r/nairobi • u/kissland_0012 • 6h ago
Relationship For f*cks sake
Get this, I was dating this one guy let's call him Brick. We were together for about 6 months, and then he broke up with me. Before that, we had had a conversation about boundaries, including dates in the relationship such and such cause I got tired of only meeting up at my place, every single time. He would always use an uber to and fro and that cost about 400 for each ride so huwezi sema utalack 200 hata ya kunipeleka Karura for a walk or whatever. Dude obviously agreed, and we talked a bit more and came to an agreement. We would go out on dates, yay!
A week goes by na sioni any development, second week I spoke. I asked him about the dates and he said he'll look into it, okay? Another week pulls up, nangoja plans, nothing so I take matters into my own hands. I plan a date but simpei details. I ask him about his day, how he's feeling and all, jokes tunarusha theeen I ask about his availability the following day. He said he'd be held up with something plus sikuwa nimemwambia days prior ndio aclear his schedule, okay, nikangoja till Monday, gave him a heads up for the weekend na he said, "I'll be available ". I was so relieved.
This whole time, niko attachment but juu ya mapenzi I'd tell my supervisor I was unwell just so I could get to see the guy. I did this about once a week, time I had planned the date. So Friday roles in, ni jioni. I text him about his plans on Saturday, I don't start with the date but I mention it after. He said he would be meeting up with a client in the afternoon I think, then aende for some errands after. Oh, I was broken inside. I asked him about our date, that I had planned na he was like, I'm sorry. He added some other stuff but the sorry is all I could see.
I replied with if you'll want to talk to me again then you'll have to plan a date as we had talked and agreed weeks ago. This whole thing ya yeye kupotea whenever we planned dates happened four times, this is when I'd have enough. Mind you I had my outfit ready, got him gifts but all I got was I'm sorry, I have errands to run. This made me think whether I was too unattractive to be seen with him in public, sa I started to doubt myself. Hiyo Saturday I met up with a friend, bless his soul, we went shopping as I needed new fits for my attachment. Kidogo kidogo naona messages, bunch of 'em. The guy broke up with me y'all. Nitalia aje na tuko gikomba😭. Nilikuwa najaribu kuskia but I gave the phone to my friend, he listened then I listened too. I got weak😂
He took me to a cafe nearby and got me a drink. At least I didn't cry then. On the bus back home ndio I actually cried, mahn it was embarrassing but at least my glasses hid the tears. Nikafika and I sat outside the gate and cried some more, my cousin found me outside in tears and took me to bed. Cried one more time and that was it. Fast forward to two years later, guess who texts, the gent. I was a bit surprised but I digress. He says how he's missed me oh, how he's thought about me and finally decided to text. I wasn't into it at first but I texted back na we were vibing. He immediately planned a date, I guess, on the second day of us talking.
I travel back to Nairobi, we're still talking but naona signs za he hasn't really planned it. He's always hinting to me inviting him over to my place, I gave reasons to why he couldn't come. Anasema he'll book a bnb, okay? That also never happened 😂 we were to go for the nature walk in Ngong, not Karura though, never happened. He told me about the talking stage he was in, he said he accidentally called her by my name and was told to go home, I didn't believe this tbh but story ni yake. I talked about my most recent talking stage but that failed. What i didn't mention was the relationship I had with a Muslim guy, we were together for 8 months then ikaisha hivyo tu, got ghosted. I forced my mind to forget about him, I obviously cared for the guy na I was hurt that there wasn't a last text or something. I erased everything about him in my mind. Back to the guy, we were talking then I mentioned something about the Muslim guy and he was like "...and I'm finding about this now"? I sent him a screenshot ya a text I was having with a friend, it hinted something about the guy ndio I explained to him sasa about him.
The relationship happened months ago, I moved on and forgot about it. Then this Brick comes in the picture again. Should I have mentioned the Muslim one, yeah, if I even remembered him, I could have edited the scree screenshot vizuri but I forgot to crop out that one detail. Sikuona haja ya kumention the guy juu I'm with Brick now, the other one is in the past. Waking up naona the guy removed his number from whatsapp completely. How is it my fault that I didn't mention one guy csuse I forced my brain to forget him, seeing I was hurt and in pain? Getting over Brick the first time was difficult, but it isn't this time.
Did not plan for the post to be this long🫶🏽
