Please tell me I'm not the only one who dreams of a love like this.🥲

I'm talking about that gothic type of love with touches like this, almost painfully tender kind of love. The gentle touches, kissing each other's hands, holding each other like you never want to let go, looking at each other with so much affection that you don't even need words.

The kind of romance that feels like a gentle love hstory. A little melancholic, a little dramatic, but so incredibly soft and devoted underneath it all.

I want the kind of relationship where we can be all free, comfortable main of time goofy and ridiculously gentle with each other. Where even the smallest gestures feel meaningful.

I don't just want someone to love me. I want us to be in love — maybe i want a little bit obsessive love but soft version... bruh I feel myself so stupid right now when I'm writing this...

Does anyone else dream of this or even do, or am I just hopelessly romantic?

Hi everyone! I posted this about a month ago and had some amazing people help me out. I’m trying to finish the project by October 31, so I’m posting again in hopes of reaching a few more places!
I’m making a sentimental gift for my boyfriend, Luke, and I’m looking for people from different cities, states, and countries who would be willing to write:

“Luke—Anne Marie’s love for you is so big, it’s reached ______.”

Fill in the blank with your city + state/country, write it on a piece of paper, and take a picture of it somewhere in your area! It can be in front of a landmark, city sign, pretty view, recognizable location—or honestly just somewhere that shows a little piece of where you live (backyards count too😂) .
Then just comment the photo here or message it to me on Reddit.
My goal is to collect as many places as I can and put all the pictures together in a book for him. ❤️
I’ll put a reference photo in the comments so you can see what I mean.
Thank you SO much to anyone willing to take a few minutes to help a stranger make a really special gift. It genuinely means more to me than you know.
I plan on posting this finished product once it’s over!

Shoutout to everyone who has helped me so far.. I absolutely adore you ♥️

I was listening to music when a familiar song came on, and it takes me back to a time when I was loved in ways I didn’t fully appreciate. It reminds me just how many ways I’ve been loved throughout my life.

I’ve been loved by someone who would do anything for me, someone who would sing me love songs every night, someone who would buy me a specific chocolate because that was all I could eat, and someone who would fly across the world just to be with me.

For the longest time, I wondered if I deserved that kind of love. Maybe I didn’t always know how to appreciate it, and maybe I couldn’t return it in the same way. But looking back now, I feel nothing but gratitude. They showed me that I was lovable, that I once, meant something to someone, and that’s a beautiful thing.

I don’t regret any of it. Not every love story is meant to last, but I don’t think that makes the love any less meaningful. Even when things don’t turn out the way we hoped, there’s still something beautiful about having loved someone and having been loved by them.

Some people may only be part of our lives for a season, but that doesn’t make the love they gave us any less meaningful. And even if we couldn’t give them the same love in return, we can still be grateful that we got to be loved by them at all.

More than anything, I hope those people find that same love again, if not more. Someone who remembers the little things, chooses them wholeheartedly, and makes them feel as cherished as they once made me feel.

And if our paths never cross again, I hope life is gentle with them. I hope they find the kind of happiness they once tried so hard to give me, and a love that makes them feel just as special as they made me feel.

I hope that, one day, I get to give that kind of love to someone too. To love someone in all the little ways that make them feel cherished, to make them feel as special as those people once made me feel. Despite everything, I never want to lose hope in love. I hope there’s still so much of it left for all of us to give and receive :)

Im very sorry if this is hard to read. I have been making this when I couldn’t sleep for the last few weeks.

So what happened is about one and a half years ago my best friend told me he knew these 2 girls, that they were really fun but like more alternative and shy. I told him I’d still love to meet them because at that point I only had friends like that pretty much and also I generally enjoyed people like this and still do. There was this quiet girl and that other just tad bit more confident really short girl with red and blonde hair. She had a button up shirt on and some jeans and I don’t know but from the start I connected with her a lot.

