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I'm 23M, and I've lost all my peace of mind. Everything is chipping it away.

First. I grew up in a home where things were always tight. I got all the necessities, but I don't remember having any of my wants met. I heard my dad say, "I don't have anything" so many times. My mother would cry and tell me, "Whatever happens, don't just sit at home. Earn."

And I did it. I got a job where I earn in a month what many people earn in a year. But right now, layoffs are happening left and right in my company, and I might be next. The market is so bad that I'm not even landing interviews with companies that pay the same or even slightly less.

Then my girlfriend broke up with me. I was working 10–15 hours a day because of the fear of layoffs. I even got calls on weekends and had to take them. My girlfriend left me because I wasn't able to give her time, and because of a few other fights that arose from me not being able to give her time and the fact that she felt I didn't care about her.

I care about everyone who's important to me. The problem is that I care way too much.

My thinking is that, for the closest people in your life, you should take care of them, and they should take care of you, and vice versa. I just want to be the pillar everyone can rely on. I want to make everyone feel safe.

P.S. I never felt safe in my entire life. I have never felt that if everything goes wrong, someone will be there to protect me and help me back up.

My parents are good people, but they're broken themselves. They just want me to do things according to them. They have opinions about everything I should do, even the minutest things, like how to eat my food and what to do while travelling. But when it comes to major life decisions like jobs, taxes, and investments, they just say, "Figure it out yourself. You know this better."

I spent my life waiting for guidance, waiting for support. I want them to tell me important things in life as well.

This brings me back to safety. I want the people who depend on me, and even those close to me, to be safe if anything happens to them. I want them to know that they can ask me anything they're confused about, and I'll help them with it.

My girlfriend broke up with me saying that I don't care because I don't keep asking about every small thing or decision she makes. But that's because I want to give her the freedom I never got. My parents used to question everything I did, and everything I needed to do was supposed to be done their way.

I'm a mess inside my head. I don't know how I'll fix myself, or how to fix myself enough to be with someone and keep them happy with me.

Because if I open up about all the things I feel, I become a crying mess. My emotions just open up, and I lose all control over myself.

I don't know what to do anymore. I just want to feel safe, have some peace of mind, and learn how to be okay with myself.

For those who've been through something similar, how did you deal with it? How do you learn to open up about your feelings without becoming completely overwhelmed?

19f. So my dad is fantasizing about the idea of kicking me out just because he thinks I'm not a sociable person. He said that if he had the money to, he'd pay for me to get an apartment and then kick me out.

I find that unfair, especially because I'm working a job that can't even pay half of what rent looks like here.

But I'm making this post just in case he does, because he keeps bringing it up. Mom said that he doesn't mean it, and that she understands I want independence too, so that's why they'd pay for me to get an apartment.

I'm saving up to build my own business (enterprise; i paid attention to what people mostly by at the local enterprise and decided to open one myself since that one can get extremely busy at times. don't wanna wait? come to mine then) and build an apartment on top of that business.

No, I'm not asking for money. I just want advice on what to do if i get kicked out. I can't get any other job because I'm an HS dropout and it costs a fortune to get a GED, or even a certificate in something.

Any and every advice is something I'm looking forward to.

About my parents, if this helps;

They're from the caribbean. Mom kind of "spoils" me because she understands certain things, while my dad wants me to get out of that "mentality."

I work for my dad. He has a farm where he plants stuff and sells charcoal. I usually help with anything he wants, such as making and bagging the charcoal, chasing animals out the fields, and sometimes putting poison in certain areas to get rid of weed and insects.

Now about me:

Again, I cannot get a job. Plus most places here pay less than 300 ghc (about 28 usd) a month, and an apartment can be 1000+ ghc (about 90 usd) a month. I only make 500-800 ghc (44-72 usd) a month.

I have a fever right now, so i can't work. I'm supposed to be working all week this week, but I feel a little weak and my nose is extremely runny. I'm going to get medicine when I can afford it. I'm still trying to push myself though, since I'm going to work tomorrow.

