My mother is in her late 60s. I'm married and in my early 30s. My husband and I live in another city, but right now we are home for my mom's spine surgery. I've always had a petite(I am 5'1),slim body but a chubby face and have looked younger for my age(have heard this from people).

But like everyone else, I am aging and naturally my face is losing it's volume and my smile lines have become prominent. My hair has thinned out a bit because hair ages too.

None of these bothers me. But they do bother my mom, a lot. In the past one week, she has pointed the obvious, 5 times, despite me asking her not to do so, as it annoys me.

And her only solution is,I should eat more. Btw, I have an appropriate diet and I am a perfectly healthy individual.

2 days ago, I lost my cool and yelled at her that I was sorry I wasn't born like Aishwarya Rai and for not being visually appealing to her eyes. But this lady is absolutely unhinged. She is petite and overweight herself.Today again she was back with her unwanted opinions about my physique.

And whenever I yell at her, she changes the topic immediately and acts like nothing happened and expects me to turn off my feelings like a switch, after triggering me. She doesn't even understand how hurtful her words feel. According to her,she is "concerned" about me.

I am so mad right now. I mean, this lady should be worried about her surgery, but she is worried about my aging body.

On the other hand, I have always seen my mother in law, pampering my SIL and me, whenever we are together. She always has the sweetest things to say to us. Sometimes, I think why didn't I get a mom like my mother in law..

I am 23 and have no authority to make my decisions. I can make all the big decisions like career and education but small ones, the ones I need to take daily, I can't take them. It's all good on the surface level. The family really cares and listens but under all the care I feel stuck. Sometimes even small decisions feel difficult to make. There is always someone intervening.

Whenever I go out, I have been called in the afternoon saying it's late. One time my father even wrote ab ghar aane ki zaroorat nahi hai. It wasn't even beyond 5 pm. I wanted to make some pasta today. My father said bas jab bimaar ho jaaoge tab pata lagega. It might sound small but I can't even make something I want to eat. Waking up beyond 8 am sounds like a sin to them. Can't even get clothes I want to wear without nagging. It's all in the little things that have made it worse.

I wish I had my job somewhere outside my hometown and could leave. I can't wait to leave this home and live a life without constant nagging and interference from others.

Hi Girls,

I am dating this guy for 8 months now. Tomorrow i am going to meet his friends for the first time. There will be his college friends and their gfs. There is a possibility that his sister might join.

They have planned lunch at my BF’s place for Dussehra, so most probably girls are going to be in traditional attire. Now I’m a pear-shaped mid-sized girlie and frankly speaking the Indian outfits make me look fat, I am feeling insecure.

I have two options, either I wear jeans and top which will be true to my size and be the odd one out or wear Indian outfit and look huge.

Also kinda nervous as he is my first partner whose friends I will meet.

We've known each other since childhood (we're also cousins). We got a flat together some months back, it didn't work out and now she's not talking to me. I've tried several times to make her talk to me but she doesn't reply. But she has done this before too and we didn't talk for a year. It's very hard because genuinely love her and i thought she does too until now. I don't understand how this could be so easy for her. If there was a term that described her as more than a best friend, l'd use that for her. Now i need to move on from someone who i never thought l'd have to worry about leaving, she was a constant. I'm feeling very anxious and I'm breaking down every other day because of this. I don't think she's coming back and i understand that but i just can't get over it. I'm thinking there's something seriously wrong with me because how else can someone so close to you can just discard you. I've nothing bad to say about her because she really is the best. I haven't done anything either to drive her away, she says she needs time but i know for a fact she's not going to talk to me. What do i do. How do recover from this.

I don’t really know why I’m writing this now, but I think I just needed to get this out.

My F1 visa got rejected a year and a half ago. I was really, really, really looking forward to it. For the two years before I applied, that was basically all I was doing. I researched for thousands of hours, worked endlessly on my essays and application. I even bloody signed the lease for a house.