Eventually that same summer we opened up a discord where all those 3 friends and me played games and talked for hours. My best friend and the other girl are both really shy and awkward so they only entered the voice chat rarely, the shy girl only once every few weeks. At first my best friend and I teased my now girlfriend a little which wasn’t anything too harsh you know just normal banter. Then came Christmas time and we all went to a Christmas market together. And that’s where it first hit me: I looked at her longer than a friend should’ve when we stood there drinking our stuff. Something about her nice open smile just did something to me. When we were nearly done and wanted to go home, she told me she slapped a guy from her school and I was teasing again like „you? Probably didn’t hurt“ and she countered with the offer to just try. We eventually did just that and I noticed I lied. She actually could slap pretty damn hard.

Fast forward 8 months or so we’re basically the only people coming into the discord call anymore because the others are simply too shy and that’s where me and my now girlfriend really bonded every single day and night. Wed tell each other about our feelings, our days and everything else. Eventually she became what I only could describe as my favorite person in the world by the way she was there for me alone. Then in July of this year I sent her a video with a person folding another like a piece of paper with the caption „when that one person presses you when you could easily fold them“ and she replied with something unusual. „Sit“. I thought nothing and played along and texted „Ruff“ back with a dog emoji. Kind of embarrassing but hey who could judge me she’s pretty okay? She then replied with „good boy“ and that’s when I kind of realized her chats were definitely getting more charged up. I sent a dizzy emoji to that and she casually asked „too much?“ and I said „the opposite“

She actually told me now that’s the moment I was flirty enough for her to gain the confidence to pursue me which is really cute but it baffles me still a girl like her would pursue ME.

We then had a slow start. Eye tag, brushing against eachother while laughing… A friend of us has a car and I always used to sit behind my now girlfriend and I kind of played with a raccoon tail she had on her belt and then one time she took my hand for the first time. I was so excited. We were on the way to an escape room and I was really tired so when we got back to her place we 4 as a friend group chilled a bit. I went into her bed, my best friend and the shy girl into the living room. Artsy (what I aliased my now girlfriend) followed me into the bedroom and closed the door. I was just laying there too tired to do anything and that’s when she started petting my hair and something inside me just told me to lay on her right just now. That’s the very first time we cuddled and marks the very end of the friend arc.
Continuing on from this point I was actually a bit panicked. I though it was going too quickly and actually wanted to „get rid“ of her and break up the closer relationship that was building up. Although after 2 days of thinking about ways to do so I caught myself thinking „Why would I do this? She’s amazing and I can’t find a better girl than her cause there isn’t one. I’m just unthankful and need to get a grip right now!“

A week later I had my first ever kiss with her in her room on a rainy day. I told her she could really share some of her lip balm and she said I could have her balm (HOW CUTE?) and I told her „not in the conventional way“. She immediately got red, turned away and quietly said „you’ll have to do it im too shy“ and so I did. It was short but exactly how I’d imagine a first kiss and honestly her being shy made it easier for me too. I checked our message log and I can confirm it is now exactly 20 days ago when we first told eachother that we loved eachother.

Finally I have to add: On the 31st of October me and her are confessing our relationship to our friendgroup who we know have been shipping us two anyway. We’re so excited and finally being able to kiss is such a relief in front of them.

I’ve never felt this way in my life before. I see his resting face, I’m in love. I see his beautiful, bright smile, I’m in love. I hug him, I’m in love. I kiss him, I’m in love. He’s making a game and doing a wonderful job at it, I’m in love. He’s socializing with his friends or family, I’m in love. He offers to help somebody because he really cares, I’m in love. He’s respectful to everybody around him, I’m in love. OML LITERALLY HE CAN BE DOING ANYTHING AND I GET THIS FEELING IN MY CHEST AND STOMACH AND NEARLY START CRYING BECAUSE HES SO AMAZING. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH MYSELFFFFF

This man is so freaking intelligent. He is really into history and sometimes yaps to me about it and I love it when he’s passionate. He plays guitar, he makes games, he’s a bit into politics and very aware about the state of the world, he’ll actually have wonderful deep discussions with me, he understands what love is, he loves my sensitivity, I’m just yapping so much omg I could write forever but I’ll stop it here. I can’t wait to spend my life with him and marry him someday :D

Love is truly more than just dating

He was so happy to be feeding the giraffes it actually warmed my heart so much I cant take it. I appreciate this man so much.