(Mind you, the biased people question my identity. I know who I am but they tried to manipulate into thinking I’m not who i say I am…)

I know it’s because my brain's dopamine reward system shifted and because past stress and emotional burnout changed how I anticipate good things.. Because of prolonged stress from biased people trying to mock me saying I’m not who i say I am and telling me to be “normal”, burnout from always being on guard against bullies and having to stand up for myself to them, and depression from those bullies and their enablers calling me manipulative, attention-seeking, playing victim, and most of all from me not being more feminized physically; Activities that used to thrill me now sometimes feel flat, numb, or effortful.. now old and new hobbies feel like more work instead of feeling rewarding like they used to.

I also know it’s because past exciting things were often followed by letdowns from people badmouthing my rap talent and feeling like I failed to make my point across in my songs, which makes my brain brace for pain- making it be like soon as I feel excitement for something, I automatically feel discouragement as soon as I get excited about something and feel so empty and unimportant… This has been happening for so long all these years that I’ve gotten social fatigue to the point where I’m so drained and developed social anxiety, that the mental energy required to process speech and body language all at once feels exhausting and tense.. I also have been worried that anyone i talk to might misunderstand me which makes me pressured to monitor how I appear to others having trouble finding words.. And it hurts more that nobody seems to care and/or understand what I’m feeling and going thru…

I tried to get help, and some people I trusted to help me betrayed and neglected me.. I tried to express what’s bothering me, I got called negatively always whining, seeking attention, and accused of trying to start drama.. And what made me feel hopeful, happy, and confident is I was so close to being more of my authentic self, getting more noticed on social media, and more people treating me how I always wanted to be treated with respect and admiration from being a authentically pretty girl who is talented and respected by people.. but I feel worse after things fell apart more staring around middle of summer around June, I feel empty with unfulfilled needs and so much pain to the point I would isolate myself in my own apartment crying my eyes out feeling chills in my chest and genuinely losing physical strength to even move my body at all just laying down feeling hopeless

I was hoping things would get better, not worse… I just feel so deprived of medical necessity from not having feminizing surgeries and feel excluded from possibly missing out on more fun and meaningful things life has to offer… i had so much love to give, but now, I’m scared to be vulnerable because i really don’t want to be disappointed and hurt anymore…

Is there anyone that could help a family till I get paid this week we are in a motel and going day by day $50 trying to keep it I am disabled and me and my wife have 6 children please anything is appreciated.

Venmo- @chad-parrott-11

Was unemployed and accumulating debt, but now I’m back to working full time, and I’m getting married in 6 weeks (planned back when I had the a good job lol) and need to make some extra cash before the wedding.

I currently work 2 jobs. I work Monday-Thursday 7-5:30pm
Other job is on the weekend, no firm hours.
I am looking for a job that I can do from 6pm-12am Monday-Thursday. I just need to figure out how to put together another 4k before then.

I’m only making about 2k a month. Living expenses kill that quickly. My other job is still taking off and it’s commission only, won’t see pay from that for another 2 months or so. Got $50 in my acc rn that’s it lol so I need to get to work asap Any ideas at all??

Hartford, CT
I’ve tried: outlier.ai / non CDL delivery 🚫

My name is Jaxon and this is my ferret Obi, i adopted him 2 months ago, he’s only 4 and i believe he was neglected it breaks my heart to face this with him right after he finally found his forever family. the day i adopted him i scheduled a vet appt to get a cancerous tumor removed from his paw which costed $1,800. sadly the tumor came back aggressively and now, he needs an amputation to stop it from spreading, he’s only 4 and he’s become so important to my little ferret family already but the amputation estimate is $1,300 which is the gofundme goal. after spending as much as i did already at the vet office i just cannot afford this on my own, and it’s now gotten worse and started to leak so i am hoping to get him to the vet by the end of next week. i at least need to get the gofundme to $800 for this. im unsure of how to provide proof of hardship without doxxing myself but i am a working college student living on my own, so i did include a screenshot to prove that im in school. to be clear this go fund me is set at $1,300 for my ferrets needed leg amputation.
the go fund me link is https://gofund.me/6addbb20d