I genuinely thought I had a strong application. I’d held a U.S. visa for almost 20 years, travelled to the U.S. multiple times, renewed it multiple times, had a really, really good university acceptance, and had my finances sorted. I genuinely didn’t know what the problem was.

And then, in just a minute, everything disappeared.
I’ve genuinely never put this much heart, soul and myself into anything in my entire life. I know I could have applied again, but I didn’t have the heart or mental space for another rejection. That rejection felt incredibly personal.

I eventually did my master’s in India and I’m working now. But whenever I see somebody from that university on Instagram, or hear somebody talking about their U.S. master’s, I get genuinely heartbroken.

That was supposed to be my life. I was supposed to be doing all of that too.

And ever since then, whenever I start caring about something or putting a lot of effort into it, I panic that it won’t work out. And anytime something bad happens in my life, I automatically go back to that moment and think, maybe this wouldn’t have happened if I had gotten that piece of my life.

I really, really, really wish it had worked out.
This is something that will always, always break my heart.

All I wanted to do was study!! I bloody wanted to study with all my heart!! I couldn’t!! That particular field isn’t specifically available to study in India. It’s often combined with other subjects!! I couldn’t!! I wouldn’t ever be able to!!

Hi all

I am actively interviewing for 3 companies simultaneously for solution consulting

A- Indian MNC (First interview today)
B- Global MNC
C- Small company with niche stack (Remote and having final round with CEO this week)

Now I am earning less right now, like really less, thats why I quoted around 5 LPA (which is a fresher salary, I have 6 months intern experience and 7 months trainee, which is not a full time role but an apprenticeship)

Now I feel I have lowballed myself for all 3 companies, I get anxious of losing the deal. Can I negotiate after getting offer ?
Also I am anxious that these are going on different paces, how will I get to decide the final call, my priority is ofc being in global MNC, but as you know the processes are slow, what if I get an offer from Small company and I need to accept it and I can not join another company :(

Please advise, I dont have a lot of experience.

Thanks a lot.

Women between the ages of 23-30, what are other topics that you talk to your friends about excluding marriage, having kids, inlaws and romantic relationships?

I'm so bored with these topics but cannot think of others. We do talk about work, tv shows, parents health but these somehow get finished in 30 mins and then rhe rest of the hangout is about marriage.

Oky so I was scrolling through Instagram and a girl said if a man says this he might k!// You..and there she said if he ever said he can k!// You he can and i remembered this manipulative gaslighting criminal kinda ex of my ex bestf and I wanted to protect her from that boy because he was a drunkard and i didn't liked her ex her ex knew I didn't liked him..he and my ex bestf once broke up and he thought it was because of me and he said that he can do anything even k!// Someone and i distanced myself from my bestf and yeah they came back into relationship....now I distanced myself from her she was weird sick and used to think of that drunkard as her husband she was 14-15 btw..he used to drink and give her g@@lis and they broke up in like 2023 maybe idk..and i started talking to my friend again but she again made a new bf and he was toxic af and she didn't listen to me and degraded my image infront of him and proudly told me this and again I was done with her for like forever so I just stopped talking to her now also I don't talk to her but i recently got a instagram request from a person and her bf was in his mutuals...now I am lowkey scared that he's trying to approach my ex bestf through me and if i refused then he'll get angry.. though I blocked that person now but in scared he'll try again..

Oh i forgot to mention he gave my insta id to a 29y/o when I was just 15 and forced me to talk to him on a call telling me he's just 18-19...and my so called bestf took his bf's side..also she told me that his bf was photographer in a wedding in which even I went to and he was making fun of me by saying xxx thoos thoos k kha rhi thi..😐 and my ex bestf was laughing at it..

I am lowkey scared please tell me I am being paranoid..has anyone ever dealt with this situation??? How did you manage ???

I’ve started my master’s in International development at the LSE, my peers have been applying for jobs and getting outright rejected. I do have a sense of how unrealistic getting a job is but I still want to know the ground reality. With prior work experience, all the relevant research skills, can one even think of working in the policy sector or even INGOs, perhaps not in the UK solely but elsewhere too?