We had so much fun exploring the pumpkin patch. I didn’t realize he’s never been in all his years. It was so fun seeing how excited he got looking at all the different pumpkins. We pulled a wagon and picked out a nice assortment. We brought them home and decorated our front door and the rest of our house.
We made some lovely memories and I just love these little things we’re doing before our wedding in 23 days!! Eeek.
I fall more in love with him every single day. The last 3 years have been some of my best years and I can’t wait to see what our future holds.
We didn’t even mean to, but we accidentally went to a patch that has been nationally recognized- how exciting!!

Happy fall y’all, I just wanted to share my fun moment ♡

super random question lol but something I’ve thought about when I see couples wearing the same outfit. It makes me think of how some moms dress twins the same. curious why people like to do that (if you do)? what’s the allure of matching with the exact same outfit or shoes etc. where does the desire stem from? how does it make you feel to match with your partner? random but curious

So, I feel like the question is both Self-explanatory and so complicated at the same time. I remember when I was younger, and I thought that love was simple to explain. Then I found my girlfriend, and am just now seeing how complicated that the feeling can be. It just shocks me every time that I discover a new feeling in me, and how can I be sure that it is love. When I have called so many different feelings throughout my life "love." What if my feelings are just another form of platonic? I don't want to lie to her and tell her those three words if I don't really mean it.

Hi guys! For those of you who saw my last post, I promised an update and boy do I have one for you!

I have to start by saying this is the best birthday I've had in all of my 23 birthdays. My boyfriend wouldn't tell me where we were going and even had me close my eyes when he put the address into the gps. On the way there, he stopped at a couple of stores and told me to pick whatever food, snacks, or drinks I wanted for the next three days and he bought all of it. He then took me to go pick out any card game I wanted. Then we drove and drove and drove until we were out in the country where we were surrounded by nothing but trees and grass and flower fields. And then he pulled into this super thick patch of woods and went down this dirt road until we were at a little cabin!! Now, I know you guys dont know me like that, but this is the most perfect place he could have ever brought me to. I absolutely adore nature and the woods. Fresh air, sunlight glittering through leaves, bushes and plants and wildlife everywhere- it was the most perfect thing in the world (second to him, of course).

It was a cozy little camp cabin with a built in bed, a kitchenette, and this luxurious little bathroom. And the bed had these floor to ceiling windows that were so crystal clear I felt like I could reach my hand right through and touch the leaves of all the trees surrounding us (I'll add a couple of pictures). It was absolutely beautiful. And then he brought in a basket he'd made with a Nightmare Before Christmas blanket (I love Halloween and thats one of my top 10 favorite movies ever) and a Lego Rose kit that we're going to build together. So of course I cried.

He brought me the day before my birthday (so I could wake up with him on my bday and go to bed with him on my bday!) and he set his alarm for midnight so we could celebrate the actual day. He was the very first person to tell me happy birthday and he held me and gave me this little birthday speech and told me how much he loves me and how proud of me he is. And of course, again I cried (later on in the middle of the night when his words really really sunk in). He left the entire day up to me and said we'd do whatever I wanted to do. We went for a walk out in the woods, we watched a movie, watched YouTube together, cuddled, made a tiny little campfire, made drinks, he gave me a massage- the works! And to top it all off, I love cats, and as we were packing up to leave this morning, the sweetest, friendliest kitty was just hanging around the cabin! She let me pet her and wouldn't stop purring!

This is the most love I have ever ever felt. This is the most effort anyone's ever gone to for me, the most thought and consideration I've ever seen someone put in for me. I cried so many happy tears this weekend. I cried before we left today. Lol I'm crying right now as I type this! This is the most amazing trip I've ever been on, so much so that I told him we should do this every year. It was a lovely getaway where it was just the two of us and good ol Mother Nature and I have genuinely never felt more happy and at peace. This whole trip said so many different things. He pays so much attention to me and my interests and my joys. And he loves me so much that he culminated all of it into what has been, again, genuinely the best birthday that I have ever had. He is the sweetest, kindest, most caring man I have ever met and ever will meet and I am so beyond blessed and grateful to get to spend my life with someone as wonderful as he is. I love my boyfriend so much guys.