My laptop model is a Lenovo idea pad slim 7 pro 14IHU5 I'm trying to replace the keyboard and palm rest but am stuck on removing the LCD cable to allow for the transfer of the motherboard to the new bottom shell is there anyone who knows how to disconnect it? As far as I'm aware the LCD cable is the one wrapped in black cloth tape. Would really appreciate any help at all, ai has got me so far but now I'm really worried about listening to it only to end up breaking the attachment point for the cable

Food giveaway

So earlier today I was given such a nice watch i really like it. And earlier today at this pixelated font for telling the time and hell the app even shows it to you, but now I reset my watch by mistake and the font is rounded and yucky. If possible some help would appreciated :D

(This was originally posted in my local subreddit but it was deleted or something happened that it was shut down and I am not sure why so posting here because I need help)

Hey all, I dont know where to post this but here seems like it could be a decent start.

So back in April I finally went to the hospital for some medical issues I have been having since October of last year. Since then they havent really gotten much better, it really changes day by day, but on average recently (the last 2 or 3 months) I call out an average of once a week. A few weeks ago I also had to miss a week of work because of a very contagious virus I got from work (childcare) so that has put me out even more money.

I am struggling so much financially. I live on my own in my own home, make pretty decent money (almost $47,000 annually gross, estimated if I actually work full 40 hour weeks) so I do not qualify for many resources even though my take home checks have been significantly smaller lately.

I have gone to the food bank once, they were lovely and so kind. I actually overqualified for probably half of their pantry but they still said I would get assistance regardless. I was slightly embarrassed that I made so much (I gave her how much I would make with full 40hr weeks) and was at the food bank...they were all veey kind though. I have nothing wrong with expired food, heck ill eat expired food if it tastes fine to me/looks/smells fine...but some of the food I got there tasted rancid. I tried twice and ended up needing to throw out some of the food. I hated wasting free food so I am put off by going back again/wasting their time and food that maybe someone else wouldnt be bothered by and would eat.

It seems like I do not qualify for a lot of other resources either since I either make too much or am up to date in bills/do not have any utilities shut off as of now. What I got paid this week is about $700 less than it would typically be so I really dont know what I am going to do this month. I can get creative with some food I have in my house, but I have bills I also have to pay that require more money that I would also typically need. (In the past few months I needed a fridge since mine went out, there was no good second hand options at the time so I got a fairly cheap new fridge I finance on affirm, my carecredit bill for my cat, and my discount tire bill for MUCH needed tires before something even worse ended up happening because of 2 bald tires, as well as still paying off debt I accumulated after moving out and dealing with unmanaged depression from a few years ago, pay my psychiatrist so I can get an appointment for a refill of meds, a possible car fix ill need soon and a house fix ive been needing for a few months that needs to be dealt with before it gets to be too cold outside amd the couple grand i owe the hospital for ER visits, mris and spinal taps).

I wouldnt be struggling so much if I didnt live on my own, have so much (temporary and mostly recent) debt accumulated and didnt miss so much work. I try to do food delivery when I am feeling well, but I try not to push it for my own health. If anyone has any ideas id be so appreciative 💜 much love

Norfolk, VA USA.
Hello, I am looking to spread awareness for a gofundme link I’ve created for my new cats bills. We adopted him in August and took him to a free first wellness exam for adopted animals and discovered he had advanced dental disease. We have basically been in and out of the vet since that day. The vet told us the shelters usually help but this one will not. Pet insurance wouldn’t cover because of it being an existing condition. In total, he will have 9 teeth removed. He had 3 taken out last month but those 3 were so infected that they needed to split the surgery in 2. He will get the next 6 out November 10. We’ve been to urgent vet multiple times between/before surgeries because of him not eating/constant vomitting. In total, the surgeries will cost about $2,700. His first was 1,500 and the upcoming is about 1,200. I have provided the receipt for the first and estimate for the next in my gofundme and in this post. Of course I know that everyone is struggling so if you could even just share the link it would be appreciated. His name is Simon.
https://gofund.me/e7277a370

UPDATE: SOMEBODY ON A DIFFERENT SUBREDDIT OFFERED TO PAY AND DID.