Thank you!

TL:DR in the end.

So, I was on my periods, and I remembered this.

Back in my 9th grade, around late-2023 ig, I get to hear this from my aunt that there is a rumour 'bout me in her maiden relatives, which apparently happen to be relatives of my paternal grandmother as well. So, she tells me that it's spreaded that I have periods (which is obvious) and that I go to the doctor coz I have period-related issues. "Issues" btw (I forgot the details) and also that I js stay at home and stuff...

Is it being spreaded coz I js stayed at home? Well, if I roamed around, I would be called awara, I bet. So girls can't even live like they want, wow. Well, introverts exist r8. Well, I like socializing, and I did it, but with "right" people. And btw, these relatives have often been invited at home for dinners, and all, and my grandma gives them so much bhaav, while these ppl are js tend to use and throw people.

Well, well, well, another thing my aunt does is, she accuses a distant relative from my mom's side who shares the same native village to be doing it, which is ofc wrong. And well, I bet it's one of her own aunts itself... and I bet it was not because she wanted me to be aware of it, it was probably because she didn't want me to hear from a third person and then accuse her for spreading it... as it would have been great if she sorted the matter there n then, if she really cared enough. So, the rumour, which obviously is so stupid, and I have no idea why the people who I don't even give a damn to have so much of free time to spend 'em. Why would they spread it, I didn't find any logic, can anyone explain me that?

And back then, I heard my mom and masi speaking smtg, and clearly didn't want me to hear it, as it's another rumour 'bout me. Heck, honestly, I don't even know how many rumours are actually being spreaded about me at this point.

Well, okay, let's assume I have these "ISSUES" for a second, even tho I don't have 'em. Hell the issues, I mean period-related disease or smtg. So well, let's assume I get cramps, let's assume I have pcos or pcod, so what's wrong in going to the hospital? Isn't that what you are supposed to do if you are sick or having pain? Like, isn't that what u are supposed to do? And why are they so bothered to spread such rumours 'bout me? Like what's wrong?

If a person gets a burning, raging fever, do people start whispering in the dark like, "OMG, her body temperature crossed 103! OMG, she is desperately rushing to the doctor, what a massive scandal!" No right?? The drama they make of this, which is not even true, is ridiculous. Mind you, I never ever visited a gynac in my entire life... and idk where they get the context or even the idea to spend their damn useless time on such things... like, what do they even get. If they have so much energy, I guess they should surely interview for getting a writer's role for those Star Plus serials, like what was its name, Ye Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai, Anupama, or make their own serial, atleast it will earn 'em some money or help them get a platform to share their "mindset."

And btw, the women I doubt, so her grandson happens to be older but in the same grade as me. He was in state board school. But as he was in academy outside our district, so he got 70%, and yeah, there's nothing wrong to be ashamed of it, 10th Board marks don't even matter anyways. But for that, I being from cbse n gettin' excellent grades, it happens to be that, this women tells my aunt that his exams are tougher coz he studies at academy lol, like wth is even the logic... as ironically his is easier as it's state boards, And there is another toxic relative who asked multiple times to someone if I was admitted to a copy centre for writing my exams?? Like wow... coz her son who was in state boards got like 80% smtg, and how could I score better than me? Aww. Ughh, these toxic relatives are insecure over smtg I am not much proud of, like was, but not much rn, cause it was last min prep, barely passed pre-boards.

They say, the problem doesn't arise when u are talked -vely instead of +vely, the problem is not being discussed at all. But wow, I atleast got talked on, like they spent their time on "ME," even if it's for those topics, at least I was trending at some point. And in case I find love further in my life, and happen to choose love marriage, omg, it's gonna be a lot of rebelling to do. But before that I gotta build my career as they also need to have some rumours to make, topics to talk, and career to be jealous on... wow. Damn.