And there is my update for you all! Thank you for all the kindness and birthday wishes on my last post, and may your lives be full of joy, light, and love!

I don't know how to really put this, and honestly, I can't conjure up an answer right now. As of the time Im writing this, I'm still dizzy in the head from issues unrelated, and yet related to the ordeal I've been through. Good events happened, such as me applying to not one, but two graphic design jobs with cover letters attached. And neutral things happened, like me not knowing what to do with myself, staying in bed for what feels like an indeterminate amount of time, and detached from everything I see as relationship building, or course progressing, or just taking the time to just, walk and explore outside.

Now, does all this amount to something bad or malicious? I cannot be certain. It has been a fog in my mind that there are times when I feel, truly hopeless with something. And yet, I don't feel so self-beaten up about it, because at this point I really am experimenting with my emotions.

There is a special analogy from a certain series I think about all the time, where the drives from my mentality, emotions, physical state, and heat, all drive my will to move in certain ways. When one becomes uncontrolled and unstable as cancer does to the body, I don't see overriding it with a different state of mind or position the correct way to advance, nor do I see it as a call to suppress, reduce, or silence it almost entirely. It's as if the most important stage of my life I am continuously trying to master, is to let my will drive on its own terms, while living with whatever emotions, or physical pain, or mental fatigue I'm dealing with in each moment.

And yet, this is exactly the factor I am personally against through my heart and sense of self as a person. For many years, I've been driven by other people's advice and persuasion to push through my negative stasis and just complete whatever work I have to get done, as a means that I will feel "better" or see myself in a better disposition than where I was before. However, that in turn, only applies to my external position, physical awareness, and, to an extent, my mental state. Never has such a practice came to terms with how I am or what powerful emotions, be it positive or negative, I am feeling in such moments, and at this time, I don't see myself ever conforming to such a reality.

So in the sake of my will, "what is it that I'm trying to achieve?" Well, that's a question that is unhinged in its own right, never always connecting to the situation at hand, or at least, not completely. I am, yes, still trying to figure myself out, something of which others stated is a responsibility of my own ownership. And despite it all, I can't help but seek out aid, assistance, a sense of understanding from the world around me. Because I, certainly, don't know everything I can do for myself.

TL;DR: The strongest condradictions in myself continue to be the most difficult to manage. I continue to explore this with myself, my position in improving my stasis, and the aid and perspective from the people and community around me. Thank you for listening, and may I ask:

What is your position on my journey so far, and how does it connect with yours, be it external, or personal?

Hi, I’m an 18-year-old guy who has never had a partner and feels like no one will ever love him.

Social media has filled my head with certain ideas—for instance, the notion that if you don’t have money, no woman will want you, or that if you’re short, unattractive, a "nerd," or a "nice guy," no one will ever love you. It’s a cruel perspective, and I want to make peace with the whole concept of love. I don’t know what it’s like to have a partner, nor do I understand how love works. I need help.

I have these tiny brown dots scattered across my cheeks and around my eyes, and I’ve always thought about getting rid of them to have clearer, more even-toned skin.
But my boyfriend absolutely LOVES them. He keeps telling me they are one of the most beautiful features of my face.
And the sweetest part is that I have slowly started loving them too, simply because of how lovingly he sees them.
It’s such a small thing, but it made me realize how beautiful it is to be loved by someone who adores the little details about you that you might otherwise consider imperfections.
We have been together for two years now. I feel so lucky to love and be loved by him. 🥹❤️

I love Love, Especially when it's about my Boyfriend.

I get excited to wake Up Every morning to see him sleep beside me.

I feel Happy when i see him smile and laugh.

I get scared when i feel there is something wrong and he cant tell me what It is.

(Some weeks ago he faught with his mom and couldnt tell me what they faught about. It was my engagement ring, his mom didn't like the one he bought for me. I found out because she straight Up told me the ring was ugly, and he still hasnt proposed, i shouldnt even know about any ring)

I get sad when he feels sad.

