I’ve been working as a family assistant/nanny for the same family for approximately 18 months, and recently I made two serious mistakes.
I missed two scheduled pickups within a month, and the children were picked up approximately 40–45 minutes late each time.
I fully understand how unacceptable this is. The children’s safety and the parents’ trust are my responsibility, and I feel terrible that I let them down twice.
After the first incident, I put an action plan in place, including calendar reminders and alarms. Unfortunately, I made another mistake when I failed to properly review the weekly schedule.
I’ve since proposed additional safeguards, including reviewing the schedule daily, confirming responsibilities with the parents at the beginning of each week, and using multiple reminders.
My employers are understandably upset, and we’re meeting to discuss what happened.

I’ve always taken pride in being dependable, so these mistakes have really affected my confidence. I feel embarrassed, disappointed in myself, and worried that I’ve permanently damaged their trust.
I’m not posting to make excuses or minimize what
happened. I genuinely want to learn from this.

For nannies: Have you ever made a serious mistake at work? How did you recover professionally?
For nanny employers: Would two missed pickups be grounds for termination, even after a long working relationship? What, if anything, would help you rebuild trust?

Yes I have crazy things going on in my life now, moving, a medical issue and school but this is not the family’s problem.

Really need to chat with my fellow nannies right now. I’m sure that this has not happened to many people but I would really just love any advice about this so I am putting myself on full blast here. So last night I went bar hopping with a few friends. I’m off work today so it was like my Friday night, and we all got pretty drunk. I got that warm and fuzzy feeling like I want to text everyone in my phone how much I love them. MB and DB and I have a group chat and I sent a long-ish text basically word vomiting about how much I love their family and how happy I am to be their nanny and a lot of other mushy embarrassing things. Reading the message back it was clear I was inebriated. They both hearted the message but didn’t say anything else. If that wasn’t embarrassing enough I also sent a pic of myself to the group chat, nothing too racy or anything but it definitely wasn’t professional either.

I’m dying from embarrassment of course. This was the first night out I’ve had all year, I’m typically not a big drinker but I obviously went too hard this time, I’ve had a very rough few months :/ I have to see them on Monday and I feel like I’ve ruined everything. I‘m thinking I should send a follow up text apologizing and clearing the air right? Should I just wait till monday to bring it up? No idea what I’d even say. Please help 😅

TMI!! But my menstrual cycles can get pretty irregular. Sometimes I barely notice they’re there, and sometimes I wanna crawl into a hole and this is one of those times. Today I am exhausted beyond belief. Me and NK have been out of the house every single day this week and I want nothing to do with that today. We’ve already watched one movie and now we’re just watching shows and I feel like such a bad nanny right now, I don’t feel like having a conversation, and thank goodness they are two so they can’t really hold a conversation anyway, I don’t want to get up and dance or sing, I don’t want to do anything. Trust me any other day I am the most hyped up, active, awesome nanny but my gosh I just wanna sit and do nothing today. Obviously they will be fed, safe, and cared for but other than that I don’t feel like being a human being today. Can anyone relate or do I just suck ?

Example, we have to take the dogs out to relieve themselves. Or, baby sibling is awake from their nap and I need to get them from their crib. Or toddler has to wash hands after coming home from school. Toddler (almost 3) screams "no!"

I use all the gentle parenting responses and sometimes they work, other times they get just a louder "NO!".

I'm just looking for every option to try on a particularly opinionated child 😁 so, what do you say when toddler says no to things when no isn't an option?

Thank you!

