Ultimately you need a public figure who can reach millions of Americans to make it be known when it comes to anti Indian hate you need to report it, challenge it, condemn it. Not be just some bystander.

If not the current desi ‘IT’ boy of American politics who millions listen to who else. Some here may find fault in this but in the end you know how the American public’s attention is captured and the games that need to be played for ppl to give a damn.

P.S this started some Palestinian, Hindu vs Muslim bullshit when this is NOT what this post is about.

Simply you need a public figure who is well liked to use their platform to spread a message and Zohran is perfect for the Indian American community to at least request him to speak on their behalf.

This ain’t rocket science….its common sense.

South Asians in the West, especially in the UK with British Asians, are often culturally conservative, preaching their cultural identity for social or political gains, both materialistic (dishes, clothing, religion) and non-materialistic (expressions, attitudes, language, morality, family honour, community honour, power distance) aspects. This means that many immigrant parents often demand their children to speak in their heritage language, this is likely how they have a mixed accent between their parents and their birth nation as a result.

Many second generations seem to speak fluently in their parents' language whether it is Hindi, Bengali, Urdu, Punjabi, Tamil, Konkani, etc. But I wonder how much they really do so.

Even though I obviously recognise Bengali (standard Bengali not Sylheti) and certain words, I cannot really speak a cohesive sentence let alone speech. My father was very annoyed with that for some reason by my mother didn't mind, in fact she did not wanted me to speak because as I grew up and born in the UK and within predominantly White spaces, my identity should focus on the UK society not Bangladesh.

But I wonder how much of you are that bilingual or if you can just speak in your host's language.

I am part of a double diaspora. In 1873, my ancestors were taken from India to Suriname (a country in South America next to Brazil) as indentured laborers. Over the next century, spanning five to six generations, our community preserved its culture, living and marrying within the Indian community in Suriname.

In the 1980s, around the time Suriname gained independence, my parents migrated to the Netherlands, Suriname's former colonial ruler, where I was born and raised. Today, I live in the Netherlands, but my roots are deeply tied to Suriname, where my parents and great-parents are from. I even lived there myself for two years and attended school.

When I was ten, I visited India. While I found it to be a beautiful country, I didn't feel at home there; I have no direct relatives or immediate connections left in India. In reality, Suriname is where I truly feel at home. Sadly, I don't feel that same sense of belonging in the Netherlands, as people here often make you feel like an outsider who doesn't belong in 'their' country."

In my experience, I mostly see Indian Dude-White Woman, followed by Indian Dude-Asian Woman and then Indian Woman-White Dude.

I think it’s because there tend to be more ABCD Men than women, in general.

That’s just my experience

Hi, I’m not a great cook in general, but my friends were asking me to cook something Indian (I’m the only Indian in the group) for an upcoming Friendsgiving. I grew up on South Indian food (Telugu) so I wanna prepare something in that general direction but open to other ideas! I’m also probably gonna be driving for 40 minutes to get to the event so hoping to hear something that’s transportation-friendly and can taste good if it gets cold lol. And one other requirement is no nuts. Sorry Ik I’m asking a lot. I was thinking of making Mysore Bondas or Halwa or something. I feel like dosas and idlis taste bad if not eaten immediately after being made, but idk. Please help me out, thanks 🙏

The massive amount of racism we've been getting seems to finally gotten us to at least SLIGHTLY decrease the white worshipping we've done for decades. And also somewhat unite. I know the racism is extremely hurtful, it finally feels like a lot of us are looking up past the throws of white obsession and model minority scripts. Being racialized sucks and perhaps this sounds delusional but it is genuinely nice to unite relatively more.

In the leader of this operation Indian American males height mog everyone. In a group of 100 different people white black Asian Hispanic Swedish Mongolia Tasmania Moldova and Bolivia Indians are the tallest. Sorry just drank something. What is it water? No water? Just bud light cause bud light makes you grow tall🎶🎶🎶 good morning everyone.

