Where you at? How long have you and your partner been together??

11 years. We became official on 10/1/2015. 😀

I'm 31 and recently came out of a long term relationship and marriage. It's sad, but for the best, and I owe him a lot. However, I'm trying to put myself out there a little with trying out apps.

This evening I saw a guy in a bar who I chatted to on Grindr a few days ago. He messaged me his number after I left, and he offered me to come back to chill with a 'bag'. I was naive and messaged a friend who told me it was what I thought it was.

I've never touched a hard drug in my life, and I feel like my ex might now have as I know he's hooked up with guys since we've broken up. I don't drink, and vape socially maybe once a month.

I suppose I should be asking: am I going to expect many encounters like this where drugs are the theme of a meet? I turned him down, even though he's my absolute perfect type, because of this and I'm starting to feel real FOMO. I just want some reassurance that this isn't going to be a regular occurrence.

I just told my partner (M 36 and M 33) of 8 years that I want a divorce this morning. We just had our 5 year marriage anniversary this month. I’m so upset, but I know it’s right thing to do.

TL:DR version of the story, he has severe ADHD. I have extreme burnout from being the care taker of the relationship. He has impulsivity issues. I also have my issues with depression. I’m the breadwinner of the relationship and it’s been so hard to motivate him to get his career going; I feel like his parent. We’re open, but he’s crossed the boundaries we instated for our relationship way too many times. My needs are no longer being met and I’m unhappy. Been in counseling individually and together on and off for over a year.

Need some words of encouragement and advice. I hope I’m not making a mistake because we are most definitely major loves in each others lives. This sucks.

That's it.

He never mentioned he has a snapchat account. He said he only had instagram and Tiktok as his social media. He never mentions it. Then, I made an snap account and found his profile. He’s always online and he posts stories. I also caught him once looking at other people’s profile and at that time I was not aware that it was snapchat, so I ignored it. I only found out it was snapchat when I downloaded the app. Then, these past few days, everytime he searches an app on his iPhone, the first suggestion is Snapchat. He didn’t know that I was aware of this. Should I confront him about it? Should I ask him to show me who he chats with? He posted a picture he sent me in the morning. Then he posted this picture he never sent me in the evening. Isn’t this a suspicious picture to post? Am I being cheated on?

Though, I must admit, I hate the fact that this topic is considered controversial even more.

Why is it controversial that I don't want my identity and my pain to be women's mental sex toy?

Gay men are literally losing their cultural identity by allowing some middle-aged housewives, whose husbands can't fuck them properly, to tell their stories.

In the past we were represented by Oscar Wilde, Yukio Mishima, Jean Genet, William Burroughs, James Baldwin and so many more talented men, and now gay stories are associated with... well, you know with whom, I won't tell their names.

Why are we ok with that?

This is for the largest Painting Commission I have ever been hired to do. It's a huge 24" by 36" Painting on Stretched Canvas. Made with Acrylic and Oil paint and heavily varnished. I hope you enjoy :)

See actual photo: https://imgur.com/a/biggest-painting-commission-ever-5ikQs6k

Do you think gay guys would read a MM erotica book with a plot? I've been working on one that combines slow romance build up, detective mystery, erotic sensuality, with some conventional sex encounters. It's a Victorian setting and prose heavy. Bears and bear-adjacent heavyset men.

I'm a guy writing for guys, but have not published before and am now wondering what my audience potential could be. 

I already have the first book nearly finished,  and have two more planned in its series, but am having some serious doubts now. This has been an ongoing back and forth tug of war through the entire writing process, but now that it's coming close to being ready to put out there, I'm feeling like "this is so stupid and pointless, what is the point of all this, would anyone actually read this/pay to read this?" I've been able to tell myself it's for personal gratification earlier on, but now that's not quite cutting it. :(

Thoughts appreciated.

EDIT: Thanks for all the input! I won't promote anything here, so please contact me directly if you are interested in what's currently upcoming/available. To add some additional detail, the current project is likely going to be around/in excess of 350+ pages depending on the format (intending to release ebook and paperback).

Another factor that has been really making me wonder who would enjoy this style is that it leans heavily sensual (body-focused), more than raw bursts of explicit sex. The specific acts during the sexual encounters are left slightly vague, and I know my own preference for MM sex during a story is to focus on variants of frot. I don't want potential readers to feel like they've been "bait-and-switched" when they discover a lack of penetrative pounding action but at the same time don't want to sabotage the work by causing readers to prematurely dismiss it for not being sexually intense enough.

Hi all, I just joined the subreddit today.

One thing I have been struggling with for a long time is facing constant low self-esteem due to my sexuality. I mean, you get it right? Living in a country as a young gay man where acting lovey-dovey between the same gender is frowned upon, I always feel like there's no chance for me to ever experience gay love. I also face insecurity with my looks, like I am frequently told I look older for peeps my age. (I am 20 this year.) Hence this explains my fear to make a move to find someone to even hook up, let alone date.

I don't know quite surely what it is I want here, but I just feel like venting my thoughts.

Have a good day, people. :3

Hey bros!

If you're in San Francisco and work in tech (or are trying to break into the industry), we're getting together for a casual Gays In Tech happy hour this Friday at Blackbird!

It's a free monthly meetup for gay, bi, and pan guys to meet new people, make friends, talk about work (or literally anything else like your recent trip, evil landlord etc), and build connections outside of the usual dating apps.

Software engineers, designers, product managers, creatives, people dealing with layoffs, career changers — all welcome. You definitely don't need to have your career figured out to come.

There's no formal programming, awkward icebreakers, or expectations. Just a bunch of guys hanging out and getting to know each other.

Details:

• Friday, October 16
• 6:30–8:30 PM
• 📍 Blackbird, 2124 Market St, San Francisco
• Free to attend (just pay for your own drinks if you want any)

Coming alone? Totally fine. That's kind of the point of these meetups! We're all nice.

Here's the Meetup link if you're interested:
https://www.meetup.com/gays-in-tech-networking/events/316845016/

Would be great to meet some fellow gaybros in person!

-Blu

Any input is appreciated on where to stay or if there’s a gay district to visit while on Beijing. Appreciate your input, mates.

Hi Everyone!

I run a Discord community called The Locker Room, which is a social space for gay men who are interested in the jock/bro lifestyle, fitness, sports, self-improvement, and generally just hanging out and connecting with other guys.

If you are interested in meeting new people, sharing/offering advice, hanging out and more, please feel free to join. I have included the link.

Enjoy guys, I had a flashing idea of connecting all my paintings as a series of stories but I forgot how it goes. So yeah anyway I still had some fun doing it.