying this body type is bad and that is good. It’s about finding a match, on both sides, so that no one’s time is wasted and both sides can hopefully exactly what they are looking for jn a potential partner. With that being said, I am very in tune with my sexuality and I know exactly what I like and what I don’t. Please be the same way on your end.

~If you have read this far and are still interested, send me a chat!

N ew account but not new to reddit, 41, father of 3 and a husband of many years, id love to find one woman to find some common ground with, similar interests, not ghost after messaging for multiple days, or leave once we exchange photos if we get to that point, dont have time for games nor do I want to play any, im fine with a slow burn that can turn into something for us, create our space and be open with one another, no intents to change anyones situations just add alittle flame to it, with the possibility of meeting up irl someday, so somewhat local helps or willing to travel for each other, alittle interests of mine include, anything horror, true crime podcasts, music daily, i love fishing being outdoors, alittle drinking on weekends, and im also 420 friendly im a daily smoker, now for looks, im 5 10 170lbs, stretched ears, tattoos a clean lined beard and short hair, i also have telegram as well, hope to chat soon.~

The week starts again, life spins on, and you slip right back into your roles — partner, mother, professional, peace-keeper, planner. You do it well, maybe too well. You laugh at the right moments, fold the laundry on autopilot, pour coffee like muscle memory… but who pours into you?

Maybe you’ve caught yourself in the mirror and wondered when you stopped being looked at. When touches became routine instead of reverent. When your voice became something he hears, but doesn’t really listen to.
You still have that glow — you just haven’t had anyone reflect it back.

I want to be the person who notices.
The softness beneath your strength.
The way your mood shifts when you feel seen.
How your body responds to attention that actually means something.

I’m a tall, thoughtful married dad — grounded, affectionate, \\\*notabot, a little romantic in the quiet ways that count. I’m not chasing chaos or drama; I’m drawn to connection that feels like a warm hand around the heart. The kind of spark that isn’t loud — it’s steady, slow-burning, undeniable.

I want the voice notes you record under the covers when the house is finally still.
The messages that start playful and turn into something neither of us planned.
I want to talk until we forget the world exists — not because life is bad, but because we feel alive.

You don’t need rescuing.
You don’t need rebuilding.
You just deserve to be seen — every curve, every thought, every hidden fire.

Maybe you’ve been waiting for someone to notice you again.
Consider this me noticing.

If you’re craving connection that feels like warmth instead of noise, presence instead of duty ~ message me. Let’s see what happens when someone finally pays attention.

40 married with two teenage children. I’m 6’3 dad bod but working out. I’m 6’3 tattoos and a short beard. I love anything outdoors. Going for a long hike, a good bike ride or anywhere near water. I love to hunt and fish.

Looking for someone that wants to build a connection. Someone that can be spontaneous and have some fun. Looking for someone that might push me a little and give me the motivation to work out lol.

Wanting to have fun and sometimes flirty conversations. This is supposed to be \~ an addition to life. Stress free and just fun.

I’m an early riser in the EST. Would love a fellow early riser but not mandatory lol

I’m looking for a thoughtful, ongoing connection built on trust, consistency and discretion

About me:

I’m 28 based in Edmonton, with sharp wit, a good sense of humor and strong emotional intelligence. I have striking eyes, sleek hair and a naturally confident presence. I tend to take the lead in both life and relationships, and I’m drawn to dynamics built on trust, patience and mutual understanding

What I’m looking for:

A man who knows what he wants and appreciates the comfort of letting someone else take the lead. Maybe you're looking for something discreet, a little escape from everyday life or simply a connection where you feel understood. I want someone who knows how to listen, engage and show up consistently. There's no rush, but I know what I want.

If you're drawn to a confident woman who values depth, discretion and consistency, feel free to message me

"~"

47M | 5’9” | 150 | East Asian | Seattle

Married with kids. The usual fine print applies: discreet, no drama, and not trying to detonate anyone’s life. I’m looking for the woman who’s already figured out that “stable” and “restless” can coexist, and who’d rather have ongoing chemistry than another forgettable arrangement.

I’m sarcastic (the playful banter kind), low-drama, and generally easier to talk to than most of the posts in here. I like banter that actually goes somewhere, inside jokes that take a few messages to stick, and the occasional conversation that makes you forget you’re supposed to be careful. Bonus points if you can match energy without turning it into a novel or a therapy session.

You: smart, a little restless, tired of surface-level everything, and past the phase where this feels like a big dramatic leap. Dry humor is a plus. So is the ability to hold a conversation that isn’t just “what are you looking for?” Physical attraction matters, but the real test is whether we can actually talk without it feeling like work.

If that sounds like you and the vibe shows up, say hi. If it doesn’t, no hard feelings—and may the algorithm eventually deliver you someone less wordy than me.

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I’m looking for a woman who knows her sexuality well, doesn’t try to hide it and has a self driven desire to continue exploring. The naughtier, the better. You don’t need to have a reason for seeking out other men to fulfil your needs. Wanting more sex, with different people is a good enough reason for me.

My view of satisfaction and my sexuality are broad, and not limited to the fantasies and kinks I want to explore. Ideally, you would have your own fantasies and ideas to explore as well. I would consider myself flexible in the role I play, I naturally lean towards my dominant side, but also enjoy something more submissive or I could switch your mind off and take control on how I like to be pleased, or I could be laid back, and give you full access to my body for your own pleasure.

I am tall with a masculine appearance and athletic body. I take pride in looking after myself and most women would find me attractive. I'd describe myself as confident but grounded, with a healthy balance of modesty. I'm physically active, enjoy the outdoors, and love exploring new places. While physical attraction is important, I appreciate honesty, directness, and a sense of self-awareness. All I ask is that you take care of yourself, embrace who you are, and are able to communicate openly ~

Hi~! I'm 42, married 12 years, no kids. My wife and I had a solid sex life in the beginning, but it completely fizzled out.

The loneliness and resentment have become unbearable. I spend way too much time daydreaming about being desired again, about real passion, about feeling wanted by someone who actually wants me back. About giving pleasure and being kinky. I like to think that I'm still relatively young, I have a stable career, and I know I'm capable of being an attentive and generous partner.

I'm ready to find someone who would like to fill the void in each other's lives.

Whether you're in a similar situation or not, feel free to DM me. I'm looking for a long term, ongoing online discreet connection that could potentially become in-person if things click.

I'm open to exchanging voice notes and voice calling eventually. Not looking for judgment, just putting this out there for the right person who might be reading.

40M married attractive Asian guy. Things are good but the passion, the physical connection isn’t there and I don’t want to spend life just going through the motions.

Looking for someone local who wants an ongoing, meaningful connection that feels real, even if it has its limits. Someone who enjoys staying in touch when we can but understands we both have full lives.

If you’re also missing that fire and ready to bring it back, let’s talk. Life’s too short to settle for less.
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