r/Frat • u/Parking-Honey5505 • 15h ago
r/Frat • u/WhyYouShouldRush • Feb 17 '15
Megathread "Should I rush?" - my opinion to your questions.
TLDR: YES
actives, if you have any other misc advice you want me to add leave a comment and i'll put it on the list. feedback is welcome too.
It doesn't matter whether you are ex military, socially awkward, 46, poor, or anything other than a rich non-white 18 year old. You should rush.
What do you expect from a fraternity?
I can think of two main reasons to join a fraternity.
You want to make friends, party, brotherhood, connections etc...
Your only goal is to make connections to help you get a job after college.
If your main reason is number 2, you should look into joining a professional fraternity. Beta Alpha Psi is the national accounting fraternity and are highly recruited at my university.
If your main reason is number 1, you should join a social fraternity. lambda chi, pike, fiji, sigma chi, etc...
Rushing a Social Fraternity
Answer these questions:
- What interests do I have?
- Do I prefer smaller or larger groups?
1- Try to find a fraternity where the members have similar interests to you. Are you a country boy? Find the fraternity that best fits that characteristic. Like video games? There's going to be a fraternity for you. If you're a gym rat, sports star, or an alcoholic, there will be a fraternity for you. You just have to do your homework and find the right one.
2- The size of the fraternity can be a big factor. If you don't do well in situations with a huge amount of people, you should look into the smaller fraternities.
Misc. Advice
- You have to be willing to make compromises. There will be a lot of events that you will hate to attend but will anyway. You don't have to compromise your morals. Any fraternity worth a crap will be willing to work with personal beliefs/personal aspects of your life that might be affected during the pledging process.
- It is what you make of it. You get out of it what you put in. If you're a dead beat pledge who never puts an effort into anything, expect to have a terrible time. If you go to all your events with a good attitude, pledgeship will be exponentially better.
- Don't be a fuck up. I can't explain this one and you will do this at some point. Just try to minimize the damage.
How fraternity life has affected me
My junior year I received an internship for an accounting firm in my hometown. While I was there I worked with a supervisor who was in charge of new hires. During conversation she told me she saw on my resume that I was in a fraternity and immediately put my resume in the call back pile because she was in a sorority herself. I received a full time offer after the internship and will be moving up North after I finish my degree. It didn't matter what fraternity I was in, just the fact that I was in one put me at an advantage in this particular circumstance.
r/Frat • u/idkbutilikelana • 2h ago
Serious wtf to wear to hoco proposal? No suits tho smh. How is hoco in general?
Long story short, we are a brand new chapter I’m a founding member. Somehow we pulled a hoco pairing with a bigger sorority, so big chance here to make a good first impression. I was thinking khakis and collared shirt since no suits but lmk what your guys experiences were and what I should expect and stuff. Thanks
Also my only shirt w letters is a comfort colors one it’s kinda ass it just says pike and it’s red but idk if that’s the move. I need to order a collared shirt w letters bro
r/Frat • u/No-Air8319 • 1d ago
Frat Stuff Oldest pledge ever?
My friends and I were debating how old the oldest pledge of all time would have been. Anybody pledge somebody way too old?
r/Frat • u/ResponsibleAlps8161 • 2d ago
Serious Should I drop my pledge and rush another frat next semester?
Should I drop my pledge class and rush another frat because I think it's more fun? It's 3rd week of pledging and my brothers and PM not doing any efforts for bonding activities. Maybe like mixer 2 times a month. Also it's a mid sized frat house. Maybe I rush next sem to a different frat sigma chi because it might be better?
r/Frat • u/Not_AltRight • 2d ago
Serious Opinion on AGCs ?
I just wanted to hear your guys opinion on Asian fraternities since this subreddit is like all IFC. I joined an Asian fraternity and it isn’t all I imagined, just wanted to see your guys’ perspective.
r/Frat • u/Gullible_Travel_4135 • 3d ago
Frat Stuff Preparing a gift for my new little brother!
