r/research • u/slowdancingtwice • 21h ago
Need advice: my research idol’s wife is guest lecturing in my class. How do I navigate this without being weird?
Hello beautiful people! For context, I’m a second-year undergrad at a top-7ish CS school.
Without getting into too many details, next week there’s a guest lecturer coming to a research literature seminar I’m taking. She’s a professor at my university working in a field I’m really interested in breaking into.
Her husband is a moderately famous researcher at a big tech research lab, working in the same general intellectual circles. He also happens to be my absolute research idol. His work sits almost perfectly at the intersection of all my academic interests, and he’s been a HUGE inspiration for the direction I want to take my own research.
I’d absolutely love to connect with him someday, ideally building some sort of informal mentorship where I could occasionally share interesting projects or ideas I’m working on and get his perspective.
Obviously, though, I don’t want to treat his wife like a stepping stone to get to him. She’s an extremely brilliant and accomplished researcher in her own right, and her work is genuinely fascinating to me as well. I plan to study her research thoroughly before the lecture (as is the format of the seminar) and hopefully have a meaningful conversation with her about it.
But also… I obviously can’t help recognizing that this is a pretty incredible opportunity to potentially get connected with someone whose work has shaped so much of my intellectual direction.
How would you navigate this? I really don’t want to come across as some weird fanboy lmao