What went wrong? Was it our sex position? Did we not baby dance enough? Did the sperm even make it to the egg? So many questions running through my mind, and honestly.. I don’t know what else we could have done differently.

I never expected TTC to be such a lonely and difficult journey. Somehow, I always find myself coming back to Reddit because this feels like the only place where I can let out my feelings and talk to people who truly understand what I’m going through.

I finally gathered the courage to see a doctor a few weeks ago and started my first cycle with Letrozole and progesterone suppositories. My period came today, so I’m out this cycle. 😔

For the past few failed cycles, I’ve always ended up crying on the first day of my period. I would look at my firstborn and feel so guilty, sometimes saying sorry to him in my heart for not being able to give him a sibling. It hurts so much knowing how badly he wants one, and I wish I could make it happen for him. 😭

I can’t really share these feelings with anyone, not even my husband, because he tends to get stressed easily. We’ve also missed so many chances because he couldn’t perform during my fertile window.

Sometimes, I just wish he would say, “Let’s work harder together to have another baby.” I wish he would take the initiative to understand my fertile days so he could mentally prepare himself too. I also wish he would take better care of himself, especially during my fertile window, because he always seems to fall sick at the worst possible time.

I know he doesn’t purposely fall sick, and I’m not blaming him for that. But there are also things he could improve on to take better care of himself, and I wish he would put in more effort too. Sometimes, I feel like he just doesn’t listen.

I worry that these things might affect our chances, but I find it hard to talk to him about them because I’m afraid he’ll get even more stressed. So I end up keeping everything to myself.

I guess I’m just tired. Tired of hoping every month, tired of wondering what went wrong, and tired of keeping all these feelings bottled up.

Sorry for the long rant. I just needed somewhere to let everything out, and somehow Reddit has become that place for me. ❤️

I’m already mentally preparing myself to say goodbye to TTC by the end of this year if it doesn’t happen. Just thinking about it breaks my heart so,
so much. 🥺💔

Did anyone’s cycles get really weird postpartum even if they were super regular before pregnancy?
I’m almost 7 months PP and got my period back around 3 months PP. Before pregnancy my cycles were literally 29 days on the dot. My last couple cycles have been around 35 days, and now I’m on CD39 with no period.

I’ve also been tracking ovulation/BBT and my temps have been ALL over the place. There’s no obvious temp shift and my app can’t even tell when/if I ovulated this cycle.

I had a C-section, so I’m also wondering if that could have anything to do with it? I know postpartum hormones can take time to regulate, but since my period has already been back for about 4 months, I’m starting to worry something is wrong.
We want another baby in the future, so of course my brain is jumping straight to fertility issues 😅

Did anyone else have very regular cycles pre-baby and then 35-40+ day or possibly anovulatory cycles postpartum? How long did it take to regulate? Did it affect your ability to get pregnant again? Bonus if you also had a C-section!

When I first started ttc, I got pregnant 2nd month ttc which ended in a chemical pregnancy. Actively tried for 18 months before we had a live birth. No known fertility issues other than “suspected” endometriosis due to an elevated CA-125. We are now trying for our second, I’m curious how long it took others to conceive their second baby after experiencing fertility issues

Caught my first ovulation 8 months postpartum but only had a 9 day LP. How long did it take you pp for your LP to lengthen? Did you have to wean completely? I’m currently pumping 3x a day

For those who are TTC with a medicated cycle, what are you taking and what were the factors that led your doctor to prescribe it? I met with a fertility specialist for the first time this week and was surprised to find they don't prescribe clomid or letrozole unless the patient is also doing IUI. She said the reason is because of increased chance of multiples and "We don't want anyone to have triplets." Is that a common outcome? I was under the impression that medicated cycles before IUI/IVF might be a common step in some circumstances.

I’m 34 and we’ve been trying for our second baby for 15 months now. We already have a daughter, but this journey to conceive again has been so much harder than I ever expected.
One thing I’m struggling with is regular spotting during my luteal phase. I often get pink or brown spotting several days before my period is due, and this month I’ve had spotting around 7–10 DPO, which has now become heavier but still isn’t a proper flow. I’ve had a negative pregnancy test.
I’ve been worrying about low progesterone because of the spotting, but my progesterone result was actually 67 nmol/L, and my thyroid (TSH) was 1.5, so both results seem reassuring.
My cycles are generally around 29–33 days, and I track ovulation using OPKs and cervical mucus. Despite this, we haven’t conceived again after 15 months of trying.
I’ve also experienced a previous ectopic pregnancy and an early pregnancy loss, so I think I’m particularly anxious about whether something hormonal or something else could be affecting our chances.
I’m wondering whether anyone else has experienced persistent luteal phase spotting despite good progesterone levels and normal thyroid results.
Did you ever find out what was causing your spotting? Did you go on to conceive naturally, or did you need further investigations or treatment?
I’m starting to feel really disheartened and would appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been in a similar position. I know spotting can be normal, but after 15 months TTC, it’s hard not to wonder whether it’s a sign that something isn’t quite right.