I see all the horror stories on here. Wondering if anyone else is chill lol.

I am an only child. Chill with my folks for the most part. I left home at 17 for college and haven’t lived with them since, and I’m 24 now. I do miss them, but it’s nice living alone and I wouldn’t trade it for anything lol.

I mean I did have the typical academic pressure and shit growing up. I did have arguments with them. But things were chill especially after I left for college. My dad isn’t some dude I am afraid of anymore, he’s an old fart who I can sit and just talk to and is my #1 source of career advice(I work in the same field as him, total coincidence it ended up that way).

My mom has always been chill. She asked me if I was gay cuz I haven’t had a gf yet(rough way to find out mama thinks I got no game, she ain’t wrong but damn bro), so aside from that she’s been chill, but she lowkey was trying to be supportive. She’s the type that does love unconditionally.

Growing up some stuff I hated them for, I am glad they did. For example, they had a chores to money thing to make me learn to do my own chores. Like laundry, cleaning, etc. I hated it cuz they never gave me what I thought was enough(they didn’t have to give me shit lol) but I learned to be independent because of that. My dad made me spend every Saturday and Sunday morning cooking with him during high school so I would learn to cook. Hated it at the time, but now I know how to cook and save so much money. He told me when he left India when he was 23 he was a bit spoiled and didn’t know how to cook and struggled to find food and starved until he learned to cook so he didn’t want me to struggle like that. God bless him. And shit paid off, when I was in college, I had less of an adjustment period that my peers, and now I do everything on my own and save hella money.

Also religion, I am religious of my own accord. They never pushed it on me. My dad was actually an atheist who found religion himself and he wanted me to have the same experience and so did my mom. I had my moment early on, around 10th grade in high school(won’t get into it, but car accident gone wrong, glad to be here still, thank you god). So I ask them religious questions and they answer if they know, or if they don’t know the three of us ask a pandit together if we’re at a temple or they will ask and tell me. Or I phone up a pandit sometimes too.

And in terms of finances, I am independent rn, but if I ever needed a helping hand, they would be there. I actually lived with them for 2 months in between jobs once(which I guess I lied earlier about never having lived with them since 17 lol), and they didn’t give me any shit for it. It was stressful with applying for other jobs, etc, but my dad never pressured me. Every morning was like “are you just applying again” and I said “yeah”.

He told me to take my 20s and make as many mistakes as I can while he’s still working and able to support the family. He still hopes I will go get a PhD or something haha. Aside from that nothing else. Pretty supportive.

We’ve had our ups and downs, but after being an adult I love them for everything they’ve done.

But yeah, I read hella horror stories on here, thought I would be a fresh breath of air. Anyone else got normal parents?

First off, don’t worry I’m an adult btw (25F)

I would be in the middle of doing something or id be minding my own business until she‘d keep asking me to give her a kiss on the cheek. I’d politely say no or just ignore her but then she’d block my way or put herself in front of me to make it difficult for me to do what I was doing. I’d resist a few times and she‘d say she‘ll go away if I give her a kiss, so I’d just give her a kiss on the check just to get her to stop bothering me.

sometimes she’d hold out her hand for me to touch or squeeze and I’d just ignore her but she’d keep shaking her hand or waiting for me, so I’d just touch/squeeze her hand, even if I really don’t want to.

also when I’m planning on like arranging my personal things or plan out my clothes she‘d just do it for me and when I look upset or pissed off, she’d just tell me that she‘s my mother and that I should just accept her help because she just wants what’s best for me. In those moments I’m more upset that they’re finding even really small, tiny, very minuscule things to control in my life, like my self expression does piss me off a lot, like I’m just trying so hard to be in control over the smaller aspects of my life while theyre trying to control bigger aspects of my life, and even that’s not enough for them :(