I feel like i want to be a better person, not because i need to, but because i want to.

I feel so warm when i'm in his arms.

I smile when he smiles, i cry when he Crys.

"Love" in the past was always: fear, obsesión, anger, many horrible things.

But Love now is a Rollercoaster, a Rollercoaster that with Every Up and down forms the new way. I have never been on this Rollercoaster and It is different for everyone. I just know that i dont want this Ride to end.

I dont know if the Rollercoaster was a good example tbh.

I just feel that with Every hug i am so close to his Soul and there is a Deep conecction full of love and truth. He is who i want, he is who i need.

I am so Happy to have found him.

+Plus Points because he always gives me foot massages, especially after i wear sneakers.

Best Boyfriend everrrr!!!

I love how love can be so different. My grandmother recently passed away and understanding that missing her is also loving her has made me think about how love is so vast.

I love my bf, we have a ldr right now, and I still love talking to him, I genuinely enjoy his personality, his quiet moments, we are so different and so alike and I love him

I love my friends and talking to them, I love reading the GC and seeing their personality through their messages

I love my favorite artist, who I recently saw in concert, and I loved the vibe there, it was pure love

I'm currently watching Sullivan's crossing and I love how it's cozy and slow

I hope you're all loved

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My classic bad boy, turned good type of story. A story from the books honestly. When we first met, it was for real love at first sight. My stomach said, "THERE YOU ARE, DAMN". it wasn't easy though, and I don't think it'll ever be easy.

When we first met, his ex cheated on him, and was threatning to kick him out to the streets. When we first met, he asked me if I had a boyfriend, I completely ignored his question, and we continued to talk about what was happening at home. I gave him a much needed hug, and as we were about to go our separate ways, he stopped me, and I can not lie, I felt electricity when our hands met. It was so comforting and amazing all in one within a split second. He asked me if I wanted to help him get back together with his ex girlfriend. From the very first moment we spoke, I knew he was my forever. But here I was, agreeing to help him win his ex back. I just thought; if I can just help him,, that's good enough for me. I've always been the sacrificial type. The type to sacrafice my own happiness for someone else's.

And so, from there on out, we went on pretend dates, held hands, pretended to be together. Then we had pretend sex. And that's when things got real, so real, I fell in love with this dude, and so real, that he also fell in love with me.

Flash forward to a couple weeks later: he is kicked out, and I have a car. I decide, to leave my family's home, and live with a man I had only known for a month in my car, in a parking lot. At this time, we are both still trying to win over his ex. For the next 4 months we are constantly trying to show off in front of her to make her jealous, while secretly enjoying the whole sherade. While we are homeless, my family stops by often to berate him. They fight, my brother threatens to kill him, and I know now that they were just trying to protect me. But 3 years ago, I thought they were just being complete jerks. I hated them in fact. My husband had no job, and wasn't trying to get one. I on the other hand got a job a week after we became homeless.

Yes, I stayed with him through all this, and call me naive because quite frankly I am, but I saw a part of him I wanted to hold onto. That, and the gut feeling I had when we first met, kept me coming back for more, and more, and more, I wanted every single experience to be with him... He was just wonderful in my eyes.

So we move to a different state because we can't live in my car forever, to live with his brother. We try a new position while we are... breeding. And BOOM out pops a baby. 6 months into the relationship, with a man who still won't work or provide. I stay with him still, even though he has severe anger issues and multiple personalities and yelled at me a lot, yeah I didn't mention that did I.

Against all odds, being homeless for 4 months, getting pregnant after 6 months, moving across the country and doing long distance for the entirety of my pregnancy, sending him money while also saving up for an apartment for us, we made it here, to our home. He moves in.

Just when I thought the hard stuff was over, it gets even worse. I continue to be the only one working for an entire three years. He gets jobs then looses them. My family hates him. Everyone doesn't like him, all while I love him so much. It was so hard. While I was pregnant I even worked 2 jobs. I don't mind working to make the ends meet, it's what has to be done.