He's going into archeology, so i'm going to paint either a Greek collumn or vase in the space on the bottom. This is my first little brother that i'm going through pledgeship with. Last semester I was magister (sigs pm) so didnt get to have one. One of the guys I initiated though had his big brother leave, and I adopted him. I'm making one of these for each of the youngins. 35 inch long paddles ordered from Amazon, got two for 55 bucks and the leather hand wrap + wrist wrap was 7 dollars. I already had all the paints because I paint warhammer for a hobby.
r/Frat • u/icebreaker2s • 3d ago
Serious Question for treasurers / actives
Does/did your fraternity make new members pay their new member fee and their initiation fee themselves? Or did you guys include that in your dues?
r/Frat • u/Topbutton6 • 4d ago
Rush Advice Purdue University Spring Rush advice
I'm a current freshman at Purdue university and I think I might want to rush a frat in the spring. I didn't rush in the fall since I didn't know a lot about the rushing process and I wasn't sure I'd have the time in my schedule but i've decided I want to look into it. Some of my friends are rushing and it seems like a lot of fun (I'm not stupid, i know about hazing and shit but idrc). I'm mostly on the fence because the big rush period is during the fall and I've heard that spring rushers are squids. Most frats here do a spring rush, is it worth it at this point? and how is it different from fall rush? and if i did decide to do it, what are the best tips for someone who's new to greek life?
r/Frat • u/Design-Same • 4d ago
Rush Advice What should I do - Sec big school
Didnt rush fall since I had a busy week when all the events were happening. Want to rush spring but don’t know if I should reach out now asking about it or just wait until the semester is over. Also wanna know if it’s worth writing a short explanation to the rush chairs when asking abt spring since I reached out to them in the fall but I had kinda bailed on them or if it’s simply not that deep whatsoever.
r/Frat • u/Independent_Copy2307 • 4d ago
Serious philo
any pikapps (Pi Kappa Phi) in this community? we’re doing a call-a-thon and would love your support! ❤️
r/Frat • u/Nc3three • 5d ago
News Cornell Suspends all Fraternity Social Events for the rest of the academic year
The student body is genuinely furious…I haven’t seen them unite on an issue like this maybe ever. Apparently some chapter presidents are already calling nationals about disaffiliating from the university
r/Frat • u/bumbl_b_ • 5d ago
Serious Turning a crappy house into a cool one
My frat has lived continuously in the same house for the past 30ish years. We have never been a terribly rich fraternity—we operate on something of a dues-minimizing philosophy, so we’ve never operated with the mindset of incurring projects that cost much money—our house itself is rather small and unremarkable. Still, on top of the house itself not being very impressive, the interior, to me, is just kinda shit. it was never really “designed” so to speak; it’s just kind of a collection of furniture pieces people moved in, wall colors people felt like at the time, and so on. it’s not cohesive and the kinda ragtag appearance, as far as i can tell, contributes to people seeming to feel content to leave junk around/contribute to a growing mess.
I go back and forth on this issue—sometimes i feel like we should rip out all the nonstructural walls and just build a completely fresh floor plan from scratch, and sometimes i feel like we just need to purge the mess as much as possible and try to paint over what we have and unify the space. in any case, it seems like an uphill battle against both the cultural inertia of the space as well as the large cost of most sweeping sorts of changes.
has anyone else here dealt with a similar issue? how can you take a shitty looking house and make it look like something nationals would flaunt on their main website? how do you honor well-loved features of a fundamentally broken space while addressing the broken parts of it and building something cleaner and more purposeful? any tips from people who have successfully handled similar transformations would be greatly appreciated.
r/Frat • u/Odd_Football_5904 • 5d ago
News Newsweek Reporter
Hi! I am an editor at Newsweek working on a story about how fraternity members at Cornell outside of Chi Phi are feeling in the wake of the case and the new ban on parties. I’d like to speak with current fraternity members about their reactions to the developments, how they feel Cornell has handled the situation, the media attention surrounding it, and whether the case has affected fraternity life or perceptions of Greek life more broadly on campus. I understand this is a sensitive topic and I'm happy to accommodate requests for anonymity. Please reach to me directly with any and all leads!