HI so i’m writing this post because I have been deep in the job hunt search for a few months now, and it’s beginning to weigh on me. I do have another job, but after my long-term family moved to California, I haven’t been able to find a family since… I live in Charlotte, North Carolina. I am a young 26-year-old young black woman with a bachelor’s degree and some grad school, all in health sciences and biology. CPR certified also SIDs. I’ve been nannying for about seven years now, and my family is in the business of childcare actually.
My whole life has been about childcare. So it was no surprise that I ended up in nannying lol

In a city like Charlotte, which is a huge financial hub/district, you would think that it would be super easy to find several parents that need help, especially from someone as qualified as myself. In this city A normal rate is about 23 to 30. I charge 25 for one child. Then 30 and so on. I think that’s pretty fair, especially in this economy.

I’m wondering and trying to understand why it’s so hard to find a job here in Charlotte, and if some of you guys are getting hired or finding jobs, where are you finding them? I have been all over the place. Sittercity is my best friend as of right now. It’s the only place where I can find jobs and for free, i’ve tried Facebook, but honestly, at least here in my city, to be frankly honest, at least on Facebook, that is , all of the parents want their front runners to be blond or brunette, white girl… I’m pretty much haven’t gotten any luck on Facebook, maybe two responses, and I had been trying on there for months. My résumé is perfect. I’ve had several people look at it.

I just don’t get it. If any of you could help me out, I’d greatly appreciate it. Thanks! 🙏🏾🧑‍🧒‍🧒

I have one family that I regularly nanny for at 25 an hour and another family I do occasional babysitting for also at 25 an hour. They have a day coming up where they would like to have me watch all four kids while they all go out together. Both families have two children an older toddler and a baby. I do not want to charge them a full double rate because I believe that part of what they are paying me for is just to be there and be available like I don't charge per child generally I charge $20 an hour for one child and $25 an hour for two children. I was thinking of charging them 40 an hour for the combined day does that seem fair? I have a tendency to negotiate myself down from the very beginning so I want to make sure that's not what I'm doing. Thanks for any help!

Hi everyone! I’m getting really frustrated and need to rant a little, but I’d also love some advice. Both nannie’s and parents feel free to chime in.
I’ve been nannying professionally for four years and have had some genuinely wonderful families. I started looking for a new position in August so I’d have time to transition, and somehow nothing is working out.
I accepted one job, only for the family to cancel the day before I was supposed to start, after I’d already turned down other offers. 🙃 I then found another family I was really excited about and trialed with them for a few days, but they ultimately felt they had a better connection with another nanny. Totally understandable, and they were actually very respectful about it and even offered to pay me for the following week. They also recommended me to their neighbor, who was looking for a nanny.
I interviewed with the neighbor, and we agreed on a rate a little below what I usually charge. During the trial, she said she’d show me the baby’s routine, but as soon as I arrived, she handed me her 4 month old and left for a call. I didn't see her for two hours. I had no idea what his usual feeding or sleep schedule was, but thankfully everything went well! Baby was happy, I got him down for a nap, and I even helped with household tasks.
At the end of the day, I asked about scheduling more days, and she was pretty vague. She later texted that we’d figure out hours for the next couple of weeks, only for me to see her posting on Facebook looking for a nanny. 🤨 Frustrating and felt like i was wasting my time waiting to hear about hours. I understand I won't be the right fit for every family, but why leave me hanging instead of just communicating that?
Now I'm starting to question myself because this seems to keep happening. I know I can be awkward and nervous during interviews and trials, and it takes me a little time to get comfortable in a new environment. But I also feel like some parents expect you to immediately bond with their child and seamlessly fit into their household without actually telling you anything about their routines or expectations.
I know I can't be the right nanny for every family, but I have four years of experience and genuinely believe I'm good at my job. My previous families trusted me, respected me, and gave me the opportunity to build amazing relationships with their children. I know that kind of connection takes time, so it's frustrating to feel like I have to prove myself in a few hours while also somehow knowing exactly how a household operates.
I'm just feeling really discouraged. I don't want to give up on nannying because I genuinely love what I do, but after all these experiences, I'm starting to wonder if I'm actually bad at trials/interviews or if I'm just getting really unlucky with these families
Has anyone else gone through something similar? I could really use some perspective from other nannies and parents in what you’re looking for in your perfect nanny. Tbh I'm starting to lose confidence in myself a little

This might be a long one, so sorry!

