One employee regularly stays late without pay. Other employees start doing the same. Eventually, staying late becomes the workplace norm. The employee who leaves on time is called lazy or uncommitted, even though they are fulfilling their agreed working hours. Nobody initially required the extra work. But once enough people volunteered, their voluntary behaviour became the standard imposed on everyone.The connection: The 99% who give something back begin judging the 1% who don't, even though the original act was voluntary.

getting reminded of Michael Scott right now haha. "Do I need to be liked? Absolutely not. I like to be liked. I enjoy being liked. I have to be liked. But it's not like a compulsive need to be liked. Like my need to be praised." haha

thank you

I think you're onto something; maybe it's just the fact that my brain is used to doing things logically and that class is more conformist style. There's like a million excuses though, I can't fully dismiss I as the world's fault and not mine

Unless the city gives permission for it to be used as a final resting place, where granny gets buried and can literally “push up daisies”, give it up.

The word you are searching for is "give". When you give a woman an opportunity to study and work and vote and decide what she wants to wear, you do not lose that opportunity as a man. There are some cultures out there that are very afraid to do that and oppress women. Those cultures are underdeveloped regardless of their wealth, such is the idea of the article. Personally I agree. In 2026, noone should suffer because some mentally unstable individuals still believe in witches and want to oppress them and dictate what amount of cloth they should use. 

Reading some of these comments, I find it interesting how quickly people jump to forgiveness, acceptance, and the idea that nobody is perfect.

But shouldn’t we first understand what actually happened, who was harmed, and who bears responsibility?

As outsiders, we should be patient enough to understand the circumstances, think critically about right and wrong, and have enough empathy to recognize the pain and vulnerability of those who were hurt.

Acknowledging human weakness doesn’t excuse harmful behavior. And telling someone to detach, move on, or be grateful doesn’t magically erase what happened.

Forgiveness is a personal choice, not a moral obligation we get to impose on someone else.
It’s easy to preach acceptance when you’re not the one who has to live with the consequences.

Maybe instead of asking victims to be more forgiving, we should start by asking those who caused the harm to be more accountable.

This thought experiment doesn’t really make sense to me. Where do we see this sort of thing happening in real life? You mean just like charities? And then people look down on the people who don’t give back? I am completely unaware of this phenomenon.

I appreciate you saying that. I always enjoy finding points of agreement in conversations, even amidst disagreements. You're made a number of interesting and thought provoking comments that I'm on board with.

I'm an American of Indian origin, and my friend groups have always been mixed. I can get along with and make friends with anybody, as long as there is mutual respect and shared interests.

Years of silent meditation retreats, anti-anxiety meds ( lexipro, guanficine), counseling, gaining a mature perspective on what matters and what does not.

An air fryer will save you gas money or delivery fees. Trust us.

You might find ACT helpful (acceptance and commitment therapy). Not every thought is worth pursuing. Sometimes our brains are just being jerks.

You're pretty good at nuance.

When it comes to internet searches, at least on Google, I have to be even MORE specific with my questions, and I have to keep rephrasing and rephrasing. You can easily get wrong answers to questions if you do not use as many descriptive words as possible. You have to constantly refine your questions to get unbiased feedback. I guess in that regard it is sort of helping me be more descriptive and detailed in conversation, like at work where I am training a new hire.

I don't think they save any time. People seem to spend more time trying to get good results from it. Writing an email? I've seen coworkers spend more time using Copilot to craft a response than it would take to actually just respond to the email.

No - resistance is a sign your expectations and desires are out of whack with reality, and you are basically "doing it for the wrong reasons"... the "right" reasons just flow effortlessly, when attention, desire, intention and motivation are all tuned up "properly" and in sync with each other

You have to learn how to "just play" again in your life, rather than trying to design or optimize experiences - out of sync expectations can ruin every good thing you ever wanted to do

Haha, I actually love that you asked me this question, because it’s something I’ve thought about before! 😀

I’ve always admired the sense of belonging and support that religion can offer. The idea of having mentors to guide you and a community that feels like family is wonderful.

But as I grew older, I realised I already had those things in my life. I have a loving family, supportive friends, and meaningful connections that aren’t limited by religious beliefs.

I also have a strong sense of morality and empathy. Even as an atheist, I’ll always strive to be a kind, caring person who contributes to the lives of others.

I completely understand why a good church community means so much to people. I just don’t feel I’ve missed out by not being part of one. 😊

People can change. They can have an epiphany, an awakening, an awareness of what forces have been motivating their toxic behavior. When they do, outwardly their behavior usually becomes more graceful, but internally they very often carry a degree of burden, of hurt, of shame for the rest of their lives, finding ways to atone for the pains they’ve caused others. It becomes their cross to bear.

Many of us who feel fortunate to “have” want to share it with those that don’t. It’s subjective and personal, I decide when, where and how much. I don’t think about “looking down” I think of it as an obligation. In Judaism it’s called Tikkun Olam, the act of trying to repair the world. If I can make a difference, it’s not limited to humans, it can be taking stale bread or nuts that I should put in the trash but instead walking to an area where geese are feeding and giving it there. It’s putting out dog biscuits with the Halloween candy for kids who take their dogs trick or treating

1. No
2. "print is dead" - Egon Spengler
3. "AI" is not nearly as useful or revolutionary as its billionaire marketers and investors want us to believe. To compare it to something as historically impactful as the printing press is laughable

I think there’s a subtle difference in what we’re talking about here. You’re saying that there are no universally ACCEPTED definitions of what’s healthy, and I agree with that.

But I’m saying there’s a diffeence between what a community BELIEVES is healthy and what actually contributes to human well being.

If a community refuses to recognize certain individuals as people, it doesn’t change the individuals feeling suffering or harm. That harm IS universal, whether or not the community recognizes it.

So I’m not saying all communities share the same moral beliefs.

But, we CAN evaluate their practices based on their effects on human well being…not just on if the community approves of them.

so basically I’m saying the harm isn’t subjective just becasue not all communities universally agree on if it matters or not.

AI has changed how I handle everyday tasks by demanding instant, intense scrutiny every time I see an image. The first step is to identify a flaw in the image and the next step is to ask "is this a mistake a human artist would make?"

Once I've determined if an image is art (made by a human being) I can appreciate it. If an image is machine generated I refuse to look at it.

Now when I read a book, I get to wonder "Was this actually written (a trait unique to humans) or extruded by a machine?" I've observed people more intelligent than myself stymied by LLM salami.

I short, AI has made art and literature into a quagmire of often justified distrust.

That’s exactly the point. We live here for our first time and things will happen. Detach, emotional step back and give your self the gift of humility. Allow it, is what it is and say life is a gift. Enters gratitude. Send gratitude and love to all. It’s powerful energy and will come back.

I just wanted to add another thought and im glad you were brought up in a loving household, of course you can without a teligious one but just a second thought on church, like, I have faith and what not, but really if I had a family like my brother I would bring them up in the church even if the only reason was the community that comes along with belonging to a good church, it helps tie you to the area and make meaningful local personal connections, did you ever feel you lacked that?