r/romani • u/slow2low • 1d ago
r/romani • u/SiempreBrujaSuerte • Jul 29 '25
š¦Mod Updateš¦ Community changes + inclusion
Hello everyone, So we now have 5 mods I believe, one of which is me. I will introduce myself more in a larger post if people are interested, for now know I'm a 36year old woman, raised in the culture. I'm living in Europe (bucharest right now) because my husband is Hungarian national (Roma also) and we find it inhospitable for him as a non American citizen to be there now.
On the topic I came to discuss, we have changed rules so that to ban someone we will vote and a 4/5 approval will get a ban. Instead of bans we will be muting people who break rules on temporary basis. 3 strikes and we vote on a ban.
There were a lot of unapproved people who wanted to join the subreddit from when it was private that were never approved or acknowledged. I approved most of them, they largely are Roma and a few allies. I found it pretty sad that it's kinda slow here and there were so many people are wanting to contribute but not approved.
That being said, if there is an influx of nonsense come with the new members we will take care of it. It's a risk I'm willing to take to get some good content contributing.
Also we have been working to unblock people who were blocked due to cultural misunderstanding, etc. basically the people who are not trolls are going to be allowed back.
If anyone wants to suggest more changes, be my guest. Hope we can all grow as a community together. š
r/romani • u/umekoangel • Feb 04 '25
š¦Mod Updateš¦ Important Identity Post
So a few reminders for this sub:
If you believe "adopted Romani are only cosplaying/pretending/larping to be Romani" you don't belong here.
If you believe "Romani who grew up separated from other Romani are only pretending to be Romani", you don't belong here.
If you believe "Romani whose parents/grand parents/etc. didn't share the culture with them, they aren't true romani", you don't belong here.
The Romani have faced a LOT of hardships throughout the years, many of which included the forced separation (either through the legal system or extreme social pressues) of child and mother. Many Romani don't learn they are indeed Romani until later in life. This does not make them any less Romani. Ghost romani (foster kids, adopted kids, Romani who don't learn about their heritage via immediately family for any reason, etc.) still belong in the Romani community, period. End of story.
r/romani • u/Unlikely_Welder_7818 • 23h ago
Newbie Question Fortune teller costume
Hello I was thinking of going as a tarot card reader / fortune teller this halloween. I chose it because of my own interest in palm reading ( Indian here) and my existing closet. The costume is a wrap around printed skirt, a corset layered over a bell sleeved shrug. Im not planning on doing more than that other than maybe carrying a tarot deck. I dont want it to be an offensive costume, and saw that a lot of the existing fortune teller in media and such is based on stereotypes against Romani people. Im not sure if my costume is entirely appropriate but was looking to know if its a good idea to move forward with this costume or move on to a new idea. Pleasd let me know any input you can give me . I am genuinely curious and do not want to offend at all.
r/romani • u/starprintedpajamas • 2d ago
Rant/Vent makes me a little bitter but more sad when i see other victimized groups get compassion while nothing
just getting off my chest. iām genuinely glad for others. but i donāt like how iām dehumanized and seen as unworthy in the meantime. itās happened more often lately so idk iām letting myself feel and then i try to put it away. anyone else feel like this?
r/romani • u/Icy_Company7747 • 3d ago
North America Romani song recorded 107 years ago
Recorded in 1919 by a Russian Roma accordionist in New York City and released by Columbia Records. May have been the inspiration for the song Bella ciao
r/romani • u/National-Region-1194 • 2d ago
Regular Post/ Discussion 16M i need romani friend
Hi! My name is Dan, iām a manouche from France. My whole family is romani, i grew up in the romani traditions⦠anyway. I want people to talk to. To gadjes who want to know about my culture to other roms teens. Feel free to send me a DM or comment so i send you one.
r/romani • u/VBeaAdoptee • 4d ago
Regular Post/ Discussion Dr Boris N Munteanu
(Sorry for posting so much I promise im done)
Has anyone heard of Dr Boris N Munteanu? I read that he was a Roma advocate in Ukraine? I cant find much info, but im like 99.9% sure he is my grand father. They have the same info of birth and nationality and place of birth, and all my bio family knows is that he was a doctor.
r/romani • u/VBeaAdoptee • 4d ago
Resources Kali Sara
Can't decide if it's more resource flair, or Culture.