r/Frat • u/Ben_Sweeny • 5d ago
Frat Stuff Pledge Class
If a sizeable portion of the pledges cannot make the class time work for them, is there any way offering a second class time would work? I am very against doing this because pledges need to be one unit and do everything together, but if we are going to loose a lot of potential new members if we don’t offer an additional time, should we do it? Our chapter is in a rebuild phase, which is why I am considering offering an additional class
r/Frat • u/Individual_Cow_2631 • 6d ago
Serious How do you approach people when tabling
I go to a small Midwest school and I’m currently a pledge and I’ve been told to be at the table tomorrow, and I just want to know what kind of stuff do you guys say to have people come check out your table, etc
Especially at my school where Greek life isn’t that big and with all the negative stereotypes how do you guys actually convince people.
r/Frat • u/ryanasap310 • 6d ago
News Exclusive: UNO fraternity member under investigation for rape comment
r/Frat • u/Necessary-Alfalfa799 • 6d ago
Frat Stuff How to advertise darty
Throwing a darty in a week and my frat is lowkey kinda bouse but not too small, we got like 35 guys and we're trying to grow, we're gonna have a dj and throw out some drinking games and provide alc but what would be the best way to promote this? Insta post, doorlist
r/Frat • u/Alone_Entrepreneur84 • 6d ago
Frat Stuff Recruitment
my chapter is one of the smallest in the IFC at UArizona and lots of the brothers are graduating. for some reason we cant recruit and the people we do are squids. the dean of students has also fucked us over with our housing. we had ifc permission to do rush at our house but DOS said no last minute.
obv every university is different on successful recruitment methods but im wondering if anyone has any tips
r/Frat • u/ActPrestigious9030 • 7d ago
Rush Advice Height requirements to get a bid in touse?
I’m a senior in high school right now planning on rushing pike or sae (at Binghamton) but I was curious if height can hinder my chances on getting a bid/decent pledge job because im 5’7 so I was thinking about wearing timbs and stuffing socks/platforms under my feet to squeeze ~3 inches of height. Do I have a chance? (I bench 255 also if that helps).
This is not a joke and I am genuinely unsure
r/Frat • u/No_Expression_1300 • 7d ago
Frat Stuff How can I bond with my pledge brothers?
Most of the pledge class brothers don't live in the frat house, what can I/we do to hangout and bond more?
r/Frat • u/Kazinator09 • 7d ago
Frat Stuff What PA's to get for frat basement (Coax worth or not)
r/Frat • u/Smart-Storm9444 • 7d ago
Rush Advice Does joining frat mean giving up on Straight As?
I’m trying to join an academic Latino frat in public state school. So far, the experience hasn’t been fun. The initiation process is basically simulating a corporate environment where we do presentations. We’re given formats to follow and information to memorize. There’s 15 positions to be filled up for our group but only 3 of us actually stayed so we each take like 5 positions. On top of that, the two guys I’m working with both aren’t as reliable. One is a really young dude so I don’t expect him to be as reliable but at least he tries. The other dude is a senior who is not pulling his weight. This dude asked me how to tie his necktie the literal hour before the presentation. They both showed up not knowing how to tie their shit but I googled how so I did it for them. We ended up having to stay and recite the passages until we had it memorized because they didn’t take the time to do so.
Anyways, I now have a lot of shit to do on my plate. On top of studying for midterms I have to interview an active, make a new set of rules, get my 2 brothers to study or even just bother to mention that they haven’t been studying, come up with a proposal for community service, and get ready to be shit on again for the next meeting cuz I know my brothers aren’t gonna be on top of their game.
I care a lot about my academics because I used to be homeless. That’s why I find joining an academic frat so appealing but it doesn’t seem like academics are an actual priority here… If only there was a frat where the initiation process is helping each other get perfect scores in every test lmao
r/Frat • u/Individual_Cow_2631 • 8d ago
Serious How to host better events
Long story short I go to a small mid west school and my frat is lowkey bouse (using that term loosely since it’s such a small school the whole touse/bouse concept isn’t really a factor.) but nonetheless we hosted our second social the other day and it was fun, a lot of the girls seemed to be having fun but after about an hour and a half most of them had already left. What kind of stuff can me and my pledge class do to improve our socials, all my frat had out was 3 drinking games and music, but as a pledge it was my first social experience so I’m not sure were other frats have at their socials to make it a cool place to be.