I have been deep in the trenches of the job hunt since the beginning of July. I took a position in March with a newborn that was supposed to be long term but the NP decided that they wanted more (A LOT MORE) than a nanny and wanted to find all of that I one person. We parted on good terms, no hard feelings, other than me being completely blindsided by the fact that I no longer had a job that was supposed to be long term. And had left an absolutely AMAZING family I had been with for 4.5 years to move on with this family because my NKs were no longer needing full time care. I have thankfully been able to pick up days with this NF over the summer and their school breaks, it’s not consistent but it does fill my heart with gratitude with them and their parents

I am onboarded and signed up with every single agency in my city, and some nationwide agencies. And have been scouring the job boards for months, with little to no response from some agencies, usually the ones with the most job openings posted. I have been a full time (newborn through early elementary) nanny since 2013 and have had no problems before this finding a new position. I have only worked with 4 families during this entire time, so longevity is not the issue. All of my former NPs have written letters of rec for me and everyone from the agencies have said that all my former NPs have spoken glowingly about me and how they wish that we didn’t have to part ways which has always been due to the kids aging out of full time care and the parents not needing a family assistant type position.

My biggest question/rant is .. is it just me having the hardest time finding a new position? Or is it the job market? The agencies here all have 10+ jobs posted each and I have gotten MAYBE one interview from some of them over the course of the last 4 months. I’ve been told multiple times by one agency “we see your interest come through from our website, we will let you know if we send your profile to the family” after I send an email for an update. Which is usually once a month because I quite literally NEVER hear from them and I have expressed interested in over a dozen jobs on their job board in these last few months.

I’m honestly not even being that picky at this point, any job that’s at least 30 hours and at or above what my most recent rate is getting my consideration. My savings is dwindling down, my anxiety is going up. This past few months have made me realize that I am not cut out to stay at home with nothing to do.

I babysit for a single mom who has two daughters, one of whom is 9 years old. I genuinely think she’s a wonderful person, and she’s always been very kind to me, but I’ve started feeling a little taken advantage of when it comes to payment.
For context, I’m based in Southern California and get paid $17 an hour to watch both kids. Granted, the older daughter is pretty independent, so most of my attention goes toward the younger one.
The issue isn’t necessarily just the hourly rate, but the little things that keep adding up. For example, if she owes me $87, she’ll send me $85. If I purchase something for her kids and she needs to reimburse me, she’ll round the amount down rather than paying me back the exact amount.
She’s also frequently 15–20 minutes late coming home, and I don’t get compensated for that additional time. On top of that, she’s started asking me to drive her daughter places without offering any additional compensation for gas or mileage.
I understand that she’s a single mom, and I genuinely sympathize with her situation. She’s a very sweet woman, and I enjoy spending time with her kids, which is why I’ve been hesitant to bring any of this up.
At the same time, I feel like my time and money aren’t being respected. I know a few dollars here and there might not sound like much, but it adds up, especially when I’m already being paid a relatively low hourly rate for Southern California.
I guess I’m wondering if I’m being too particular about the small amounts she’s rounding down, or if this is something other babysitters would also find frustrating.

How would you approach this without damaging the relationship?

I’ve been with my nanny family for almost a year now, NK is a sweet girl who is a year old. They have been so great and accommodating and I would stay with them but I am pregnant and due in December. My last day is the end of this month, I would love to give them a small gift to show my appreciation for them- would love some ideas if any of you have done the same for your past families!

my mil moves in next week to help watch our lo while both of us get back to full wfh shifts upstairs. we ended up getting a nanit setup mostly because the app permissions let us grant restricted guest access to her phone for daytime naps without giving away full account controls or cloud credentials. being able to check the feed on a browser tab while running background audio during client calls made the first few work weeks way less stressful.

out of nowhere yesterday my mil sent a viral clip about bad actors hacking unsecured ip cameras and talking through the speakers. now she insists on unplugging the monitor whenever she is on baby duty unless we switch to an old-school frequency monitor. i tried explaining two-factor auth and router security to her, but my partner is starting to worry if running any connected camera in the nursery creates unnecessary risk.

recently started a full-time nanny position caring for a 3-month-old baby. I work Monday through Friday, 8 AM–5 PM (45 hours a week), making $23/hour.