Mind you, this is the same woman that’s extremely paranoid about the possibility of men sexually abusing me and raping me, like she’d ask almost every single day whether men (coworkers, guy friends, relatives, etc.) are raping me or sexually abusing me or pressuring me to send photos or do something sexual. Even when I say no and I’ve actually legit never had men do anything like that to me, she‘d Basically ignore my no‘s and has been ignoring my no’s to these questions for years, and thinks that im like too stupid or naive to recognize when a man is taking advantage of me sexually. she also tells me about how she gets dreams of men sexually abusing me and raping me and how she’s worried about me.

like bitches better be glad I‘m a grown adult that knows what consent looks like instead of a young child, cause this shit is what sets up young children to be sexually abused by adults. like me being an adult and knowing this instead of a young child that doesn’t know this is what they should be glad about. like she’d bettee be grateful I was “woke indoctrinated“ to know what consent looks like, instead of just absorbing knowledge just from her and her hyperconservative and religious community im in.

idk im just pissed off rn

Hey everyone! I’m 24M, recently moved to Ballston, and looking to make more Desi friends around my age (post grad) in the NoVA area.

I work remotely and am down for anything from grabbing food to exploring the area or planning activities.

Comment or PM if you’re interested in meeting up!

Hey everyone! Please do comment I want to hear your thoughts. I'm starting to turn 30 recently. I've lived in major cities like NYC , boston etc but my hometown is Dallas which is where i relocated to. I'm telugu and raised here all my life. Yll im so frustrated and have indeed felt dejected/cried about it on my off days. I've tried the major dating apps (hinge, mirchi, di mil, bumble even) and its so frustrating bc i feel 95% are fobs now (which im not interested in at all). Where are all the people who grew up here? I would prefer south indian, but open as long as they are hindu, appropriate age range, grew up here like me. Having to swipe through 100+ Fobs to get to 1 maybe who grew up here is so frustrating. Mohan matchmaking is geared towards mostly north indians and ive attededed that, no luck yet, but.... idk please help me out yll. Am i only one feeling this way? Where can i meet people in Dallas? Where are all the single people hiding (esp the guys) I feel its so easy to meet girls! Pl recommend apps, events, or places and tell me your thoughts!! I feel if you didnt meet someone during your educational years its hard

My life is in chaos, you can say I was born with hypervigilance so I stayed alert throughout my life thus never developed any life skills other than walking. I slowly minimised myself just to fit in with my surrounding so I am not an out set. A lifetime of performance and no real life experiences. I have never been in any relationship or long term really close friendships as I thought first I need to perfect a right plan and right protected life before going in people so I don't lost myself more. From a year I am slowly being original and still my old people pleasing habits and putting all first. Slowly I don't even know if I exist. I dont have any skill or career and I am typical pakistani daughter who is almost past marriage age but I don't want to settle as I have completely lost myself and in pursuit of my true self and my basic right of living I want fo give myself this one chance at life.. which seem stupid as deep down I am still a 5 year who never got to experience life and yes even now building a life of nornal human is such a big task I really want affection and love but I tend away when it comes thinking that what I'll offer although the guy I had crush on actually tried to get me but I stayed frozen and distant and it's hard emotionally and on top of that even in my home the pressurre is gettimg immense as they are worried for me.. when you are on the tip that you should get practical i am on a whim to startover and experience the playground games .. my health and my all is on absolute low as per normal standard but on paper for public i am such an amazing inspiring woman because of my perfomance and maybe my natural beauty that make them think ​​that I am too good and still see potential in me that I am not utilising to solve the climate issue of lahore (that's improvised) but yeah that's how they expect me to be or already assume I am some big shot but it's all fake. I am fake as this is my trauma personality I built and not true me. I know it's blah blah... thank you for reading.

I was caught off guard today by the number of these posts that are trying to set a narrative on the protests in France. I think this is something all of us need to take note of, because I'm pretty sure we'll be targeted in a similar way soon. Mods, I request you to not delete this post, just so that we can get an idea of what hate campaigns could look like.

