frustration triggers my anger faster than anything else. how do you deal with frustration and keeping it from going further?

What do you guys recommend for a person with anger issues and anxiety? How were you able to help yourself manage it?

I tend to lose control and become angry easily. Reaching a point where i start screaming and damaging household items uncontrollably until i fall to the ground.

I never hurt or hit anyone. It's just that i scream alone, hit the walls, doors, items. Until i fall to the ground and start crying, and i would have the most terrible headache + high blood pressure and heart rate

I have not always been like this. I was a calm person who sometimes gets angry, but not this way.

Life pressure and everything/everyone around have contributed to this.

Any advice?

Note: Therapy is not an option. Please do not tell me to go to therapy. I barely have enough money for the essentials

For all of my (18f) life, my dad has had a very short temper. He acts normal around others, but treats us horribly. I remember when I was a kid, he would always beat me over the most minor inconveniences that come with being a child. And I know they were small because I’ve just realized this once I grew up and started understanding the world around me.

At first, I thought that his temperament came from his age (almost 50 when he married), but I later found out from a relative that he had been rough since his youth and would fight anyone who looked at him sideways.

In the recent years, his health and physical condition aren’t too good after an injury. This makes his temper even worse for all of us. I’ve tried so hard to empathize with him and did my best to take care of him, but I just cannot deal with the way he treats me. He picks me up from class and always has to make it a huge mess; he gives me really vague responses to questions about the pickup, then goes insane when I get confused about it. I’ve tried to be patient with him, but there’s only so much patience you can have while walking under the scorching sun for several minutes (in the wrong direction, mind you) after a full day of lectures. My mom and sister give me hell for upsetting him, but nobody even tries to see it from my viewpoint. They tell me to suck it up and let him say anything, but they don’t even TRY to stay quiet themselves.

Sick as he is, he still finds every opportunity to drive me insane, then gets absolutely furious over an argument HE started. But I already know that if I try to retaliate, he’ll literally drop dead from the stress on his weak heart.

I’m so sick of my life. At this point, I need to do something so insane that he, and the rest of my family, start watching their behavior around me like we did for him my entire life. No more screaming insults at me, no more breaking things, no more rubbing my struggles in my face. It could be anything, whether it just makes them walk on eggshells around me or if it gets me sent to the psych ward. Someone tell me something.

hello. im 18F, and my relationship with my mother has always been a struggling one, especially after the passing of my father (who was physically abusive towards her)

all she does is provoke me over trivial things and when i respond, she only gets more angry and starts sobbing and what not, we end up arguing for hours, she’s also physically abusive at times. she tells me that im a burden and that she’d be better off if i didnt exist. she even once told me seeing some news of a kid dying in an accident, that it should have been me instead. im suicidal as is, so her words of affirmation surely help a lot, lol.

she specifically loves to point out the lack of friends in my life, which is something she knows i struggle with, and also compare my actions to that of my dad’s, saying my anger and behavioural issues are the reason no one stays in my life. which is just. simply not true. yes i have had friendships end but i have quite literally NEVER had so much so a heated argument with any of them, they were mostly just us mutually falling out.

i dont really have anger issues whatsoever— she is the only exception. i dont know why i get so agitated at her words, and i really wanna learn how to control it. i do acknowledge that she has been thru a lot in her life, especially due to the abuse from my father. but i TOO had to grow up in the very household. my mental health is also messed up.

i am just so exhausted, nothing in my life seems to be working out, and these arguments only make my day worse. so for the sake of my own peace, please give me any tips on how i could stop getting so easily triggered and prevent them.

I’ve been terribly angry at him for the past few months. For context we have had a long strained relationship, back when I was a little kid up until about 11 years old (I was taken away by child protective services when I was 11) my dad has always neglected me, sometimes even starving us at times and at that time I was with my dads side of the family who were emotionally abusive. I couldnt live with my mother because she was insanely physically abusive(was tried to be put with her even after telling protective services shes abusive and they didnt believe me until i ran away) After I discharged from the childrens home around 17 years old I was put back with my father but this time around he had managed to get his own house. At the start we did have some fights which made us estranged and I did take about 2 years trying to mend back the relationship with him.

Recently, I’ve just been really angry at him because he just didn’t pick up after himself and the whole house was so messy because I was juggling full time school and just didn’t have time to clean because of all the all-nighters I’ve been pulling. Today was my last straw when I had to clean the washing machine, and both the toilets.

I wrote him a long text and sent it to him but was met with pessimistic and manipulative texts and I just got so angry because I really truly thought he has changed. He stopped texting for awhile and subsequently I calmed down, but I suddenly heard sounds in the toilet and went to check it out and suddenly he’s cleaning. And I just couldn’t contain my anger and asked “so after all this years what made you think of cleaning now?” And it just spiralled from there. I was infuriated when he kept hurling words at me like "i hate you" and "if you dont go away i will spray bleach into my mouth and kill mysefl" and after one too many times after he kept saying i hate you I hit him once and after a bit more bickering I just fully lost control and pushed him and broke the toilet door. I dont know what happened but i seriously didnt try to attack anything about him rather i just wanted him to get out of the way because we live with two cats and he didnt know what he was doing with the chemicals and it was gassing up the house, not to mention the floor mat outside the door was soaked with bleach water and my cat loves sitting on that mat. i felt so angry knowing my cats could possibly be in danger too...

I really really don’t know what to do now. I feel terrible yes but I also just don’t have the wits in me to continue mending the relationship. I would love for some outside insight and yes I do understand if you think I’m an asshole.. I do know that.. I’m sorry..

I feel like i always have this anger thats bigger than me and idk how to control it, im almost 16 and i cant handle intense breakdowns and i always throw stuff around, scratching and biting myself whenever im angry. i do this even when im around my close friends (we are in boarding school and i cant control my anger very much). I even scream and shout bad things at my boyfriend for some reason. I feel like the entire world makes me angry, and sometimes i feel this horrible, depressed feeling, like emptiness.

i dont know if i have some sort of illness or something, but i am kind of concerned. i cant really explain this strangeness inside of me to others, even tho i think something's wrong with me. Honestly, i know nobody around my environment can understand my state of mind right now and im not saying this in an 'edgy' way, im just being realistic. i do want help

How do you regulate yourself? The older I get the worse it gets. Maybe it’s menopause or maybe it’s fricking millennials not wanting to do their job. I don’t know maybe it’s a combination of things. But it’s getting bad. I don’t get angry like this all the time but when I do, I wanna beat somebody’s face in. I don’t wanna go to jail so I’ve successfully walked away this far but I’m afraid it’s going to get to the point then I’m going to end up beating somebody up because it’s getting close. I’m so sick and tired of people and their stupidity and when they’re fighting with me, I just wanna pelt them. How do you regulate yourself?

This is not domestic violence. He’s too laid back for all that 🤣🤣