Pretty much the title. Im new the lifestyle and there are several things that i want to be eased into and pegging or any sort of anal play is a hard boundary for me. It feels impossible to find a femdom who doesn’t want to do that and dominant bottom males feel even more rare. Then adding the fact that i’d like to be eased into new things one at a time since i’ve never done them before, im a at a loss of how i can engage with the scene.

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