Im 31F, husband 34. We got pregnant with our first on attempt #2, hes now a healthy 2yo. Tried for a second last October and got pregnant on the first try, but had a miscarriage at 10 weeks. Had a chemical pregnancy in May of this year. Its been over a year of trying and I dont know what to do. Clearly I can get pregnant but why is it not sticking this time.
We are healthy, active people with no illnesses. Had a full panel of bloods come back all good. Before I go down the route of IVF/ medical intervention, does anyone have any tips/ options they swear by???
eg Oura ring, cutting out X food, whatever. I dont care how woowoo it is I will try anything. Thank you so much for your advice. I’m really starting to spiral here!!!

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My husband smokes pot and wants to quit using THC before we conceive. How long after quitting should he wait before we try for a healthy baby? I need an answer backed by science.

Currently trying for baby #2 after conceiving first try for our daughter, I unfortunately have not been lucky so far. I am super confused by this process so far and trying to research what I can. I just started using ovulation tests and I finally got a positive after my estimated fertile window on cd 19. I’m very confused and worried why I’m ovulating this late and wondering how possible it is to get pregnant this cycle if it’s so late? My cycles are almost always 28 days. Any help or input appreciated! I’m using Pregmate strips and used the premom app.

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We’ve been trying for baby number 2 since October 2025 - in that time we’ve had 13 failed cycles. The only thing we have to show for all that work is one singular chemical pregnancy.

Baby 1 came reasonably quickly after an initial chemical pregnancy.

All our fertility testing has come back normal. Today I had the last test done, and my consultant gave me the ok to start IVF. Realistically this won’t be for another month or so. It’s likely we won’t be able to try in the coming month as the procedure I had today precludes intercourse for 2-3 weeks, which will likely include most of my next cycle.

My acupuncturist is *adamant* I don’t need IVF, and I should carry on with everything I’m doing (supplements, herbs, you name it, I’m doing it), and wait until at least the new year to consider IVF.

I feel quite strongly that I’m a year down the line, I’ve thrown everything I can at this fucking process, and it didn’t work the last 13 times, it’s unlikely to miraculously work now. But you know, obviously, if I can avoid having IVF that would be nice!! But the longer I wait, the longer the gap grows between child 1 and any potential sibling, and I am just SO FUCKING DONE WAITING. I am so desperate for another child.

So wise ladies of reddit - what do you think? Any wise words, advice, or just commiseration greatly appreciated

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So I’ve “always” known I have PCOS and did all of the testing when I was in my early 20. I basically lied to all of my medical professionals and said I wanted to start a family because otherwise they wouldn’t do the tests. when it turned out I needed help in the reproductive health department and they wanted to send me to a clinic I said my circumstances had changed and so had my plans.

when I met my husband ten years later and we were on the same page about wanting children, I told my OBGYN that we had been trying for over a year and they send me to the clinic right away. so even with all of that fasttracking it took us 11 medicated months, ~3 chemicals, one miscarriage to have our daughter.

the thing about infertility is, that it doesnt leave you just because you had your baby.

I was just back from the hospital when I started calculating… so it took us 11 months… next time could be longer.. It could happen right away… what is the age gap if it happens right away… too small!… but what if it takes us again 11 months just to conceive.… it could take even longer..

can anyone relate? How did you solve this for you? I’m 8 months postpartum and we already had an appointment at our clinic. I’m just so unsure when to actively start trying.

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TW: Recurrent pregnancy loss

I (40F) had my son back in 2021, right after my first miscarriage in 2020. For multitude of reasons, we didn't try for a second until April 2024. I knew i was getting older but people get pregnant all the time, right? The problem for us was not getting pregnant - since 2024 until today, we got pregnant 3 more times. All 3 ended in a loss, right around at 6 weeks.

