r/Cooking • u/Turbulent_Net3164 • 20h ago
I hate cooking for groups now because of dietary restrictions/preferences.
This is a new phenomenon for me and I need somewhere to share it. I used to love cooking for people. No matter how many, no matter the dietary restrictions, no matter how much notice... none of it mattered because I loved feeding people.
But over the last year I've started feeling dread and anxiety whenever my husband invites people over or if we're staying with a group (like the holidays) and I'm expected to cook (this expectation happened over many years due to the aforementioned love of cooking for people).
It truly is the dietary restrictions. How the hell do you manage the freaking venn diagram of what is passable and keep your sanity. I'll give you an example.
Me: Can't eat high carb due to PCOS/PMOs
Husband: High cholesterol/mushrooms/raw tomatoes/courgettes
Husband's Parents: Shellfish/Peas/Cucumber/Watermelon
Sis-in-Law: Onions/Legumes/Red Meat/Dairy/Coriander tastes like soap
And then there's the preferences!!?!?! Doesn't like spicy, doesn't like cold things, hates slimy (okra), can't stand fish, coriander-tastes-like-soap (okay this one is super real and legit).
I can feel my body go into fight/flight mode and get exhausted the moment the idea comes up that I might be cooking for a group.
We've started doing delivery more whenever we have people come over.