Situation-ship or whatever it’s called we talked for like a month consistently we were both busy with family visiting at the time & he travels for work. I feel like he’s my twin flame or soul connection our chemistry is electric. We were seeing each other four times a month the communication dropped off a lot became hard to reply to any of his messages because they were surface level just breadcrumbs basically. It gets worse though he always love bombs with emojis. We got blackout drunk about a week ago & we had the define the relationship talk because obviously I’m a mom & am looking for something steady. Well come to find out he’s seeing other people & thinks we just shouldn’t tell each other about it & tells me he loves what we have & wants to keep seeing me. I straight up asked am I an option or a choice. Welll I’m an option we tried to be intimate but it was the worst s3x we ever had. I think my heart & brain was slightly getting in the way. I went & got tested now I have to wait almost three weeks to get the results. I deleted my socials for a detox & that’s usually how we communicate. (This is intentional) he does have my phone number & knows where I live so if he wants to see me or talk to me he will right? I just don’t know if I need to be chasing something that’s not even mine? Am I being over dramatic about deleting my socials?? We’ve been seeing eachother since July. I feel like it’s probably the end for us I don’t know if I even need the closure. I guess I’m looking for advice on if I’m making a mistake by cutting things off when I’m pretty invested. (Side note he hasn’t met my son)

It’s a brutal feeling when you lower your standards and ignore the red flags, thinking, "At least they'll be loyal and appreciate me." But then they turn around and betray you anyway.

How did you deal with the realization that you compromised your self-worth for someone who couldn't even give you basic respect?

“Crazy” wife was right again.

While I’m across the country getting 4.0’s in college, my husband is playing the field. I’m glad I’m not living in the same house and have to move out right now.

This is the gas lighting love bombing bs that has been going on for 15 years. Him screwing around behind my back, swearing it’s not true, and it turning to be completely true.

Found him on fb dating tonight. To less than 5 minutes.

Feel free to vent. I’m hurt. And I’m done. I don’t deserve this shit.

I have to ask my fellow Gen Z peeps, what the hell are we doing? I have had a string of so many women match with me and within the first five minutes ask if I wanted to sext. Are we that horny as a generation that we cant even get to know each other first before asking for some sort of sexual favor? Am I alone in this?

So I met a girl last week on a dating app and we kinda skipped over introductions and talked as if we knew each other for months already (my preference I hate introductory talking stage) and it was going so well. We shared so much in common that it was genuinely insane how connected we were on things, her friends even joked that we'd be married in 6 months lol. We planned out a day to meet after her very busy week and she was down to drive over to me 2 hours away! We both have never met someone online and met up so it was first for both of us.

So yesterday comes and she gets here... We go down to my local park and we walk for a little and sit down to just look at the lake and talk, and even go back to some of that general intro blah blah that neither of us cared about in the end anyway. She takes my arm to walk with her but the entire time she is too shy to look at me and she even said as so, and me myself I am big into eye contact that's just where I gravitate.

We go back to my place after my horrible directional skills and forgetting what we're doing.

So... This is where I think it turns around: I have a futon that we were gonna sit and lay on and it's in front of a wall window or floor-ceiling window. Now I do not care for weight I am very open to preferences and physical traits are rarely a negative to me, I only see positives. She happened to be a bigger girl which as I said I don't mind or perhaps even like when I'm actually attracted to someone. She sat down on it and the futon almost flips over sending her through my window, I had to counteract it with my body to stop it. We laugh it off but I know she was genuinely scared and I guess embarrassed but we continued. Watched Freddy Vs. Jason and cuddled a bit too. We kissed about 4 times with her initiating the first.

Now the movies almost off and she said that she wanted to watch me play some games now instead so we sat up and she starts texting on the phone. I didn't even get to the main menu of the game before she said that her friend texted and said that their friend had had a seizure, and she wasn't sure if she wanted to go but i reassured it that it was fine and obviously her friend she's known for years is priority and such. She gives me a few more kisses and hugs and she asked me to walk her out to her car, where then she asks for more asa goodbye.

About 2 hours later I ask how is her friend doing and she's giving vague, short answers like one word, but even another text saying she had a good time still, and after a few back and forth she sends "coma" and so you know I'm like sorry, and trying to give her space but also wanting to make sure she's okay and details and she said "yeah" when I asked if she'll call me when she can.

Night goes on no call, no texts, anything of the sort. I get a message this morning "I don't feel like talking rn" and she blocks me on every platform except her phone number because my messages have been delivered and are still blue? This is where I'm currently at and I'm just not sure what to think myself... Would this girl really make up that kind of excuse to leave, and if so why? Why not just be honest? Is her friend actually in a coma and she just doesn't want to deal with anything? Let me know reddit because I'm genuinely so confused by the entire ordeal and has soured my opinion of meeting someone online again. Sorry if this is all over the place, I'm not a pro at formatting or anything lol.

Basically,it was an online story,I'm an average girl soo i always wanted to date a guy who was below than me soo i picked up a guy who was below avarage ×2 ,soo we started dating, he was very insecure Abt his looks , underconfident, he doesn't have any male or female frnds he was all alone , he used to talk with some small grp of frnds but they never used to prioritise him .. they never cared Abt him at frst his looks was never prblm for me , and he used to to tell me that he is rich , and his father in politics and all but I never

Asked his money , he barely bought a dress for me which costed around 2k ,.. one day he asked me to meet him then I went to some cafe that was the frst time I met him real .. then I saw him I was just got shocked he was freaking ugly mynnnnn I'm not talking Abt his face or something but the way he presented himself.. his hair ,dressing, I got chapri vibes and probably he coloured his hair colour in blue that made me evn more disgusting,

I just want to run from there, while he was talking his mouth filled with bad smell , he didn't evn brushed properly and his nails ewwwwee.. that day was horrible for me , is this the guy I said I love you.. then I said some Reason and ran out from there, after that day I told him breakup... Then he started blackmailing me that he will tell to my mom if I don't love him again , i requested.. but he told my mom .. i told everything what happened with him .. after that my mom scolded me and asked me to show his photo "my mom was likee how can u evn stand beside himmm .. he is looking like a colour lizard itself "

From that day I m scared, that if he ever tells anyone that we were dated , that was the more insulting thing in my life ... Hello was never good at looks , character, or dressing, or anything, i still feel how I loved that guy ..