There are many more toxic relatives. But yeah, happened to remember this coz I was on my periods (obviously) as if they don't have any women at their home, and the women I doubt, she happens to have a granddaughter or smtg... and my mom avoids this topic whenever I tell her brushing it off, and telling not to talk 'bout stupid things or that she doesn't remember like wow. Like omg, ykw, I can literally make their mouth shut if I get a chance or a moment, but I js happen to stay silent coz I don't have to ruin "image" of being someone innocent r8, but yeah, I don't see any logic in talking with them. Well, then looking forward to hearing new rumours or things 'bout me which I don't even know.

TL;DR: Back in 9th grade, nosy relatives weaponised my periods and introverted routines to invent fake medical "crises," which later mutated into pure academic jealousy once my excellent board results crushed their kids' average marks (ik,marks don't matter). To cope, they invent ridiculous excuses and lies about "copy centres," so living rent-free in their heads.

I (23F) had one of the most horrifying experiences of my life last night, and I honestly need to get this off my chest.
I’ve always wanted to go to a Dandiya night, but I’ve never gone because I didn’t have a partner. This year, a guy offered to take me, but for some reason, I said no. Eventually, one of my friends booked tickets for me to go with her younger sister and her boyfriend.
I was genuinely excited. We reached the venue and decided to pair up..her sister and I would dance together, while my friend danced with her boyfriend.
About five minutes later, while her sister and I were clicking pictures, my friend’s boyfriend called us and asked us to come outside because something had happened.
When we went outside umm there was a crowd gathered around. Initially, I thought there had been an accident. Then 7–8 security guards told us that a girl had run away crying and screaming. We were confused and started looking for my friend.
After searching for 20–25 minutes, we finally found my friend sitting alone at a corner of the road, crying.
When we asked what had happened, she told us that she and her boyfriend had gotten into an argument. According to her, he had verbally abused and slapped her so hard that her jhumka broke.
I was honestly in shock. Her younger sister was furious and started confronting him, asking how he could do something like that to her sister.
Apparently, the argument had started over something as ridiculous as coloured contact lenses. My friend was wearing them, and he got upset that she hadn’t bought a pair for him because, according to him, she should have known he wanted them.
Things got even worse when he tried to hit her younger sister, too. I immediately stepped in between them.
At that point, I decided we needed to leave. I booked a cab home, but he snatched my friend’s phone, transferred all her money to his own account, threatened her, and refused to let her leave peacefully. He said he wouldn’t return her phone if she left and threatened us with serious consequences, including death threats.
I was terrified. I knew I could call people for help, but it would take at least an hour for anyone to reach us. I also didn’t want the situation to escalate further, especially with her younger sister already visibly traumatised.
I’m an introvert, and I’m not someone who handles confrontations easily. The entire situation was overwhelming and frightening. I did raise my voice and tried to intervene, but I was constantly thinking about what might happen if he turned on us.
I kept trying to comfort my friend. I hugged her while she cried and repeatedly asked her to come home with us. But her boyfriend kept pulling her back, getting increasingly aggressive and moving closer to her sister as if he wanted to hit her again.
Eventually, he threatened my friend enough that she started shouting at me to leave her alone and go home. She kept saying it was their private matter.
I could see that she was scared of him, but I couldn’t understand why she was choosing to stay with someone who had just hit her, threatened her, taken her phone, and transferred her money.
I didn’t want to leave her there. I kept worrying about what might happen after we left. But her younger sister was also there, and I felt responsible for getting her somewhere safe. Eventually, around 12:30 AM, I left with her sister.
My friend stayed with him that night.
I barely slept. I kept replaying everything in my head, wondering whether I should have shouted more, called the police, involved security, or done something differently. I kept calling my friend throughout the night to check on her.
At around 7 AM, I went to their hotel and picked her up.
Apparently, they had somehow sorted things out between themselves after we left.
But I haven’t been able to process what happened. One moment, we were taking pictures and enjoying ourselves, and the next, we were dealing with violence, threats, and fear.
The thing that’s bothering me the most is whether I did enough.
I keep blaming myself for not doing more, even though I was scared myself. I also feel frustrated that my friend stayed with him, but I know it’s not as simple as just telling someone to leave a relationship.
I don’t want to judge her. I’m worried about her and her younger sister, too, because I can’t imagine how traumatising it must have been to witness all of that.
Has anyone ever witnessed something like this? How do you process it afterwards? And how do you help a friend who is in an abusive relationship when they aren’t ready to leave?
I genuinely don’t know what I’m supposed to feel right now. I just needed to talk about it somewhere.