I have no money, I have about $4000 in loans and credit cards. But I have 2 cars and I was gone for the weekend but came back with my 2nd car... a beater (which doesn't have a sticker yet) around 12:00am last night. I was gonna go to the office and get a sticker for this car in the morning since I was told not to swap the stickers between cars.. I went out this morning to see them driving off with my car. I went to them and they told me I should have swapped the sticker. I had the car listed in my resident portal. I don't know what to do.. I'll put it on my credit card for now. The tow company said they won't waive the fee even if the apartment contacts them.

I've been trying to sell a car so please don't say it.

Hi all, sorry if the flair is incorrect! There is currently a chipmunk INSIDE the hood of my car! Not under it, IN it! I don’t want to leave him in there (previous trauma related to rodent damage to my electrical system, also, I don’t want him to get hurt if I have to drive anywhere) but is there ANY WAY I can get him out? Does the hood even come apart? It’s a 2020 Kia Forte! Any help is greatly appreciated! Located in Alabama! (Posted a photo so you can see the hole where I found him hiding)

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So I was just fooling around and decided to randomly talk to strangers on a site where you can chat anonymously. So the other person was pretending to be a girl and being all flirty, then he suggested me to talk on telegram but i don't know why telegram was not allowing me to text him, they told me to add them as contacts to text them we texted there too. Then he asks for insta handle, and I gave it to them too but we were still talking in telegram then the other person sends me a photo if a girl and asks for mine too. I send it, then they send her t**s pic and asks for my d****k pic I sent it too. Then suddenly the chat turns to serious from flirty they send me all the screenshots of my face, my d****\*\*k, my instagram handle, my phone number on telegram, my followers list. And they start threatening me to send all the pics to my followers on all the social media. And ask for 5k, i simply refuse it cuz I didn't have that much amount I have 1k in my account, told them I can pay 500 max, they agree and send me a link of steam, I don't remember but i purchased them two gift card worth 250 on steam, as they said they would not do anything if I pay 500, but the next second they text me we need another 500 i simply refuse and block them. I also reported in cybercrime but Ik nothing is gonna happen, I'm hella scree rn what if they send the images to someone or anyone Ik how would I face them. Please help me**

Daughter used this glass for paint water. Any suggestions on how to remove it without damaging the glass? I’m fairly sure the paint is acrylic.

Michigan USA

okay so i have been going through it for the last 3 years and i just got out the mental hospital last month and i still feel like shit all the time. i learned a bunch of “coping” skills but i feel like nothing makes me feel better anymore. before i went in i was a daily smoker and now im a month sober (not by choice) and i have been trying to find something anything to make me feel better but the only thing that i feel helps me is weed and now that i dont have it im just miserable, i cant stop crying and im just irritated all the time. i just hate my life and thats all i think about if anyone has any suggestions im willing to try just about anything at this point

For context, I'm a 28-year-old dad of a beautiful daughter. She just turned 5 months old today. First of all, happy birthday my dear Tara; dad loves you so much. I thought this would be the perfect time to speak about what feels like end of times for me. I haven't had a break in the last few months, not because Tara is a problem, but her mum lost her life during C-section. That was 10th, May, 2026 and it still hurts to watch this baby cry day and night not knowing what to do. I'm the only child of my Widowed 67-year-old mother while Tara's late mum was an orphan. That said, I do not have a motherly figure to help me. I'm sorry this is my first time to ever think of commiting suicide. But then, I can't because I'd die to keep my Tara alive. Tbh, I don't have the previlege of living in a developed country where I'd take her to a reputable children's home. I live in a 3rd world country. So what do I do? I was working remotely as a research analyst for a dissertation consulting firm but not anymore. I was fired a week after May 10th. Now with no suppprt whatsoever, this is me opening up, this is me being vulnerable...I feed my baby to the best of my knowledge. Fruit juices, boiled cow milk etc. I hope she grows healthy. I also pray that God will open doors for me so that I can give her a good life. I will appreciate your advice and support.

