have moved back into my childhood home with my boyfriend and my twin boys. The house has really come a long way from what it once was, but there are still a few rooms in the home that need to be gone through.

What bothers me most is that, yes, I contributed to the house getting to where it is now... but mostly it was due to my mother. I get along with my mother well enough, but it really gets under my skin that she just does not seem to see her hoarding issues and what kind of impact they have made on a physical level on this house as well as on me.

I even, at one point, was doing family therapy with her and brought it up several times in our sessions but she totally denies she has an issue. This is only due to the fact that she keeps her mess organized, but she does overbuying and hoarding.

I don't want to resent her but I find myself feeling this way when it affects my life like it does.

Its at a point now where the washer and dryer in this house is broken and just flat out needs to be replaced but we can't do anything just yet cause we need to have space to take the old set out and put the new one in. That is fine, but she keeps putting it off, and it's a challenge for me not to get upset about it.

How do I figure what times I want to get rid of? It's becoming so difficult. I know I want to declutter for the best, I am happy to declutter but the act of it?

I've been trying to recover for 5 years now. I've been great progress but also relapsed a couple of times as well. I do not blame myself for it, I understand I do it out of anxiety. I don't want to shame myself into getting better.

The things I hoard bring me joy but also anxiety. Things is things like blankets and stuffed animals. I do not need as much as I have. I've tried only keeping what I enjoy.

Something I've been telling myself is only keeping my favorite character or animals. It worked in the beginning, but now I'm stuck again. An example being I have 2 carebear plush of the same character. One is a 28 inch and the other is a 24 inch, only difference is 4 inches, but I love both, but I do not need both.

How do I know which one I want to keep and which I don't? I've tried asking myself questions, if they were infested with spiders(i am terrified of spiders), which would I save? I'd save both. If I lost one, would I replace it, yes because I love this care bear.

This was only one example, I am constantly doing it with other things.

I've already gotten rid of things that are broken and things. I keep telling myself, the less things I have the more attention and time I can spend on the ones I really love. I love all of them. I don't know what to do. :(