140
u/honeywhyareusoquiet 11d ago
How did you accomplish this feat of great strength?
116
u/dragonageisgreat 11d ago
A good therapist
36
u/TheGreatSchnorkie 11d ago
Grats! For me, it was all about finding the right medications :) I certainly feel this post to my bones
13
0
-2
47
u/ShallotNSpice 11d ago
Guys, we're taught from a young age to value the wrong things. Things that makes us feel shame and cut us off from our own humanity. Find stability by looking at what you value and aligning them for the greater good. Be who you needed as a kid. Trust me.
28
11
u/abatoire 11d ago
"How I imagine it feels..."
But if you are there. Good for you. I'm working on it with ernest at the moment. Some progress, but there is still alot of work to go for me.
15
6
6
4
u/CharcoalGreyWolf 11d ago
When, in the brief moments , it actually happens, there’s so much peace.
That peace is all I wish for.
6
u/veritasverdad 11d ago
In my experience it's more of a journey and and sometimes you need a break. I've found going on a meditation retreat or taking a vacation work well but then you get back to you normal responsibilities and the break outs short lived. Recently I came across the book "Don't believe everything you think" and I've learned that I've never thought my way to happiness. It made me realize I've assumed thinking my way through problems is the correct solution. In doing so I've ignored my emotions. It's like a kid that gets ignored when they feel something and their parents don't pay attention. The don't express what they feel but will eventually express the feelings in some physical form like a violent outburst or getting sick. We cat ignore our feelings even if there isn't anything at can do to change them. Simply acknowledging you feelings is highly underrated.
3
u/ashteif8 11d ago
It feels ridiculous to say, but being able to accurately name your emotions and tie them back to why you are feeling that way goes SUCH a long way towards that inner peace. After that, being able to separate your emotions/thoughts from your actions/acting in line with your values instead of fear-driven emotions and boom… suddenly wow… life is so much more peaceful and less of a big deal. I haven’t read “dont believe everything you think” but i can definitely say that phrase alone goes such a long way towards peace
1
u/veritasverdad 9d ago
In still haven't gotten to working on my own best interest. Any advice on that part?
3
u/ashteif8 9d ago
I took out a bunch of really big sheets of paper and a sharpie, wrote down what I value/who i am (harsh judgements and positive things)/what do i want/what do i need/what do i have etc. i made a big ole inventory of my “shit”. I found it easier to let go of the things that weren’t in my best interest (being really hard on myself) and to accept the things that were in my best interest, even if they aren’t things I TRULY want (maybe its time for me to take my career more seriously for instance). It was a little bit like making a constitution for myself and holding myself accountable to those things especially the values section. As it pertains to the discussion above, your emotions and thoughts relate to your values. Just because you have an emotion doesnt mean you need to act on it, but you can let it inform if you need to adjust your direction. Hope that helps!
1
u/veritasverdad 9d ago
When I followed religion I had some immutable values but letting go of those ideas changed them and one of those changes led to being more forgiving. I think my values "relaxed" overall. How did you judge less but still put the effort for yourself? It seems like a positive form of motivation I'd love to learn more.
6
3
2
2
2
2
2
1
u/TillFit2037 11d ago
Well, that or the first time in a long time for some people as well. I relate after a year and a half of depression. Sure, I still have my bad or mediocre days (Who hasn't, right?), and even on some good days, things that piss u off or make u feel like crap happen, but since 2024, more often than not, the good outnumber the bad throughout the day, and more often than not, the good days outnumber the bad or mediocre days
1
1
1
1
1
1
u/Ok_Veterinarian7824 10d ago
well im still waiting for this time to come, but im so happy you guys reached this point where you can actually enjoy your surroundings
1
1
1
1
1
1
1
•
u/qualityvote2 11d ago edited 11d ago
Hey u/dragonageisgreat! Welcome to r/wholesomememes! Thank you for sharing!
If your post is not showing up, or you have any questions about actions taken by moderators, please send us a modmail and allow 24 hours for mods to review. We appreciate your patience and understanding.
Have a wonderful day and stay wholesome <3
For other users please help keep our community wholesome by upvoting or downvoting this comment to indicate that the post is a Wholesome Meme.
How we define a meme: An image, video, gif, or comic with text added to the image. Post titles do not count.
How we define wholesome: Something that is uplifting and/or motivating.
If this is a wholesome meme, upvote this comment!
If it is not, downvote this comment!
If this post breaks our rules, downvote this comment and report this post!
Our rules: https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/about
(Vote has already ended)