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My boyfriend is older than me and is currently at university, while I’m still in college. He treats me well, loves me, respects me, and says he’s loyal to me and wants to marry me.

The problem is that he used to be a playboy during his teenage years. He was involved with multiple girls, and those relationships were mostly casual or just for timepass. On the other hand, I’ve only had one relationship before him, and I was genuinely serious about that person. Things didn’t work out, and now I’m serious about my current boyfriend.

We’ve accepted each other’s pasts, and he says he has changed and is loyal to me. I have no major complaints about how he treats me now, but sometimes his past bothers me, and I start overthinking even though I know it happened before me.

How do I stop worrying about his past and focus on the person he is today? Has anyone been in a similar situation?

Guys I genuinely don't know what to think anymore 😭😭

I've been seeing this guy for a little over a month, and we've been on 5 dates.

At first, his texting was pretty consistent, but gradually he started taking hours or longer to reply. I also noticed he became more active on Instagram during times when we used to text.

I eventually brought it up in person, and he was really understanding. He immediately started replying almost instantly afterward.

BUT one day I was genuinely busy and took 4–5 hours to respond, and he went straight back to his old texting habits 💀

Recently, I confronted him about feeling like he'd become more distant. I told him that consistent communication matters to me in a serious relationship and that I didn't want to force him to change if this was simply his natural communication style. I even suggested that maybe we'd be better off seeing other people if we weren't compatible.

He ended up sending me two long, perfectly structured essays about our communication issues.

He apologized and admitted that he tends to mirror the other person's texting frequency because he assumes that's how they prefer to communicate.

He also said he sometimes thought I was losing interest because of my slower replies.

Here's the part that really caught my attention.

He said:

"I know some people feel like good morning texts or daily check ins can be a little too much early on in dating so I think I was just being too cautious in that regard."

He said he could start doing those things more frequently and consistently.

And literally the next morning, he texted me good morning and asked how I was feeling 😭

I know I literally asked for more check-ins, but now I can't help wondering whether he's doing it because he genuinely wants to or just because I told him to.

ALSO HIS RESPONSES SOUND SO AI-GENERATED 😭😭

Like I'm talking perfectly structured paragraphs, apologies, reassurance, acknowledging every single point I made, and repeatedly agreeing with my perspective.

Idk if he used ChatGPT to write everything or just polish his own thoughts, but the wording and tone feel SO AI-coded.

And there's something else that's been bothering me about his dating history.

He told me he's shy and didn't really date in college. He mentioned one previous relationship that lasted 5 months and ended about 3 months before we met.

Apparently things started well, but toward the end, his ex stopped wanting to meet up with him.

But he's also made comments like:

"Usually when I date, I don't tell my parents."

And now he's talking about how some people don't like good morning texts or daily check-ins early on.

Maybe I'm reading too much into the wording, but it makes me wonder how much dating experience he's actually had. He's only told me about that one relationship, although I haven't directly asked how many people he's dated.

The exclusivity conversation was also weird to me.

I told him I hadn't mentioned him to my parents because I only do that when things become serious.

Immediately afterward, he asked, "What do you think about exclusivity?"

I said I'd be okay with it, but he never directly asked me to be exclusive, and we never actually established that we were.

So part of me wonders whether he genuinely wanted it or if he only brought it up because of what I'd said.

I also spoke to a friend who has a PhD in psychology, and he suspects the guy could still be talking to other women, although there's no concrete proof.

My biggest concern is that I can't tell whether this guy is being genuine or just adapting himself to whatever I want.

I don't want someone who simply mirrors my effort, agrees with everything, and changes his behaviour whenever I bring up a concern.

I want someone who knows what he wants and independently chooses to put effort into a relationship.

So what do you guys think?

Does this sound like genuine effort or someone just telling me what I want to hear? Would you be bothered if someone potentially used AI to respond to a serious relationship conversation?

And am I reading too much into his comments about past dating experiences?

Would you continue seeing him or walk away? 😭

I (27M) matched with her on Hinge. Her profile seemed calm and low-drama, so I was looking forward to our coffee meetup.

Within the first ten minutes, she started talking about her ex. At first I listened politely. I get it, breakups are messy. But it never stopped. She went on about how he treated her badly, how he wasted her time, every fight they ever had.

I tried to shift the conversation. I asked about her hobbies, her job, places she wants to travel. Every single time, she circled back to her ex. She barely asked anything about me. I sat there sipping my cold latte, feeling like a free therapist.

When our drinks were almost gone, she smiled and said she had a nice time and wanted to do this again. I froze. I didn’t think she noticed how uncomfortable I was. How can someone dump that much baggage on a first date and still expect another one?

I made a soft excuse and left. I didn’t ghost her, but I told her later I didn’t think we were a fit. Dating is already exhausting. I don’t want to sign up to process someone else’s old relationship on date one.

Has anyone else run into this? People who rant nonstop about exes and act like it’s normal?