The mother is genuinely very kind, and I appreciate the opportunity. I don’t have extensive professional nanny experience, which is why I’m comfortable with my current rate. I’ve babysat children ages 1–10, worked as a preschool teaching assistant, and previously worked as a morning nanny for a 4-year-old. However, this is my first full-time position caring for an infant.

I also went to school for a different career, but the hours in that field were inconsistent, and I didn’t want to continue working weekends. I was looking for something with a more stable Monday–Friday schedule, which is what attracted me to nannying.

That being said, I’m finding this job much more exhausting than I anticipated.

The baby seems to be teething and has been extremely fussy throughout the day. We haven’t really been using anything specifically to soothe his gums. He often cries during diaper changes, clothing changes, and when I’m trying to put him down for naps. He prefers being held most of the time, and getting him to sleep can be challenging.

The mother works from home and primarily breastfeeds, although I occasionally give him bottles.

In addition to caring for him, I’m expected to wash bottles, fold and put away laundry, organize things around the house, and help with other miscellaneous household tasks, particularly during his naps.

The difficulty is that he often contact naps. I understand that I’m technically sitting down while holding him, but I don’t really consider that a break because I’m still responsible for him and can’t freely do anything else.

When I do manage to put him down in his crib, he typically only sleeps for about 30 minutes. That leaves me very little time to complete the household tasks, wash bottles, and eat my own lunch before he’s awake and needs me again.

I work nine hours straight without a designated lunch break, and by the time I get home, I’m completely physically and mentally exhausted. Some evenings I end up falling asleep for hours because I’m so drained.

Another thing I’m wondering about is compensation and benefits. I currently don’t have a written contract, paid time off, or paid sick days. I understand that I’m newer to nannying and don’t have years of infant experience, so I’m not expecting the highest rate, but I’m wondering what’s considered reasonable for a position like this.

I really don’t want to sound ungrateful or lazy. I care about doing a good job, and I know caring for an infant isn’t supposed to be easy. I’m just trying to figure out whether what I’m experiencing is normal for a full-time nanny position or whether there are things I should be discussing with the family. She also does ask me to stay late like an extra hour. Sometimes it’s last minute.

For those of you who have experience nannying infants:

Is it normal to feel this exhausted after nine-hour shifts, especially when you’re just starting?

Do you consider contact naps a break, or are you still fully on duty?

Is $23/hour reasonable for this position given my experience and responsibilities?

Is it common to have no PTO, sick days, or written contract?

How do you manage household tasks when the baby only takes 30-minute crib naps and you barely have time to eat?

I’d really appreciate honest feedback from experienced nannies. I’m trying to understand what’s reasonable to expect and whether I just need more time to adjust. It’s only week 2 and I’m just exhausted. My body is sore from the constant holding and drained from the fussiness all day with no break.

I also would feel terrible so leaving so soon if it’s not the right fit idk what to do.

For context I told my boss I couldn’t work as I have been throwing up all day, but I went to pick up my paycheck for my part time job as a receptionist at a nail salon, I walked in and sat down waiting for my other boss to get back from walmart.
When I got a text saying I looked pretty good for someone who’s been throwing up all day and it was my Nanny boss.
For clarification I am wearing makeup and have a vest and jeans on. Not your typical sick day look.
My nanny boss was here getting a pedicure and I didn’t see her. Welp she came up and talked to me asking me what I was doing and that I have makeup on etc.
I told her i’m grabbing my check so I can pay my car insurance today. I don’t like going out looking bad so of course I made sure I looked decent. She didn’t seem happy and I don’t want her to think I was faking it as i’ve been nauseous and throwing up all day. What can I do? Do i let it fade out?