Does anyone have links to accurate depictions of her? Readings, prayers, etc.
I'm adopted and found out my mother prayed through Kali Sara...I want to feel closer to her.
r/romani • u/HumbleExternal8556 • 5d ago
Palaces / Housing
Would you say that āGyps* palacesā, like those found in Romania, also exist in Kosovo? Or does migration have a different impact on housing there?
r/romani • u/danielaDaniela2395 • 6d ago
Newbie Question Te ador,a fost scris de un actor,aČa se Ć®ntĆ¢mplÄ cĆ¢nd pui suflet pentru persoanÄ greČitÄ š
r/romani • u/Zenseaking • 8d ago
The problem here
I scroll through this sub and I constantly see the same gatekeeping.
A stream of posts about who is in and who is out. All contradicting each other and making sure the OP is in the in group. And it's just depressing. Get over it. A people can't move forward unless they stop constantly judging who makes the cut.
The Romani peoples were treated poorly and as outsiders for a millenia. Do all of you judging others authenticity really just want to be like those that treated our people like that. Is the Romani identity "When I grow up I want to police who is allowed to be in just like the gadjes have done" ?
I see claims that being Romani is not in the blood it's in the culture.
Absolute rubbish. The ancestors are literally in the blood. And for good reason. So we carry them with us. Not tied to place like some other people's. In the blood.
Culture is an ever shifting thing. It differs from group to group and place to place. Experience changes it. Local Influences change it. Otherwise we would all have a carbon copy of Indian culture. And only Indians would be real Romani.
How many of you still live in a horse drawn wagon? Or even a caravan? Who sits by the yog each and every night? Maybe 1%.
You post videos of people living in houses claiming only they are the true culture.
What on earth?
White people are out, people who don't speak the full language are out, people who don't sell flowers on the side of the road are out.
None of us are Romani. **Only me apparently because it's my standards and not yours**
What a ridiculous idea.
Get over it. Stop gatekeeping and policing.
Accept and support each other. Like the others never did for our people. Don't be like them. It's everything we hate in the world. So why copy it.
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r/romani • u/tilitysandwich • 9d ago
Any help with identifying lyrics?
Hello everyone!
Trying to find some info about a song sung by one of my all time favorite groups.
The first half of this song is traditional sung in Hungarian, The second half of this song (around three minutes) seems to be sung in Romani, but I haven't been able to find the lyrics anywhere or anyone online singing the same song. I'd love to know if this is a traditional tune or not so I might be able to find the lyrics!
r/romani • u/ameilamarks • 11d ago
Ancestry / DNA Questions & Discussions Romani DNA
Moh is it just me or what, because i'm real tired of the gadjie with the DNA post. I personally believe the only way you can truly be a Romani is you have to be born/married into it.
I don't know maybe I'm prekazaš
r/romani • u/lioncoco • 12d ago
Roma in the Netherlands or Germany?
Hello everyone,
I was wondering if there are any Roma living in the Netherlands or Germany who are active in this subreddit.
I understand a little Romane, but I donāt speak it fluently. I speak Serbian and English, and Dutch if you live in the Netherlands.
Iād be interested in connecting with other Roma in the region and exchanging experiences and perspectives.
If youāre based in either country, feel free to leave a comment or send me a message.
Edit:
I didnāt suddenly discover that Iām Roma later in life; I grew up knowing who I am and where I come from. Iām not looking to explore my ancestry!
Outside of my own family, I donāt really know many Roma, and I miss having that sense of community. Iād love to meet others with a similar background, get to know them, share everyday experiences, and simply connect with people who understand that part of my life.
r/romani • u/LarysaRomaSupport • 12d ago
Romani event Florida?