I grew up with brown parents in India. For the longest time since childhood, I was in boarding school. I hardly spent 30 or 40 days in a year at home, but I was pretty close to my joint family.

Covid was the first time which pushed me to stay for more than 2 or 3 months with them, and that made me realise how flawed my family is. My dad had been cheating on my mom for a very long time, and ever since, I just don't like him. Everything about him annoys me.

Now I am 27, living away from family in a city. I am still very close to my mom, but with my dad, it is very superficial or surface level. They decided to visit me where I stay. First it was my mom, and it was really nice with her around. Today, my dad joined her for a couple of days, and all I can think about is: when are they going to go back?

My mom is dependent on my father, of course, so she couldn't get separated. But the fact is that all of our conversations, me and my mom, revolve around my dad. All the time she is like, "We could get him here," "He could like this," "Call your dad," "Do this with your dad," etc., etc. I could go on and on. Even when she is enjoying herself, she will think of him, which gets me annoyed because it is the opposite.

My dad is completely reliant on my mom for medicine, food, a proper patriarchal brown dad. There is no love. My dad just wants my mom to do all her work, and I feel like my skin is crawling. I can't bear it.

I don't say anything either. I can't. It breaks my heart to see my mom stuck. Frankly, I don't even know what she thinks. It is not like we can talk to her, I think she will not like it. But I do feel guilty for feeling like this for my dad, or maybe I shouldn't? It's just that he arrived today, and I can't even be in the same room as him. I feel suffocated. No amount of therapy has made me feel different for my dad, and I just get annoyed.

There is this guy who was part of my life for 4.5 years. He expressed his feelings for me & also accepted & respected my decision not to act on them. However, we used to talk normally once every 2 months/3 months. Mostly he used to ping me. But whenever we talked I also reciprocated to the best of my ability.He also reiterated the fact that how much he respected our friendship & how much valuable is it for him. Fast forward, this Jan, I was very sick & I texted him myself twice( I initiated the convos). May be it was getting too inconvenient for him to stay in touch with me. But what he chose to do was beyond my imagination. He mentioned one of my vulnerabilities, stating that my female best friend did not respond to my calls instantly & there must be something wrong with me that I was nobody's priority & he always had this hunch that something was wrong with me. Previously in the midst of our conversation, I shared with him that my college best friend was acting cold with me & was not responding to my calls. He chose to bring that topic when I was at my lowest. I didn't text him any further post that incident & ofc we don't talk anymore. He never apologised to me either. Probably he was waiting for an excuse to cut ties with me.Today I was deleting the old texts & came across this conversation, so felt like sharing.

Hey folks!
I am joining the dating world again at 33 and I feel very comfortable with the idea of being truly honest about my life with my partner. All the ghosts in the closet, yada. With the hope that they are kind and don’t weaponise it. If they do, they show themselves and that’s a datapoint.

The issue is, I don’t know how and when to disclose stuff with dates. I use a hearing aid in one ear(partial loss identified recently), I have BPD and ADHD and had depression a few years back. I get it intellectually that I have lived a life and things happen, but I feel shame and fear in case someone is unkind. I don’t want to hide or anything but I do want to feel psychologically safe enough before sharing. So I don’t want it to be a first date conversation or profile information. Is that unfair?

What do you advise?