About a year of living together, and it feels like hell. Everyday we fought for months. A TV was smashed, lamps broken, cops called twice. I thought he was going to kill me, and I cried every day because I was in hell.

I even left him, had my brother and his friends come and get my possessions. But I realized I had made a mistake, and came back.

It's a joke of a story, but yeah, I ended up coming back... and, after so much time fighting... things started to get, better. He got one anxiety medication, and one thing led to another, and... he settled down. I settled down. We fell in love again, he got a fulltime job and... now, things are heavenly, beautiful, and it was so wroth staying and waiting for things to get better. Idk, it worked out for me for some reason. He loves his son now, loves me, provides, while I stay home with our son. Life is amazing with this man. Every experience is 10 times better with him now. He used to be so stressed, hard on himself and others, he used to hate his mom, and now he's just? The sweetest man on earth? Quite actually, we have a fairy tail book love story. Bad boy turned good. He even has mom and dad issues and he used to have abs and was all hot. Idk, it's just amazing. Thanks for listening 😆

After an agreement of 6 months (that i'd leave), My sister suddenly kicked me out seemingly because of her own relationship stuff and it's incredibly tender to think about. I never even got a hug goodbye, just an i love you through her camera.

I don't hold and ill will towards her, I still love her and would do anything for her, It's just different now.

He graciously let me stay with him, and he helped me moved what was important to me out.

I love him so dearly it sits deep in my chest, working if's way further each day.

and I'm grateful he's here to support me through my hurt feelings. Even when I kept assuring him I was ok earlier in the day through my teary eyes. Im stubborn I know

Driving around made me realize how much he means to me. I'm glad we could meet each other again the second go around.

As each day goes past, I can only hope that were still old and in love one day.

or raising a kid we adopted. I've seen him when he hears a baby or a little kid talking, he just has a tenderness for children and I know he wants to be a dad someday. And over the years ive grown ok with adopting an older kid before he came into my life again.

He states all the time he wants to give me the world. As long as he's in it, I'll take it.

I know both of us also have our own thing about marriage, I always felt uncomfortable being called a wife snd felt I didn't need a ring to be with someone. He feels pretty the same with the latter.

But it still makes my tummy all gooey when he says he wants to get strong enough to carry me over the threshold (he tries every damn day to lift me). Or when he pointed at a couple with a baby and said "us in 10 years"

Before him, I had never been in love. Even in my longest relationship, I thought I was aroace. Even outside of that, I didn't feel it like I do with him.

I can say without a shadow of doubt that I'm in love with that man.

I can't help it. He makes me feel safe with him to not only share my feelings but knowing he wouldn't let anything happen to me.

There's a reason I call him Lovie, he just is my Lovie and I wouldnt trade him for anything❤️

Baby,

There is a memory that has been sitting quietly in my mind for years.

It was shortly after our wedding. You had taken a month away from your PhD to be with me in Bangalore. We had done all the things newly married couples are expected to do. The Tirupati trip. Family visits. My grandparents' 60th wedding anniversary.

But this memory is not about any of those things.

It is about a lunch.

I was at work that day. Oracle was demanding, deadlines were tight, and I was trying desperately to convince myself that I belonged there. I was working on a banking product despite never really being comfortable with numbers. Finance had always baffled me. I was more comfortable with stories than spreadsheets, feelings than figures.

I remember getting a call from you. You wanted to come to my office so we could have lunch together.

I think you had cooked my favourite meal. Rajma, perhaps. The details have faded with time.

What hasn't faded is how I behaved.

My manager was already unhappy that I had taken extra leave after our wedding. Test cases were piling up. Deadlines were looming. I felt immense pressure to prove myself. For the first time in my life, I wasn't just someone's son or someone's boyfriend.

I was a husband.

I was earning ₹50,000 a month, paying rent, managing expenses, planning travel, and carrying responsibilities that felt much larger than I was prepared for. There was no instruction manual. No elder sibling teaching me the ropes. No reassurance that I was doing any of it correctly.

I was scared.

But instead of admitting that, I took it out on you.

I still remember seeing you in that newlywed salwar suit, wearing the red and white bridal bangles, excited to spend an afternoon with your husband.