The most recent one happened yesterday and this was a gut punch for various reasons, with #1 being the fact that we saw cardiac activity 4 days prior. Going into the OB's office to get an ultrasound that day gave me so much anxiety, I remember crying on my way to the appointment. You see, the 2 prior miscarriages were technically a chemical pregnancy, so I didn't even get to hear the heartbeat. We found out during our first OB visit. My husband and I were so nervous but when we saw that cardiac activity, we knew we passed the first stage of relief. The OB was very hopeful for me - the few things she was concerned about on top of my age were a) I had a polycystic ovary (first time hearing about this! Not to be confused with PCOS), b) there was some fluid in my fallopian tube, and c) i had a degenerative fibroid (basically dying). But everything else looked perfect. I had a pretty busy Saturday and Sunday, I was feeling pretty fatigued, so I took it pretty easy. On Monday, I woke up feeling lethargic, but thought it was the hormones again. I was wrong. I started developing a fever that went up to 101F. I took some tylenol, took the day off, and just slept as much as I could. The fever eventually went away that night and I went to bed hoping it didn't affect my pregnancy.

Then yesterday happened. And man. Did it happen fast. This wasn't my first rodeo with pregnancy loss so I knew what was coming but my body never reacted this fast. What started as pink spotting at 7am turned into a whole miscarriage (passing tissue and clots) by 8pm. I didn't have any cramps. It's funny how even though this wasn't my first time experiencing a loss, I couldn't help but to turn to ChatGPT and Reddit to see if this could POSSIBLY be something else. Perhaps an SCH? But no. I know I am not that lucky. I know a loss when I experience one.

This pregnancy happened right before we were considering IVF. We felt so lucky. I thought since we saw the heartbeat, that meant our chances were much higher. I was wrong. And now, I don't know where to go from here. I know for the time being, I'll have to process this first. But do I even have hope moving forward? Is IVF going to be any different? Do I just need to give up? I honestly don't think I can ever be happy again being pregnant. Because it all leads to this tragic ending. I also don't know how many more losses my body can handle. And the worst of it all, it breaks my heart seeing my 5 year old son play by himself at home everyday, longing for a baby in the house. I see how he cares for his friend's siblings and like many of you out there, that was one of the most exciting things for me after seeing the cardiac activity.

Everything feels raw today. I wish my desire for a second kiddo could just disappear. If only life was that easy. Not sure if anybody else is going through the same thing but if you are, many hugs and love going your way. I hope we all get our happy endings eventually, whatever that may look like.

I’m very much suspecting I have this. I removed nexplanon in August to TTC for another and it was like a floodgate of symptoms started immediately. I have a dull ache in lower pelvis most my cycle and the pain is severe days leading to my period and burns around my c section scar BUT my period is very very light , never filling a pad and I have a lot of brown spotting at the end of this weird one/two day period. I have contacted my OBGYN , I have an ultrasound scheduled and will ask for a SIS if the ultrasound is not conclusive. Please share anyone that has had a symptomatic isthmocele and if there is anything I should know/ask. I know I am not very far into my TTC journey this time but I also have pku which makes me immediately high risk so I need to deal with inflammation issues right away before TTC. TIA!

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Hiii everyone!
I have been trying for a second baby since 09/25. Me and my husband are 27, and we have a 2 year old who we got pregnant with on our first try. I had been pregnant one time before that when my birth control failed. We thought we’d have no trouble conceiving given our age and previous proven fertility, but clearly have been struggling.

All of my tests and his have came back well before my AMH being at a 1.7, which is low for my age. We started seeing an RE and after an unsuccessful round of IUI with clomid, I got pregnant my second round using letrozole. However this ended in a chemical (I wasn’t too surprised, my HCG was at a 7.44 at 14DPIUI).

I’ve obviously been doing a lot of research since getting our unexplained secondary infertility diagnosis, and have been reading more and more about silent or asymptomatic endo. I have some period and ovulation pain, and some pain during intercourse, but if it weren’t for the infertility, I don’t know that I would have known. I have a 3D ultrasound coming up whenever my period comes back to look for any markers. Looking to see if anyone has any experience with this! I have read that silent endometriosis potentially contributes up to fifty percent of unexplained infertility cases.

I had high blood pressure my whole first pregnancy, was induced, then had an emergent C section. I was never medicated for my high blood pressure but instead told I would need a c section at 37 weeks since I was still having elevated readings. I’m wanting to start trying for baby number 2 now that my first is 18mo. I’m stressed about having high blood pressure again in my next pregnancy. Anyone experience high blood pressure with their first but went on to have other normal, healthy pregnancies? Thank you in advance!

Signed a traumatized c section NICU mom <3 lol

I got my progesterone tested yesterday at cd 24, 9 dpo. It came back at 2.7 ng/mL… I have no experience with this as we conceived our daughter first try (she’s almost 4.5). So many emotions. This leads me to believe I didn’t actually ovulate (correct me if I’m wrong), but I swear I can feel myself ovulating (or trying to) every month like clock work. I have tracked with LH strips the last 3 cycles. Does anyone have input or experience with this?

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