Hello all, I have a younger relative who is getting married. She doesn't have any s*x education. Are there any healthy, empowering, honest Indian s*x education podcasts or YouTube channels she can watch or listen to? She speaks Telugu and English. Hindi is so-so, but she can manage, especially with subtitles.

It’s the festive season and everything looks soooo prettyyyyyy. You can smell the festivities in the air. I don’t know if it’s only in the Delhi air. The slight chill in the air is a giveaway if you miss out on any of the above mentioned hints, lol. You see people prepping for the season. Durga Puja. Diwali. Karva. Dussehra. All of it’s here.

But what do you with all of this if you’re a lonely introvert 28yr old whose friends have friends and have a life?

You go to Instagram to distract yourself?
Grave mistake.
You see people actually having fun. The fun you also wanna have but sadly, you don’t have friends.

You turn to your family?
Do not know about others but some people have severely dysfunctional family where relationships feel more suffocating.

Friends?
We’ve already covered that, lol.

Boyfriend?
Eh.

I know this post was more of vent than anything but it’s this season that brings pangs of loneliness that become more prominent than any other day.

The intent of this post is not to elicit any sympathy or empathy. It’s just trying to cope with situation in a healthy way and trying not to feel sad. I’ve tried going out and making friends. Did not work. Sure I have friends and they like me. But they also like being friends with people who do not have a curfew of 8PM. I don’t really fit in that criteria.

If you don’t have anything nice to say then please scroll. If you have a suggestion, be respectful enough to not hurt a person who is as it is struggling.

Thanks.

Hi, as the title says, I'm looking for corsets to buy FOR A LONG TIME. But every time I see one that is pretty, it always has small cup sizes.

Now, if I go up a few sizes, the corsets don't fit from the waist and tummy. And the ones that fit on the waist never fit in the chest area without 3/4th of my shit spilling out.

If anyone knows where I can buy good corsets with bigger cup sizes under 2000, please let me know! Online or some place in delhi-ncr. I've tried sarojini but no luck because I'm never even able to find the shop 😭

Now I'm usually kinda against getting any cosmetic procedure done, simply because I'm scared of hospitals or getting any kinda medical procedure done. It really frightens me that someone would be making changes to my body. I even had panic attacks after getting fillers for my cavities lol.

However there's this one thing I have always been extremely insecure about, my deep set eyes. They make my eyes look bigger but also makes them look very hollow. There are really bad dark circles that just can't be fixed with concealer or sleeping because they're there due to the shape of the eyes, not due to swelling or skin colour. I've seen some people online get filler there and they had great results and I kinda really wanna get them too. However as I said I'm really scared of such procedures so I would like to know the experience of someone who actually got them 🫠

I’m 23, living with my parents and working in our family business. I actually like it. I’m financially dependent on them. It’s complicated.

I wanted to take a short solo trip and finally brought it up today. I didn’t even get to explain where I wanted to go or what my plan was. My parents immediately said no, that the timing isn’t right, the outside world isn’t safe, and I shouldn’t travel alone. They suggested I take my mom or sister instead. For context, I’ve traveled with friends before. Money is not the issue.

What upset me wasn’t even the initial concern. It was that I felt like I wasn’t given a chance to explain myself at all. When I got upset about that, I was told I was being adamant and childish because they had said no. I barely spoke with them for 2 minutes. I hated the whole 2 minutes. My first thought was to run away somewhere and get a job. But I can’t. I don’t want to. I wanna work in the business and eventually start my own as well.

I hate this. I hate the fact that I’m crying about this now. I feel like I’m stuck here. I don’t want to feel like I wanna run away all the time. I just started working for them a couple of months ago.

Something you wanted but regretted. It could be a field of study, a job, a college, a relationship, marriage, or even having kids. What's something you wanted so badly but later realised wasn't right for you? I'd love to hear about your experiences and learn something from them.

Living in delhi but haven't explored much . Went to chandni chowk but everything was overpriced and not the upto the mark quality.

Can anyone sugget me good stores in delhi which are budget friendly but have quality too.