My friend has mental problems but he's my best friend so one of his personalities called me and said he was depressed not really but the whole story he told me was enough but I'm in Nebraska and he's in Florida how do i find him?

Hi. I hope this is the right group for this.

For those that won't read long posts, here's the gist that the following will have details too;

1. I need in my dead father's Samsung phone to figure out his Financials and if I'm missing anything

2. I need to figure out how to prove that my ex step mother has passed

Important! I have gotten a lawyer, I have been granted probate.

The details...

I am feeling very overwhelmed and drained from the last few months; lots of lifey things have happened but the one that has me feeling like I might lose it is my father dying. And it's not how you'd think, it's not grief. I accepted he wasn't a dad a long time ago, then he moved from Colorado to Vegas and told me the day before he left. I talked to him 1x after that...I grieved him a long time ago.

However, I'm next of kin and the only one willing to step up. He didn't have a POA, trust or will (if you don't, get one. It's sad, but would make things a lot less complicated). So I'm learning what "next of kin" means in probably the hardest way I can. I dont know anyone thats ever had to do this so, although I have gotten helpful suggestions, I keep hitting roadblocks in a lot of areas. Those are what I'm reaching out for.

1st his phone, I'd like to get into his Samsung23 without resetting it. Like most of us, he is likely still logged into important accounts; bank, retirement portal, etc. Even if he isnt, I will be able to figure out which bank I should be talking to and so one. I've tried the pins I could think of, I have 5 tries left before the phone resets itself and any chance of this is lost forever.

I found 1 place that can pull everything off of it and put it on a thumb drive, they want $3000+. I've spent more than every time I have going back and forth to clean out his condo. So this is not an option

Ok 2nd, the ex step mother. They got divorced 20 years ago. But for whatever reason, she's still the beneficiary on a bank account that may or may not have any money in it. And i'm whatever the second beneficiary is called. According to my aunt, this woman died in 2016. But because I'm not her next of kin, I can't request a Death Certificate and I don't know who I would request it from anyway because I don't know anything about her. So I don't know where she lived when she died. The last address I have for her was here in colorado, so my lawyer did request from a few counties here and they have no record. The lawyer said I can spend $2000 and, the details are a blur, but basically they can figure it out. Again, I don't know anyone, especially myself, with $2000 just chilling! Not to mention, I spend all that and the account has nothing!? Or I spend all that to find out she's alive and now whatever is in there is hers?!

I have gone down many possible roads for each of these problems and the many others I've encountered in this process. I'm stuck and am hoping someone has some kind of suggestion for either of these situations.

I don't have it in me to defend myself or take on any kind of keyboard warrioring, so please, if it's not some kind of help just move along.

Hi everyone my name is Jay, im 20(m) and im unemployed, when I was 18 my mother passed away and left me her house, my dad basically forced me out of his house and into “my new home” even though I was unemployed, I was able to find a couple of jobs here and there but I struggle with health limitations. My most recent job asked me to leave because I didnt explain my health issues before getting hired, but when I try to explain them I simply dont get hired. I have no degree but I do have a highschool diploma, and a willingness to learn anything. I live in the Fort O area of North GA, if anyone needs a good working guy who can learn quick please dont hesitate to respond, otherwise any advice is much appreciated, Ive tried Indeed, Linkdin, etc. Even the Ga Department of Labor. ANYTHING HELPS!!! (Thanks to everyone for your time!)