Edit: I HAD to pay for my car insurance
I also just sent her a long paragraph apology and how I wouldn’t lie to her as I love my nanny job but it was just supposed to be quick, as I was going into a place of my work and wanted to at least look presentable.

This is her response

“Thank you for texting. It did not look the greatest to be honest…. But I appreciate your text. My kids love you to pieces and I love you too! So, I’m glad to hear it was a misunderstanding. Get feeling better! And I’ll see you Monday.”

I’m a caregiver with over 10 years of childcare experience, and I’m honestly feeling pretty hurt and confused by something that happened with a family I’ve been regularly working with for the past few months. I’d really appreciate perspectives from both caregivers and parents.

I’ve been caring for their infant almost every week/every other week since 4-5 months, and over that time, I’ve developed a really lovely bond with the baby and what I thought was a genuinely good relationship with the parents.

I’ve always tried to be especially accommodating with this family. Despite my usual hourly rate for infant care, I’ve been consistently accommodating and charged them considerably lower than my usual rate. I’ve also accepted last-minute bookings without additional fees and have occasionally held availability for them until the last minute. I genuinely adore their baby and have always enjoyed caring for her.

We had another booking scheduled for tomorrow, but tonight (13 hrs before the booking), the mom sent me a message with instructions for the next day and casually mentioned that the baby had been dealing with a stomach bug and will likely have frequent bowel movements tomorrow.

This was the first I’d heard about the illness.
I was honestly caught off guard because I don’t provide care for children experiencing potentially contagious symptoms/illnesses. I regularly work with multiple families, including young infants, and I try to be very mindful of potentially transmitting illnesses between households.

We hadn’t really had an explicit conversation about sick time care (in contagious situations), so I understand that the parents might not have known my boundaries. However, I also didn’t think it was unreasonable to expect a parent to disclose a potentially contagious illness and check whether their caregiver was comfortable proceeding.

I sent a warm, respectful message explaining that I wasn’t aware the baby had been sick and that I generally require 48 hours without vomiting or diarrhea before resuming care. I apologized for the inconvenience and wished their baby well.

The mom hearted my message and then changed it to a thumbs up 10 mins later instead. Since there was no reply, I felt like she was disappointed.
And then a couple of hours later, I discovered that she’d removed me from her Facebook friends. (She wanted to add me when I first started working with them, I do not prefer to add families on FB otherwise)
We had still been friends when I sent the message, so this happened shortly afterward.

I know a Facebook friendship isn’t necessarily a big deal, but given our relationship, the timing honestly stung. It made me feel like months of flexibility, accommodation, and genuinely loving care were suddenly overshadowed by one occasion where I needed to establish a professional boundary.

I’m not upset that she might have been disappointed about losing childcare at the last minute. I completely understand that arranging childcare can be stressful, especially with a sick baby.

What bothers me is that I wasn’t informed about the illness until the evening before, and the message seemed to assume I’d be comfortable caring for a child who might still be symptomatic.
I also feel sad because I’d developed such a strong attachment to their baby, and I genuinely thought I had a good relationship with the family.

I’m now questioning whether I handled this appropriately or whether my expectations regarding sick-child disclosures are unreasonable.

For other nannies/babysitters: Would you have handled this differently? Do you consider stomach bugs a reason to decline care, even if the family hasn’t previously discussed a sick-child policy?

For parents: Would you be upset if your regular babysitter declined care under these circumstances? Would you expect them to care for your child while they’re recovering from a stomach bug?

I’m genuinely interested in hearing different perspectives.