Also even online stores. I can buy one dress upto 6k or max 7k .

Kindly guide.

I'm his only sister so need to look good but currently very tight on budget.

I feel like there’s this huge myth that pretty girls are always hated for no reason, and while yeah, that might be true in a lot of cases, i’ve also had some genuinely shitty experiences with quite a few of them.

like, i’m naturally funny, super social, and pretty good at making people like me. i can vibe with literally all kinds of people, conventionally attractive or not, because i’m a pretty bubbly, chirpy person, i’m cute, i look decent, and i’m tall too lmao 😭 so it’s not like i struggle to get along with people or get attention.

but one thing i’ve noticed is that some conventionally pretty girls seem to have a hard time digesting the fact that someone who isn’t necessarily a 10/10 by society’s standards can still get the same amount of attention, love, and social validation as them. like, they’re so used to being the pretty girl in the room, being catered to, getting special treatment, and having people revolve around them that the second someone else gets attention without fitting the same beauty standards, it somehow becomes a problem.

and honestly, this has happened to me MULTIPLE times. i’ve had conventionally pretty girls be unnecessarily mean to me, and sometimes it genuinely felt like the reason was that i was getting attention too. like, i’m sorry??? 😭 just because you’re pretty doesn’t mean you’re the only girl in the room who can be liked, noticed, or admired. some of us have that personality, humour, and natural charm that makes people gravitate towards us, and apparently, that can be a little hard for some people to digest.

and the funniest part is that people genuinely believe pretty girls can’t be jealous or insecure because what could they possibly be insecure about, right? GIRL, BE SO FR 😭 you can literally be a 10/10 and still be insecure as fuck. being pretty doesn’t automatically make you confident, secure, or a good person. sometimes, the people who are used to getting the most validation are the ones who struggle the most when someone else gets the same attention.

i had this one friend who was genuinely gorgeous. fair, pretty features, the whole package. but she would literally talk shit about me behind my back to a male friend, and somehow, people were more inclined to believe her. and honestly, it made me realise how much pretty privilege can influence the way people perceive someone. like, people will sometimes trust a pretty face before they even have a reason to trust the person behind it.

and that’s what people don’t get. a girl can be gorgeous and still feel threatened by another girl who gets attention in a completely different way. not every insecurity looks like someone being jealous of your looks. sometimes, it’s about watching someone who doesn’t fit your idea of conventional beauty walk into a room and effortlessly win people over. and if that bruises your ego, that’s really not her problem. 💀

and no, i’m not saying all pretty girls are like this or that being attractive automatically makes you a bad person. that would be stupid. but i do think some people get so used to being treated like they’re special because of their looks that they genuinely cannot handle it when someone else gets attention for their personality, humour, confidence, or just their overall vibe.

because at the end of the day, jealousy isn't exclusive to conventionally unattractive people, and insecurity doesn't magically disappear just because you're gorgeous. you can literally have the face card, the body, the pretty privilege, AND STILL be insecure about another girl. all of that can coexist.

and unconventional beauties can be just as magnetic, charming, and attention-grabbing as conventionally gorgeous women. beauty isn't one-size-fits-all, and being outside society's narrow beauty standards doesn't mean you're any less capable of turning heads or winning people over.

sometimes, the issue isn't even that someone is prettier than you. it's that someone who you think shouldn't be getting as much attention as you is getting it anyway, and your ego just cannot handle that.

and honestly? that's a you problem, babe. 💀

I have PCOS / PMOS induced hirsutism and had a lot of facial hair my entire life. In my 20s, hormones got much worse and I developed a full beard pattern hair growth on my face. I currently shave every 3-7 depending on when I am going out. Its exhausting to keep shaving.

I am considering laser on my face and want to know your experiences.

i really really really hate my periods oh god they make me so damn emotional two days before😭 I end up on the verge of tears for everything literally everything. I have to study for my exams but I can't because I am on my periods oh god i can't wait to get over with this 💔