r/labrats • u/Confused_Jock • 4h ago
I have a crush on my labmate
I (26 M) have been in this lab for 2 years now. I have a lab mate that is so sweet, so smart, and so funny. I wake up in the morning to go to lab so i can visit her (and maybe get my work done if I get around to it lol). She is amazing in every way, inside and out, like she is so beautiful its insane.
I need advice...
- Is this something I have to decide to let go? I will still be in my program after she moves on. So we only have the rest of the academic year together anyway.
- She is chinese (we are both studying in the US) and very proud of her culture. While we've never discussed it, she might/probably/understandably wants someone from her own culture who has the same customs and stuff. A guy who literally speaks her language. Im just a white guy. All this to say, I am not sure if I'm even her type or not.
Nothing has happened in 2 years, and I think she's happy just being friends. I am too. She is an amazing friend. I couldn't have started my PhD without her, but I still get knots in my stomach talking to her.
Sorry if this doesnt make sense. We just got done working late in the lab, and i'm tearing up on my walk home and can't think straight.