And I greeted you with irritation.

I accused you of distracting me from work.

I made you feel guilty for taking a cab.

I made a simple act of love feel like a mistake.

I honestly don't even remember eating the food.

What I remember is failing to see what was in front of me.

A young woman who simply wanted to share lunch with the man she had married.

If I could revisit that afternoon, I would do everything differently.

I would greet you with a smile.

I would make time.

I would thank you for the effort.

I would sit beside you and enjoy every bite and make you eat with my hands. I don't think I ever did that, that was always you.

I would walk you to a nearby ice cream shop afterward, watch you laugh, book your cab home, and spend the rest of the day feeling grateful that someone loved me enough to bring lunch across a city.

But life does not work that way.

The past remains exactly where it happened.

All we get is understanding, years later.

And perhaps that is why I am writing this.

Not because I can change that afternoon.

But because I never properly said what should have been said that day.

Thank you.

And I am sorry.

Love, 

Teddy.

I’m a man and still young and inexperienced, but I’ve been really sad with what I’ve seen on social media about relationships. My feed keeps showing me how women will lose interest in you if you show too much attention, if you open up or become vulnerable they will use it against it you, most women just settle for a guy and aren’t loyal, or love him for him, and will move on when a better guy shows her attention. I feel like it must be social media pushing out crappy thoughts, because it paints relationships as cruel games. I want to be the best person I can be, and watching these videos saying the only way to maintain relationships is to be artificial feels so disheartening. I really don’t know anything, and am sure women also have lots of self doubt when it comes to dating, so I’d like to hear their experiences also.

I want to know your experience if this is in any sense true? Thank you.

I came across a video about relationship red flags, and it got me thinking about how I genuinely haven't seen those same red flags in my fiancé.

Now, I'm not saying he's perfect. Neither am I. We both make mistakes, but what makes him different is how he handles his. He acknowledges when he's wrong, takes accountability, and genuinely makes an effort to learn and do better. He doesn't just apologize and repeat the same behaviour or find someone else to blame.

He's also never once spoken badly about his exes, which might seem small, but coming from a relationship where my ex constantly did, it means a lot.

And something I appreciate more than I can explain is how he handles frustration. Of course he gets frustrated sometimes. He's human. But he's never taken that frustration out on me or made me feel like I need to walk on eggshells because he's having a bad day.

I think when you've spent so long in an unhealthy relationship, you start to normalize things you never should have had to accept. The excuses, the blame, the empty apologies, and the constant cycle of the same behaviour.

Then someone comes along and shows you that love doesn't have to feel that way.

I'm not naive enough to think we'll never have disagreements or difficult moments. But there's something incredibly comforting about knowing I'm with someone who can communicate, admit when they're wrong, and genuinely wants to grow alongside me.

I never needed someone perfect. I just wanted someone who cared enough to keep trying, who understood that accountability isn't a weakness, and who didn't make me responsible for their emotions or mistakes.

And somehow, I found him. I get to marry him. ❤️

After experiencing so many red flags, it's an incredible feeling to finally be with someone whose green flags aren't just words, but things he shows me through his actions.

This might not be a huge thing for a lot of people but this makes me so happy that I constantly think about it.

So in my last relationship, my ex forced me to work alongside someone she has sexted with, i reluctantly did listen to her coz it was her movie(she was the Director) and i did not want it to be a bad experience for her but there was no sense of understanding from her side that how weird and uncomfortable it was for me and then the biggest shock came when that guy disrespected me in front of a large group of people and even then i had to keep up with him coz she said so. No matter how much I explained it to her, she did not let me leave.

Fast forward to my GF

A few days ago, there was heated argument between me and a guy who is friends with both of us, during that time he was genuinely disrespectful even though I was not at fault. So now after this we all met at the party this guy came and remind you my GF was drunk at this point, yet when he tried to shake her hand, she looked at him blank and said "no buddy, it's done now"

Now it might seem like a small thing but this gesture warms me up so much and i cannot lover her enough.

I just wanted to share it somewhere.