Hi guys, maybe someone can help me find some Romani friends and event around Orlando area? Iāll really appreciate any help. Thanks
r/romani • u/Icy_Company7747 • 13d ago
I think this gos double for Roma itās like a 6th sense
Itās hard to explain because It almost feels intangible but Roma can always spot other Roma instantly. My grandmother called it āGypsyy magicā that Roma always have a way of finding each other. I will be walking done a busy sidewalk and see someone one across the street and know they are rom, and than of course then accent will confirm it. The same will Roma are not fooled by imposters.
r/romani • u/Low-Pen-3608 • 13d ago
Rant/Vent Feeling overwhelmed?
So, I come from a Balkans which does have a lot of Romani people but also is very well known as a place that is full of hatred, stereotypes, wars and ethnic tensions... However my family is Karavlachs while father's side are Serbian/Montenegro.
Growing up I've never really experienced racist attacks or anything until I've come around age of 17/18 and that was first time I've started hearing around me that some teachers spoke of me behind my back about my heritage and trying to shun me, because I was virtuous Violinist and that was a thorn in one's eye
Then my partner and such a beautiful and tragic love story had parents who were against our relationship just because I'm Romani, even tho we were neighbours for whole life and was in good terms, I was good educated and cultured mannered boy and that was great but I was a not of their Serbian/Macedonian ethnicity and I was a bit darker which is crazy because the same parents of my partner at that time were darker than me, I got a bit darker white greenish skintone, anyway that lasted for 4 years and we were accepted the day her father passed away, just to break up.
Now I'm 26 years old and I've got some crazy neighbor which I've never ever have seen yet everyone claim that she lives there whole life just went crazy after her husband left her.
First time it was in the Public Transport i was with my best friend chatting while she was maybe few meters away from us, then she started tweaking out like mad, yelling, swearing whole nation of Serbia, bus driver, politics, threating how Serbs will be under boots of Croatian and Bosnians, then she turned around and spoke to my friend by his name saying how he is stupid, and his family also and that he has a sister that's a well... Slurs, then looked at me and started provoking with my diabetic condition, sugar and dying, then my ethnicity of the G*slur we understood it was a schizophrenia so we ignored..
But recently I've been cursed of seeing her more and more even tho I've never have seen her this much, and every time she has some comment or provocative Heckle and today I was getting out from store and just got near her and she was speaking into phone about car crash and how she is tired of seeing this gy*slur ciganina, and that was me bc she looked at me and walked past me and I got so angry like I got tired of listening, that I turned around and yelled to her to go and suck my well... Yeah not proudest but, and she just continued walking while saying yeah you also mine
r/romani • u/Kind-Promotion2388 • 14d ago
Rant/Vent Rant
I'm actually so tired of not being able to find a SINGLE romani person that isn't queerphobic, racist (which is pretty ironic), or just conservative. I'm a 13 y.o romani (closeted) trans āāāguy and I genuinely hate knowing that no romani person I know IRL will ever support me or my community.
Look, I'm fully aware that (obviously) not every single romani person is like this, we aren't some sort of hive-mind or whatever, but it still hurts me deeply to know that I'll never be ACTUALLY loved by my family, they'll only ever love the version of myself that I show them.
(Sorry if my english is bad)āāā
r/romani • u/ameilamarks • 14d ago
Social Media ghom podcast
I think every Romani should listen to this podcast, i've never listened to something more relatable. I know we all hate when gadjie try to represent us but this was done properly.
r/romani • u/Same_Strength_7427 • 16d ago
Non-Romani Casting In Movies
Hi, I just want to preface by saying that I myself am not Romani, and that my question comes from a place of genuine curiosity and wanting to learn more about issues of representation, especially within mainstream western media.
To put it simply, how much of an issue is the casting of non-Romani people to play the roles of Romani characters? I don't necessarily mean in the instance of whitewashing/ignoring the character being Romani, but rather someone who isn't Romani playing a character who is explicity stated and understood to be Romani. Does the need for (hopefully positive) representation in media supersede the need for ethnically accurate casting, or is it more important to make sure that Romani characters are being played by Romani actors, even if that ultimately means less representation on screen?