Hi :) I'm not sure if this is the right place for this discussion, so apologies if not! Also the title is not a pun I promise
Let me begin with the disclaimer that this rant is largely a gender issue, as I am a woman working in research.
I'm currently in the process of getting my masters, this is my second lab I've worked in (from molecular bio to behav neurosci) and I've noticed that despite being very different labs, they have similar issues; namely, that a lot of guys who come in do not respect the women they work with.
Of course, obligatory disclaimer, not all guys, I've worked with plenty of perfectly wonderful guys.
But, I've also had a reoccurring issue of men not taking me seriously, not listening to me, even when I'm in a position of authority (I was one of two senior students in my previous lab, and am now lab manager in my current lab).
Earlier last week I was giving a lecture on our study premise, plans for the future etc. and one guy literally had his headphones in the whole time, on his phone, etc. 😭 I've had to deal with guys like this so many times I literally have a "procedure" to deal with them that I call potty training, lol.
Is this just what it's like to be a girl in this field?? Will people actually respect me if I have a PhD?? Am I doing something wrong??
I really feel the need to emphasize I have worked with plenty of perfectly respectful guys who I loved to be around, it's just also my experience that so many men I've worked with have an ego, think they know everything, etc. I'm sorry to the guys reading this I'm sure you're great lmao
edit: thank you for the kind words/commiseration!! I'm very open to advice especially from other lab girls :)