My husband left a few weeks ago now for BMT so I have not heard from him at all via call or message of a sort in two weeks and I’m handling it really well? I just wanted to share because I don’t really see people posting about feeling this way and kind of just wanted to see others thoughts or experiences.
I’m naturally a very anxious person so this is kind of weird to me that I actually am at peace. I really only have cried the day of and weekend of when I got that 72 hour phone call and heard his emotions. Otherwise I’ve kept myself busy-working full time at a job I enjoy, spending time with friends, doing my hobbies. I’ve been sleeping good at night, able to function just fine. I promise I love my husband and literally wish I could spend every minute together, but I’m not “falling apart” with him gone and am very trusting of the situation which is so weird.

I wonder part of it maybe is object permanence? He’s not here, I can’t see him, can’t talk to him, so I just don’t always think about it. But yet, it’s not that I’ve forgotten about him- I think about him every day. But that’s kind of why I wonder if it’ll actually be harder for me when he’s in tech school and CAN contact me, then I wonder if I’ll be more anxious knowing he can respond and talking to him everyday but still being just out of reach. Does that make sense? They say no news is good news so the fact I really don’t know anything about his day to day at BMT gives me trust that all is well and I just carry on. I think having the opportunity to talk to him would make me more anxious to miss him more because I have that inch.

It’s still only the first few weeks, so who knows, things could change, just thought I would share my positive experience so far!

Hi everyone! My fiancé is currently in tech school, and we’re planning to get married at the courthouse during his RAP in December.
I’m trying to understand how everything works after we get married, especially since his PCS orders were created before our wedding.
I have a few questions:
After we get married, how do we update DEERS and get my dependent ID?
Since his PCS orders were created before our marriage, how do we get them amended to include me?
Would he need to contact his current MPS, the MPS at his first duty station, or could we go to an MPS near us after we get married?
Can we start this process while he’s still on RAP, or would we have to wait until he gets to his first duty station?
How long does it usually take to update DEERS and receive amended orders?
Once we get married, will I be able to move with him to his first duty station? If so, how soon could I move?
Would my move be covered by the military if his orders were amended after we got married, or would we have to pay for everything ourselves?
If we have to wait until he arrives at his first duty station to update his orders, how long could that process take before I can join him?
I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who got married during RAP or while their spouse was still in tech school. We’re trying to understand the timeline and what steps we need to take so we can be together at his first duty station as soon as possible.

Me(Trans FTM19) and my Navy boyfriend(M18) have been together for over a year. We met each other when we were in middle school and started dating around the ending of our junior year in high school. After graduation around July he went into bootcamp and graduated and now currently in sub school. I am currently attending community college.

Now here's the issue, my boyfriend states he'll be graduating from A school on February as an IT. He has the fear that he is losing time due to being possibly close to deployment.

He really wants to marry me before he gets deployed and pushes it on to me. He really wants to schedule a date of when we could get married as he prioritizes dates and schedules. I am extremely hesitant on marrying him for many reasons though.

I do not know how to drive yet which is a huge issues I am trying to work on currently and I do not have experience at all with moving outside of state as I lived and stayed in the same state for my entire life. I also have the fear of being alone for months without him in a house and a state I am nowhere familiar with. When I try to express this concern sometimes he dismisses it.

I was raised by my parents that college is a super important thing to do which is why I chose to do community college despite me not knowing what to do in my life. I am currently majoring in business to get an associates but unfortunately I do NOT want to major in business. I am only majoring in business because it was something both me and my parents can agree on that they are willing to fully support me since I can not do nursing, doctor, nor engineering. Community College right now is horribly stressing me out.

My household as well is quite toxic due to my father. There's also a lot of manipulation and verbal abuse always believes he's right because he has the "dad" role. He not only does this to me, but also does this to my mom. I am an only child so all of this is also targeted towards me most of the time. Constant yelling, getting insulted, etc. But at the same time my father is very helpful with my education and also teaches me housework and real life issues despite him being antsy all the time and can yell almost a lot. It's almost like an on and off switch and it gets horribly exhausting to the point I am burnt out.

However my boyfriend has flaws too. He has the tendency to break boundaries a lot or push to break boundaries to get in his way. He's a mama's boy and was always spoiled and never disciplined as a kid so it was really hard for me sometimes to tell him my issues without him dismissing it. He has a hard time understanding situations until he experiences it himself. As of currently he is doing his best to change his ways but he slips up a lot. I am doing my best to give him chances as I love him a lot and I believe people can change as long as there is effort no matter who they are.

He also has a history of cheating back in high school and because of that has cheating anxiety and has the habit of sometimes projecting himself onto me. Because I have many friends especially biological male friends and me being biologically female (I am transmasc), he freaks out and gets jealous and accuses me of cheating. Because of that, I fear that he'll make impulsive decisions as in the past when he accused me of cheating, he'd threaten to cheat on me. At the current moment though, he has been telling me he's trying to change and has actually shown improvement.

The reason why I am expressing these points is because I don't know if it's more worth it to just move in with my boyfriend and marry him or just stay home and finish my education. I am currently stuck and I am not so sure what to do at this point and it's making me worried about my future.

Edit: Another thing to mention, my boyfriend would compare us to other people who are married at our ages. He would say stuff like "this could be us" and wtvr