r/Adulting • u/Pretend-Wallaby-9707 • 13h ago

Strange request???

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u/simpleandbeautiful 11h ago

Its strange cause you didnt even give her a way in or thank her, or check if shes available to help you 😭

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u/pucknplants 10h ago

or even overtly ask “can you go and check on my oven”. just explained their whole entire day.

OP, i have a lot of anxiety around texting & making sure my messages sound okay & you read like me when i am overthinking things (both in your message, and in over-reading into your neighbors reply). my advice is to only include necessary details & be short & concise. “hey neighbor, I’m worried I may have forgotten to turn my oven off. Can you check on it for me?” is a way better message

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u/AllOfTheThings426 4h ago

This is the best advice on this post!

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u/Gracetothetop 3h ago

Any tips for getting over that anxiety? I have over 1,000 unread messages and lost countless friendships. I wish texting didn’t make me so anxious.

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u/r_lovelace 2h ago

You know how you are sending messages on reddit? It's like that except only 1 person can see it not the whole world. Just do the same thing. You read and replied to that message just fine. Texts are no different.

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u/saturday_sun4 8h ago

Yeah, exactly, no please and thank you either, and no apology for wrongly assuming the neighbour had the key/code.

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u/SignificanceProud975 7h ago

Yeah and there is so much unneeded detail

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u/MFDOOMscrolling 5h ago

word vomit and emojis for punctuation

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u/SLT530 5h ago

I hate these threads where everyone is invested but OP doesn’t reply because they know they are in the wrong.