Hey everyone!

I 23F working in the UK originally from South India, and I’ve been trying to figure out how to make friends and find my people here. It got me curious about the experiences of second-gen South Indians and Sri Lankans who grew up in the UK.

I’d love to hear what your social circles are like. Do you mostly hang out with people who grew up here, both British and British Asian, or do you also have close friends who moved here from India or Sri Lanka more recently? And do you feel like there’s a cultural connection with people arriving from back home, or can the differences in how you grew up and your experiences make it harder to relate sometimes?

I’m genuinely curious and don’t mean this in any particular way! I know that sharing the same roots doesn’t necessarily mean having the same experiences, and I’d love to hear how you guys see it. Just trying to understand things a little better and find ways to connect with people here:))

like it hit me a few months ago, when was the first time my parents yelled at me? its been a thing my entire life. when was the first time they did it? did they think i was old enough to take it, or old enough for them to not be sorry about it? were they really screaming at me for being a crying baby in a crib? did they think that was okay? will they repeat this in front of my own child?

i dont exactly have kids planned in the near future since i want to establish my career and have a bit of a safety net first but i already know some stuff will change between my parents’ raising and mine. my mother never believed in formula or pumping for my younger siblings, and i don’t think i’ll follow in that. my parents were also pretty late to get us off bottles, which actually gave us dental issues. i think the one thing i cant decide on now (and is something to discuss with your partner when a baby is actually on the way) is infant daycare, for both of us we only started daycare when we were toddlers because they didnt trust a newborn in daycare and instead relied on grandparent support. which means of course my parents being there at some point of my child’s infancy. nooot sure if they’ll get it together within the next 5-10 years

My wife and I are based in London, and I made a Hinglish learning app for my (British) wife, as existing apps would keep teaching her the formal Devanagari script.

So, when my wife and I started dating, she really wanted to pick up Hindi, and after a few months of trying pretty much every app out there, every single one had her drawing the Devanagari script, but the truth is a lot of us now text in English letters. And when she finally got an actual sentence, it was literally: "My horse is reading the newspaper." hehe. I mean it'd definitely get lots of laugh, but it was terrible for her confidence.

So, I decided to take matters into my own hands, and grabbed a whiteboard, and teaching her syllable by syllable coaching like the "aa" in "kaal" is very similar sound to the aa in "start", and we started using English as a disguise to teach her the phonetics, and build situational vocabulary and construct sentences together. We practiced everyday stuff while doing chores like laundry- she’d score how well I hung out the washing out of ten, and I’d score her saying "juraab" (sock) out of ten. 🤣

It was super fun, until she started going on long business trips, so I decided to turn that whiteboard into an app just for her, called Hinglish Vinglish, that classic rhyming habit we a lot of us grew up with at home: chai-shai, kaam-vaam. I later realised there's a movie called English Vinglish as well lol.

The idea was dead simple, convert the whiteboard situational learnings in English letters into a mobile app. The entire app is one big scrolling feed with easy bite sized lessons that you slowly build upon, with lots of fun bits like crosswords or worldes from words you've learned, keeping the learning engaging.

It was only supposed to be for one person, then one of my friends started using it, then next thing you know 1,700 people are using it now.

I just wanted to share my exciting journey with you all, and although the app usually has a 7-day open trial and then a one-time lifetime unlock just to cover my costs. But if any one of you want to learn or brush up on your own conversational Hinglish, or have a non-Desi partner trying to survive family dinners or hold their own at shaadis, I'd be happy to give it away for free to anyone in this sub if you'd find it useful.

If you or your partner do use it: once you sign up on the app, drop me a DM with your username. I’ll manually go in and unlock lifetime access for free.

You can check it out here: https://hinglish-vinglish.com/

Happy to chat in the comments about building it, the tech, or just surviving the chaos of family banter!