Hello everyone, my name is Rob and I am 25m. The past seven years of my life have been absolutely brutal for me mentally. It all started on April 30th, 2019. I was 17, got into a good college, about to graduate high school with honors, a good summer job lined up, I felt on top of the world back then. My mom took me to school, made me breakfast which usually doesn't happen because normally I make my own. School day ends, it was a good day, I take the city bus home so I get on the bus like usual, except I get a call from my mom's boyfriend telling me to meet them downtown. I meet them downtown, we are taken to the hospital, and I'm told the news that my mom had a heart attack and didn't make it.

Since then, nothing felt the same and I never recovered. If anything, my mental health and overall well-being deteriorated. I went to college three months later and absolutely flunked out because I was too depressed to even leave my dorm let alone go to class. COVID happened and I stayed with my grandparents, who were all very emotionally unsupportive and toxic, going as far as to blame me for my mom's death. My mom, fun fact, didn't develop heart problems until after I was born, so technically they're not wrong for saying that.

Became homeless in 2021 for two months and moved in with my dad after multiple shelter and hospital stays, where I was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and Generalized Anxiety. Stayed with my dad until 2022 when I saved money to move out, three months later in 2023 he goes missing out of nowhere. Then in 2024 I get a new job offer but don't show up to orientation due to a massive panic attack, at that point I already left my old job and became homeless again a month later.

Five months later, still in 2024, I was able to move into an apartment with the help of a homeless organization, stayed for a year but struggled with depression from being unable to land a job for months. Eventually got the job, but a few months later, my landlord decided not to renew my lease so I had to leave my apartment November 2025. Been homeless since, especially after I lost that job.

In 2019, I had all the support I needed. My friends, my mom, my high school, everything. Now, I have nothing. Nothing going for me. Lost my scholarships. I have $6k in student debt to my name. Lost my jobs. Lost my friends. Lost my mom. Lost my family. Lost my sanity. Lost my home. Lost all my money. Lost any reason to live. I don't even know what I want to do anymore.

I went to school to become a math or computer science teacher, but my mental health is so beyond wrecked I don't trust myself to be a good teacher. Then I thought about continuing my Computer Science education (I took 3 years of CS classes in high school and even earned college credit in the class during then) but the field is so oversaturated with new applicants it's pretty much impossible to get into the field.

I don't know what to do with my life anymore. I don't know how to enjoy life. I have nothing. Absolutely nothing. And maybe there is nothing for me who knows. I just wish to talk to someone. Someone who is a legal adult, bonus points if you're my age or older.

I have no idea what I'm doing anymore or why I'm even here.

I had a seizure I went ER I'm ok brain is good blood is good I'm fine but I'm kinda like traumatized or something idk I'm scared to sleep because I was told that's when It happens and when It did happen sooo idk what to do

I've been going through some extremely hard times since before my daughter was born a few months ago. Does anyone have any tips or tricks for dematting hair. I'm extremely tender headed and already embarrassed I need to do this. But I'm tired of the pain. I've tried to take it down but it's so tight 😭 I just want some normalcy. I'm willing to try anything

\*\*• Starting and running a business\*\* — I've already proven to myself I can go out, cold call, and close. I want to put that ability behind the right idea.    
\*\*• Real estate and investing\*\* — this has always interested me, and I'd love guidance from someone who's actually built wealth this way.    
\*\*• Trading\*\* — I've been teaching myself the financial markets on my own time and want to keep learning from someone who's done it for real.    
\*\*• A skilled trade\*\* — electrician, plumber, HVAC, construction. Steady, in-demand work I could see myself building a career or even a business around.

I'm not asking anyone to hand me money. What I'm asking for is a chance — a mentor, someone willing to let me work for them, or just someone who'll talk to me and point me in the right direction. I'll put in the hours and I won't waste your time.

Long term, all I really want is a house with a few acres of land for my family. I don't care about anything flashy beyond that.

If you've built something from nothing and are willing to guide a 27-year-old who's ready to work for it, I'd be grateful to hear from you.