Nannies often understandably have trouble with WFH parents. My Q, If NPs have no choice but to wfh, like those are the jobs we have and what pays us… what are some concrete things we can do to make Nanny’s lives easier?

I nannied before covid and it was not a thing, at all. Now I babysit as I’m in school and wfh.

I can't help but think that all these agencies that advertise jobs, make half of them up.

I am registered with minimum 5 of them and you rarely hear anything back from them.

This is the first time I don't even hear back from them to see if they had put me forward or if they updated a new CV that I sent.

Mind you I have 16 year of experience and I am under 40 still, I am even over qualified for some of the positions. During the interviews they all seem so keen and praise you how you will be in high demand with such a CV, but yet they either don't reply at all despite trying to contact them via their website, phone numbers, emails or whatever other way. Even if they do, they will offer jobs that are so poorly paid or not suitable at all.

Are there any nannies and governesses struggling to find a job now? I want to add I don't work with infants so my search narrows down a bit.

Hi everyone!

I just started my search for a new nanny position. I have a few phone interviews this weekend and two of the families happen to be teachers. I have never worked for a teacher before so I was wanting to see if any one has!

Both of them already stated that they would want someone to follow the school schedule and I expressed that’s fine but I need guaranteed hours because I can’t have a whole summer unpaid. Both of the families said we can discuss further on the phone. Just looking for some input from other Nannies that works/worked for teachers and what was put in their contract and maybe other questions I should ask. Thank you!

If your family tests positive for COVID do you go into work?

*NF is attempting to require me to come in when they’re all positive for COVID because they “feel fine” Am I wrong for saying no?

NP’s and Nannies, how would you respond/ go about this?

I am currently a full time nanny for 1 baby. I make about $3/ hr below my city’s listed average ($14/hr) and I can feel the burnout approaching. Before everyone tells me to quit, I have been looking but nothing that would be a good fit has come up. I get zero pto or sick days, and I am supposed to be on a set schedule but mom will vary her coming home time by ab 45 mins every day (so annoying). I think they are trying to ‘help me‘ so that my tasks are less and therefore they can pay me less. They tried to not have me do any housework, but they never have things picked up so in order to do my job I have started daily housework (unloading dishwasher, starting laundry, picking up older kids toys, taking trash out: things that dont directly pertain to the baby.) I initially told them I would help out with housework if I would be paid accordingly, but they were not interested. I also am having issues with them letting me take full reign. I kind of just feel like a babysitter with the nanny title. Mom (unbeknownst to me) has access to the camera in babies nursery, so if anything goes differently she is micromanaging through the camera and texting me. We also don’t leave the house bc MB has anxiety, but with winter approaching I don’t want to be cooped up with a 1 year old. There are a few other annoying things, but I think I would be more likely to tolerate them if the other things were addressed.

How would you bring these issues up to your NP/ how would you like it brought up to you? again, just quitting is not an option right now (but I am looking). I wouldn’t mind staying for this family, but they don’t communicate that much with me and they are awkward so I feel weird bringing anything up. I feel like if I tell them I’m looking around they will just fire me as soon as they get a replacement, right? Do I just stay until I find something else and not say anything? I guess i’m still making more money than I would be unemployed lol

ETA: I forgot to mention, I have 10+ years of childcare experience. My typical rate in my city is $20

i am applying to nursing programs to become a rn. i do not want to nanny anymore. i started this at 20 and am now 29. all of my experience is in nannying.

ive been applying to

associate banker or teller at chase, and keep getting denied

nursing technician at hospitals, keep getting denied

receptionists at local offices, keep getting denied

before settling into nannying, i never had an issue getting call backs. my previous roles were customer service at spas and offices, or cashier at stores. personal shopper at one point. i know the economy and job market sucks blah blah but theres tons of these jobs open right now and they dont pay a lot anyway

. Any advice? i do not want to be in this industry any longer

tia

I’ll start off by saying I love my job. Love the kids, love the parents, i think it’s my unicorn family for sure and I have no issue with the following, I just wanted some opinions.