Thank you for reading.

So I gave birth in june and since been having an irregular period. I had two boxes of those underwear pads but since I'm a bit thicker then before, theyre pretty tight and uncomfortable. This period I was push through the pain and where them since pads are expensive. I told my husband that when he went on a run to the store. He came back with these three packs for me. I've never told him what pads I use or anything he just paid attention. He said he didn't want me to be uncomfortable. He said he know for spotting I like to where panty liners, he knew I also liked the ultra thin regular pads for comfortability, and the larger ones for sleeping since I can be a heavy bleeder sometimes. This man also got a lavender candle (my favorite sent), and I spotted a chocolate cake when I was putting up the groceries and another dessert. I'm waiting for him to come back in to tell me about them. God bless this man. He also got stuff for the kids and anything we ran out of. I'm so spoiled and wish this kinda love for everyone. Just came her to brag!😅🤗🩷

I have learned so much throughout my life. I have searched for answers, tried to overcome my ego, studied religion, and questioned the very nature of my existence. I have spent so much time trying to understand the meaning of life,searching for something that would make sense of it all. Yet, nothing has ever given me a greater sense of meaning than what I have found in you.
When we come together, when we kiss, when we laugh, when we melt into one another, these are all physical expressions of something far greater than the physical itself. They are moments we can touch, feel and experience, yet the thing that gives them meaning is something we cannot see, measure or prove exists. And somehow, it feels more real than anything else in this world.
Perhaps that is what makes it so extraordinary. The physical world is what we see, but the love we feel is what gives it meaning. There is something beyond the actions themselves, something that lives in the why rather than the what. A kiss is just a kiss, a laugh is just a laugh, and two people holding each other is just a physical act. But when there is something deeper behind those moments, they become so much more. They become little glimpses of something we may never fully understand, but somehow know to be real.
You remind me that there may be something greater than ourselves. Something we cannot explain, but can experience.
Because when we found each other, when everything just seemed to click into place, it didn’t feel like something I had consciously made happen. It felt as though, for once, I wasn’t searching for answers or trying to make sense of the world. I was simply witnessing something beautiful unfold in front of me. As though something that had always been there had finally found its way into my life.

It felt like being swept up in a sudden gust of magical wind, something completely beyond my control, something that took us both off our feet and brought us together in a way neither of us could have planned. And for a moment, I couldn’t help but wonder whether some things in life are not meant to be figured out, but simply felt.
I don’t know what the future holds for us. I don’t know where life will take us or what challenges we may face along the way. But I do know that I want to keep choosing joy. I want to keep growing, keep learning, and keep trying to be the person you fell in love with. Not because I can promise to be perfect, but because what we have makes me want to be the best version of myself.
And more than anything, I hope you never lose that beautiful essence of yours. That light, that spirit, that something so uniquely you that I fell in love with. The very thing that made me feel as though I had stumbled upon something extraordinary without ever knowing I was looking for it.
Because in a world where I have spent so much of my life searching for meaning, you have given me something I never could have found simply by searching.

You have given me something to feel.
And somehow, that has taught me more about life than all the answers I ever tried to find.

so, today is my best friend's birthday, and some people (including me and my boyfriend, who also got invited even if he isn't close to my best friend) went to her house to celebrate.

it was an awesome day! we had karaoke and nice food, played, laughed, and had a lot of fun!

my best friend was really happy to receive us, and I was obviously really happy to see her! it's her 17 birthday (I am 18), so due to her being a minor, I do not feel like posting a picture of me and her together here. but we still took a lot of photos together, of course!

the pic above is of me and my boyfriend. he was teaching me how to play pool, and honestly it's hard... but I really appreciate his patience towards me! that photo was taken by my best friend, and honestly we didn't even see she was taking it lol. but now it's one of my favorite photos <3

my other friends are also so funny to talk to! they brought some airsoft guns, and it seems like we all need to train our aiming lol.

I hope to have more days like this one: close to the people I love, laughing and having fun, cuz all my friends and my boyfriend are what brings me joy everyday! :)

I'm extremely grateful to all of them and very happy to have them all with me <333