MB and DB both work from home, which is fine, because the kids generally have a good enough time to remember that they’re even in the house. The oldest one (8) will sometimes go into dads office to say hi or ask a question, and he often times doesn’t mind at all. It doesn’t put a stop to anything we’re doing and nk doesn’t hang around or cling to him if given the chance. the rest of the kids are under 4, so they have each other to really keep themselves distracted.

Anyway. DB will sometimes leave his office, go into the shed in the yard, and spark up a joint during his break. The kids are often napping at this point and i’ll just be hanging out with NK(8) playing, drawing, etc. We usually stay in the basement because that’s where the play room is. So nobody really sees him or knows what he’s doing (other than me and MB). He’ll come and interact with the kid/kids for a little bit before heading back into his office.

I don’t see an issue with this. He has hired help to watch the kids, and he keeps it private in the back of the yard where the kids aren’t allowed to go. I’ve never seen him acting out of the ordinary, he’s as good as sober except for the little stink that trails in after him sometimes.

I told my mom about this, because I thought it was funny, and she did not laugh. She thinks that’s super inappropriate and that he should be setting a better example for his kids. I told her it’s his business in a legal state, and that you’d never know otherwise (aside from all the grateful dead paraphernalia around xD) because he’s super discreet and doesn’t leave anything around. She still doesn’t think it’s okay.

So…what do yall think? We live in a legal recreational state. The man has a desk job where he doesn’t interact much except for the occasional zoom call.

And he’s an awesome dad, which is more than i can say for many of the sober ones i’ve worked for.

ETA: For those pointing out me discussing this with my mother, I understand what you mean. I personally didn’t see harm in sharing, as it was relevant to our conversation on marijuana, but I understand that it may seem like a breach of privacy and will be more mindful.

I live in a VHCOL and have over nine years of professional childcare experience, with over four of that including being a nanny. I also have bachelors degree specializing in child development and several certifications. Because of where I live, rates for nannies and babysitters are extremely high. Currently, I charge 35/hour for a single child, 38/hour for two, and 40+/hour for any amount over three. For standalone babysitting I typically charge about two dollars less for each scenario. I’m comfortable with these rates, and they match what people with my experience and expertise are paid in my area.

Earlier today I was reached out to by a parent through a reference. They are asking me to watch six children, all boys, ages ranging from 4 mo to 7 yo. The parents will be in the home, but in a separate part of the house hosting a dinner party and do not want to manage the children. I have never met any of these people, adults or kids, and have no idea what their temperaments might be.

I’m struggling with knowing what rate to charge. I’ve done events like this in the past, but always with another caregiver, and way earlier in my career when I was charging significantly less to reflect that (around year 1 and 2). Six kids ranging that broadly in age make me think this is more of an event situation than a standard babysitting gig. What is appropriate to charge, especially considering the cost would likely be split between the parents of all six kids?

I love my NF, minus DB. He is the most selfish person I have ever met. Now I may be overreacting about some things but the build up is getting to me.
-He makes me stay when I’m not taking care of NK’s, ex: family will come and NK will go out with the family and I’ll be stuck at the house doing nothing. He works from home so it’s just awkward when there’s nothing for me to do.
-He’s constantly asking me to come in early but won’t even let me leave 10 minutes before my shift ends
-I asked for time off (just one day) to tour colleges to which he agreed, then a week before I reminded him and he said I need to come in the morning because he had meetings.
-He never spends time with his kids, it’s heartbreaking. When I leave they go straight to the screens so he can do whatever. Which is another reason he doesn’t like when I take time off.

There’s so many more reasons as to why I hate him and I’ve found another job set for January which works well with my college schedule but I haven’t told them yet because I still need a job until then…. Unless something comes up I genuinely don’t know what to do … I hate coming in because of him.